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Your Relationship Creates a Life of Support or a Life of Struggle
Most partners in relationships believe themselves to be generally a supportive partner. They have an idea of what being supportive means, and believe they are living up to that idea.
Also, most partners believe they are more supportive of their partner in their relationship than their partner is of them. Or that they provide more support than their partner does. Which leaves most partners feeling fairly unsupported in their relationship.
Combine this with the fact that our relationship is one of the most impactful aspects of our life in our overall wellbeing, success, and happiness, and we have a serious gap in our hands that breeds struggle.
Our relationship is the cornerstone of our human experience. Making support a super important attribute to cultivate in our relationship for it to feel and be best it can be.
The problem is that most partners think they are being supportive, but their partners are not feeling supported. Leaving us with the conclusion that they might not really know how to best be supportive…
In this episode, I talk about how partners believe they are supportive in their relationship but how in actuality they are not. Their words, actions or how they show up is not one of a supportive partner. I offers how to address this from an empowering position so both partners win.
I share 10 specific ways in how partners are not supportive in their relationship that create a life of struggle instead of a life of blissful success, and how to change that. The 10 ways line up with the new edition of the Successful Relationship Strategy™, providing a full spectrum upgrade to uplevel your relationship.
In today’s episode, I:
- Share how partners believe they are supportive but how they might not be
- Offer 10 ways in which partners are not supportive and how to change that
- Show you how to empower yourself and get more support from your partner
- Debut the new edition of our Successful Relationship Strategy™
- Outline how to advocate for and create a successful and radiant relationshi
- Announce the celebration of our Practice 25h and our Podcast 2nd Anniversaries with special gifts and offers for you!
At the end of the episode, I also guide you on how to use summer energy to amplify your relationship reset, from playful rituals to meaningful conversations.
You’ll walk away with a clear framework to assess where you’re at, what might need attention, and how to take aligned action to elevate your relationship from ordinary to extraordinary.
10 Ways Partners Are Not Being Supportive (and How to Shift Them)
Commitment & Mindset
- Unsupportive: Undermine
- Shift: Update Perspective
- Supportive: Stay dedicated to figuring out what works for both of you
- Failing to support overall success and wellbeing
Doubting, being absent, neglecting goals, not backing dreams
Shift: Reframe expectations and beliefs; hold a success-oriented mindset for each other
- Not allowing partner to be authentic
Forcing them to fit roles, not letting them be themselves
Shift: Accept and support authenticity; embrace differences instead of controlling
Communication & Alignment
- Unsupportive: Oppose
- Shift: Seek Understanding
- Supportive: Be mindful to honor both sides of the experience
- Gaslighting, dismissing, or invalidating
Making partner feel invalidated, crazy, or “too much”
Shift: Use communication skills and tools; validate each other’s experience
- Refusing repair or creating disconnection
Withdrawing, stonewalling, letting ruptures fester
Shift: Own mistakes and communicate for win-win; initiate reconnection after conflict
Consciousness & Dynamic
- Unsupportive: Trigger
- Shift: Create Flow
- Supportive: Pay attention to capacity, and own and address patterns
- Lack of regulation (reactivity vs responsiveness)
Explosive reactions, mood-driven behavior
Shift: Practice self-care for self-regulation; meet own needs
- Ignoring partner’s needs
Missing cues, disregarding requests, self-absorbed focus
Shift: Listen, notice, and respond with attunement; show care in real time
Connection & Intimacy
- Unsupportive: Withhold
- Shift: Expand Nourishing
- Supportive: Establish nourishing rhythms for connection and fun
- Not showing up for what matters
Missing important events, not backing priorities
Shift: Actively check what matters; prioritize presence and follow-through
- Not being available for fun, joy, or shared experiences
Always “too busy” or emotionally checked out
Shift: Build rhythms that include joy, play, and connection; delight them
Collaboration & Partnership
- Unsupportive: Block
- Shift: Help
- Supportive: Set up systems to help collaborate and create shared life
- Evading real support
Offering words without action, not backing up with practical help
Shift: Offer both emotional and tangible support; back up words with consistent action
- Making things harder instead of smoother
Adding stress, making chaos, creating unnecessary obstacles
Shift: Implement supportive structures and systems that make life smoother
The way to support our partner isn’t what we think it is and what we’re giving. We might actually be making things worse in our relationship and our life completely unaware.
The key is being a truly supportive partner is in how our mindset, communication, patterns, rhythms, and systems support our partner and life together.
Shifting these 10 unsupportive ways creates a life of connection and success instead of struggle.
Listen to the episode to learn how get more support from your partner as well. Enjoy!
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