Are you fighting a lot in your relationship?

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I have written before, and you probably already know from your own knowledge base, that we are all Energy, that everything is a form of energy… We are not actually solid. Though because we use our “humanness”, we experience reality as we do… Reality as we think it is, just “isn’t”… If reality isn’t as we think it is, this has implications for everything in our lives… Give this a listen for some background and other resources on this concept…

Everything is energy, even our thoughts are energy. Energy particles/waves vibrate at different frequencies embodying different forms… Remember chemistry class? Medium vibration produces water, in high vibration produces steam/gas, and low vibration produces ice. This is a crude analogy, but the same concept applies to thoughts…

The higher the vibration of our thoughts (positive), the lighter the outcome – more gaseous, vaporous, ethereal, subjective, non-physical, spiritual, expansive…

The lower the vibration of our thoughts (negative), the heavier the outcome – more material, concrete, specific, measurable, objective, corporeal, finite…

Thoughts/energy produce (create, manifest) at the frequency they vibrate… This is how we create our own reality. This is how we create our life. We literally think and create. What we observe and focus on, we create more of… What we expect (think will happen), we’ll get… If we have a few different thoughts/expectations (vibrations) on the same subject, we muddy the waters if you may, and we don’t get clear outcomes… We don’t get water, steam or ice, we get mud!

The implications of this are huge as you can already surmise. If we have negative thoughts/expectations, they have low vibrations, and create their negative content… Obviously the opposite is also true. If we have positive thoughts/expectations, they have a high vibration, and therefore create their positive content… You can probably see where I’m going with this in applicability to your relationship, but before I connect the dots here are a couple of other points on this.

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, Mind Over Matter. The more post-modern version of this is, Mind Over Mind. We get/create what we Mind/Think… Doesn’t it behoove us to be Mindful…? Doesn’t it behoove us to make are dominant thoughts what we want, not what we don’t want nor to have rampant and unintentional thoughts??

And, let’s take this a step further. How about we stop minding/observing how things supposedly are…? How about we stop minding/observing our Self as we think we are…? Read that again… How about we stop minding/observing our Partner as we think they are…? How about we break this thinking habit, the habit of thinking that reality is…?

How about we open up to the possibilities? How about we open up to new expectations? How about we open up to expect what we want? How about we open up to the possibility of Being how we want to be…? How about we Are as we wish…? How about we operate from who Are…? And, that my friends is immediate Transformation…

If we Mind our life from this place, all our dilemmas disappear… I promise… Just mind your opposing, conflicting, ambivalent, muddy expectations… If you are clean, you’ll get clean outcomes… And, the Universe is the limit…

What does this mean for your relationship? Take a guess… What would happen to your conflict? What would happen to your disagreements? What would happen to the fighting? What would happen to your connection? What would happen to your collaboration? If you no longer observe/expect your partner to disappoint you, let you down, betray you, annoy you and such, they won’t…!

The truth is in the eye of the beholder… You observe/interpret/decide “what is”, you assign the meaning, you Be and operate as you wish, you create the relationship you want… You create… You are that powerful… … Don’t take my word for it. Experiment and see for yourself…

Choose today to stop fighting, and act/Be as you wish you Are. See your partner as you wish they Are… Address the moment from this new vantage point… Stop the drama. Stop the fighting. Enjoy the new Being, and creating of the relationship you want…  

Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…

Share your experience by leaving a comment below! 

Happy Minding!

 

 

~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment

Take a beat to ponder about who you Are… Transcend your usual view of your Self…

Really connect with who you Are… Grab all parts of yourself, all the parts you love, and mush them together. Now feel your creation. Feel the essence of what you created.

Feel the Essence of you. Feel You. Embrace You. From now on, flow from this You…

Add this to your Tool Kit…

 

 

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About Emma

Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health field in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of MetroRelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. We help couples create a radiant and authentic relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™.
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