Are you controlling?


I’ve been knee deep in upgrading my personal routines and Wellness, Connection & Success Habits™. I do practice what I preach! LOL I’ve been having so much fun exploring and playing with resources to assist me with this current Theme. One of my targets is becoming even more paperless, now in my personal life as well. As you might know, I’m the queen of sticky notes.

I pretty much run my life on a sticky pad (don’t judge me!). Yes, I have major platforms running my practice, teams, and even personal life – but I still need to capture, see and touch my immediate notes and to-dos on paper. Call me old fashion. This works very well for me. I’m known for my great follow through, organization, and such.

The problem is that after the immediate processing, learning, indulging, and such, somethings then become stacks of papers and folders. As you might know, I have a collection of file cabinets in my office, and the same in my home office!

So, one of my new habits is to get rid of the clutter this creates and make my information more accessible post immediate use. My new system also captures my electronic research clutter – no more capturing notes, screenshots, and links across platforms and open tabs! Yay!

Why am I sharing this? Because our external world is a reflection of our internal world… Because how we do anything is how we do everything… Because our systems dictate our level of success (in all life areas)… How we manage our life creates our life and how we experience it… Our desired Life depends on great habits and systems!

This brings me back to this Love Month we are in. Showing love, care and romance is not just for Valentine’s Day, or February if you are ambitious and take this Love Month concept seriously. Our Relationship is as good as we invest in it. It’s as good as we nurture it. It’s as good as we respect it, consider it, and safe guard it. Life is way too busy. We have way too much going on.

It’s so easy to neglect our relationship and our partner. It’s easy to live a parallel life and just go through the motions with our partner. It’s easy to get stuck in a disconnected relationship dynamic. But we don’t have to settle for this! We CAN create the relationship we want…

This means prioritizing our relationship and our partner over business and other commitments. This means establishing nurturing habits and couple rituals to enrich the relationship. This means learning skills to manage ourselves and showing up resourced to our interactions… This means learning relationship skills.

This means learning and implementing life hacks to make life easier, so you have more time and ease. This means living and intentional life, a life by Design.

Don’t let life happen to you. Don’t let your relationship fall apart. Don’t let your health deteriorate. Don’t allow yourself to age poorly. Don’t let your peace of mind go out the window. Don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t settle for mediocracy. Don’t let society norms dictate your timetables, lifestyle, roles, dreams and the like. Live your Successful and Meaningful Life!

Start by minding how you are showing up in your relationship. If you nag, demand, control and criticize, you won’t be getting anything good back for your efforts… Curtail the impulse towards this approach, and instead show up with an accepting, understanding, compassionate, curious, interested and inviting approach… Inspire your partner to show up for you… Demanding they do, does just the opposite!

The same goes for Loving TOO Much… This is a version of being controlling…

40 Signs that You Love TOO Much

Mind how You show up. Let your partner Choose how they show up. They might surprise you yet!

Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…

Share your experience by leaving a comment below! 

Happy Inspiring!



~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment  

Think Habits. Think Connection Habits™.

How can you consistently, appropriately, and lovingly stay in connection with your partner to enjoy a stronger Connection? (Sometimes we are in connection/contact but not necessarily Connected…).

Create a daily ritual of staying lovingly in touch during the day, no matter how busy you are.

Add this to your Tool Kit…



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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of MetroRelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.

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