We are extremely powerful creatures created in God’s semblance. As we are all universally interconnected as energy and matter in the physical universe, we are omnipresent (present everywhere), omniscient (all knowing), omnipotent (all powerful) and we are Love itself. Now that is powerful.
Grasping this concept has huge implications for our relationship. This means that we are not separate from our partner. This means our partner can’t leave us (pursuer’s fear) or swallow us up (distancer’s fear) because we are connected – we are One.
This means that if we own are magnificence, that if we transcend the illusion, compulsion, egotism of being separate, that we can finally tap into our wholeness, into all of our power, into Love itself. What a glorious way to be!
Your negative thoughts of your partner affect your partner and bring your partner down, as they do you because you are One. Your neglect of your self hurts your partner. Your abuse of yourself abuses your partner. Your not using your full self in your life holds both of you back. Your not showing up to an interaction with your partner means you are not showing up to your self.
When you feel agitated, panicky, anxious, raging, depressed, sad, powerless – your partner feels it. When you are scary in your mind but try to be nice to your partner – you still frighten your partner. When you can’t soothe or contain yourself – you are spilling onto your partner even if they are across the globe.
When you are acting out and are reactive – you hurt both of you. When you shut down to your partner you also shutdown to your self. When you numb your feelings, your partner can’t feel you. And, vice versa. You can create a pretty nasty cycle with these.
Therefore, you are going to stop thinking separate. You are going to be ongoingly mindful of your Oneness and take care of it. You are going to stop thinking ill of your partner and yourself and beating your selves up.
You are going to contain and soothe your self, and care for and nurture your self and your partner. You are going to start doing this today – your relationship, your lives, and the universe depend on it! Embrace your full glory – transcend to Oneness! Happy Transcending!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment Focus on the qualities and attributes you enjoy about your partner. Notice your partner’s attempts at giving, nurturing and connecting. Appreciate your partner’s efforts. Notice your partner’s pain. Empathize. Practice understanding and compassion towards your partner. It goes a long way…
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
