Woohoo!! Happy Summer!! A lot of schools let out this week around these parts and coupled with the warmth and brightness of the sun, it really feels like summer now. Happy, happy. Don’t you just love the feeling of “vacation brain”? When things that normally grab your attention or feel like major priorities just don’t have the same urgency? When you move slower than usual and you don’t feel bad about it? When your daily agenda actually seems reasonable and doesn’t look like it was meant to be completed over a week? When you can easily play hooky and it actually doesn’t set you back? When you are more productive with less effort? Ah, to embracing “vacation brain” full time…
I’m attributing the experience of “vacation brain” to the context around me. As we all know though, children being home and getting ready to go away for an extended amount of time are not normally conducive to peace of mind… Usually “vacation brain” doesn’t kick-in till the vacation in underway, if we are actually able to relax and enjoy… So, let’s rename and reframe.
How about “Zen-Brain”? However reasonable the initial association of “feeling on vacation” was to school-being-out and sunshine, something else is the inspiration. I find that continued focus on Transcendental Mindset™ and Mindfulness Practices gives way to Zen-Brain™. This has been part of my recent cocktail, and oh boy, what a pay-off! Feels like I’m on vacation every day!
Here is a preliminary attempt at “bottling” this, flowing from the structure of my Success Strategy™…
- Embrace / Own Thyself (Context & Mindset)
Be authentic, claim your Gifts, establish-respect boundaries, let others be
[blocked by fear/control, guilt/blame]
- Embrace / Increase Transparency (Communication & Alignment)
Be integrous, share, keep your word, use curtesy and respect
[blocked by shame/inadequacies]
- Embrace / Sharpen Focus (Clarity & Dynamics)
Be intentional, follow discipline, give/receive nurturing, increase compassion
[blocked by grief/loss, lies/defenses]
- Embrace / Regulate Emotions (Connection & Intimacy)
Be mindful, expand self-care practice, expand fun options, balance togetherness vs. separateness
[blocked by illusion/separateness]
- Embrace / Systematize Life (Collaboration & Partnership)
Be masterful, implement inspiriting routines, integrate success habits, design values-based lifestyle
[blocked by attachments/outcomes]
I find that living by these makes life joyous. I find that embracing these makes life rewarding. I find that investing in how we do ourselves makes our life what we desire it to be.
How is your Transcendental Mindset? Are you able to let go of fear/control, guilt/blame, shame/inadequacies, grief/loss, lies/defenses, illusion/separateness, attachments/outcomes? This is easier said than done. Identify which of the above gives you the hardest time. Make it your mission to conquer it and reap the benefits. What do you need to address this area of your life? Break it down and start putting stuff in place to support you in your Journey.
You’ll find that as you conquer these, life becomes so much more delightful and gratifying. Be gentle, caring and compassionate with yourself as you tackle this. This work is not for the faint of heart. Here is your first gold star for even considering tackling this. Keep rewarding yourself along way! Enjoy!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Meditate, journal, vision, discuss, ponder, whatever, what these mean to you…
Play with integrating them more into your thoughts and interactions. Weave these in more and more into your Existence… Feel them, Be them.
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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