Many of us want emotional safety, personal growth, and deeper connection, but we often feel stuck in creating the changes we seek. As we launch into the second part of the year, this is the perfect time to do mid-year reset. So, we address the patterns keeping us stuck and freeing ourselves to create a new version of ourselves and a new reality. Our best life…
Often, we try to muscle our way into changing our circumstances, into creating the relationship we desire. But all our effort is operating from the conscious, surface level, when we mostly operate from habit, blueprints, and templates from a conscious and subconscious level. No matter how hard we try, we end up defaulting back to our programming.
The key to lasting change is depatterning our programming, deconstructing our blueprint. So we can install instructions we want to create what we desire.
There are three core ego patterns that shape our identity, our perceptions and how we show up in the world. Unless we are aware and proactive about these patterns they are bound to limit our potential.
This episode explores the three ego patterns that quietly run the show, and how you can begin to dissolve them by creating a new identity from the inside out. This new you is the new version of you that creates your new reality, your best life…
The Three Ego Patterns That Keep You Stuck
The Lack Pattern
This pattern keeps you focused on what’s missing. It convinces you there’s never enough: Not enough time, support, money, love, success, attention. No matter what your partner does, or how much you achieve, it doesn’t feel like enough. This pattern creates a constant sense of emptiness.
Which leads to sadness, grief, loneliness, aloneness, hopelessness, depression and so on which lead to focusing on fairness and double standards, judging imperfections, self-numbing [flight response…]
The Attachment Pattern
This pattern clings to how things should be. It’s rigid and full of expectations: How people should behave, how things should unfold, how love should look. This pattern creates a constant sense of yearning.
Which leads to let down, disappointment, resentment, frustration, anger and so on which lead to demanding apologies, owning the other, and getting stuck on expectations [fight response…]
The Control Pattern
This pattern makes you believe it’s all on you. You micromanage everything. You can’t trust others to show up. You’re constantly fixing, orchestrating, over-functioning. This pattern creates a constant feeling of nervousness.
Which leads to fear, stress, overwhelm, exhaustion, anxiety and so on which lead to over-functioning, micromanaging, doing everything ourselves, not accepting help [freeze response…]
How These Patterns Show Up in Everyday Life
These ego patterns aren’t abstract, they play out in your real, daily experiences. You feel like nothing is enough, even when everything looks fine on paper. You get frustrated that your partner isn’t doing things “right”. You silently resent having to do everything yourself.
These patterns distort your perception. They filter how you interpret reality. And most importantly, they shape how you show up in your relationships, in your work, and in your inner dialogue…
Identity Creates Reality – Your ego pattern becomes your identity. And your identity is the filter of your experience which creates your reality…
~ If you’re operating from lack, you’ll experience scarcity everywhere
~ If you’re operating from attachment, you’ll constantly be let down
~ If you’re operating from control, you’ll live in a loop of pressure and burnout
If you want to shift your reality, you have to shift your identity first.
What Needs to Change?
If we want to create a new relationship and a new life, we have to identify the gap we are trying to bridge…
Take inventory of your current life, be honest:
- What feels stuck?
- What feels like it’s not working?
- Where are you in friction with yourself, others, or your circumstances?
Then ask:
- What would I love to experience instead?
- What would a better reality actually feel like?
- What would be different?
And here’s the key:
Who would I need to become to create that reality?
Choose a New You
This isn’t just about letting go of old patterns per se. It’s about choosing the future version of you and stepping into it.
- Who is the version of you that already lives the reality you want?
- What do they wear?
- How do they speak?
- How do they move through the day?
Give this version of you a name. Make it playful. Make it bold.
Then start showing up as them, one decision, one habit, one interaction at a time.
The Transformation Hack
But as you try to install this new version of you, you have to do it in malleable and fertile ground… You can’t just force a new way… You don’t change patterns by fighting them. The key is to disrupt all patterns, to create space for the new…
This is where challenge-based repatterning becomes powerful. Something as simple as a 30-day challenge can begin to unravel old identity patterns and create space for the new version of you.
It doesn’t matter what the challenge is. What matters is that it interrupts your norm. It challenges thought, emotional, and behavioral patterns… It promotes new thoughts, new feelings, new behaviors. And that rewires everything.
Allows new options to be installed…
Start Making Small Changes
Start showing up with the New Version of you to start making changes in your relationship and your life. The new version of you will have very different ideas about what’s acceptable and what’s desired… This might mean:
- Noticing all the abundance in your life
- Setting boundaries you’ve never set
- Clarifying expectations to meet your needs
- Speaking softer when you’d normally snap
- Asking for help instead of doing it all yourself
Saying no to something that drains your energy
Every time you shift out of autopilot and into conscious choice, you’re dissolving the old and anchoring in the new.
Creating a Life That Matches the New You
Once you have clarity on the version of you that you’re becoming, map out what your life would now look like.
- What needs to shift in your environment?
- Your routines?
- Your calendar?
- Your work rhythms?
- Your relationships?
You don’t need to change everything all at once. Start with one or two areas. Choose one change in each and make it real this week.
Structure, Stability, and the Masculine Reset
We are really going for it with this work. There is so much more than meets the eyes with this process… We are not just playing with a challenge and dreaming a new version of ourselves… We are making it possible because we are repatterning our subconscious and unconscious… Our mental, and our emotional patterns…
This new discipline is repatterning our relationship with the masculine parts of ourselves. It’s a reparenting, a re-fathering, healing safety, stability, and security wounds… This is the emotional part.
Giving yourself the masculine care you may have missed growing up: Structure, systems, discipline.
And you’re not just healing old wounds either… You’re building a stable foundation to support your feminine radiance, your personal power…
This is your 2025 reset.
This Is Your Mid-Year Reset
As we move into the second half of the year, it’s a natural time to reflect not just on what’s working or what isn’t, but on how we’re being in our lives.
- Are we operating from patterns of lack, attachment, and control?
- Are we reacting from old scripts?
- Are we creating our lives with intention or defaulting to survival?
The second half of the year offers a clean slate. A chance to shift gears. Not by radically overhauling everything at once, but by reconnecting to what you value, what you want to feel, and how you want to show up.
This reset is an invitation to do things differently, to experience a personal transformation. To take one small steps toward the version of yourself you know you’re becoming, and creating the relationship and the life the new version of you wants to live. Your Best Life…
Change doesn’t require force. It requires awareness, choice, and repetition.
So as you move forward, ask yourself:
- What am I ready to release?
- What do I want to cultivate more?
- How do I want to show up differently?
- What would I do differently in my life?
And begin there gently, consistently, and with enough clarity to show up as the new you creating your next chapter this second part of the year.
You don’t have to become someone else. You just have to return to the version of you that’s always been possible. One aligned choice at a time.
Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.
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When you get out of the box you put yourself you’ll automatically find yourself in a new reality… This is how we create the relationship and life we love… We don’t have to live by the same stories, narratives, scripts. We don’t have to see things the same old way. We don’t have to do everything in our days the way we usually do them… Our whole existence is a pattern, a habit. We can deconstruct and clean all this up, and we can be intentional about everything we do want to do and be… This is how we how we level up…
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