We are totally in love and decide to go exclusive, move in together, get engaged, get married, have children… But wait, we have to consider what’s the best way to go about the practical side of these steps… When we fall in love and are feeling all mushy, we don’t usually consider the practical strategies that might be helpful to have in place to create a smooth and harmonious life… We don’t consider what might be needed to be protected against unfortunate events and to create safety in the relationship.
Prenups, postnups and the like might get a bad rap for representing cautiousness about the partner and what their future might hold.
But there is so much more that goes along with creating legal documents and having financial strategies in our relationship. The documents and strategies don’t exist in a vacuum. They are part of a more meaningful conversation and a larger plan that protects the partners and their future.
What I love about this topic is that having these adulting pieces in place creates emotional security as well. The relationship dynamics are no longer informed by possible powerplays, doubt, fear, distrust, lack and so on. Everyone knows where they stand and the status of things, and are off on equitable and transparent footing. Which actually is a healthy way to start a joint life…
In this episode, I have a phenomenal conversation with Leona Krasner, a Family Attorney, about all the different legal needs throughout the lifespan of a relationship. We cover dating to post divorce if that’s the couple’s fate, and special circumstances that might arise. We have a lighthearted and very warm and mushy conversation considering the topic.
Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.
ABOUT OUR GUEST
Leona S. Krasner, Esq., MBA is founder and Managing Partner of Krasner Law, PLLC, a family law firm helping folks in New York and New Jersey with their family law needs. Leona works to ensure that she and her team provide compassion, solution-focus, and flawless execution for each client. When not practicing law, Leona enjoys helping students attain merit-based scholarships through her company Krasner Review, PLLC, organizing concerts for children through her nonprofit organization Tunes for Tots & Teens, and having adventures with her husband and 2-year-old. You can find her HERE.
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ON THE RELATIONAL SIDE
Some deconditioning, evolving and adulting to do this year-end…
We dream of meeting the love of our life. We start dating. We fall in love. And then we think about how to move forward with the relationship, without necessarily giving much thought to the practical side of things. Or we do but ignore any seeming incompatibilities or red flags because we love our partner.
We yearn to get the ring if we are the woman or more feminine-energy partner in the relationship as we value closeness and togetherness. But the man or more masculine-energy partner is more cautious as they value their freedom and individuality or separateness.
This might create friction for the couple and so they embark in a dynamic around their level of commitment… The focus might become so pervasive that they might not properly explore their desires, expectations, and compatibility enough.
They bank on their attraction, attachment, and love not realizing that these are mostly driven by unconscious and subconscious programming…
If the partners don’t have sufficient personal awareness and if they are under social pressure to get married or find their person plowing through regardless of redflags, they might be setting themselves up for a very challenging relationship and heartache. Their future might become bleak.
It is important for the partners to take their time doing their own personal development work, to really learn each other, and get on the same page, even do premarital sessions, to make sure they set themselves up for a successful relationship and to start their marriage right…
They are to get a clear understanding of what they each desire from each other, the relationship, and the life they want to create. So they can chart their course from the beginning to avoid undo stress, headaches, and any misalignments later.
They can have a vision of the life they want to create and a plan for how to go about it. This can be fluid and of course can change overtime, but at least they start off on shared ground and with shared goals and dreams.
This helps them map out their course and put in place any practical legal, financial and other matters needed to ensure as smooth of a Journey as possible. The Journey then becomes about the Journey, and the partners don’t get distracted by any noise they might experience because they were not intentional about how they set up their life…
Regardless of what stage of relationship you are in, have a chat with your Lovey about dreams, goals, expectations, plans, and the practical of life to make sure you are or get on the same page and create the relationship and life you love.
Happy Chatting!
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