How to take charge of your life, NOW


It helps to still yourself, your mind, and quite all the noise… When we still ourselves, we connect with our Essence… We connect with our Higher Self. We connect with who we really are. The more we do this, the more we integrate (Mindsight) and Become who we really are… Who you experience yourself to be day-in and day-out is a conglomerate of defense mechanisms, programming, and habits… We can have a very choppy experience of one-self and a messy and treacherous experience of life if these are not consciously and intentionally addressed…

When we connect more and more with our Higher Self and operate more and more from who we really are, life becomes more exquisite every moment… It becomes easier to know and use our Gifts, to know and pursue our Purpose, to know and be in Love. To be in Love with All. Yes, I love you as well…

It is marvelous to be in the flow. It is marvelous to be productive and creative. It is marvelous to crank. It is marvelous to focus on The One Thing. When we focus on the one thing, our energy is like a laser beam. It reaches the target with impact. When we are not focused, our energy disperses and might not even reach the target, never mind have impact… This is basic physics.

This basic concept has major implications for how we do our Life. When we still ourselves and connect with our Essence, we get in the flow, we can focus on the one thing and have major impact… We can influence, help and support others with who we are, however we choose to manifest that… This is where the juice is at (Big Potential)… Here is where the Meaning is. Isn’t this the point at the end of the day? To have left our mark in some way, shape or form. A life in pursuit of pleasures is not a life lived as well as a life in pursuit of meaning…

It is marvelous to be in the flow. It is marvelous to see our loved ones for who they are, not who we make them out to be… It is marvelous to be in connection, to feel the love. It is marvelous to show and live our love. It is not about the fancy car, the big house or the millions in the bank. It is not about the fame. Though these are social scripts that lure us, and sure they are nice perks. But to have an amazing life, a full human experience, is about being in connection. Is about having community. It’s about belonging. It’s about having loved and having loved well. It is about the relationships we create. Strong relationships support us in having longer, healthier and happier lives!

This is why I set up my Life to foster connection and meaning. This is why I set up my Practice to foster connection and meaning. This is why set up my work to Serve others and help them create connection and meaning… I’m lucky that my chosen profession is about creating strong relationships, and that it inherently focuses on the importance of connection.

What are the implications of this for your own life? How do you pursue meaning? How do you do connection and relationships? How do you do the relationship with your Partner? How do you set up your days to support you in having your best human experience? This are intense questions, but they don’t need to be intimidating. The key is to be Intentional about your life…

The easiest way to get on your right track is to design your Ideal Day and to strive for getting closer and closer to it every day, for life is but a big collection of days… And, your ideal day is but a daily routine made up of a set of powerful habits… Wellness, Connection and Success Habits…

Assignment: You can do, be or have ANYTHING you want… You can most certainly have the Life You Want… You just have to want it bad enough. You have to OWN it. You have to go for it. Make a commitment RIGHT NOW to go for it, let go of the excuses. Walk through that imaginary threshold of your comfort zone into the mystery, the possibilities – just one step into it is all it takes to get going… Your exceptional life is not going to be created with how you do things now, or you would have created it already… You have to step up your game…

  • All you have to do is be COMMITTED and install your new Habits to support your Design… You have to have Relationship (Connection) and Meaning (Success) Habits. And, it’s challenging to focus on these when we don’t feel well… So, it’s imperative that you Wellness Habits as well, a Self-care Practice…
  • Let’s make this really simple to get you on your right track… Pick one new Wellness Habit you fully commit to embracing and start it now. Own it!

Research supports that the best lives are lives with strong Relationships and Meaning. It is up to us to make sure we rock these in our Life. That we Design our daily life with these in mind, and with all the support we need to do these well… Life doesn’t have to be difficult. It is what we make of it. Make it a good one with ease!

Complete the Assignment, and share your takeaway, insights, and results with a note in the Comments box at the end! I’d love to hear how you are using this content.

Happy Committing!



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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health field in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of MetroRelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. We help couples create a radiant and authentic relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™.

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