We usually think of Spring Cleaning as decluttering our home and detoxing our bodies. But those of us who take healing, performance, development and evolution (lightly) seriously take a deeper and more meaningful approach.
We consider all the things we need to release in all areas of our life.
And if we are really serious, we go deeper. We look at the patterns that drive us in creating who we are, our circumstances, our relationship, and our life.
To that end, today’s Episode is about reprogramming the patterns that no longer serve us. I present the Reset Patterns Formula™ (AKA: The Fuel Equation), a framework designed to help you transition from reactive to responsive living… By reprogramming our mental, emotional, and behavioral patterns that are keeping us stuck.
I share this process as Spring is all about new beginnings. Letting go of what’s holding us back and creating space for the new…
I have called this Formula the Fuel Equation as each aspects fuels the next, and back around…
When something gets triggered at any aspect it sets off an automatic chain reaction.
When we haven’t done much healing, personal development and training, we usually operate from a surface, reactive level.
When we do our work, we are less negatively triggerable, and operate from a more grounded, deeper and responsive level.
Here’s How It Usually Unfolds
In a nutshell, an event happens…
~ At the Reactivity Level – It triggers distorted thoughts which fuel symptomatic feelings which fuel defense mechanisms and coping.
~ At the Responsive Level – It triggers realist thoughts which fuel vulnerable feels which fuel healthy functioning.
We are to reprogram the aspects of the reactive level to show up to life free from patterns and free to become more who we really are. Not a big old pattern and habit…
So we can step into intentional living and create the relationship and life we love.
Reactionary Level
At the reactionary level, we are victim of our circumstances, we are easily triggered, and disempowered.
Thoughts
Our minds can be unruly if we’re not mindful. Thoughts become distorted, limiting, and negatively biased, fueling unwanted emotional states and behaviors.
Distorted Thoughts- Overgeneralization, personalization, black-and-white thinking, and projection to name a few. These patterns cloud reality and keep us stuck.
Limiting Beliefs- Programs installed from childhood and cultural conditioning. They often run unnoticed, shaping perceptions about self-worth, love, intimacy, success, money and more.
Scripts and Narratives- The stories we tell ourselves about our past, ourselves, circumstances, relationships, and all our experiences keep us locked in old patterns.
Negativity Bias- A survival mechanism once helpful for physical threats now makes us see danger or negativity everywhere. Including in our relationship, where we often mistakenly assign negative motives to our partner.
~ Identify all our thought patterns that might be keeping us stuck.
Feelings
Triggered thoughts lead to triggered emotions like anxiety, frustration, anger, or overwhelm. We often dismiss or suppress feelings, overlooking their critical role as messengers. Feelings are our guide to what we need, to know if something is right for us, and provide other wealth of information.
~ Pause to acknowledge our feelings and start understanding them.
Behaviors
Unaddressed thoughts and emotions drive reactive behaviors like impatience, poor self-care, emotional eating, drinking, shopping, or shutting down. We might turn to these to numb out and make ourselves feel better. Some are just acting out and irresponsible.
~ Own all our bad habits and behaviors that don’t server us.
Responsive Level
At the responsive level, we shift to being more intentional, mindful, and empowered.
Thoughts
To clean up your mental clutter, engage in conscious reprogramming:
~ Monitor, challenge and replace your distorted cognitions, limiting believes, script and stories, and negativity bias with more real based versions.
Feelings
Recognize feelings as valuable signals and address their messages:
~ Go beyond the reactive ones to what’s beneath them- the vulnerable ones, feel and honor them, then translate them into needs you can address.
Behaviors
With clarity on your thoughts and feelings, intentionally implement behaviors and habits that align with addressing your needs and creating the relationship life you want:
~ Integrate wellness, connection, and success habits into daily routines, prioritizing meeting specific needs and practicing self-regulation and care.
The beauty of this Formula is its flexibility. You can start the reset from any point, thoughts, feelings, or behaviors. The transformative process ripples through all three, reprogramming and freeing you from old patterns that kept you stuck.
Which aspect feels most out of balance for you right now? Identify where you need to focus your attention and take your deep dive.
Listen to the Episode below for a thorough walkthrough of working with each aspect at both levels.
Let this spring reset launch you toward your most radiant, intentional relationship and life yet.
Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.
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Mentioned Inside
FREE 1-Pg Downloadable: Refresh for Newness Checklist
Video: Everything You Can Refresh for Newness
Video: Stop Feeling Stuck, Reprogram Mindset
Blog Post: Self-Love Practice
Blog Post: Take Off Your Identify Mask
Blog Post: Intentional Habits
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