Are you mastering how to connect?


This brings us to our current topic lineup. So far, we’ve covered aspects of Repeating Patterns (from Element3-Clarity & Dynamics), Communication (from Element2-Communication & Alignment), and Boundaries (from Element1-Context & Mindset) in our Successful Couple Strategy™… Repeating Patterns tend to kick relationships in the butt. Dissatisfying and reactive patterns that is.

This is where partners feel stuck, get discouraged and potentially give up. But, these patterns CAN be changed, and more satisfying, nurturing and collaborative ones can be created in their stead… The trick is to own what WE contribute to the stuckness, and focus on reprogramming our own stuff and stepping up how we show up…

Today’s topic is on Connection. Feeling connected, belonging, is at the core of our basic human needs (after physiological and security needs are met). This is a fundamental need that is a strong driver in our life. We don’t feel Ok if we don’t feel connected, and like we belong. This of course goes beyond our primary romantic relationship.

Though feeling connected within the relationship with our partner makes that relationship so much more meaningful, satisfying, rewarding, and even powerful… Being fully connected with our partner allows us to tap into the relationship’s inherent Synergy…

There is a caveat though. It is very challenging to properly connect with someone else, including our partner, if we are not connected to our Self first…

And, I don’t mean in any kind of superficial, selfish, arrogant, narcissistic kind of way… I mean connected to our Higher Self, Higher Consciousness (secular view), Super Conscious (spiritual view)… This is where the ultimate and most powerful connection of all is… When we connect at this level everything else is possible…

I was recently checking in with myself about when I am the most Happy. The answer immediately came that I’m the most Happy when I’m with clients… Translated/extrapolated version: I’m the most Happy when I’m grounded, present, and fluid in whatever I’m doing – when I’m connected to my Higher Self…

For after the initial answer, I recognized that state across other areas of my life… This is not an easy state to reach, and sustain…, unless we are practiced at it… And, even then we can be subject to get thrown off. Doesn’t it make sense then that for those that are not practiced how challenging it is to easily connect to their Higher Self and others? 

This means that to have a Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life, it is imperative that we learn to Connect with our Higher Self… That we make connecting to our Self an intentional daily practice. That we don’t make this a luxury item in our life to do when we are able to find time for it… This is not a luxury, this is a must to have our best human experience and best life!

Otherwise we’d live our life bumping around and in reactivity. That is not Living… Let’s live the full expression of our Self by fully accessing all of our Self… From this higher state we Connect much more easily and lovingly with those around us, including our partner. This is how we CAN create our amazing relationship, no matter its current state…

Assignment: Take a look at your current daily routine and unapologetically make time to Connect with your Self… Make time for a Mindfulness Practice… This is one of the best Success Habits you can implement into your life, for rest flows from here…    

This is a life changing concept. Change your state, connect with your Self, Align, and Then…

Complete the Assignment, and share your takeaway, insights, and results with a note in the Comments box at the end! I’d love to hear how you are using this content.

Happy Connecting!


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Flexibility enables connection

Perception, mood and connection

Follow the path to passion and synergy

Change your repeating patterns and stuckness!

Step up your communication skills!

Enhance your life with better boundaries!



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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of MetroRelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.

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