Why and How to Grow Wings
I read a while ago, and found it applicable to many areas of our life, that we can handle as much as the span of your wings… I’m sure you’ve heard the saying that God, the Universe, doesn’t bestow (good or bad) onto you more than you can handle? We can use this concept well in our growth, healing and thriving Journey.
A way to use this is to “grow our wings”. This means doing whatever it takes to become a better version of ourselves: heal any past trauma or emotional wounds, pass your stuck development stage (grow yourself up), re-parent yourself, learn any lacking or improve any weak skill that you wish to have, break any debilitating habits, wrap any unfinished business, close any exits leaking energy, stop or remove any excuses or reasons holding you back.
Embrace your stretch to break your patterns, figure out what makes you the better person and go that route…
Once you’ve tackled growing your wings as mentioned above, the next level of this is to “grow your wings” by leveraging – using others’ wings, systems, and structures to expand your reach. We can only go so far by ourselves. We need leverage to create our World Class Life, for life not to be a struggle but a joy.
We want our life to be a true reflection of our Core Self. We want to own and honor our Authentic Self and live accordingly… We tend to live such small lives… We drown in a glass of water… We miss the forest for the tree…
I have come to know, the hard way unfortunately, that we cannot leverage unless we grow our own wings first… I’ve seen this in my own life, and see this day in and out in my work with clients… Doing our own growing is challenging, some fight even this, so imagine how challenging it is to embrace the higher level of growing by leveraging.
I find that we hold ourselves back in all areas of our lives. If we pursued our becoming our best Self with gusto, then the Universe becomes the limit…
I’m sure this can seem daunting right about now, but don’t let it overwhelm you. This is a special area where your relationship becomes indispensable and the gift it’s meant to be… You have untapped resources inherent to your relationship:
- What is a recurring hurt in your relationship with your partner? What is the theme that keeps playing out?
- What are things that keep coming up in your relationship that alert you to a growth place?
- What is a way in which you hurt your partner that indicates a stretch for you…?
- View yourself through your partner’s eyes (this can be painful!)…
- Identify how you sabotage your relating and make a parallel to the rest of your life, for how we do anything is how we do everything…
- What do you love about your partner that you can emulate? What is an awesome characteristic that makes your partner stand out that you can learn from?
- How are you rejecting exactly what you are asking for? How are you shooting yourself on the foot?
- What is your partner’s unique gift that you keep squashing?
- How can you support your partner’s growth, healing and thriving? (Practically and by working through the questions above…)
- How are you dishonoring your Souls’ Contract…?
Did you know that your relationship is a lot more than just a place for fun, paying bills and having children? It’s time you give it is due reverence! Your relationship is the key to your World Class Life… Give it a whirl. Embrace this concept, apply it, work it, invest in it, live by it, honor it with gusto and watch your wings grow… Watch your life become a World Class Life. Live your Authentic Life!
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Happy Growing!
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Pay very close attention to how your partner actually does support your Souls’ Contract and stop taking them for granted. Pay attention to how your partner colludes with you for your growth… Call it what it is and appreciate your partner for their gift. Approach challenges with this new take in mind… Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
