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Have Awesome Outcomes, Exercise Your Power to Choose!

Have Awesome Outcomes, Exercise Your Power to Choose!

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Our relationship and life are a reflection of the choices we make… I find that we make poor choices at almost every turn and then wonder how come our relationship and life are not as we’d prefer them to be… I find that we do not own our Self and our life, that we do not know who we are and what we are meant to do… I find that we do not take the time to design our relationship and our life.

I find that we are not intentional about creating the relationship and life we desire. I find that we do not Live in the moment and create a fabulous relationship, and life, in every moment…

We have a choice every moment on what to think, how to feel, what to focus on, what to work on, how to respond to things, what to do, what to add or remove from our life, how to set things up, etc. We do not intentionally exercise the power of choice. We mechanically and by default go through life… What an awful and unsuccessful way to Live!

It is time to create an Awesome Relationship and Authentic Life! It is time to implement the habits of highly successful people. This means being intentional about EVERYTHING. This means exercising your power to choose. This means owning, honoring, your Self…

Embrace these basic habits of highly successful people (as it relates to life and relationships):

1)     Visualize and decide what kind of life and relationship you desire…

2)     Have your relationship and life reflect your values

3)     Have a plan and work it!

4)     Create balance in your life

5)     Manage your Self

6)     Be open to feedback and act on it!

7)     Work through rough stuff, don’t avoid it

8)     Be courageous. Feel your fear, but take action anyway!

9)     Create win-win situations (compromise)

10)  Take educated risks

11)  Address problems quickly and effectively, to resolution…

12)  Be adaptable and embrace change

13)  Be proactive, not reactive…

14)  Be generous, compassionate and kind

15)  Strive to always improve your communication and other relational skills

16)  Be brutal about removing complaining and blaming from your repertoire

17)  Focus on positives and strengths, efforts, contributions, gifts

18)  Look for the lesson and stretch in everything; be always learning, healing, growing

19)  Use your mind as a tool, your body as your home, your feelings as your compass

20)  Be your Spiritual Self

It is time to create your Awesome Relationship and Authentic Life – show up to it, own it, design it, create it, live it!

Complete the MetroRelationship™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start experiencing your awesome relationship, and Life… Share your thoughts and progress on our blog page!  

Happy Living!

 

~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment

Make a commitment to being the creator of your Awesome Relationship and Authentic Life.

Assert that you will exercise intentionality. That you will consciously choose at every turn.

Pick a Success Habit and implement it this week!

Add this to your Tool Kit…

 

   Copyright (c) 2016 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

 

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Do You Support Each Other?

Do You Support Each Other?

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We all have dreams, wishes and goals. There are things we want for ourselves, our partner, our family. Sometimes though we find that it is difficult, if not impossible, to make our wish a reality.

We may want to start a new business, go back to school, learn a new trade, pick up a new hobby or project, throw a party, have the house a certain way, keep fit, enroll in activities with our children, have more intimate and fun moments with our partner, having another child, etc. But life gets in the way and we just dream about these and never see them materialize.

This is an ugly way to go about our days and our life. We are not really living when we barely make it through “reactive” tasks everyday and then the day is over. Some people go through their days just putting out fires and not getting anywhere.

The thing is that in partnership your wishes and dreams can come true. It is difficult enough to motivate ourselves and set ourselves up to achieve success without the added burden of fighting our partner in the process.

When our partner becomes our ally and a team player the energies that would normally go into convincing, cajoling, nagging, and compensating for them could be better put to use into making our wishes and dreams come true. Plus, when our partner works with us, life has a funny way of magically becoming a lot easier, fun and rewarding.

So, how can you invite your partner to team-up with you so you can create your dreams and have your wishes come true? Here are 10 ways to get your partner on your team:

  1. Show appreciation for the things, efforts and sacrifices they do and make
  2. Focus on the positive
  3. Give constructive feedback, only when asked
  4. Ask your partner to brainstorm alternate solutions when you are both stuck on how to resolve something
  5. Compromise – give in an inch
  6. Show kindness, gentleness and thoughtfulness
  7. Give lots of TLC (tender, love and care)
  8. Show them you are listening (repeat back what they say) and understand their point of view (from their perspective not yours)
  9. Don’t do the tit-for-tat game
  10. Trade favors

When you operate from this “nice” place your partner will want to spend time with you, be with you, make life easier and share it with you. They’ll be in your team and help you create the life and partnership you want. So, go ahead and “invite” your partner into partnership!

Happy Partnering!!!

 

~ Your MetroRelationship ™ Assignment

Have a discussion about concrete behaviors you and your partner need to be of support to each other to allow each of you to accomplish and achieve your personal goals (i.e., trading babysitting, cleaning the house out of junk food, shopping for healthy foods and snacks, cooking healthy meals, sharing household chores, tweaking sleeping schedules, scheduling work out routines, putting certain amount of money for a specific endeavor, etc.)

 

   Copyright (c) 2016 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

 

Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication? 

Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: 
Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com. 

 

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