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Love the “F…” Word

Love the “F…” Word

What do you usually think of when you think of the “f…” word? We probably both think of the same four-letter word, but for today let’s make our “f…” word a more meaningful word. F is for Focus. F is for Freedom. I’ve written before that what we focus on persists.

What we focus on either enables us or enslaves us… We have the power to create our awesome ongoing experience… All we have to do is choose. We have to exercise our freedom of choice. This applies to everything in our lives.

Choose. Focus. Create. This is the power of freedom. When we choose to focus on things we value, appreciate and that make sense to us we enable, activate, expand, manifest our creativity, passion, uniqueness, gifts, Life. When we forgo our power of choice and proceed on automatic we usually focus on lack, things that go wrong, problems and disappointments, how others are not leaving up to our expectations and how unhappy we are.

It’s even worse when you consciously choose to focus on these! For guess what? You won’t have an awesome life or relationship, and certainly not happiness if you live your life with these shackles on. What we focus on persists…

Exercising intentional choice creates happiness. Doing otherwise is to crush our spirit, not honor our Soul. Here is the trick. Choose what you want. Choose how you want to feel. Choose how you want things to look like. Choose the experiences you want to have. Choose what the picture on the canvas of your life and relationship is to be. Don’t have a general or vague idea about these. Actually Choose, for then that is what Is…

Dream, choose, focus, and take massive decisive action. This is the formula to creating the life and relationship you want. You can create anything you want.  When you make intentional choices, set goals, put plans and systems in place and invest in them consistently there is no way you can not create what you set out to, or something better…

This is the beauty of owning our freedom. When we exercise our freedom of choice, magnificent things happen. This is the beauty of owning our free will. When we exercise our free will we are in alignment with our Soul (Higher Power, Universe…).

This is where the magic is. Don’t be bound by limiting and narrow expectations, mindset, views, skills, scripts, legacies – take charge, clean these up and expand them. Stay open. Follow your gut (your Core Self, Authentic Self, Soul) talking to you and guiding you…  Allow the magic in. Choose to have a magnificent life and relationship. And, so it is…

Complete the MetroRelationship™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start experiencing your awesome relationship, and Authentic Life… Please share your takeaways on our Blog!

Happy Choosing!  

 

~ Your MetroRelationship Assignment This weekend take inventory of areas in your life where you’ve lost your voice, or haven’t developed your voice yet… This business of not having a voice is holding you back from creating the life and relationship you desire…

Pick an area where you’ve allowed your Self to be muted and unmute yourself… Learn to mindfully share and express your voice in this area to develop it to your liking… Add this to your Tool Kit…

 

   Copyright (c) 2016 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

 

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Have Awesome Outcomes, Exercise Your Power to Choose!

Have Awesome Outcomes, Exercise Your Power to Choose!

Our relationship and life are a reflection of the choices we make… I find that we make poor choices at almost every turn and then wonder how come our relationship and life are not as we’d prefer them to be… I find that we do not own our Self and our life, that we do not know who we are and what we are meant to do… I find that we do not take the time to design our relationship and our life.

I find that we are not intentional about creating the relationship and life we desire. I find that we do not Live in the moment and create a fabulous relationship, and life, in every moment…

We have a choice every moment on what to think, how to feel, what to focus on, what to work on, how to respond to things, what to do, what to add or remove from our life, how to set things up, etc. We do not intentionally exercise the power of choice. We mechanically and by default go through life… What an awful and unsuccessful way to Live!

It is time to create an Awesome Relationship and Authentic Life! It is time to implement the habits of highly successful people. This means being intentional about EVERYTHING. This means exercising your power to choose. This means owning, honoring, your Self…

Embrace these basic habits of highly successful people (as it relates to life and relationships):

1)     Visualize and decide what kind of life and relationship you desire…

2)     Have your relationship and life reflect your values

3)     Have a plan and work it!

4)     Create balance in your life

5)     Manage your Self

6)     Be open to feedback and act on it!

7)     Work through rough stuff, don’t avoid it

8)     Be courageous. Feel your fear, but take action anyway!

9)     Create win-win situations (compromise)

10)  Take educated risks

11)  Address problems quickly and effectively, to resolution…

12)  Be adaptable and embrace change

13)  Be proactive, not reactive…

14)  Be generous, compassionate and kind

15)  Strive to always improve your communication and other relational skills

16)  Be brutal about removing complaining and blaming from your repertoire

17)  Focus on positives and strengths, efforts, contributions, gifts

18)  Look for the lesson and stretch in everything; be always learning, healing, growing

19)  Use your mind as a tool, your body as your home, your feelings as your compass

20)  Be your Spiritual Self

It is time to create your Awesome Relationship and Authentic Life – show up to it, own it, design it, create it, live it!

Complete the MetroRelationship™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start experiencing your awesome relationship, and Life… Share your thoughts and progress on our blog page!  

Happy Living!

 

~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment

Make a commitment to being the creator of your Awesome Relationship and Authentic Life.

Assert that you will exercise intentionality. That you will consciously choose at every turn.

Pick a Success Habit and implement it this week!

Add this to your Tool Kit…

 

   Copyright (c) 2016 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

 

Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication? 

Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: 
Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com

 

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