Couples are always looking for different ways to enjoy each other’s company and have fun together. It’s not easy to keep things fresh and interesting unless the partners are intentional about it. The easiest way to stay on top of this is to make keeping things fresh a part of your lifestyle… Nurturing your couple is a key component to create your successful relationship.
I know this is easier said than done, especially when partners are so busy keeping up with the regular demands of everyday life. They barely have time to cover the basics, they don’t even get to self-care, never mind thinking about integrating fun into their lifestyle. LOL
But this doesn’t have to be so challenging. There are a fewthings to keep in mind to make sure the couple doesn’t fall to the wayside.
We are talking:
🥰 Mindset around nurturing the couple 🤓 Commitment and intentionality that includes a system for making it happen 🤔 Generating ideas for keeping things fresh and interesting
When we prioritize the couple, the whole relationship becomes a lot stronger… The family and home take on a better flavor, life becomes smoother… Your relationship becomes more radiant and super successful…
Watch the video to learn about the 3 concepts to help you more easily nurture your couple and keep things fresh and interesting!
APPLICATION: Identify where you need to focus to improve prioritizing and nurturing your couple:
Mindset around nurturing the couple – Review how you prioritize your partner, the couple and the relationship, and address any weirdness around priorities, focus, fairness, deservingness, balance, tit for tat, giving/receiving, etc and upgrade the importance of giving your partner TLC
Commitment and intentionality that includes a system for making it happen – Make a commitment to be all in, to woo your partner, to take real good care of them, and add Connection and Delight Partner Habits into your daily routine
Generating ideas for keeping things fresh and interesting – Use the seasons, holidays, interests, hobbies, preferences, desires, dreams, bucket lists, and the like to come up with activities and experiences to do together and/or gift to your partner
Give yourself some time to sit with the item that needs attention until you fully grasp where you stand and what you’d like to do about it. Then share your insight and intention with your partner. Make it a positive and fun discussion, focused on how you’ll step it up a notch!
Placing your couple in its rightful place of top priority and tending it makes a huge difference to how the partners feel and the strength of the partnership. Keeping your relationship top of mind and intentionally nurturing it ongoingly helps keep things fresh… There is nothing worse than an ignored relationship and stale couple…
Make sure this is not you, pour your love into your interactions and towards your partner. Starting right now. Go for it!
Wishing you much joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
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What is the Fun Quotient in your relationship? Couples have the tendency to become complacent in their relationship including the fun aspect of their relating. This is traumatic to the relationship as it stifles its energy flow creating a numb, stuck and disconnect feel and dissatisfied partners.
Regardless of your relationship stage, it is imperative that you have fun with your partner. Your brain and body chemistry change when you have fun together. This engenders and supports bonding and connectedness. Partnership fun creates positive and loving energy in your in-between that creates aliveness, passion, and intimacy. There are other countless benefits to having fun as well – like strengthening your immune system and more.
What is your Personal Fun Quotient? Do you know how to relax and have fun? What is fun for you? What is surprising, exhilarating, hilarious? What type of humor do you have? What do you find silly, amusing, funny? What makes you laugh? Do you banter, tease, joke? Do you do pranks? Do you play sports or games?
What activities do you enjoy doing? How physical do they get? Do you clown around, horseplay? Are you in touch with your body? What gives you pleasure, delight, joy? Exploring these questions for yourself will give you some insights into what you bring to your relationship fun.
Are you in need of expanding your Personal Fun Quotient and being more open-minded, flexible, engaging? This is an opportunity for you to stretch yourself and expand your repertoire. This practice will assist you integrate this potentially lost, denied or disowned part of your self. Start becoming whole again and feel your aliveness – engage your potential!
Can you imagine the benefits to your relationship, and your life, when you start doing this? It’s amazing! Now, be cautious at the same time because you might throw your partner off and they might be resistant to the new you. Mindfully share this part of you. There is no need to spook your partner – invite them into the fun!
Enhance your Relationship Fun Quotient. Become partners in crime and make a project of having more fun together! How fun is that?!
Happy Having Fun!!
~ Your MetroRelationship ™ Assignment
Enhance your Relationship Fun Quotient. With your partner:
1) Create a Fun List (include high-energy ideas too) and pick one to do within the week; keep working your list
2) Create an Activities List of things you like or want to do together and pick one to do within the month; keep working your list
3) Create a Touch and Sexy List of behaviors and gestures you enjoy from each other, surprise your partner with one of theirs this week; keep working your list
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After the infatuation and dating stage, fun and romance doesn’t just happen in relationships. Great committed relationships don’t just happen. We have to put in conscious effort to create the relationship we want. Here are some tips for creating and enhancing your intimacy, romance, passion and fun with your partner:
1) Make time for each other and for having quality time together. Pick a time of day that is just for the two of you.
2) Stay connected through out the day by sending each other inspiring, funny, cute, loving or sexy emails, cartoons, cards, notes, etc.
3) Schedule consistent dates, couple outings, events and plans that excite, stimulate and enrich you as a couple. (Attend our Couple Events!)
4) Expand your repertoire of activities you do for fun. Add Gaming to your couple time – play board games for some warm and cozy indoor fun!
5) Surprise each other with little gifts, nice gestures, or different ways of responding.
6) Do romantic and sexy gestures at a frequency chosen by both of you: go on a hot air balloon ride, go to a famous romantic restaurant, have a midnight interlude that includes chocolate, strawberries and champagne, give a bouquet of exotic flowers, play hooky from work and go to the movies for a matinee or home for some intimate time, play footsy under the table at your-in-laws..
7) Integrate more physical activities into your joint activities: Garden (start preparing now by planning and designing your garden together), workout (join a gym or create an exercise program to do together), join a co-ed sports team, have outdoor fun by skiing, hiking, rollerblading, horseback riding etc., paint your house, have sex…
8) Fill a drawer in your room with fun and sexy toys and games, lotions, candles, lingerie and other goodies to have handy for when you are ready for them!
9) Get a Spa Treatment together!
10) Touch: hold hands, sit next to each other with bodies touching, cuddle, hug, embrace, hold, squeeze, pat, stroke, caress, massage, rub, fondle, pet…
BONUS:
1) Invite your partner to be silly and LAUGH: have tickle sessions, pillow fights, chase each other around the house, have water or food fights, listen to your favorite music really loud and dance around…
2) Have exhilarating experiences: bungee jump, parachute, hang-glide, scuba-dive, ride roller coasters, go on a safari trip, visit a haunted house, watch scary movies…
Start connecting more intimately today. Make sure you keep the fun and romance alive! Re-ignite the passion!!
Happy Romanticizing!!
~ Your MetroRelationship ™ Assignment
Have a brainstorming session with your partner about fun things you’d like to do together. Think outside the box and get creative. Pick 3 items form the list and schedule them into your calendars!
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Fun is important in our relationship. Having fun releases different chemicals in the brain that engender good feelings which get then associated with our partner. This is a good thing. Having fun with our partner should be a priority in our relationship. We can get huge returns on this investment!
It is difficult at times to remember to have fun a sad state of affairs but very common. Couples get stuck in their routines and getting through their days managing their responsibilities as best they can that they consume all their energy and resources leaving little for the couple itself.
Top on most people’s list is having a great relationship. People are consumed with thoughts of how is it going and what else they’d like from it. It is a wonder they are not Minding their relationship 24/7 and having a blast. A lot of people think they are working on their relationship and can’t understand why it is not more satisfying.
The problem is, as I’ve written before, that they are putting in the wrong efforts. They are misusing even more resources and energy leaving the couple in a dire state and the partners hopeless and frustrated.
But couples are resilient and partners stick it out for a while before calling it quits. It is during this time, when partners are sticking it out, that it is paramount to refocus and re-channel the efforts made to connect with our partner, enliven the relationship, get our needs met and create the relationship and life we want.
One of the ingredients for accomplishing this is having fun with our partner. There are different kinds of fun to be had: being playful and getting physical, creating and working on projects, going on outings and trips, sharing dreams and goals and working together on accomplishing them, learning new skills together, and identifying different ways to play.
Integrating fun into our relating promotes good feelings, receptiveness and cooperation creating an ally and a teammate of our partner! With an ally we can win any game we set ourselves out to play!!
Happy Playing!!!
~ Your MetroRelationship ™ Assignment
Make a list of 5 fun things you would like to do within the next month and have your partner do the same. Now pick and choose from your lists creating a joint list of 5 items you and your partner agree do together to have FUN. ENJOY!
Copyright (c) 2016 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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There is a tendency towards passiveness in our relationship as time passes.
Couples get comfortable in their routine, whether it is an efficient and satisfying routine or not, and lax in their relating, whether they are on the same page or not. They settle into whatever relating they have developed and stick with it, becoming more and more passive in their efforts to keep passion, interest, mystery, and seduction alive.
This passiveness comes as a result of couples settling into and getting caught up in the everyday grind, being reactive because of their unprocessed and unaddressed wounds, and their just going through the motions in their relating. They come to not be in touch with one another. As this passiveness continues, the partners feel more and more disconnected.
The Rx for this is joint fun. Having fun together creates pleasure and safety intensifying the couple’s emotional bond.
So what is fun and how can you have more of it? Fun is any activity that requires high energy interaction and no skills, has no rules, can be done wrong, produces deep pleasure in the form of an orgasm, laughter or both, and is done in a short period of time.
This kind of fun, high energy, deeper breathing, blood and endorphins pumping kind of fun, creates a feeling of being alive, energized, charged. It is proactive. It adds life to the relationship.
Playfulness is one way of having fun and it’s a natural form of expressing our innate drive toward full aliveness. Playfulness can include singing songs with added funny wording, splashing in the pool or bath, drenching each other with water balloons, wrestling, racing up the steps or to the car, having food or pillow fights, or tickling each other.
Add fun into your relationship, enjoy new pleasures and a renewed sense of being alive. Allow passion and connectedness to resurface in your relating and savor a stronger emotional bond. Get playing!
Happy Bonding!!
~ Your MetroRelationship ™ Assignment
Create a Fun List: Sit together and brainstorm for Fun Activities that follow the definition of fun described above. Make it long. Get silly and have fun with the process. When you have a nice list, pick one making a date for when to carry it out. HAVE FUN!
Copyright (c) 2016 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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