Don’t you just love Summer?! What do you love about it? I love the weather, of course, the change in routine, the more leisure pace, the focus on fun, the wardrove, the aliveness in nature, and I can keep going on. But, most importantly what I love about Summer is that it’s conducive to Dreaming… Summer is inspiring and motivating. It jump-starts the creative juices and energy flow. It resets us, if we allow it.
Usually by the time Summer rolls around we are tired again, cluttered again, having let go of our wellness and self-care practice again, putting out fires as opposed to working from inspiration, again. And, so on… Right?
This is why I like Summer Personal Projects™. Regardless of their nature, I find these super productive in different ways than the usual endeavors. I find this is time for personal development, relationship/family nurturing, home improvement, life-style enrichment, purpose and meaning exploration, and leading-edge thinking…
I find this time super fun. This is when we make major shifts in our family. This is when we set up for a successful rest of the year and beyond.
So, this leads me to share about my latest intrigue, the concept of Minimalism… I have to admit, I’m a complete novice compared to those that have fully embraced this concept. Which makes it perfect as a personal project. Even though I usually write about streamlining routines, decluttering, letting go of commitments, clearing calendars, and the like, I’m embracing this concept to a whole new level! Yay!
Now, this is a personal challenge as I like to keep, track, record, document, and be prepared for anything… I overpack. I have several file cabinets in my office. I have back-up-systems for my back-up-systems. Our attic has “things we can still use.”
Until very recently I had every email I ever wrote and calendar event I ever scheduled, including all of my team members’ over time! Colleagues connect with me for documentation from almost 20 years ago… And, I have it! LOL
I have systems for keeping this tamed, organized, automated, and such. It has worked and served its purpose all this time. But now, I’m finding the need to further clear, let go, untether, minimize… It’s a very interesting experience. It’s a very interesting feeling, of not caring to hang on…
The Minimalism concept promotes letting go of stuff, to be able to add. The point is to let go of things that are unnecessary, superfluous, redundant, undermining, energy sucking. This creates space for things that are more value driving, meaningful, and life-enriching. When our life is full of junk, we have a junky life… When our life is full of meaning stuff, we have a meaningful life…
Embracing this concept is one of my current Summer Personal Projects™ that I’m sure will take a while to integrate more fully, but I’m up for the challenge and the fun to be had!
What is your focus during the Summer, aside from entertaining the kids off from school and going on family vacation? How do you milk your Summer time? How do you not miss out on the gems of Summer? Which of the above areas of Summer Personal Projects™ resonated for you? Are you tackling any? Which would you tackle? Which would inspire, reset, shift you…?
Aside from the inspiration to share about this, I also felt compelled to see what others might be doing on this topic. I came across this invigorating compilation: The Power of 30-Day Challenges. What a wonderful way to jump start Personal Projects!
What do you say, will you join me in having a more Meaningful Summer™? What will it be, a project of your own creation or following one of the 30-day challenges? Pick something that feels exciting to you to take on. It doesn’t matter what it is, the size, or the length. What matters is that you are enriching your experience through this focus, and that’s where the juice is…
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Shifting!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Summer Time is just great to do our life differently, and to create momentum to shift as we desire…
What say you about taking on a Summer Personal Project™?
Make it fun, exciting, intriguing, outside your comfort zone, growth inducing and motivating!
Let this reset, rejuice and inspire you.
Enjoy!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Back from our major trip, a lot of driving, and much sightseeing. The girls trip was conceived and designed by our daughter, Vanessa, with the goal of seeing major cities along the way. Our excursion took us down the East Coast to Jacksonville, FL, across to New Orleans, LA, up to Cleveland, OH, and back across to NJ.
With a few one-nighters along the way, a multiple-day stay in New Orleans, and the 4th of July in Nashville, we did 3,400 miles through 15 states and 13 cities. Woohoo! I feel very accomplished after this. LOL
The trip in itself wasn’t extremely long, but because of the driving exertion, suspension from the everyday, and hypnotic roads, I feel I’ve been away a very long time… It was quite an experience, lending itself to new perspectives, renewed energy and continued ZenBrain… One of many fun spots included visiting the Audubon Park in New Orleans. What a magical and inspiring spot…
I’m so grateful to find places like this on my Journey, whether through a road trip or around the corner. These are the types of places that suspend noise, judgement, resentment, shaming, and the like. These are the types of places that assist in our Reprogramming…
You might be aware that we go through life with our usual view of the world, our mindset and our scripts. These narratives and believes when played over and over continue the running of our programming. This is not a bad thing if we intentionally create positive narratives that serve us…
The problem is that our narratives are usually colored and influenced by well-meaning others operating from a less than inspired, guided and authentic place themselves… Narratives created by default and operating never having been cleaned up, or without ongoing tending, just perpetuate, actually worsen, our dissatisfying status quo.
They provide convoluted and defensive logic, negative reinforcements, and a downright sabotaging approach to life…
For us to have satisfying and successful relationships and a rewarding and meaningful life, we have to tend to our narrative. We have to clean up our view of the world, our beliefs, our meaning systems, our scripts, and our thought patterns. Leaving this untamed, dark, and dirty (like I like to say) is a dangerous way to live our life. We are pretty much signing off on having an unsatisfying experience at the end of the day…
This is why I so love Self-care that includes Mindfulness Practices because this is exactly what they provide. They provide a respite from the noise, the usual chaotic, negative and defensive thinking, and undermining approach. They provide a way to bypass the “programming” allowing us to connect with our core, authenticity, and Light.
When we do this frequently we reprogram ourselves… and start operating from a cleaner, more authentic and inspired place more consistently. This is what I’ve been calling ZenBrain. The experience of a sustained and ongoing peaceful and authentic feeling is just truly Divine. I wish this for you.
I’m super excited that every week more clients share they are incorporating a Mindfulness Practice into their routine. The progress and changes in their Journey is noticeably different once they do this… It is truly amazing to witness…
The Mindfulness Practice can include anything that resonates for us, like visiting and experiencing gorgeous and peaceful places I described above, meditating daily, gratitude journaling, coloring mandalas, anything that is hypnotic, quieting, and allows you to connect with your Higher Self, the core of you… From this place there is no funky program running the show!
It’s up to you how your relationships feel and what your life looks like every day. It’s up to you to shed the programming and live your life from your authentic Self, from Light and Love. And what a life this would be!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Reprogramming!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
It is imperative that you integrate a Mindfulness Practice into your routine!
Assess your Mindfulness Quotient and then play with the options below to become more Mindful…
Do Guided Mindfulness Meditation, Transcendental Meditation
Listen to binaural beats frequencies, sounds of nature, Tibetan singing bowls, Tibetan flute
Keep journal of gratitude, positive aspects, letting go
Color Mandalas / Mindfulness Drawings
Intentionally knit, drive, walk, swim, dance, hike, and such
Be in nature
Do deep muscle relaxation, breathing exercises, body scans
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At the publishing of this, I’m on a road trip cross country. Yay!! Super grateful at having the freedom to pretty much pick up and go. Little ahead planning time went into making this happen. It’s so satisfying to enjoy such liberties and create experiences to treasure. This is the result of living a life by Design…
It is not always easy to create the life we want, to design our own life, as we have a tendency to get in our own way… We have tendency to react and live our life by default… We might have limiting beliefs that hold us back from Being our Authentic Self. These block our access to our internal guidance system, our intuition, our gifts, our Awesomeness.
Being disconnected from our Self, is painful… This is the source of our angst in life… When we are disconnected from our Self, we go through life just banging around and suffering in one way or another…
Limiting beliefs flow from three fundamental human ego driven core belief systems. Somewhere along the way, usually very early on in our childhood through interactions with our care-takers, we internalized one or more of these:
Powerless
Unlovable
Unworthy
If you were to process any situation in your life, any pain you are currently undergoing, you will find at least one of these as the underlying feeling. These are accompanied by related distorted thoughts about yourself and the world that perpetuate the stuck situation and resulting pain.
When we insist on subscribing to these, either by shear stubbornness or just plain ignorance, we stay disconnected from our Self, our internal resources, and therefore unable to effect changes in our life. It becomes impossible to design and create the life we desire.
We have a choice to make. Do we want to live our fullest life? Do we want to live our most enjoyable and rewarding life? Do we want to have an amazing Journey? Do we want to live our life by Design? If so, we consistently focus in connecting to our Self. When we are Connected to our Self, we Know we are powerful, lovable and worthy… This is the antidote!!! It’s that’s simple…
We can choose to be Connected. We can choose to Be our best Self. We can choose to have our best Life. We have so much freedom that we can even choose bondage… Living feeling powerless, unlovable, and/or unworthy and not to resolving this is to choose to live in bondage… The choice is ours. What we create is a result of our choices.
So, our job to remove obstacles that prevent us from connecting to our Self.
Our job is to mind our thoughts and clean up any that lead to bad feelings…
Our job is to mind how we feel and subscribe to feel-good activities that make our heart sing…
Our job is to mind what we do and find the positive in all…
And, our job is to focus on connecting to our Self with Mindfulness Practices… This is the shortcut… You can immediately have full access to your Self and the resources to design and create the life you desire. The life you came to live in this life experience.
You can live your life by Design, start by choosing to do so…
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Choosing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Make a list of thoughts you recognize as limiting beliefs… Or, that you are aware have held you back from the life you desire…
Go through each and debunk them! Feel the release of their hold on you…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Woohoo!! Happy Summer!! A lot of schools let out this week around these parts and coupled with the warmth and brightness of the sun, it really feels like summer now. Happy, happy. Don’t you just love the feeling of “vacation brain”? When things that normally grab your attention or feel like major priorities just don’t have the same urgency?
When you move slower than usual and you don’t feel bad about it? When your daily agenda actually seems reasonable and doesn’t look like it was meant to be completed over a week? When you can easily play hooky and it actually doesn’t set you back? When you are more productive with less effort? Ah, to embracing “vacation brain” full time…
I’m attributing the experience of “vacation brain” to the context around me. As we all know though, children being home and getting ready to go away for an extended amount of time are not normally conducive to peace of mind… Usually “vacation brain” doesn’t kick-in till the vacation in underway, if we are actually able to relax and enjoy… So, let’s rename and reframe.
How about “Zen-Brain”? However reasonable the initial association of “feeling on vacation” was to school-being-out and sunshine, something else is the inspiration. I find that continued focus on Transcendental Mindset™ and Mindfulness Practices gives way to Zen-Brain™. This has been part of my recent cocktail, and oh boy, what a pay-off! Feels like I’m on vacation every day!
Here is a preliminary attempt at “bottling” this, flowing from the structure of my Success Strategy™…
Embrace / Own Thyself (Context & Mindset)
Be authentic, claim your Gifts, establish-respect boundaries, let others be
I find that living by these makes life joyous. I find that embracing these makes life rewarding. I find that investing in how we do ourselves makes our life what we desire it to be.
How is your Transcendental Mindset? Are you able to let go of fear/control, guilt/blame, shame/inadequacies, grief/loss, lies/defenses, illusion/separateness, attachments/outcomes? This is easier said than done. Identify which of the above gives you the hardest time.
Make it your mission to conquer it and reap the benefits. What do you need to address this area of your life? Break it down and start putting stuff in place to support you in your Journey.
You’ll find that as you conquer these, life becomes so much more delightful and gratifying. Be gentle, caring and compassionate with yourself as you tackle this. This work is not for the faint of heart. Here is your first gold star for even considering tackling this. Keep rewarding yourself along way! Enjoy!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Embracing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Meditate, journal, vision, discuss, ponder, whatever, what these mean to you…
Be authentic
Be integrous
Be intentional
Be mindful
Be masterful
Play with integrating them more into your thoughts and interactions. Weave these in more and more into your Existence… Feel them, Be them.
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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I’m still on the theme of Milking the Summer… LOL I had this fantastic experience when checking my google email social tab not long ago. It was bombarded with Summer treats of all sorts. Too much email can be annoying, but the Summer theme made reviewing mine rewarding. I found some pretty cool treasures in there from Pinterest.
Yes, you guess it. This included a barrage of Summer Bucket Lists. How fun!!
So, why not? I’m starting a compilation of fun Summer activities, outings, experiences and delights to inspire you in case you are looking for some ideas:
Botanical garden, butterfly garden, zoo, aquarium, amusement park, water park, fair, carnival, festival, outdoor concert, antiquing, labyrinth walking, drive-in movie, arcade, art show
Hang gliding, rock climbing, hot air balloon riding, horseback riding, quad riding, water skiing, white water rafting, cannoning, snorkeling sailing, jet skiing, deep sea fishing, camping, paint-ball, ziplining
Fly a kite, watch fireworks, garden, catch fireflies, hike, bike, hold a garage sale, watch sunsets, watch sunrises, star gaze, have an outdoor slumber party, paint / draw / color outdoors, outdoor yoga
Chilling on a park bench, on a hammock, on porch rocking chair, on a swing, on a lounge chair, on a beach chair, on the grass, on the sand, by a campfire
Build a treehouse, fort, bike-ramp, sandcastle, shed, workbench, easel
Do a cannonball, run in the sprinklers, use the watersides, have a water balloon fight, swimming in any body of water, dance in the rain, make-out in the rain
Collect seashells, rocks, sand, flowers (dry and scrapbook)
Play board games, do a 1000 piece puzzle, learn to knit, make a homemade pizza, plant an indoor herb garden
Get your palm, aura, chakras, cards read
Make it a mission to visit: national parks, different cuisine restaurants, museums, fruit picking farms, farmer’s markets, beaches, playgrounds, wineries, monuments, tourist attractions
Color mandalas, journal, meditate, start a gratitude journal, play the Tibetan flute as ambient music, get Tibetan singing bowls
Pick any that grab your attention and add to your repertoire. Would love to hear any treasures on your bucket list!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Bucketing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Do create your Summer Bucket List!
Highlight the must not miss items and stay focused on activities, outing, experiences and treats that make your heart sing.
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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