Embracing rituals as connection, healing and change agents [video]

Embracing rituals as connection, healing and change agents [video]

If we are looking for new beginnings, a fresh start or a rebirth, there is a very special tool that can support this endeavor. And that is the tool of Rituals… Rituals infuse our interactions and relationship with the elixir of life… They bring aliveness, vibrancy, and joy to the special moments in our life. Even in their cuteness and simplicity like coloring eggs for Easter, they are super powerful in conveying meaning, creating connection, and transmitting love…

Rituals demarcate the passage of time, acknowledge special circumstances and life transitions, and help us celebrate our loved ones and our life. They provide a sense of cohesiveness and belonging, a way of cherishing ourselves, they pass on legacy and meaning, they deepen our experiences, and they serve as healing agents.  

Rituals are like super foods for the soul!

The thing about them is that they hold us, shape us, sustain us, and connect us. They provide a structure for creating special moments and meaning out of the seeming passage of time. They influence our beliefs and experiences. They nourish us and they create a bond between us. 

Embracing rituals in our daily routines, celebrations, rites of passage and life-cycle transitions with our partner and in our family is a powerful and enriching tool that takes our experience to new heights… 

The key is to be mindful, intentional, graceful, and compassionate in our approach to creating them. Where everyone’s needs and perspectives get addressed and incorporated. These heal, strengthen, and enrich us, our relationships and our life. 

Regardless of our preference for a big to-do or something simple, having everyone involved have a say on how the ritual or experience plays out and contribute in their own way is super validating, transformative, and uplifting.

They provide us with a chance to get out of the material and everyday, into the esoteric realm of meaning, joy, and love. Rituals are a wonderful addition to our refresh helping us upgrade, uplevel and upshift into our fresh start, a rebirth… 

In this companion podcast episode, I’m honored to share time with the wonderful Dr. Evan Imber-Black a prominent contributor to the Marriage and Family Therapy profession. We have a lovely conversation about the significance of rituals, their purpose, what makes a great ritual, and how they are impactful in special family and relationship circumstances like step-families and multicultural families.

 

 

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Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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Beyond regular Spring Cleaning for a real refresh

Beyond regular Spring Cleaning for a real refresh

We have a new season, and Spring at that. With it comes the promise of fresh starts and new beginnings. As nature comes alive we let go of the gloomy, the sedentary, and the stale. Any new season or transitions actually bring with them the opportunity for new beginnings, but Spring is really special as we witness mother nature have its fresh start. This is a perfect moment to ride this wave of momentum for newness.

This is an opportunity to let of things that suffocate us, that unground us, and misalign us… 

We can focus our “Spring Cleaning” in 3 main areas:

1~ Environments, routines, calendar, workload, projects, systems and such
2~ Relationship, family, friendships, community, networks  
3~ Body, mind and spirit… 

When we are cluttered and toxic in these areas we experience:

1~ Overload and exhaustion
2~ Conflict and disconnect
3~ Unwellness and disease 

Then it behooves us to declutter, detox, and deprogram these areas to release any stuck energy and create bandwidth and space for the new…  

For each area we can do an overhaul or a minor tweak, whatever makes sense for our life at this time. 

Here are minor tweaks for immediate results:

1~ Clean out a few little spots in your environments that are cluttered 
2~ Change your self-talk or interactions with your loved ones to have a more accepting, compassionate and kind tone
3~ Identity a trigger that still gets you and address it at the core- identify the driving need behind it and meet it yourself and through your relationship… (This is Couples Therapy at its best to change emotional programming…)

FYI – We are having a Live Integration experience: Refresh Your Identity, Shift Your Reality that will also be available in recording- get access through our Radiance Membership)

Of course, we can do so much in each of the above areas. And, you are welcome to do as much as your heart desires. Everything can stand to be revisited, streamlined, or spruced up… But know that even the littlest “spring cleaning” will create a refresh. Be wise about what you choose, go for what gives the largest impact… That gives the largest release and creates the most spaciousness… 

We talked about clearing for your refreshing to allow the newness… But I’d like to go further with this and offer ways to ride the momentum of the freshness that’s in the air and to capitalize on your refresh to actually realize new beginnings…

And that is aligning with the sacredness of life for balance, flow, and aliveness… 

The first way to do that is to honor and sync with the cycles of life:
~ nature’s seasons
~ lunar cycle
~ hormonal cycle

The second way is to embrace divine nourishing practices:
~ eat nutritious food, hydrate and sleep well…
~ relate authentically with openness and vulnerability…
~ pray, meditate, reflect…

When you create the spaciousness and infuse it with nourishment, you’ll get the aliveness, connection and upleveling you are seeking. This is how you uplevel your self, your relationship, and your life… 

This refresh will quite down all the noise in your life… This quite, stillness, expands and elevates your consciousness, where you become more who you really are, one with Oneness. And this is the access point to accelerate the transformations, creations, manifestations, and realizations in your life… You have access to all you need Just open up to this new realization and let the newness flow in… 

The only thing left in this process is to be really intentional about what kind of newness you want… And then take a first step towards creating something new… Towards creating a new beginning…  

Here is to your refresh and all the newness you desire…

 

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Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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What do you need to de-clutter?
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Detox to surrender the old and allow the new… (VIDEO)
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Focus on removing any toxicity from our interactions…
Cleanse yourself of resistance and friction for new beginnings
How do you renew yourself?

 

PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?

Interested in Couple Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Individual Therapy or Support Sessions?

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When there is toxicity in your relationship… [video]

When there is toxicity in your relationship… [video]

When we are looking to create change, uplevel, and make a move in our relationship and our life, we might find that we don’t know where to start. Or that we have tried all the things we know and ran out of ideas and so are feeling hopeless. Or that we feel so stuck we want to give up. Or that we know what we have to do but are too scared to take a first step or an action towards making a change. All this is part of the human experience when we are trying to better our situation, create what we desire and continue to evolve to the best version of ourselves…

But not to fret, even though this is part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that we have to endure additional suffering. It doesn’t have to be hard at the end of the day. 

If we were to actually fully own ourselves and not our partner or others, if we stayed in our circle. If we focused on honoring ourselves, our own evolution and growth, and how we show up to our relationship and our life instead of using excuses, victimizing ourselves and blaming others. We’d truly be empowered and able to create what we desire in all areas of our life… 

What if we were to focus on keeping our side of the street clean… On showing up with our best self- resourced, self-regulated and soothed, boundaried, compassionate, attuned and kind and generous. Can you image how fast your interactions would shift? How fast your relationship would uplevel? I can, I see it day in and day out not only in my own relationship but in countless others with the couple therapy work we do

What is some of the work to do? 

~ Declutter your relationship and life perspective- clean up distorted thinking
~ Clear, deconstruct and deprogram patterns- heal and release old wounds and stuck emotions
~ Detox from defensive and reactive mechanisms- upgrade coping mechanisms and self-regulation
~ Reset stories, scripts and narratives- replace the victim with a victor mindset 
~ Clean up your approach to your partner and your circumstances- try different tactics, skills and tools 

When you let go of the old, the hurts, wounds, patterns, practices, habits, characteristics, and such, you create space to become more who you are- your better version of you, creating a refresh for the new to immerge in all areas of your life…

Here is to a replenishing and shifting refresh and to all the newness! 

In today’s podcast episode, I have a lovely and fun conversation with Cinthia Hiett, also a relationship expert, where we discuss toxic interactions in relationship, dealing with an immature spouse or an immature partner, what codependency looks like in relationship and in the world, how to set boundaries, growing ourselves up and dealing with our inner child, and so much more. 

Tune in, you are in for a treat!

 

 

 

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Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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What do you need to de-clutter?
Detox your life and your relationship
Are you over committed and stretched too thin?
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Detox to surrender the old and allow the new… (VIDEO)
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Focus on removing any toxicity from our interactions…
Cleanse yourself of resistance and friction for new beginnings
How do you renew yourself?

 

PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?

Interested in Couple Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Individual Therapy or Support Sessions?

We can help with our private and group memberships:
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The 15 benefits of sitting in silence to refresh for newness

The 15 benefits of sitting in silence to refresh for newness

As we are entering the season of cleaning, decluttering, cleansing, clearing, and detoxing for a refresh and to create space for newness, for a rebirth, we are faced with the choice of how much, if at all, we play with this. It is up to us how we choose to do our Journey. Are we proactive and victors, or are we passive and victims in our relationship and our life… Whatever our usual, we are still faced with a choice. If you are usually passive, here is a chance to step up your game. 

And let me tell you, we can play full out or simply select an area to focus on and go about it gently. Whatever our style of doing things, we can honor that if that serves us or we can choose to change even that if we are looking to really uplevel our relationship and our life… 

Usually how we do anything is how we do everything… 

But we can empower ourselves and start making different choices. We can take more ownership and choose to do things differently, to change habits, to deprogram, to become our best self, the best partner, and the best human we can… 

We can choose to stop being who we usually are (a collection of habits and patterns…) or at least relieve the parts that no longer serve us to uplevel ourselves. Things we’d address include our sensitivities, pet-peeves, coping mechanisms, defenses, reactions, and anything else that’s our go to… 

Here is our chance to get rid of what we no longer want, what doesn’t work, what gets in our way and holds us back, what numbs, mutes, covers and snuffs us out… Anything that gets in the way of our authenticity, and our ability to be who we truly are… 

We might have done a good amount of clearing (deprogramming and healing) already but have a bit more to do, or we might have not even started getting our house in order… This is where we get to choose how much we’ll tackle and where we want to focus. 

Areas to focus on include but are not exclusive to:

~ Our External Environments – body, relationships, networks, calendars, home, projects, technology

~ Our Internal Environments – mindset, belief systems and limiting believes, thoughts, feelings, energy 

Get our Refresh for Newness Checklist for a more comprehensive list.

We might not even know where to start, if we even want to, and never mind choosing how much to do. The whole thing might feel overwhelming. 

Which brings me to what I want to offer today, and that is to check-in with yourself about this. Not to impetuously decide on something, as a reaction, from ego, or from the top of your head. Give yourself a chance to really get in touch with what investment would make the most sense for you. Where do you want to place your focus and energy to most move the needle forward.

To that end, a great solution for this is to practice Sitting in Silence… 

Sitting in silence promotes:

  1. Relaxation and stress relief
  2. Calm and inner peace
  3. Brain development 
  4. Physical healing
  5. Mental health
  6. Processing
  7. Concentration and focus
  8. Productivity
  9. Learning 
  10. Self-awareness
  11. Intuition
  12. Creativity
  13. Patience
  14. Mindfulness
  15. Sleep

As you get all these benefits, you’ll have a greater sense of where you need to place your focus and energy. You’ll know what areas need to be addressed first so you can leverage them for better and faster results, and ease… 

And most importantly you’ll be doing the resourcing, deprogramming, and healing to begin with. You can’t go wrong! You’ll be already doing what you want to do before you even start doing it. Bam! 

To draw the benefits of sitting in silence to support your refresh and help you create space for the new, be proactive about adding this to your daily routine… Put your devise away for a few minutes, and gift yourself this refresh for newness.  

 

Watch our related videos on our YouTube channel

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Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

PS: Related Articles
What do you need to de-clutter?
Detox your life and your relationship
Are you over committed and stretched too thin?
Spring Clean Your Relationship!
Detox to surrender the old and allow the new… (VIDEO)
Detoxing for Relationship Success!
Focus on removing any toxicity from our interactions…
Cleanse yourself of resistance and friction for new beginnings
How do you renew yourself?

 

PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?

Interested in Couple Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Individual Therapy or Support Sessions?

We can help with our private and group memberships:
Success Membership

Radiance Membership

 

Look forward to seeing you inside!

 

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The more authentic we show up the better the interactions go…

The more authentic we show up the better the interactions go…

Plenty of research shows that the way we communicate impacts our relationship’s success, and this is true for all communication across all disciplines and contexts. But do we really need the research to tell us that? Can’t we immediately tell when we are in an interaction with someone else if we are being heard and understood? Can’t we immediately tell if we are connecting and resonating? Yes, we can! If we pay attention, we can see that the way we show up to our interactions impact how those interactions pan out… The more authentic we show up the better the interactions go…

I’m sure you’ve noticed that when you show up whiny, judgy, critical, controlling, demanding and the like, that you encounter resistance from the other side…

I’m sure you’ve noticed that when you show up open, vulnerable, compassionate, understanding, accepting, collaborative and the like, that you encounter receptivity, willingness, cooperation, resonance, and flow…

The key then is in how we make sure we show up for better connection and more resonance…

And aside from minding our communication skills and tools, what is super important is how we show up with the optimized mindset and our Essence

We want to show up with a clear conscious, which means we take full ownership of ourselves and accountability for our actions, we stop the blame game and waiting for others to change, we do what we know is right without making others wrong, and we take the high road even when others insist on pulling us into the low road…

We want to show up with our Best Self, which means we are resourced (not hungry, tired, disregulated), mindful, available, present, attuned, interested, intentional about having a clean, meaningful and loving interaction…

We want to show up with our heart, which means we check our ego and notice our patterns giving us the ability to be caring, forgiving, compassionate, generous, kind and tender, and specially to be vulnerable, forthcoming, and to speak our truth…

For this is where the connection and resonance will happen… When we truly show up to an interaction without all the layers of protection, defenses, and pretenses, is when we are truly showing up as ourselves and that is when we can be truly seen, accepted, and loved…

Unfortunately, most interact from pretentiousness, superficiality and shallowness. Then they wonder how come they feel alone, lonely, unseen, rejected, unappreciated and such.

If you are not showing up, there is nothing to appreciate…

If you are not showing up, there is no one with whom to connect…

If you are not showing up, there is no one with whom to vibe!

So take stock of where you are suffering, what is bothering you, what is not working in your life, what you would like to change, and see how much YOU are really showing up to those situations…

Take a look at the quality of your presence… Are you being conscientious, showing up with your Best Self and speaking from your heart?

Note, speaking from the heart and honestly doesn’t mean you have no filters and you have a out-of-jail-free-card where you can let it rip and give unsolicited feedback and share all your grievances about how someone else such- you see how damaging and inappropriate this is?

No, speaking from your heart means speaking YOUR truth (not the truth about others LOL). It means sharing your inner world about yourself (not your critical thoughts and impressions about others). It means sharing your hurt, your desires, your dreams…

Speaking from your truth means putting yourself out there to be seen, to be known, to be loved…

This also means using your intuition and judgment about whom to share yourself with, when and how… This is very important- we don’t want to set ourselves up in any way… Discernment is a virtue…

Start taking stock and making your shifts to speak your truth, gently and lovingly, more assertively when necessary, making sure you show up with who you really are and share your heart…

Show up with love, be love, and you’ll receive more love…

 

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APPLICATION: Identify have you haven’t been fully authentic and true to yourself…

 ~ Make a list of things you hide, keep to yourself, have never shared, secrets, parts of yourself you hide, dreams and desired you suppressed, and everything else that is significant about you that you don’t let out- that you don’t honor at the end of the day…

~ Make a commitment to slowly but surely start showing up with more integrity, more authenticity, more vulnerability, more truly yourself…

~ Mark the items you want to do this with first and set the intention to mindfully and intentionally go about sharing yourself more…

 

It is time to start really showing up more to your relationship and your life…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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