At the publishing of this, I’m on a road trip cross country. Yay!! Super grateful at having the freedom to pretty much pick up and go. Little ahead planning time went into making this happen. It’s so satisfying to enjoy such liberties and create experiences to treasure. This is the result of living a life by Design…
It is not always easy to create the life we want, to design our own life, as we have a tendency to get in our own way… We have tendency to react and live our life by default… We might have limiting beliefs that hold us back from Being our Authentic Self. These block our access to our internal guidance system, our intuition, our gifts, our Awesomeness.
Being disconnected from our Self, is painful… This is the source of our angst in life… When we are disconnected from our Self, we go through life just banging around and suffering in one way or another…
Limiting beliefs flow from three fundamental human ego driven core belief systems. Somewhere along the way, usually very early on in our childhood through interactions with our care-takers, we internalized one or more of these:
Powerless
Unlovable
Unworthy
If you were to process any situation in your life, any pain you are currently undergoing, you will find at least one of these as the underlying feeling. These are accompanied by related distorted thoughts about yourself and the world that perpetuate the stuck situation and resulting pain.
When we insist on subscribing to these, either by shear stubbornness or just plain ignorance, we stay disconnected from our Self, our internal resources, and therefore unable to effect changes in our life. It becomes impossible to design and create the life we desire.
We have a choice to make. Do we want to live our fullest life? Do we want to live our most enjoyable and rewarding life? Do we want to have an amazing Journey? Do we want to live our life by Design? If so, we consistently focus in connecting to our Self. When we are Connected to our Self, we Know we are powerful, lovable and worthy… This is the antidote!!! It’s that’s simple…
We can choose to be Connected. We can choose to Be our best Self. We can choose to have our best Life. We have so much freedom that we can even choose bondage… Living feeling powerless, unlovable, and/or unworthy and not to resolving this is to choose to live in bondage… The choice is ours. What we create is a result of our choices.
So, our job to remove obstacles that prevent us from connecting to our Self.
Our job is to mind our thoughts and clean up any that lead to bad feelings…
Our job is to mind how we feel and subscribe to feel-good activities that make our heart sing…
Our job is to mind what we do and find the positive in all…
And, our job is to focus on connecting to our Self with Mindfulness Practices… This is the shortcut… You can immediately have full access to your Self and the resources to design and create the life you desire. The life you came to live in this life experience.
You can live your life by Design, start by choosing to do so…
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Choosing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Make a list of thoughts you recognize as limiting beliefs… Or, that you are aware have held you back from the life you desire…
Go through each and debunk them! Feel the release of their hold on you…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Woohoo!! Happy Summer!! A lot of schools let out this week around these parts and coupled with the warmth and brightness of the sun, it really feels like summer now. Happy, happy. Don’t you just love the feeling of “vacation brain”? When things that normally grab your attention or feel like major priorities just don’t have the same urgency?
When you move slower than usual and you don’t feel bad about it? When your daily agenda actually seems reasonable and doesn’t look like it was meant to be completed over a week? When you can easily play hooky and it actually doesn’t set you back? When you are more productive with less effort? Ah, to embracing “vacation brain” full time…
I’m attributing the experience of “vacation brain” to the context around me. As we all know though, children being home and getting ready to go away for an extended amount of time are not normally conducive to peace of mind… Usually “vacation brain” doesn’t kick-in till the vacation in underway, if we are actually able to relax and enjoy… So, let’s rename and reframe.
How about “Zen-Brain”? However reasonable the initial association of “feeling on vacation” was to school-being-out and sunshine, something else is the inspiration. I find that continued focus on Transcendental Mindset™ and Mindfulness Practices gives way to Zen-Brain™. This has been part of my recent cocktail, and oh boy, what a pay-off! Feels like I’m on vacation every day!
Here is a preliminary attempt at “bottling” this, flowing from the structure of my Success Strategy™…
Embrace / Own Thyself (Context & Mindset)
Be authentic, claim your Gifts, establish-respect boundaries, let others be
I find that living by these makes life joyous. I find that embracing these makes life rewarding. I find that investing in how we do ourselves makes our life what we desire it to be.
How is your Transcendental Mindset? Are you able to let go of fear/control, guilt/blame, shame/inadequacies, grief/loss, lies/defenses, illusion/separateness, attachments/outcomes? This is easier said than done. Identify which of the above gives you the hardest time.
Make it your mission to conquer it and reap the benefits. What do you need to address this area of your life? Break it down and start putting stuff in place to support you in your Journey.
You’ll find that as you conquer these, life becomes so much more delightful and gratifying. Be gentle, caring and compassionate with yourself as you tackle this. This work is not for the faint of heart. Here is your first gold star for even considering tackling this. Keep rewarding yourself along way! Enjoy!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Embracing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Meditate, journal, vision, discuss, ponder, whatever, what these mean to you…
Be authentic
Be integrous
Be intentional
Be mindful
Be masterful
Play with integrating them more into your thoughts and interactions. Weave these in more and more into your Existence… Feel them, Be them.
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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I’m still on the theme of Milking the Summer… LOL I had this fantastic experience when checking my google email social tab not long ago. It was bombarded with Summer treats of all sorts. Too much email can be annoying, but the Summer theme made reviewing mine rewarding. I found some pretty cool treasures in there from Pinterest.
Yes, you guess it. This included a barrage of Summer Bucket Lists. How fun!!
So, why not? I’m starting a compilation of fun Summer activities, outings, experiences and delights to inspire you in case you are looking for some ideas:
Botanical garden, butterfly garden, zoo, aquarium, amusement park, water park, fair, carnival, festival, outdoor concert, antiquing, labyrinth walking, drive-in movie, arcade, art show
Hang gliding, rock climbing, hot air balloon riding, horseback riding, quad riding, water skiing, white water rafting, cannoning, snorkeling sailing, jet skiing, deep sea fishing, camping, paint-ball, ziplining
Fly a kite, watch fireworks, garden, catch fireflies, hike, bike, hold a garage sale, watch sunsets, watch sunrises, star gaze, have an outdoor slumber party, paint / draw / color outdoors, outdoor yoga
Chilling on a park bench, on a hammock, on porch rocking chair, on a swing, on a lounge chair, on a beach chair, on the grass, on the sand, by a campfire
Build a treehouse, fort, bike-ramp, sandcastle, shed, workbench, easel
Do a cannonball, run in the sprinklers, use the watersides, have a water balloon fight, swimming in any body of water, dance in the rain, make-out in the rain
Collect seashells, rocks, sand, flowers (dry and scrapbook)
Play board games, do a 1000 piece puzzle, learn to knit, make a homemade pizza, plant an indoor herb garden
Get your palm, aura, chakras, cards read
Make it a mission to visit: national parks, different cuisine restaurants, museums, fruit picking farms, farmer’s markets, beaches, playgrounds, wineries, monuments, tourist attractions
Color mandalas, journal, meditate, start a gratitude journal, play the Tibetan flute as ambient music, get Tibetan singing bowls
Pick any that grab your attention and add to your repertoire. Would love to hear any treasures on your bucket list!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Bucketing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Do create your Summer Bucket List!
Highlight the must not miss items and stay focused on activities, outing, experiences and treats that make your heart sing.
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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With Summer just around the corner, the school year completed for us, and a major dent made on my goals for the year, I’m turning my attention for now to more leisure, fun and adventures. 😉
How was your half of the year so far? What can you celebrate? How are you structuring and planning on enjoying the Summer? Yeah, yeah, you might have already planned your vacation or trips and enrolled your children in camps, but how will you “milk” the summer?
This is an important aspect of life… Even our “down-time” is over scheduled and packed… I’ve heard crazy plans from people like shuttling themselves from location to location for weeks on end without even making stops at home. Of sustaining intense long-day work weeks to squeeze in long weekend trips.
Of having a ton of personal and home projects in the works. And such… These sound good and fun, but usually the end result is missing the forest for the tree. The goal is to reboot, reset, recharge, realign, not to run rugged where you “need a vacation because of your vacation”…
The goal to reconnect with our Self, is to allow for different flow, to synchronize with our loved ones, to regroup on our path, to realign with our values, to tap into our creativity and inspiration, to access the Innovator in us…
How can this happen if there isn’t a moment to “feel”, to “listen”, to “dream”?
What does this mean for you? What is your Summer Philosophy™? Take this weekend to ponder on this and even run it by others. It’s interesting to hear what is happening out there. I find that people are usually completely overschedule and overbooked, or they haven’t given it much thought and are living their lives by default… What camp are you in?
If you are overscheduled and overbooked – even with “fun” stuff. Take a look and be radical about removing things from your experience. You’ll find that the yummy stuff happens in the in-between…
If you haven’t planned much or given it much thought. You are probably in better shape than the category of people above. It’s challenging to switch gears, slow down, let go, and Be… You have the opportunity to start with a fairly blank canvas… Don’t just add stuff to it… Be intentional about it.
This is your opportunity to pamper and honor your Self. Get in touch with what is important to you and what gives you pleasure. Sprinkle related activities or experiences into your lifestyle for the Summer. Make it a goal to Enjoy your Self…
If you are in the middle. Good for you! Just make sure what you put in place and what you didn’t, is by choice and design and that you are really and truly serving yourself, and your loved ones.
Summer is an untapped built-in resource in our life… Why not “milk it” for all it can provide? Use the Summer as a catalyst to Shift…, and catapult you in making the changes you’ve desired. Slow and steady wins the race…
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Milking!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Pick a Treasure activity, outing, experience or trip to add to your Summer Fun.
Make this a Summer to remember…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
I’m so thrilled to be with you right now as our awareness comes together in this moment in time. Isn’t it amazing that we can be together even when we are not together in the old-fashion-physical-traditional way?
How are you feeling? How are you doing? How are things going? What is new and fabulous in your life? Even that terrific cup of coffee you had this morning makes the cut to answer this question… Find the yummy even when all seems bleak…
At this end, I’m over the moon excited as we are putting finishing touches on yet another milestone project in the Practice. We are going completely paperless! This is huge for me, as I’m a creative type that needs to see it and touch it… I use major platforms to work and collaborate yet have my daily to-do and follow up items on a sticky pad.
If you hang with me, you’ve seen it! LOL Regardless, our records and related processes are finally catching up with rest of Us! Woohoo, happy dance!
This is so extremely freeing. I feel I can finally cut the rope to this massive boulder I’ve been dragging along. Phew! It’s interesting the things we tolerate in our life without realizing how they impact us… As we’ve been transitioning to our new electronic record, case management and client care platform I realize how much nonsense and minutiae backend work we’ve been doing.
As I like to cross my T’s and dot my I’s, and as I’m immensely conscientious, I’ve managed to create a nightmare of this. As we would anytime we shoot for perfection… But, as I continue on my own growth Journey every aspect of my life is becoming Lighter…
We set up our lives to protect ourselves and indulge our perceived limitations… We carry along boulders of all sizes as security blankets, and we work hard at carrying them!
We construct paradigms that are expensive to our lives. Imagine how much more fluid, creative and innovative we could be without these. Imagine how much freer, lighter and joyous our life could be… Imagine what an incredible life you’d Mastermind if fear wasn’t the order of the day… The Universe is literally the limit…
So, it’s time to assess our life and recognize what we’ve been tolerating. What boulders we’ve constructed and insist on carrying along. What box or closet we keep choosing to live in. What limiting beliefs we refuse to clean up.
It’s time we recognize how we’ve created bondage for ourselves. How we’ve imprisoned ourselves and disconnected ourselves from all that’s Good. How we hold ourselves back from the relationship(s) and life we truly desire. It’s time to think outside the box, better, bigger. It’s time to Transcend minutiae and fear… It’s time to let go. It’s time to Trust. It’s time to Live. It’s time to Shine.
What boulder have you created in your life that is dampening your Brilliance? That is keeping you small. That is holding you back. That doesn’t serve you, your loved ones and the world… Whatever is coming up for you might really shake you… Be gentle, accepting and loving towards yourself.
Recognize that you are Amazing and all you have to do is Connect with that… How about it? Try connecting with your Awesomeness, and start deconstructing and letting go of your boulder…
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Liberating!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Address your biggest time suck or pain in your life.
Gently put a system in place to eradicate this obstacle…
Take your time, think it through, implement intentionally and with lots of selfcare on the way…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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