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Quantum leap into your desired reality…

I’m sure you are familiar with sayings such as, What you focus on grows, What you focus on you get wrapped up in, What we resist persists, and so on. We too often let our negativity bias rule the day. We are wired for survival- our ancestors benefitted greatly from our bias to look out for danger.

But we no longer are so dependent on this programming. If anything, it hinders us. Any threat to the status quo and up in arms we go… We get in our own way of getting out of our comfort zone, stretching, and evolving… And this is unfortunate because this is where change occurs, how we create the reality we desire. In exploring the unknown and embracing risk is how we experience the Magic and Magnificence life has to offer…

What if we were to do a Relationship and Life Audit, identify the things we want to upgrade, decide we are going for the next level and make a commitment to creating something different, and methodically and systematically go about creating this change?

If we did that, we’d make strides towards creating what we set out to create. But note, this level of outward focus is not enough- it can only take us so far on its own… This is what is called white-knuckling in some circles. Things don’t come from just shear effort. What happens a lot of times is that we lose momentum and even sabotage ourselves if the inner focus is not in alignment…

Let’s say that we are focused on creating more connection, intimacy, and fun with our partner. Let’s also say that we have unprocessed or unaddressed personal history and have fear, mistrust, unworthiness, abandonment or other unresolved issues.

Then no matter how hard we work at enriching our relationship at the conscious level, our subconscious and unconscious programming are still running the show and our triggers and defenses undermine our efforts…

The task at hand here besides visioning, strategizing, planning, and tackling your upgrade…, is to do the inner work…

This has to do with:

Addressing limiting beliefs and scripts, clarifying expectations, exploring desires
Owning all parts of ourselves with compassion, coming out of the closet, owning our truth
Becoming more authentic, being more transparent, and showing more vulnerability
Healing wounds, addressing hurts, and getting our needs met
Identifying and expanding who we are, choosing and owing our own identity
Aligning our thinking, feelings, and actions for a more congruent and fluid experience

This work supports what we try to manifest on the outside. When we clean up, align, and update our inside, it shows in our outside. Our health and wellbeing are in tip top shape. Our relationship becomes more loving, supportive, fun, passionate. Our career, business or other endeavor becomes more meaningful and impactful. Our life is just more beautiful all around…

Decide what kind of relationship and life you Desire… Note, Desire literally means de sire, “of the Father”… Your desires were bestowed upon you by Universal Intelligence that created everything in existence…

So, if you feel desiring is not a great quality to have, please note it is your birth given right as a child of this Universe to want to expand, become more, thrive, flourish as everything else in nature. Even the Universe is expanding… Why wouldn’t you want to?

Then note what about you might get in the way of you creating or achieving what you desire. What patterns do you recognize in your relationship/s and your life? What is your usual complaint about people and things? Where is the place you usually get stuck? How far can you get before things regress again or you sabotage?

For example, you can only save so much money, you can only lose so much weight, you can sustain connection for only so long, and so on… Explore every nook and cranny of your being for these, grab as many as you can identify at this time.

These levels make up your current success thermostat… You can only get to a certain degree of success until the program kicks in and brings you back to the preset degree…

Your job is to do your inner work to reset, reprogram, your preset to the degree of success you really Desire…

This is how you quantum leap into the reality you desire for your relationship and your life…

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APPLICATION: In your time of meditation or contemplation, explore who you are and who you want to become…

Choose your Identity and identify what thoughts, feelings and behaviors might flow from this identity to start embracing the new you…

~ Check how you need to upgrade your thinking to be in alignment with how this person would think…
~ Set intentions to cultivate feelings this person might feel…
~ Set yourself up with habits that align with what this person might do…

Note what egoic responses come up and soothe and accept yourself…

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Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™ that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.

Easily go from good to great, how to create greatness

by Emma Viglucci

Why settle for a mediocre relationship and life when you can have an extraordinary relationship and life? Extraordinary does not mean complex, chaotic, demanding and such. People choose simple because it is easier, but extraordinary doesn’t have to be complicated…

They might already have a pretty good relationship and life, they are comfortable, and so they settle for good. That’s fine if that’s what you want. But in my book, if we are going to live this life, we might as well make it great- including our relationship. No?

I’m going to assume that you are in the camp of wanting to make your relationship and your life great otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this or be part of our family…

So, how do we make our relationship and our life great? It is actually really simple, we expect it, we plan for it, and we strive towards it…

You see the first issue is that we don’t believe we can have our best relationship and our best life… At some level we don’t believe we deserve it… We give up before we even get started!

Then, we get a commitment from our partner and start making some strides in life and we get comfy. We neglect our partner and don’t stretch ourselves into the best we can be. We bang around in our relationship and our life… We plan parties and vacations more than we plan our relationship and our life…

And finally, we don’t support ourselves in working towards creating what we desire. We don’t have a working strategy for creating what we want. We don’t have a way to stay the course, invest seamlessly, and enjoy the process on the way.

How are we then supposed to move from Good to Great? Not for nothing people settle or struggle…

But like we already established, this doesn’t have to be complicated, challenging, or complex… It just takes commitment, focus, and intentionality to address your programming, your planning, and your grit…

Let’s start right now, shall we?

PROGRAMMING – You don’t believe you can have an epic love affair with your partner, have a radiant and successful relationship, and extraordinary life because you don’t believe you deserve it…

You might think it’s impossible to create these for all the reasons you give yourself- like your partner is emotionally stunted or not game, you are both too busy to nurture your relationship and besides you don’t even know how, it’s embarrassing to explore more with your partner, one or both of you have insecurities and/or commitment issues, and so on…

And that was just in terms of your relationship… What reasons- excuses do you come up with when it comes to your life?

In the meantime, at a deeper level, your programming of being unworthy and undeserving is wreaking havoc… This is why you have repeating patterns in your life, this is why you can’t seem to get ahead, this is why everything feels hard, this is why you have physical and mental health issues, this is why there is other funky stuff in your life…

Antidote:

~ A simple solution is to implement a Self-Love Practice that in and of itself helps unravel the programming as you are showing yourself you are deserving and worthy by giving love to yourself…

~ Another simple way to do reprogramming is by doing 30-Day Challenges to address egoic patterns…

PLANNING – How are you supposed to create or build something without a blueprint? How are you supposed to go on a trip without an itinerary? How are you supposed to win the game without a game plan? Whatever analogy resonates for you, let’s take it to heart.

Do you plan parties or vacations? Or does your partner? Regardless, as a couple you probably put in more time into planning these than planning your relationship and your life… You might have given some thought to your home renovations, your investments, your children’s college tuition, and your retirement, but is that the extent of it?

Now, I know you might not even have done those. It’s ok, we are not here to shame you. Just highlighting that your life can use a little more intentionality, that’s all. And, if you have done those, you might be asking what else is there.

Your Game Plan is to be a simple blueprint for creating your best relationship and your best life, not just a basic life… It’s a plan to move from Good to Great…

Antidote:

~ Now, a Game Plan, a Strategy, and such might seem overwhelming and tedious. But let’s make this as simple as possible… Choose an aspect of your relationship or life that you’d like to take to the next level and explore what would that feel and look like once you achieve it. Now take an action to start getting you closer to that desire. After the action, choose the next, and then the next and so on until before you know it you’d have gotten to the next level…

~ If you are more ambitious, map out steps, tactics, habits, activities, support and milestones to add to your daily routine and weekly and monthly rhythms to crank towards your desires…

GRIT – People usually shy away from “hard work”, dedication, commitment, focus, loyalty, and other personal characteristics and habits because they have a wobbly sense of self. They don’t believe in themselves and have an identity that aligns with that, which of course doesn’t include self-discipline and such…

Some people are born with grit others can cultivate it… If you are one of the lucky ones for whom this is inherently part of your make up, acknowledge this blessing and appreciate it for you are ahead of the game. If you are one of who don’t identify as having grit, no worries- there are ways around this. We can help you build grit and get your jump start while you cultivate it…

The point about grit is that you need this to stay the course, to invest consistently in what you desire, to keep trying until you crack the code, to stay on it until you get what you want…

Now, you might be thinking, Yikes, that’s intense, who wants to live like that? Well, my friend, that’s what it takes to create an extraordinary relationship and life. Otherwise, we are on the other side, the settling for mediocre side… But I promise, we’ll do this simply and with ease…

Antidote:

~ This part might feel really scary, but it doesn’t have to be. First things first, identify a character strength you’d like to develop that would support you in your Journey. Then set about exploring and practicing this character strength daily.

~ Secondly, you don’t have to depend on poor sheer will power and self-discipline to make things happen. Instead, leverage tools (i.e., calendar, reminders, bill pay), automation (i.e., recurring events, autoresponders, automatic deposits/transfers), support (i.e., accountability, subscriptions, concierges), habits (i.e., wellness, connection and success habits), and such to have your own back.

Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and eventually you get there…

So, seamlessly, simply, and with ease you can stay the course and move from a good relationship and life to great ones. It doesn’t have to be challenging to create your radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life… Be extraordinary my friend, create greatness!

WATCH THE RELATED REEL ON IG: From Good to Great

GET THE RELATED THEME GUIDE: Find Your Purpose

APPLICATION: Make a decision to be extraordinary and to create greatness, to move from Good to Great in your relationship and your life…

Choose the area that needs the most attention first to get the most leverage creating what you desire, and dig in with gusto into that area till you feel your shift and start getting traction towards creating what you desire…

~ Programming
Implement a Self-Love Practice
Play with 30-Day Challenges

~ Planning
Embrace An Action at a Time
Map Out Your Steps/Actions

~ Grit
Develop Character Strengths
Implement Systems and Habits