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Being super generous…

Being super generous…

Stop withholding when you have an issue with your partner. You can still be nice… Unfortunately, when we are upset with our partner, we tend to closedown shop. We are no longer open for business. And this is not just about being intimate.

We take this to the next level. We lose our courtesy, we can’t appreciate, we get mean, and we can even become uncaring, underhanded, and spiteful. When the opposite is required to sustain a radiant and successful relationship… Being super generous… 

I’m sure you can identify with the above. There is actually a spectrum of this experience. Sometimes when we are upset, we might even want to ditch the relationship…

I want to make a distinction about being upset and annoyed with our partner and being triggered. 

Things might bother us, we might not agree with something, we might be disappointed, we might be put out or inconvenienced, and the like – such is being in relationship. 

But when we get triggered, different filters come on… We forget who we are, we forget who our partner is, we forget the moment and we are thrown into an abyss of pain… 

~ It’s like we got kicked in the chest and we can’t breathe… 
~ It’s like we are thrown off a cliff and are free falling… 

Our very survival feels threatened at some level…

When we are triggered we forget the current year, we forget we are not interacting with our caretakers from growing up, we forget we are radiant energetic beings, that we are awesome, that we have everything we need inside ourselves, and that everything is OK… 

We get thrown into our little story of our little/lower self with our little life where everything is scary… 

So, it makes complete sense that it would be very challenging to care about our partner’s feelings and their needs when our survival feels threatened… We can’t possible concern ourselves with being nice when we are in that state… 

This requires lots of self-love, compassion, understanding and grace… 

But this is not what I’m talking about here… 

~ I’m talking about our regular upset and annoyance that we can easily address. 
~ I’m talking about arguing for argument’s sake. 
~ I’m talking about making points out of principle. 
~ I’m talking about proving yourself right and your partner wrong…
~ I’m talking about trying to win over your partner.
~ I’m talking about doing relationship math, keeping score cards and doing tit-for-tats…
~ I’m talking about holding our ground just because we think it’s our boundary. 
~ I’m talking about operating from our lower self because we are too lazy to clean up the moment! 

This is not way to create our amazing relationship. What’s the point in all that? 

How about we embrace the higher road, align with our higher self, and operate from generosity instead? When we are triggered, we are not ourselves – this requires special attention. But when we are just upset or annoyed, we can do a lot better! 

And please know that I know that even this request might be too much for you. If you are finding that you are struggling, and it feels impossible to be generous because you are too depleted, then that’s the place to address. Focus on repleting yourself first. 

Have a hooky day, a self-care day, a slower day. Be gentle, be compassionate. Give yourself lots of love… 

Be super generous with yourself, and then with your partner…. 

 

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APPLICATION: Maybe it’s time to rethink generosity… Maybe it’s time to reconsider the Law of Reciprocity…  

~ How about we give just to give
~ How about we give with gusto
~ How about we concern ourselves with giving vs what we get
~ How about we actually receive what we are giving… 
~ How about we appreciate what we get…   

 

Gratitude, thankfulness, appreciation, giving and receiving are not as simple as they seem. Some have to be more intentional about these to enrich their relationship, and their lives… 

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

 

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