METROPOLITAN MARRIAGE & FAMILY THERAPY, PLLC
We all have our holidays traditions, but are yours giving you joy and filling your heart? Following holiday traditions doesn’t mean driving ourselves into the ground with so many to-dos just to check off the boxes of all the things that should get done during the holiday season. I think it’s time to rethink all the extra things we do just for the sake of doing them… Uplevel your holidays with enriching traditions.
Is our partner really separate from us, or are they a part of us? It is obvious that our partner is a separate entity from us. They have their own body, their own brain, their own most things… Yet, we treat them as if they are a part of us that we own… But maybe they are a part of us in a different way… And we just don’t know how to better relate to them from that perspective… Maybe the answer is in embracing our partner as a blessing…
It seems that it is so easy to abuse ourselves if we are not being intentional about loving ourselves… Self-abuse can take on so many forms that we might be abusing ourselves and we don’t even know it… Self-abuse is anything we do that doesn’t serve us, and directly or indirectly harms us… Abusing yourself takes on many forms and sabotages your life…
The next 90 days can make a real huge difference as to how you end up making out for the year. This is the time to regroup so you can reset your focus, targets, and desires… This is also the time to realign against your values and how you want the rest of the year to go. What kind of year do you want to have in all? How do you want this one to go down in history? How do you want to have made your life better? How do you want to have gotten a bit closer to your Life Vision? The key is in mapping out meaningful experiences through the next 90 days…
Do you feel like life is a struggle? Are you having a hard time in your relationship? Do you find that you can’t seem to get along with your partner? That no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to get on the same page? That you can’t create and sustain connection? That you can’t make headways in creating the life you want? Do you feel stagnant, stuck, hopeless? If so, you are not alone. Unfortunately, these are common in a lot of relationships. Things might not be working right now, but they can…
As we move into another hectic season, some are worried about picking up the pace again and juggling changing work expectations with other preferences in their lives. Life just has a different flavor now… What was once an acceptable way of life, no longer serves us. We got a taste of freedom and now we want to embrace that more. The problem is that we don’t know how and think the answer is in work-life balance, embracing a “quiet resignation” position… Sorry to break it to you, but that’s not it. Stop striving for work-life balance.
As we begin to wrap up the Summer, let’s take stock of how we’ve done with our summer professional projects, personal projects, personal development, relationship enrichment, couple fun, and summer activities- in other words, our Summer Upleveling™… This is part of how to soak up the last of Summer. We set out to take full advantage of what Summer has to offer with its more leisure pace. To enjoy and recharge. To use this time to reset, regroup, and realign with new inspiration. To make a dent in our transformation and in creating the relationship and life we desire… Then we can bring that awesomeness into what’s next in our Journey this year…
Why settle for a mediocre relationship and life when you can have an extraordinary relationship and life? Extraordinary does not mean complex, chaotic, demanding and such. People choose simple because it is easier, but extraordinary doesn’t have to be complicated… They might already have a pretty good relationship and life, they are comfortable, and so they settle for good. That’s fine if that’s what you want. But in my book, if we are going to live this life, we might as well make it great- including our relationship. No?
