I like to get into Spring Mode early to extend the warmer seasons as much as possible… It’s harder to do when the weather wants to continue to show its winter colors though. LOL But it’s nothing that a Spring Bucket List can’t fix! Are you with me? Let’s leave winter behind regardless of what is happening out there.
I did some research on Spring Bucket Lists to prepare for this issue and found most of them a little basic and dull. I think you and I can create our own much better list. Are you up for it?
I created a Bucket List Design Process™ for this purpose. Note, the mere exercise of doing this is super empowering, recharging, motivating, inspiring, exciting and just plain FUN. Give it a go!!
Use the structure listed below to come up with things you want to do, accomplish, or experience in each area. You can play with all 10 areas, coming up with 5 things for each, or you can choose to focus on specific areas as you like, with the idea of ending up with your Spring Bucket List: 50 Ways of Living Life to the Fullest this Spring
Here is the list structure with areas to cover to help you create an amazing list, with a couple of examples for each:
1.Personal Physical – health, fitness, grooming and pampering, appearance and look, personal brand, treatments, healthy habits
Expand your skin care routine
Do a detox
2.Wellness – self-care routines, wellness and success habits, personal development practices or focus, treatments, supportive resources, tools and techniques
Start a Partner Appreciations Journal™…
Join or start a Personal DevelopmentMaster Mind Group™
3.Relational and Social – activities, outings, entertaining, experiences, adventures, service, joint project, hobby, or interest, connection habits, relationship enrichment behaviors, celebrating
Subscribe to Blue Apron to cook original nutritious recipes together
Commit to Saturdays Date Night™
4.Home and Other Indoor Spaces – decluttering and organization, making functional, refreshing, beautifying
Marie Kondo Your Home… (keep only things that Spark Joy!)
Commit to Fresh Flowers Fridays™
5.Outdoor Spaces – yard, functional structures, activities structures, variety of gardens, fun nooks, special touches, experiences
Plant a fruit tree
Create a Yard Labyrinth
6.Indulgences – baking and other treats, aromas and scents, experiences, getting that little something that’s been on your wish list
Bake lemon treats
Start / expand your aromatherapy oils collection
7.With the Kids – crafts, their rooms, activities, outings, experiences, service, new skill, new hobby, new interest, new life skill
Visit an arboretum
Build a bird house
8.Creative – writing of any kind including music, painting, drawing, designing, decorating, dancing, creating, inventing, photographing, crafting, singing
Write a collection of poems
Photograph the blooming season
9.Philanthropical – add charities to your repertoire, help plan an upcoming Gala, help in local fundraisers, contribute to a charitable endeavor, donate your time to your population of choice, start a cause
Sign up to read to children at afterschool programs or hospitals
Volunteer to be a Mentor at your local High School
10.Nature/Seasonal/Different – visiting beautiful locations, being with animals, doing outdoor activities, playing outdoors, being outdoors, outdoor sports, exploring and witnessing nature
Just writing this was energizing and fun! Juices flowing, so inspired… Yay! It’s your turn, brainstorm ideas to recharge, motivate, move forward, have fun, and enjoy the season. Inspire yourself and Spring Forward!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Springing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Create your Spring Bucket List. Select a batch of items from your list you want to enjoy first. Start planning out how to make them happen.
Keep doing the same for the rest. The goal is not to stress out to have them all done, but to enjoy the process and doing as many as you like.
This is an exercise for stimulation, inspiration and enjoyment!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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I know not everybody enjoys and thrives during the holidays. Most actually don’t and struggle. I’m sorry if this is you. Tackling our Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP)might help… I know that our clients that fully embrace this process fare much better than those that don’t when the new year comes around… If you struggle please Gift this process to yourself!
I’ve been writing about Gifting and Giving and how being generous is a key element to feeling happy. How Gifting and Giving adds meaning to our lives.
What I’ve noticed with this Theme, is that people might be awesome at Giving to others but they are not as awesome at giving to themselves… And, I’m not talking about buying ourselves the latest new thing. For those that care for themselves with material things might not be caring for themselves in more important and impactful ways…
I’m talking about Giving ourselves the gift of our own Presence… Of good nutrition. Of exercise. Of sleep. Of free time. Of pampering. Of leisure and pleasure. Of playfulness. Of support. Of a Mindfulness Practice. Of mental spaciousness… This is being Generous with ourselves!
Remember from last week’s article, that generosity stimulates the same neural network that lights up with physical pleasure… It makes us feel happy. Being generous with ourselves gives us the benefit of not only caring for ourselves and all the benefits that come along with that, but also the benefit of actual Giving. This is a 2-for-1 deal!
It behooves us then, if we care about our happiness and wellness, if we care about our success, to Give to our ourselves as diligently as we give to our loved ones, and even strangers.
So how about it? As you are working through Aspects1-3 of the HYP, be mindful of this concept and weave it into your experience… This will make or break your month! (a little dramatization for good measure is always fun to add!).
Select and implement a way to Give to yourself that makes life easier, smoother and more rewarding. Keep it simple, choose something that recharges and replenishes. Enjoy!!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Receiving!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Plan out and implement a simple Holiday Self-Care Practice™. Streamline all the hoopla. Invest in what really recharges and replenishes you. Give to yourself generously. Take it in.
Make it fun and enjoy!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
I noticed that when the weather and seasons don’t line up as we expect them, that we are a little thrown off. If you are feeling rushed, discombobulated, and a bit out of sorts this could be part of the reason. What do you need to do to catch up with Mother Nature?
This brings me to fully embracing the lessons of Mother Nature, the Seasons, of the Fall Season. We are energetically connected to and directly affected by the rhythms of nature. You might have noticed its strong influence in my writing. We are a part of nature and ebb and flow with it.
Fall is the Season for Letting Go… The leaves turn color and prepare to let go, fruits are harvested. The weather is chillier. The land is left fallow. As nature turns inwards, so do we turn inside and inwards… We also let go, restock, and prepare for the new growth…
Earlier in the Season I’ve encouraged you to keep your routines simple and streamline your operations, that was in preparation for further embracing all the Season has to offer. Now we take this a step further. Now is the time to let go of anything that doesn’t work for you, is in the way or blocking your path.
Now is the time to set the intention to let go of anything that doesn’t serve you, known and unknown… Now is the time to let go of unwanted energy and to develop one that is desired… Now is the time to let go of any space and time suckers in preparation for new growth, new possibilities. This allows Life’s balance between growth and rest, expansion and conservation.
This allows space for us to notice the beauty and bounty of the season. This allows us to embody a gratefulness practice and the joys of the Thanksgiving Season. As we continue on our Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP) this ties in with Aspect2, of experiencing meaningful and joyous holidays as we remain productive… So, let’s go with the Season’s Letting Go…
Create space for a loving heart, for compassion, for gratefulness, for appreciation, for seeing the abundance, the blessings, and the miracles all around us…
Create space for new possibilities, for new growth, for newness that make your heart, your Soul sing. Let go.
Connect with the space, with the stillness this engenders. Connect with your Self. Listen…
How are you inspired to celebrate Thanksgiving, to give Thanks, to show your Love and Appreciation? Let that guide your Holiday and enrich your upcoming days…
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Letting Go!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Invite your partner to do Aspect2 of the Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP).
Identify, create, a time of quiet and privacy where you can relax, and explore and play with this one.
Have an open and free discussion, share your internal world, about things you’d like to Let Go. Create a no-judgement zone before you start: Promise not to interrupt, judge, analyze, compare, give advice or any such. You are each to share from a vulnerable place and listen to the other with an open mind and loving heart.
When you are done, say an intention of Letting Go of these things, and let them go…
Appreciate and acknowledge each other’s courage for being vulnerable and taking this step.
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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And, how are You doing? What theme do you have currently going on? What new approach, system, structure, plan, routine, and such have you implemented for a smoother Autumn? Do you recognize any old patterns rearing their ugly head yet? What can you do differently to nip them in the bud this season? Do you have a fun theme in the mix? Mine is Socializing!
All my commitments, involvements, and projects have a Social gathering aspect attached to them right now. Ha! So fun!
It’s interesting how we might not realize how many “networks” we actually belong to. Unless we are purposefully trying to engage with a lot of people to build a business or sell Girl Scout cookies, we don’t necessarily pay attention to this. Now a days we pay a lot more attention to how many Friends we have on Facebook, Connections on LinkedIn, or Followers on Instagram.
We are a lot more focused on our Social Media audience, not even our other online communities. I guarantee you belong to at least 10 (on- and off-line), go ahead count them. The point of this is that there is so much fun and opportunities to be had when we fully engage in our world… We don’t have to reinvent the wheel, we just have to show up…
The deal is that we might get mired down with negativity in our life to the point that we don’t know how to appropriately engage in our world and actually enjoy it…
We might hold resentments, compete with ourselves and/or others, do comparisons, make judgements, strive for perfection, self-neglect and even abuse, have unreasonable expectations, be demanding and critical, be controlling, have ineffective boundaries, entertain drama, you get my drift… All these serve to sabotage our awesome life.
All these block our Light. They don’t allow us to leverage our Resources… They hold us back from our full potential. They conspire to create a mediocre and unfulfilled life at the end of the day. And we have a ton of these littering our mind every moment! We are feeding a toxic environment between our ears, that color the whole of our existence…
This negativity informs our mindset, influences our feeling state, generates our biochemistry, impacts all our organs and physiology, and that’s before we even speak with anyone or take any action…
This negativity influences all our choices, our decisions, our interactions, our behavior; our approach to everything. It is a lens we unknowingly put on that we don’t know to take off… We might have hints that we have it on, like: not feeling emotionally well, actually getting sick, being chronically ill, things not going well in certain areas of our life, having issues with people, not making progress on projects, things breaking down all around us, and such…
If you notice this going on, it’s time to take stock of what is renting space in your head… And, it’s time to start doing some evicting!
It is absolutely rewarding to start catching the negativity and shifting it, to let go of it, to stop it in its track. Notice what brand of negativity you tend to carry around and address its source. Eradicate its roots to prevent it from coming back. We don’t want you working hard at this, be smart about it. Address it and move on to the fun in life!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Eradicating!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
List all the ways you recognize that you are negative, what negative thoughts you entertain, how you sell yourself short, how you might beat on yourself and others, and the like…
Choose a particular way you do negativity that takes a significant toll in your life to address first. Process for how this serves you…, and how it holds you back…
Then make any necessary changes to replace how it serves you… and any necessary changes to remove its trigger…, so it can no longer hold you back.
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
Woohoo, happy September! How are you doing? Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and frazzled with back2school and back2hectiness? Transitioning back into the hectic season is not easy sometimes. You might be experiencing vacation brain and are not ready to jump in.
You might be experiencing regret at not having had the summer you wanted and feeling like it went too fast. You might just be overwhelmed by the flipping of the switch and being back-on. And, add the pressures inherent to Q4 if this is on your radar. In any case, whether it’s these or other reasons that you are not feeling so hot, you are not alone.
I’ve already been providing suggestions on how to set up your Fall for success, and how to go into it with ease and grace. Here is a quick recap:
Have a last Fun Activity or Outing to say goodbye to Summer
Intentionally close the summer addressing summer locations, wardrobe, paraphernalia and such
Create a Fall routine that supports you, keep it simple and streamlined
Proactively select the habits that make up your routine to enrich your lifestyle and promote wellness
Review what you’ve committed yourself (and your family) to and reassess, take something out…
The idea is to minimize the hecticness, the overscheduling, the running and rushing around, the saturated bandwidth, and the like that create stress and breakdown in health, wellbeing and relationship(s) satisfaction. Which at the end of the day are what life is about. We tend to miss the boat on this!
Here are a few other suggestions that when implemented help create the ease, flow and joy we tend to undermine with the usual way we go about our life:
Have a Family Night (or Couple Night or Me Night depending on your current life stage)
Have two week-afternoons or -nights per week where there are no extra-curricular activities
Implement Reading and other types of Down Time
It does not make sense to have two sports activities back-to-back on the same day… Schedule differently or pick one!
Don’t double or triple book anything! Leave time for processing, regrouping, breathing, transitioning, and such…
Implement intentional transitions – from school/work to personal time, from day to night/sleep time, from weekdays to weekend, from weekend to weekdays
Create time for silence, to interact with others, to linger, to be bored…
Allow yourself and your family time to savor life…
When you start embracing this more minimalist kind of lifestyle, you actually get to Live your life more…
As you embrace minimizing the noise in your life, you’ll notice a significant improvement in your stress level, wellbeing and life and relationship(s) satisfaction… Your mood and health will be much better. Your efficiency and productivity will increase. Doing less is actually doing more!
But because we do have an overdoing-it ingrained approach, to embrace a more minimalist one is not so easy. Your train has already left the station and you are riding that ride… And, feeling the impact of it! So, as you try to slow down that train to get on a different track, you might need additional support to manage the damage already done.
To manage and address the negative feelings and state of being that might be kicking your butt. This translates into swapping Doing for Self-care… Add lots of self-care to your routine to help manage and reset your mood and feelings…
Here is a wonderful guided meditation, and energy clearing, to add to your repertoire for processing negative emotions… Nourishing activities like this one make all difference!
Focusing on feeling well, versus continuing to do more of the same and pushing through it, is the key to managing negative feelings. Removing noise and demands, nourishing your body and spirit, and Being in your life goes a long way in feeling well and living a life well lived.
Set yourself up for an amazing Fall. Remember, less is more. Take care of and be nice to yourself, and your loved ones!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Well-Feeling!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Take a close look at your current daily routine and lifestyle.
Lovingly, gently and intentionally revise it to support you and your loved ones better.
Streamline, simplify, systematize, delegate, and outsource.
Focus on keeping large chunks of time for just Being and enjoying… Safeguard these times as if your life depends on them. Because it does!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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