Identify your values for more harmony and joy


Often times we say we want to do such and such, make this change, implement a new habit or routine, yet we don’t follow through or stick with it. This is because we are grabbing ideas out of thin air as they sound cool or as a result of a frustration.

The impulsive nature of this approach almost guarantees we won’t stick with the idea. Regardless of how ingenious and awesome it is. To make changes and create what we want, we have to be driven by our Values.

Usually we are not aware of our true values and what is really important to us. We go about our life by default, putting things in it by chance, haphazardly, and on whims. What happens is that we end up filling up our days with things that are not that important, that create noise, that don’t move the needle and that at the end of the day are actually detrimental to creating our Best Life.

We end up with jammed packed calendars and agendas of things and commitments that don’t give us much satisfaction, reward or make an actual difference in our lives. We end up squandering our time, energy, bandwidth and sometimes even financial resources. We run ourselves ragged and don’t make a dent in creating what we desire, if we even own what we desire… 

The key to creating what we desire, living our Best Life, having our Best Human Experience, has to do with owning our What, what we desire, and owning our Why. Our Why influences our Values and our values drive our desires, our dreams, and our goals. But when we are operating blind, we set up our world by default creating a big gap between our current experience and our dreams. We don’t focus on the right things!

When we operate blind and unaware of our Why and Values, everything gets skewed. Our focus, how we operate, our dreams and our goals are off. How are we to create our Best Life and have our Best Human Experience, if we are totally going about life the wrong way?

If we are chasing the wrong dreams and setting up the wrong goals, and that is if we even do that and don’t live completely by default… How are we to set up our days to really support us if we are sleep-living, not awakened…?

Identifying our Values is extremely important as they serve as a filter in our life helping us stay focused on what is truly important to us and operating in Alignment. Life is then more peaceful, joyous and abundant… This is why I’m very intentional at operating from my Values, personally and professionally. Here are mine:

Connection, Development, Diligence, Integrity, Excellence

All the things that are important to me and the way I operate are captured with these 5 Core Values… In a nutshell:

  1. Connection to higher power, self, family and other loved ones, community and the world at large.
  2. Personal, professional and business development and growth.
  3. Fully accountable, proactive, dependable, intentional and responsible to others.
  4. Honorable, truthful, trustworthy, loyal, fair, and transparent.
  5. Highest level of wellness, performance, efficiency, aesthetics, value provision, and Service.

These help me make decisions in all areas of my life including things like relating, commitments, activities, projects, etc. Values are not mutually exclusive, static or live in a vacuum. I like to look at these as enhancing each, so I experience mine as Leveraged Values™

Now, is your turn, identify your own 5 Core Values!

Hey, we are “cooking on gas” now (love that phrase!).

Once you have identified your Core Values, review your life from this lens. How does it measure up? What is out of whack? How are you operating out of Alignment? This creates significant dissonance for us that can lead to Mental Health issues along with a very dissatisfying life if not addressed…

So, let’s get you more Aligned… Now is the time to design the life you want flowing from your Why and your Values… These should inform everything you allow to take up space and time in your life…

I love to teach Life Design through creating our daily routine to fully honor and support us. For what is life but an accumulation of days… Our job is to live intentionally and make each day amazing!

To create our Best Life and our Best Human Experience, it’s incredibly important to Connect to our Why and identify our Core Values letting them guide how we live…

ASSIGNMENT: Use the right fuel to better drive your life!

  • Have your Why handy
  • Identify your 5 Core Values
  • Review your life for any dissonance and misalignment, and make a list of everything that is out-of-whack
  • Pick the one thing that is the most out-of-whack and address it immediately

Playing with this concept is so enlightening, liberating and empowering. Living an Aligned life is key to creating Life-Work Integration, and living our Best Life and Best Human Experience…

Happy Aligning!


PS – Related Posts:
Why you need purpose in your life
Thrive with purpose
Let your values rule your life
Dare to dream…
Strategy to change course
Change starts with you…
The Key is You 2.0


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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of MetroRelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.

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