Woohoo! We made it through the Love Launch™ countdown. We are at #1, the weekend before Valentine’s Day. If you are just now tuning in, visit the past three articles on stepping up on your relationship nurturing with a Love Launch™.
AND, have you checked out the VDay Challenge™ in my social media (see bottom of this email for links)? Both of these were created to assist you nurture your relationship with ease and targeted interacting for maximum desired outcomes! Check them out and enjoy!!
The Love Launch™ is great for adding more fun, romance, connection, intimacy and flow into your relationship regardless of its status. But, there is a little spin to this in today’s Love Launch™. I’m sure you’ve come across the concept that you can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself. That of putting on the air mask on yourself first before helping others. That of if you are not replenished you have nothing to give. And such.
The message here is that if we are not connected to our Self, how are we to connect with our loved one(s)? For connection with another happens with our Self… Our sense of Self and ability to connect reside in the right side of the brain…
When we are in doing mode and primarily operating from our left brain, we miss the boat… Not only do we lose touch with our Self, but we are unable to be compassionate, nurturing, loving, and to feel the other. We are unable to connect with others…
This is part of what creates isolation, loneliness, depression, anxiety, disconnect and general dissatisfaction… So. Our job is to Connect with our Self FIRST! Which brings us to our last Love Launch™ in the series.
Want to have a more loving relationship? Want to attract the love of your life? Love your Self first. Connect with your Self first…
Love Launch™
During the 4 Weekends leading to Valentine’s Day (or another occasion, or just because!), you are to make a real concerted investment at nurturing your relationship. Do it with gusto and to please your partner. Put on the “dating lens” – remember you’d do anything for your partner then…? Go all out to make an impression. And, YOU enjoy the process as you go…
COUNTDOWN – Weekend #1
1 – Early in the weekend create undisturbed time for yourself. Use this time to nurture, pamper, and love your Self. Get yourself real quiet, and connect with the core inside of you. Connect with your Core, Inner, Higher Self… Feel You inside of you… Savor this communion. Bask in the radiance of You. Enjoy the integration… Feel your body tingle with Aliveness and Alignment…
2 – From this Leveraged state, think about your partner (if single, about your desired partner). Think of everything that is awesome about them. Everything you love. Everything you enjoy. Everything you appreciate. Everything about them that touches your heart. Everything they do that touches your heart.
How they have made you feel secure at different times. How they have made you feel loved at different times. How they have made you feel special at different times. How they have appreciated who you are at different times. Focus on when these things happened (if single-or struggling…, as if they did happen)…
Feel the associated good feelings that come with this reminisce/visioning. Really feel the feelings. This strengthens (creates) the bond, and sets up a rich platform for creating your desired interactions, more and more…
3 – Once you are feeling amazing, reach out to your partner (if single, tailor this to your situation) to inspire them into bringing their best, Higher Self to interact with You.
Pending on how you reach out, will influence if they show up with defenses or authenticity… Take a moment first, to complete this exercise: Create a list of amazing relating qualities to can use to interact with your partner. I started it for you below. Then reach out embodying and enlisting the qualities.
Stay in your state for as long as you can and operating from the list you created. When the juice starts running low, rejoice yourself… Keep it going… 😉
Connect with your Self, juice up. Stay Connected… Then reach out to connect with your Partner… This makes all the difference… Approach your Valentine’s Day plan/planning from this mindset. Enjoy!!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Loving!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Hey, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Make sure you plan something…
Acknowledge your love. Celebrate your partner (other). Create a moment to further Connect.
Enjoy!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Some people are still having the post holiday and winter blues and find this time of year challenging. When we have a personal challenge that affects everything in our life, including obviously our relationship with our partner. This Love Launch™ “mini program” is available to you through blog posts so you can nurture your relationship with ease. You don’t have to wrack your brain, here is very targeted interacting for maximum impact!
You might also want to visit our social media channels (see bottom of the page for links) as today we are starting a VDay Challenge™. So not only can you crush it with intentional power nurturing during your weekend with the Love Launch™ approach, but you can now also sprinkle your relationship with touching loving gestures everyday. Check them out!!
The Love Launch™ is a great for adding more fun, romance, connection, intimacy and flow into your relationship regardless of its status. Take what resonates for you, and fits your situation, and show your partner love. Feel free to tweak and apply the processes as you like. The point is to do more loving than usual!
When we show up with our Loving Self, when we focus on touching our partner’s heart, when we give just to give, we create Joy, Happiness, Abundance, and more LOVE. When we operate from a Loving place, feel Loving, and focus on seeing the lovable side of our partner this is where magic happens… Too often I hear partners say things like: they are not there, their relationship is too far gone, they currently hate or dislike their partner, they are embarrassed, they don’t know what to do, and a whole bunch of other “reasons” why they can’t be loving…
Seriously? We get what we put in. We perpetuate, worsen, the status quo if WE don’t do something different, stretch, transcend, take the higher road, and such. If we wait for the other to “step it up” first, and we are both waiting for the other, we are going to be waiting a long time, or not make it… I share this sentiment frequently. We have to take charge of how we choose to show up, how we choose to invest, how we choose to Be. I promise that when we do this, the rest comes along for we become more lovable, we invite more love, we inspire more Love…
So what do you say, ready to Love Launch™?
Love Launch™
During the 4 Weekends leading to Valentine’s Day (or another occasion, or just because!), you are to make a real concerted investment at nurturing your relationship. Do it with gusto and to please your partner. Put on the “dating lens” – remember you’d do anything for your partner then…? Go all out to make an impression. And, you enjoy the process as you go…
COUNTDOWN – Weekend #2
Invite your partner to “couple time” (of a length of time you think you’ll need), at a mutually agreeable time, with no distractions, and light refreshment, to Mastermind your Successful Relationship Lifestyle™.
Start nice and easy. You can add more aspects, details and richness as you get traction with some basics first. Here are areas to explore, flesh out, plan and integrate into your routine. Select two (2) to get started, and keep playing with this until you have the flow that makes your heart sing:
– Morning routine and rituals
– Staying connected throughout the day
– Evening routine and rituals
– Bedtime routine and rituals
– Couple time
– Dating
– Sexy time
– Adventure and exploration
– Joint hobbies and projects
– Getting memberships to activities that inspire you
– Getting season tix to activities that give you joy
– Planning out your vacation time for the year
– Planning out your couple stacation time for the year
– Choosing individual growth areas and supporting each other with them (that help you break your impasses and change your stuck dynamic)
– Implement ways of staying current, getting on the same page, and to effortlessly collaborate
– More Advanced: Explore and design your Legacy…
Go for the ones that are easy to integrate and have good follow through, to effortlessly build good will and positive momentum. Keep this process short and sweet. Let it be a rewarding experience. Congratulate each other once you have a plan of action. Celebrate your commitment to excel at your relationship!
Stay tuned for next week’s issue on Weekend #1 of our Love Launch™! Valentine’s Day weekend…
Complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Masterminding!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Put yourself in a real good mood before you meet your partner for any relationship activity or interaction… Bring good vibes. Show-up with your Highest, most Loving, Self…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
Well? Did you give the Love Launch™ a try last weekend? How did it go? Remember, if you are struggling you are not alone… This is a real rough time of year… Please hang in there. Don’t make any rash decisions, and keep cultivating love in your relationship… What you sow will soon enough bloom…
And if you are not struggling, this Love Launch™ is just great for adding more fun, romance, connection, intimacy and flow into your relationship…
Either way, this is a golden opportunity to nurture your relationship!
Love Launch™
During the 4 Weekends leading to Valentine’s Day (or another occasion, or just because!), you are to make a real concerted investment at nurturing your relationship. Do it with gusto and to please your partner. Put on the “dating lens” – remember you’d do anything for your partner then…? Go all out to make an impression. And, you enjoy the process as you go…
COUNTDOWN – Weekend #3
Invite your partner to “couple time” (of give or take 60 minutes), at a mutually agreeable time, with no distractions, and light refreshment, to:
Reminisce about how you met or the early days
Share characteristics about your partner that you love
Share things you really enjoy your partner does
Share things you’ve enjoyed doing together over the course of your relationship
Share an untold fantasy
Share a desire
Share something new about yourself
Share a dream
Share your definition of romance
Share your ideal date
Create safety for openness and to allow closeness. Remember to listen to your partner’s side without judgment or criticism. Be open to receiving your partner and getting a glimpse of their inner world. It is a privilege to be let it. Treat it as such…
Don’t take it personally, be offended or get upset if you have different ideas on the above. Most likely you will, so be prepared for that.
This exercise is to build acceptance, knowing and cohesiveness. This is an opportunity to respect the differences, enjoy the similarities and build a bridge between your worlds. Welcome the adventure of playing in two worlds!
Stay tuned for next week’s issue on Weekend #2 of our Love Launch™!
Complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Happy Talking!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Add a little kick to this weekend’s Love Launch™ by having props to go with your talk!
Photos from around the time you met or your wedding day
A poem about things your love about your partner
A poem or love letter about when your partner makes you feel awesome
A book to start a Couple Appreciation Diary™ to share things you each enjoyed or appreciated that day (with your first entry!)
A collage of pictures and mementos of fun times in your relationship
An outfit, costume, or toy to represent your fantasy
Anything that speaks to your desires, dreams, preferences and such
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship:tm: philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple :tm: content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected:tm: with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
I’ve been told that I’m a hopeless romantic and that my steadfast positive outlook could be nauseating. LOL Yes, I believe people can change for the better. Yes, I believe relationships can change for the better. When people waiver, they can find this annoying or experience it as a pillar of strength… What team are you on?
Believe me, sometimes it is better to call it quits. But I find that some don’t put in enough well concerted nurturing to create a change in their relationship before they give up. They rather feel tortured, or give up, than do something different themselves… We only have control over what we contribute…
This time of year is really challenging for couples. “Blue Season” is harsh on relationships. Your struggle might feel more daunting than usual. It might feel like it is time to call it quits. How do we know when it’s time to call it quits?
Well, I teach our couples not to make a decision when not feeling well, when in transition, during a rough patch, when intoxicated, during a fight and such. When people chill out and the storm has passed, they usually regret their decision. This is why you see couples that break-up, make-up, break-up, make-up, and so on. When partners tell me they broke-up, I take that as a grain of salt.
The key is not to stay together for the sake of staying together. What’s the point in that? I’m talking about staying together and creating an amazing relationship. This takes focus, intention, nurturing, kindness, mercy, appreciation, gratitude, and personal accountability. It doesn’t work when you complain about the other not having personal accountability…
When we focus on what the other is doing or not doing, we miss the boat. Then we wonder how come we can’t get traction… If you are complaining about your partner even if only to yourself in your head, STOP. You are just torturing yourself and won’t be creating an amazing relationship any time soon…
SO, around now I like to combat the Blues and relationship woes with a Love Launch™, in the name of what I usually call the Valentine’s Day Season. J This Love Launch is about stepping it up in showing love, starting today!
Love Launch™
During the 4 Weekends leading to Valentine’s Day (or another occasion, or just because!), you are to make a real concerted investment at nurturing your relationship.
COUNTDOWN – Weekend #4
This weekend you are to do at least three (3) of the following:
Select a chunk of time to Gift to your partner for their personal use – you take care of all the responsibilities that go along with the selected time (give a chunk that your partner would appreciate not that is convenient for you – make it count!)
Give a chunk of time with your undivided attention to your partner to do something they want
Do a chore or take care of a responsibility you normally wouldn’t do
Cook, order, set up, make reservations, whatever for all of your partner’s favorite foods
Do a pampering gesture that you know your partner enjoys
Give extra affection the way your partner likes it
Be generous with appreciations, acknowledgements, compliments, and praise
Tell your partner a bunch of things you love about them
Pick up a little treasure gift that will touch your partner’s heart
Pick up a practical, luxurious, fun, sexy, or what makes the most sense right now gift or your partner
You can:
Ask your partner which three (3) they want if they are all the same to you, or if you are OK being stretched
Choose the three (3) you want to do and give your partner the heads up
Choose and do your three (3) without telling your partner what’s up (see what happens…)
In any case, the investment is Fun. Do it with gusto and to please your partner. Put on the “dating lens” – remember you’d do anything for your partner then…? Go all out to make an impression. And, you enjoy the process as you go…
Let’s keep rocking more Love not only to combat the blues but also obviously to create our successful relationship!
Stay tuned for next week’s post on Weekend #3 of our Love Launch!
Complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Happy Loving!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Plan out how to carry out your Love Launch™ nurturing behaviors to build anticipation, for follow thru, for a richer experience so you both get tons from the investment!
For example:
Make a list of things to share if you are doing the Words of Affirmation type of nurturing
Plan out meals ahead of time – don’t leave it as a spur of the moment choice or decision…
Get on the same page early about chores, childcare, and such
Go shopping early – don’t leave it for Sunday night…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication?
Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
The Holidays do all kinds of things to people. They provide a year-in-review, showcase our progress and success, spotlight our communion and belongingness, highlight our relationship dynamics, and nudge our very Soul for wakefulness. Add to this all the demands, expectations and hassle and bustle, and it is no wonder that the Holidays are rough for some.
The Holidays create stress, anxiety, depression, paralysis, withdrawal, mania, shame, overindulgence, overwhelm, crashing, loneliness, and other goodies. How do the Holidays affect you? If you generally fair well, still take note however minor the impact.
The Holidays can be treated as an opportunity for growth and healing… This is definitely fertile ground to work with! Why not take advantage of the opportunity available for the taking? When anything is framed as opportunity, its energy, meaning, impact and potential change. Now the situation is a gift and not a nuisance.
There is positivity built-in the reframe bearing optimism, strength, courage, hope, compassion, love, understanding, ownership, authenticity and awesomeness… Let’s shoot for getting more than just presents this Holiday Season!
Let’s go back to how the Holidays highlight our relationship dynamics. Whatever our dynamics they get amplified during this time. It’s as if our dynamics are on steroids. What you see, witness, experience is your usual dynamics to a heightened level.
This gives you an opportunity to better understand what usually bothers you and what doesn’t work that might have been difficult to pinpoint before. Before we knew interactions annoyed or hurt us. We knew are needs were not met. We complained, fought or sucked it up in hopelessness.
But now we have the chance at a magnified experience where we can see the crack. We have the chance to look at the crack up close and personal, and study it. We get the chance to see how it needs mending. The trick is to know what to look for: The theme, the broken record, and your script. What keeps replaying?
What is the lesson you are to learn? What is the code you need to crack? How are you to stretch to grow and heal, to break the impasse? This is the driver behind the dissatisfaction. Your call to action is to do something different for that in and of itself is Change…
It’s time to shake things up. It’s time to take a risk.It’s time to have better expectations. It’s time to raise the bar. It’s time to honor your Self, to Be your Authentic Self, and to bring it to your interactions. It’s time to be courageous and not be afraid of what could be. It’s time to go for it. It’s time for the next book in the series.
What does this look like? How do you go about it? It’s actually quite marvelous and simple. All you have to do is have a different response than your usual in your interaction. And, to do this for your Self without any outcome, expectation or intention of changing your partner in mind… So if you usually complain, call things out, whine or other some such in your interactions, your different response could be not say anything or to focus on the positive.
If your usual way is to suck it up, keep the peace, avoid conflict, and cave in, then your difference response could be standing up for your Self, speaking up, sharing what you are experiencing, or setting a limit or consequence.
The point here is not to go about changing your whole relationship, getting better results, inviting your partner to respond differently, and the rest of our usual intentions. This one is the mother load. This one goes for the jugular. This approach is for Us. Can you imagine? For Us… It is to build the muscle that has been dormant and which upon awakening saves the day…
Give it a try. Be gentle. Be courageous. Bring out the part of your Self that has been screaming to come out. Make space for it. Create safety for it. Nurture it. And take a leap of Faith, use it in your interactions. Go for it. Give it a try. The pay off is unimaginable…
Complete the MetroRelationship™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start experiencing your awesome relationship, and Authentic Life…
Happy Awakening!
~ Your MetroRelationship™Assignment
Take a look at the weeks ahead. What significant events or plans are coming up? How will you be celebrating? What traditions will you follow? What rituals will you enjoy? Sit with the plans and the answers above… Hold them in your heart. Suspend judgment.
Are your plans in alignment with your core beliefs? Does your celebrating honor your Authentic Self? Do your traditions transmit your values? Do your rituals strengthen your identity, sense of Self, connections and bonds. Do they impart love, acceptance and adoration? Do they embrace our Human Experience…?
Connect with what comes up for you as you explore this. Where do you need to show up differently? What concrete change will you make for your next event or plans? Put it in action now… Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2016 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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