Continuing with our Freedom theme, picking-up where we left off with reparenting around Fathering/Discipline (to reprogram ourselves), and combining it with more Summer goodness. Why not?
Re-Fathering has to do with personal discipline and how we set ourselves up to succeed in life and in relationships. It has to do with personal power, with boundaries, with ownership, with accountability. It has to do with how we do our life day-in and day-out. It has to do with our structure (e.i., TimeMap), routines, habits, and systems. It has to do with leveraging our support and resources. It has to do with managing our life…
This doesn’t mean rigidity. It means creating a Flow that carries you, so you don’t have to keep reinventing the wheel, putting out fires and spinning. It means you start doing things automatically, so your energy is used for more rewarding endeavors. Ah…
This means not having to white-knuckle your life and pull will-power from somewhere… How you set things up makes life easier. You don’t have to wrestle with it every day… Life is here for you, not against you…
When you start putting these things in place, you don’t have to muster self-discipline… This act in and of itself is self-discipline and helps you be self-disciplined! Eh?
And, when you do this, you create security, safety and stability (Fathering). This experience additionally promotes your internal “rewiring”/reprogramming…
And furthermore, when you automatically run your life well and can re-channel your focus and energy toward more pleasurable, productive and impactful pursuits you are Free to live a life well lived… Voila!
So, how do you manage your life even better? Key personal characteristics involved here are fully owning yourself and being fully accountable… This means keeping your word no matter what, including meeting deadlines and due dates. This means timely following through, following-up and checking-in.
This means acknowledging, apologizing and repairing mistakes. This means showing-up and being fully present. This means being truly transparent and authentic. This means putting in place whatever is necessary to help you manage your life better…
Assignment: What area of your life needs more Discipline (structure, routines, habits, systems)? You can tackle it with gusto now, or you can start practicing strengthening the discipline muscle by applying Self-Discipline to your Summer Theme, Summer Bucket List, or Summer Personal Projects™.
Let this Summer inspire more Self-Discipline in all you do… And, you’ll have your best Summer yet!!
Complete the Assignment, and share your takeaway, insights, and results with a note in the Comments box at the end! I’d love to hear how you are using this content.
Happy Self-Disciplining!
~ Some Related Issues
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How your feelings give you Freedom…
How to manage negative feelings
Use your feelings to your advantage
How you perpetuate your stuckness
New habits, routines and motivation
The power of having Intentional Habits™
Are you ready for your Frisky-Friday™?
Making time for fun and to recharge
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