Giving in whatever manner tickles our heart is a significant path to feeling happiness. Our Giving doesn’t just touch others’ hearts and maybe even meet their needs with our gestures. Our Giving is also good for us. The act of giving and being generous stimulates the same neural network that light up when we feel physical pleasure… This week gives us a great opportunity to Give in additional ways.
#GivingTuesday has become a significant part of the holiday experience. Did you participate yet? What causes are dear to your heart? Do you have certain organizations you sponsor, or show extra support or generosity during the holidays?
As you might already know, mine have to do with orphan, or vulnerable, children. I like to make it a point to bring this up around this time of year as November is Adoption Month. If you are inclined to extend the concept of #GivingTuesday to also support this organizations that would be just super!
As we are making our way through my Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP) this also ties in with Aspect2, of experiencing meaningful and joyous holidays as we remain productive. It doesn’t take much to add meaning to our life… Having a generous heart is a must in my book!
Now without further ado, let’s tackle Aspect3 of our HYP. This Aspect has to do with unapologetically implementing any last task or project for the year that would put this year over the finish line. This does not mean you try to implement or achieve everything you haven’t for the year! And, this time of year doesn’t mean you can now slack off as if the year is over. There is still a month left where you can put icing on your cake.
Go back to the list you created in Aspect1, where you identified things you didn’t get to yet this year. Now, be brutally selective in picking an experience or project you still want to fit in. There are four weeks left to the end of the year and there is a lot of holiday merriment going on. So, be realistic in what you can tackle. There is no need to make yourself nuts. This is to add to your experience not to ruin it!
Create a plan to simply and elegantly implement your project or have your experience. This can be as simple as embracing a daily generous and present attitude in life… How would it make you feel to have fit this in? The goal is to feel accomplished, successful and proud. Shoot for this and your year will have been a smashing success!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Giving!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Invite your partner to do Aspect3 of the Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP).
Here you get to be vulnerable about where you are for the year personally and request support in fitting in a last project or experience to put this year over the finish line.
The project or experience can be relationship or family related as well. The key is to discuss the desire from an open and compassionate place to be able to agree to move forward with the choice and to support each other through it.
Choose what it will be, map it out, and identify a celebratory ritual at its completion, or at the end of the year whichever comes first.
Go at it, support each other, and have fun!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Hope this issue finds you feeling amazing! I’m having an overwhelming feeling of gratitude toward our clients and how our relationship enriches my own Life. If you work with us, know that I truly appreciate you, your uniqueness and loveliness. This Season helps us Focus on what we are grateful for and appreciate.
As I’ve been walking my walk and enhancing my Gratefulness Practice this month, my heart is overflowing with appreciation for everything and everyone…I’ve been finding more acceptance, forgiveness and appreciation even for those people that can sometimes be annoying to me. LOL It’s actually pretty cool! This is a State we can all stand to embrace more of the time!
What has your current attention? Is this in Alignment with your Personal Prime Directive™ (PPD)? It is of at most importance to know what makes you tick, what you value, what drives you, and the like. When you have this handy and weave it into the fabric of your Life, Gosh, what a life you’d create.
For you’d be supporting, honoring and leveraging yourself… I find that typically most people don’t operate at their highest potential nor ever achieve peak performance and related levels of success.
This is because they are banging around through life, not fully owning themselves nor capitalizing on their gifts. They squander their energy, don’t stay focused and don’t optimally utilize themselves. I implore you to identify your PPD so you are truly personally informed as you plan your Holiday Season, start wrapping up the year, and get ready for the New Year.
Any Holiday bumps can be minimized this way, you can really milk and get super results with the time left in the year, and you can strategically set yourself up for an amazingly successful upcoming year. I shared my Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP) in the last issue and assigned it to you for H.W. for the next two months…
As you play with your HYP, you’ll notice that you might automatically do some of this already and you might have already made a dent in it. If that’s the case, kudos! Now review the Aspects below for anything remaining in each that you still would like to tackle…
Assessing how the year fared and what else is to be experienced to deem it a successful year
Designing meaningful and joyous holidays while remaining sanely productive
Implementing anything still desired be accomplished for the year
Strategizing and planning for the upcoming year
Did you do Aspect1 yet? This is where you get to reminisce over the past year. Thoroughly assess how you did. List all the:
challenges you faced and what you learned
changes you’ve made and ways you’ve grown
items and projects you completed
accomplishments that make you proud
great experiences you had
lovely memories you created
contributions and ways in which you made a difference
special things you did to brighten others’ lives
items, projects, experiences still on your list for the year (don’t worry about this, we’ll come back to it in Aspect3!)
Wow, aren’t you amazing!? I bet you didn’t realize how much awesomeness you’ve been spreading around. We usually tend to focus on the things we didn’t do well, didn’t get to or didn’t enjoy. This exercise balances out that proclivity for a more authentic, positive and richer view of this timeframe.
Look at your list, find the beauty, shift and progress. How do the items make you feel? Feel the pride, excitement, joy, love, gratefulness. Relish your awesomeness.
Now, think about a way to celebrate your Accomplishment. Acknowledge the good, celebrate the good, rejoice in the good. All is Good. Enjoy!!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Reminiscing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Invite your partner to do Aspect1 of the Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP).
Complete your individual lists by adding at the bottom 3 ways in which you’d like your partner to celebrate or acknowledge you.
Share your lists with each other. Discuss items from your partner’s list that:
– surprised you
– made you especially proud for your partner
– touched your heart
– you personally appreciated or enjoyed
– you want to enjoy again
Select 1 of the ways your partner noted they’d like to be celebrated or acknowledged and Gift that to them within the next two weeks.
Celebrate!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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With two months left to the year and the impending holidays, now is the time to focus our attention on our Life Designing before things get super hectic and festive using the Holiday & Year-End Process™ (HYP):
Assessing how the year has fared, what’s left to tackle and experience to feel the year was a success
Designing meaningful and joyous holidays for maximum merriment while remaining sanely productive
Implementing anything you still desire to accomplish for the year
Strategizing and planning for the upcoming year
This might feel like a lot, but it doesn’t have to be. Investing some intentionality and foresight into these pays huge dividends later. I see a tremendous difference in our clients who address this early vs those who don’t. They have a very different holiday and new year experience…
We left off in the last issue with living your life by your Personal Prime Directive™ (PPD):
It’s essential that you are Intentional about weaving your PPD through your holiday and end-of-year planning! You don’t have to have a formal PPD to bring Intentionality to your process. The main concept is to own and honor yourself, in all you do.
Look at the PPD components above and see if any of them call out to you for further development. Honor this inclination, listen to your gut, for if something in you says, “ooh, that’s interesting”, that means you can greatly benefit from exploring it…
Then look at the 4 Aspects of the Process outlined above and start tackling them in the order that makes sense for your Life. Use the PPD lens, owning and honoring yourself, as you do this… I recommend that you do Aspects 1 and 2 first as these will influence the other two… This is your H.W. for the next two months. Embrace this process, it’s well worth the investment!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Planning!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Take a look at how you usually go about planning and celebrating Thanksgiving. Make note of what you want to do differently this year that would make this Thanksgiving Celebration more meaningful for you.
Whatever you came up with, think of a simple way of achieving that.
Integrate that into your planning now so you don’t just think about it but actually carry it out…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
Don’t you just love it when things fall into place, when things work out smoothly, when things are wonderfully addressed before they are minded, when things are on the right track and moving right along? I’m having one of those weeks. Yay! And, wish you the same 10-fold!
As you might already know, I’m great at setting up structure, organization and systems. This is my logic brain. As you might also know, I’m also very creative, passionate and intuitive. This is my other brain. They are both highly developed and together make a wonderful asset in my life. This helps me capitalize on what is important to me and operate better from my Values, personally and professionally:
All the things that are important to me and the way I operate are captured with these 5 Core Values… In a nutshell:
Connection to higher power, self, family and other loved ones, community and the world at large.
Personal, professional and business development and growth.
Fully accountable, proactive, dependable, intentional and responsible to others.
Honorable, truthful, trustworthy, loyal, fair, and transparent.
Highest level of wellness, performance, efficiency, aesthetics, value provision, and Service.
These help me make decisions in all areas of my life including things like relating, commitments, activities, projects, etc. Values are not mutually exclusive, static or live in a vacuum. I like to look at these as building on each other and enhancing each other as well. I experience mine as Leveraged Values™. The cocktail they represent for me is extremely empowering. I find that when I fully honor my Values, is when things work out the best…
Here you can identify and capture your own Values by completing this simple exercise I found for this purpose: Values Exercise.
This is just another way to know ourselves better and to utilize ourselves to our fullest potential. Our Values integrated with our other qualities, strengths and assets make us unique and uniquely qualified to create and live our own amazing life… Don’t give your power away or live your life by default!
Once you have these handy, you can be intentional about everything. You won’t get caught over committed to things you don’t enjoy, or don’t make sense for the overall design of your life. This helps you find balance, harmony, joy, peace, meaning, happiness. This helps you have a fulfilling and rewarding life.
Take some time for yourself this weekend and play with these concepts. Identify what makes you unique and special, grab your Purpose, Values, Virtues, and Unique Brilliance. Let these guide your every move going forward. Let this be your Guiding Principle, your prime directive… Let the real you rule always!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Ruling!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Put all your extra-curricular activities through the Leverage ValuesTest™. Each activity needs to meet a few of your Values and not impinge on another. If doing one thing hurts something else, then that activity is not actually flowing from your Values…
Disengage yourself from that activity, commitment, etc. ASAP… You’ll experience immediate relief, flow of energy, more joy, and the like. You’ll be surprised how much of a negative impact that was having under the guise of being something valuable…
Keep doing this till you are living your most authentic life… Enjoy!!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
Hope you are having an amazing week and are enjoying this summer-like weather! I’m ready for my mums, pumpkins and fall wardrove, but I’m still ok with the sun and warm weather… It’s been hectic around here with new Autumn projects both personally and professionally. But, not losing sight of flowing from values, staying focused, keeping things simple, leaving room for breathing, and the like. How are you doing with this (the Essentialism) concept?
Sometimes it’s challenging to narrow down our focus, choose our commitments, systematize our operations, protect against distractions, and capitalize on our strengths… We want to please. We want to impress. We want to be a part of it all. We find everything interesting or fun. We like to juggle and change things up. We wing it…
This is a sure way to burn oneself out, live with a lot of stress, have things fall through the cracks, not excel at what we do, not be as productive as we can be, not make an impact or get a lot of satisfaction at the end of the day. This is just a lot of busy.
We create a more meaningful and rewarding journey, and life when we:
These lenses help make the right choices for us… They invite us to operate from our Passion and from our Strengths… Our Virtues are our Character Strengths. As a parent of a teenager, and just because, I like to play with developing/identifying and honoring our character strengths, living by our Virtues… But sometimes knowing these is even challenging!
I love that we can actually measure our Character Strengths. Woohoo! So glad I found this resource. Our Character Strengths can be classified into these categories:
Wisdom
Courage
Humanity
Justice
Temperance
Transcendence
Once we know what our Virtues/Character Strengths are, we can capitalize on these as opposed to trying to be somebody we are not… We can use these to implement our Essentialism philosophy, to relate to others, to parent, to build our teams, and so on. Knowing and utilizing ourselves well makes a huge difference in our productivity and satisfaction level across all areas of our life…
And of course, knowing how we operate best and what are our Practical Strengths is also essential… If our talents are wasted we are not doing anybody any good, specially ourselves! This goes hand-in-hand with the concept of Unique Brilliance, initially developed as Unique Ability by Dan Sullivan.
When we operate from our Unique Brilliance we leverage our talents and strengths. Operating from our Unique Brilliance means we only do things we are awesome at… The rest is a waste of our time!
Focusing on utilizing our Unique Brilliance allows us to let go of the rest, to reassign, delegate, outsource… You can identify your Unique Brilliance, using the: Unique Brilliance Quadrant, sorting all the tasks on your plate by your skill/strength level. Use this to choose what you say “yes” to and what you allow on your plate, in all areas of your life… The goal is to eventually only have tasks at which you are Uniquely Brilliant!
When you start operating from this approach, you free up tons of time! You become more productive, enjoy what you do a lot more, you have more time and energy to spend with your loved ones and to pursue different kinds of fun, your everyday life becomes seamless and your life journey more meaningful. You feel more competent, awesome, energized – simply Brilliant!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Shining!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Complete your Unique Brilliance Quadrant, tracking all the tasks currently on your plate by if you excel or don’t into the respective quadrants. You can do one for your personal life and one for your professional/entrepreneur life.
Note, all the tasks currently on your plate that fall into the two bottom quadrants… This is what is killing your energy, stressing you out, and taking the joy out of your everyday life… These tasks should not be on your plate!
Starting with the bottom right quadrant, start reassigning, delegating, or outsourcing those tasks… Keep going till this box is empty!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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