Often I hear that it feels like all the stars need to line up for partners to be able to get to a physically intimate moment… There are many factors that impact our libido, our desire, and our ability to have a passionate relationship with our partner. Most believe it is impossible to have an epic love affair with our partner.
They believe in mature love and settling down into comfortable love. This is one of the reasons partners cheat- they still seek that passion… And where are they supposed to get it if they don’t think they can get it with their partner? But they can, you see! The secret is in what to do in between sexy times…
Having passion in your relationship is not about having passionate sex with your partner once in a blue moon, if your love making even gets that hot.
Having passion in your relationship is about having an epic love affair with your partner that is more than sex… It’s about being enthralled by your partner, it’s about getting the butterflies in your belly when they are near or when you think about them, it’s about wanting to be near them and touch them, and about wanting to please them and take care of them (not in a caretaking, codependent way, mind you).
And yes, having passion in your relationship is about wanting to be with them, to join with them, to derive pleasure from them and through them, to transcend and become one…
If this feels like a pipe dream because of what you believe about relationships and because of the current state of your relationship, don’t fret- please know it is possible, initially you just have to go on faith…
So how do we go from struggle to epic love affair when it might feel like an impossible trek?
1 ~~ First off, it takes commitment to stick with it through thick and thin, assuming you are within the range of a workable relationship, which most are! This is not a popular concept nowadays when relationships are disposable.
There are some exceptions that are contraindicated for staying in the toxic context. And of course, it is always your prerogative to not want to continue in your relationship, but don’t blame it on it not being workable… It’s OK for the relationship to have run its course for you. We are all in a Journey, and that includes the relationships we play with…
2 ~~ Then, it takes theright kind of investment in your relationship where you stop blaming your partner for everything that’s wrong and making yourself a saint. You are not. You contribute to your dynamics and cocreate whatever nonsense you might have going on. Sorry, don’t shoot the messenger.
I have seen time and again that when partners fully embrace owning their side of it, not from a martyr position but truly owning their side, that they create marvelous relationships. I have seen as well when partners struggle with this how detrimental it is for the relationship.
Don’t wait for your partner to own themselves first, or to respond in kind… It doesn’t matter what your partner is doing (within reason of course!) to fully own and work your side. Stop trying to prove how they are not doing their own work. All this is just keeping you stuck. Focus on your side, full stop.
I’ll even take this a step further and let you in on a little secret. Even if your partner doesn’t do anything, your work in and of itself is powerful enough to shift and transform your relationship… Just saying…
3 ~~ And finally, once your relationship is on more solid footing and becoming a radiant and successful relationship, then you are ready to step it up a notch in creating a more passionate relationship.
This has to do with playing more specifically with the Desire side of the Love-Desire Spectrum™, without foregoing the Love side… And it has to do with embracing Alluring Habits™. Behaviors and activities in your relationship that are sexy, erotic, inviting, enticing, seductive…
When you focus on Desire, more desire is easier to come by and available for play…
A radiant, successful relationship and meaningful life, and epic love affair with our partner, doesn’t just happen! We have to want this and invest in creating it.
Watch the video for what to do in between sexy times… Enjoy!
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We are responsible for absolutely everything in our life… When people struggle, they are quick to find the reasons and explanations for why things are not going as they would like. They usually end up pointing the finger at some external factor for why things are as they are…
What if they were to look at their situation instead as a growth opportunity, as an indicator of needed change, as a place for course correction? We are responsible for all our outcomes and all our experiences, what we do with them and about them… This applies also to our libido, desire, sexuality, and sex life. Personal responsibility includes turning yourself on…
I hope you didn’t do a double take when you read that, but it’s ok if you did. This is such a foreign concept for most people as we are accustomed to looking to our partner, or another person, for satisfying our sexual needs and preferences.
Yes, I get that being sexually intimate requires another person. But the sexual activity that might come from engaging with another person is actually the last gear of the physical intimacy cycle… And, there is the whole thing that happens before the gears even get going…
See, partners usually treat physical intimacy as the act of being sexual with each other, which makes sense. But I’d like us to stretch way beyond this definition to generate passionate energy in our relationship that leads to physical intimacy…
Once partners become committed, their attention turns to focus on other activities, responsibilities and concerns in their relationship and their life that mute and subdue the sexual energy between the partners… These become the culprits to low intimacy and the low desire and lack of intimacy pandemic…
The key here is to make a commitment to creating an Epic Love Affair with our partner. Because then we keep the eye on the price… Becoming committed to each other is the beginning of the relationship. Dating partners look at it as the goal, moving on to other pursuits once the conquest is made.
When we commit to creating the Best Relationship in all its aspects, we can create a map for making it happen that can keep us focused on our desired outcome in our Journey.
Foreplay Before Foreplay™
I hear often enough that intimacy between partners might feel like a duty. It feels like something that needs to be done and so the partners make sure they hit some unspoken quota to keep this going.
Some couples’ quota is a lot more frequent than others, but for the most part when partners operate this way the quota is not that frequent… And when they get down to it, it might feel contrived, mechanical, and just something that needs to be done. Partners lost the drive, the magnetism, the passion…
Low desire and low intimacy do not have to be issues in your relationship as you can be preventative against them, but they can also be reversed if they have already manifested.
The word foreplay has gotten a bad rap as women in heterosexual relationships use it to tell their partner their approach is not acceptable. They request foreplay from their partner as a prerequisite to further intimate engagement. This puts the pressure on their partner to “turn on” and “get the woman ready” for the next phase of the physical intimacy. Why is this the guys’ responsibility?
Note, in other gendered couples the same dynamics might playout regardless of the partners’ gender, gender identity and sexual orientation. The focus here is not on the gender per se or on the physiology, but on everything else that comes along from being who they are and in the relationship they are in with each other.
Feeling our libido and desire happen before we even get to a physical intimate moment with our partner. Therefore, we have to get ready for foreplay!
Getting Ready for Foreplay
The foreplay before foreplay is how we choose to be, show up and do our life and ourselves… This is what creates energy, vitality, radiance and sparkle. This is what makes us attractive regardless of our outward beauty. This is where the chemistry between partners happens. This is what is alluring and inviting about us.
Most people are doing their lives through the grind. They are forever exhausted, run down or not feeling well, too preoccupied, and muted because all they do is the minutiae of life and put out fires. There is no vibrant energy or aliveness here. This is not attractive, inviting or seductive. If we are going through our lives with this blah energy, not for nothing this translates into blahness in the bedroom…
Our focus is then to:
Transcend the grind
Shift more from doing to being
Detach from the noise
Create more spaciousness
Pursue inspiring and engaging outlets
Embrace interests that integrate and expand the self (not the ego!)
Explore your likes and preferences
Seek different kinds of pleasure and joy
This way of doing our life ensures that we don’t squander our energy, mute ourselves, and atrophy our sexuality which would leave us wondering how come we have low libido, little desire and might feel unattractive or unattracted to our partner… When we are Alive these things don’t happen!
We get out of our relationship what we put into it…
It is our responsibility to create the relationship we desire. We have to address our side and work our side, we have to mind and cultivate our own energy. When we start generating new energy, magical things start to happen. When one part of the system changes, the whole system changes- when you change, others will change in response to you for you will be inviting different stuff from them…
The trick is to take full personal responsibility and not wait for the other to do something or change…
Playing full out in our life makes us feel alive, full of energy, sparkly and turned on… This is the foreplay before foreplay…
When we’ve had our own foreplay before we interact with our partner, now we are ready to fully be with our partner. The joint foreplay is to derive more pleasure and truly enjoy being with each other. It is not a necessity to get the gears moving… This different level of engagement makes for more passionate encounters and a more passionate relationship.
Our radiance and sparkle infuse the interactions with our partner seducing them into our Epic Love Affair…
Watch the video on Foreplay Before Foreplay™… Enjoy!
APPLICATION: Decide that you will embrace becoming more sparkly and alive, and that you will take full personal responsibility for turning yourself on… In your Journal:
~ Explore how you currently do these in your life- -Transcend the grind -Shift more from doing to being -Detach from the noise -Create more spaciousness -Pursue inspiring and engaging outlets -Embrace interests that integrate and expand the self (not the ego!) -Explore your likes and preferences -Seek different kinds of pleasure and joy
~ Select one of the above to target with more attention to help you shift your energy…
~ Identify three activities, habits, and/or tactics that you’ll implement around your selected item to start generating more radiance, energy and vibrancy… And, integrate them into your lifestyle- add to your routine and calendar.
Bring your new swag to your relationship! Enjoy!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
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~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life – Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat – Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
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If we know anything about relationships, we know that as time passes the passion in a relationship fizzles out, right? Wrong… This is such an erroneous belief. And experts reinforce it by talking about Mature Love- how we move from infatuation and being in love, to mature love with more sensible feelings…
What a load of you know what! When we are in a long-term relationship it doesn’t mean that our attraction and passion should dwindle over time… People are looking at this all wrong, when they should really be looking at this as love and desire are on opposite sides of the spectrum…
For you see, Love is about feeling security, having stability and safety, being known, valued, respected or protected, being a couple and having togetherness.
Whereas Desire is about feeling passion, having fascination and yearning, being wanted, taken, devoured or consumed, being an individual and having separateness.
When couples struggle in their relationship, it is first how they do Love that needs attention. The partners are not feeling secure, stable, safe, known, valued, respected, protected- strong as a couple. They feel so insecure that they power-struggle to be known and get their needs met… Their relationship is riddled with fighting, disagreement and/or disconnection.
When partners first meet, they have Desire as all the characteristics of desire are present. But as the relationship settles down and further levels of commitment come about, the same characteristics cause insecurities and triggers moving the couple from the infatuation stage of their relationship into the power struggle stage… This is when they join the ranks of the low desire and low intimacy epidemic…
This is why affairs with other people are hot, until those involved dump their partner and make the affair person their new partner and then that hotness goes out the window!
Couples can get stuck in the power-struggle for a lifetime or not make it as a couple unless they are proactive and intentional about getting through this stage. At this juncture the couple is trying to mitigate the triggers and feel Loved. In this quest, all the characteristics inherent in feeling Desire get lost… The couple moves from one side of the spectrum to the other…
Marriage counseling, couple therapy, and relationship coaching usually come in at this point. The couple is not getting along, their intimacy is in the toilet, and all their attempts at remedying this is making the situation worse… Once the couple addresses getting along and feeling loved they are content in their relationship, they feel happy and are satisfied.
The problem here is that once this is achieved, the partners feel good to go and stop exploring the possibilities and synergy inherent in their relationship… This is when the possibilities are endless… And, when continued attention on evolving the relationship helps the partners create their Epic Love Affair that not only is secure and meaningful, but also passionate…
When the getting along is achieved, the couple is ready to explore playing along the spectrum… Now they can bring back characteristicsthat create Desire without them being triggers in their relationship as security has been established, you see?
They can create and enjoy a passionate relationship, an epic love affair, by integrating tactics into their lifestyle and intimate repertoire that help them generate Desire at will…
Depending on where you are in your relationship, and if you are ready to generate more Desire, start by exploring this:
What do I do to become / be- healthy, fit, energetic, alive, attractive, fresh, inspiring, interesting, playful, frisky, alluring, enticing, inviting, risqué, welcoming, open, adventurous, receptive, receiving, giving, generous…
Get ready, get out of your head, play, let go…
Watch the video for how to play with the Love-Desire Spectrum… Enjoy!
APPLICATION: Decide that you’ll play at Love and Desire… That you’ll intentionally nurture your Spectrum to create your Epic Love Affair with your partner…
~ Discuss with your partner going on a Real Date- not just Date Night…
~ Do your personal work to be ready… Do all the pampering. Do all the letting go. Bring your best person with all the swag.
~ Play at going on a Real Date- plan an epic date, leave the roles at home, almost make believe you don’t know each other and start from scratch when the date starts…
~ Bring your A game to win your conquest… Do the mysterious, be risqué, bring a different side of you, play all out!
~ Make playing like this part of your lifestyle… Add this tactic to your repertoire…
What we focus on grows… Let’s focus on creating Desire and Passion…
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
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~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life – Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat – Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
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We are all super busy. We have hectic and full lives. As we very well know, it’s so easy to lose sight of our partner and for our relationship to be at the bottom of our priority list. This is a real sad situation as our partner is our Partner, our life partner- and, by definition, the most important person in our life.
Then why do we not treat them as such? Why do we struggle investing in our relationship? There is no need to rack our brain about it. Let me just show you the easiest way to invest in your relationship…
I developed the Relationship Verb List to help us along… The idea is to embrace Relationship Verbs, actions, that nourish and nurture our relationship. See, we might overcomplicate our “relationship work”, working on the relationship, and how to go about creating change in our relationship…
Hey, don’t get me wrong. There are a lot of factors that are at play in our relationship. And when we struggle, it is very easy to be at a loss for how to go about creating change. Sometimes we might even know but, yet we get stuck. There is a lot that can be done when a relationship is not working, and it doesn’t have to be complicated…
So today, I wanted to keep it simple and yet powerful. I wanted to offer you something fun and easy to implement and play with to seamlessly “work on your relationship” without feeling like you are working on your relationship. Cool? Cool.
Let’s keep it nice and light but impactful nonetheless- let’s do it.
Why Relationship Verbs
We know it’s too easy to deprioritize our relationship once we are committed. We let all the wooing, romancing, and impressing fall to the wayside.
Then it’s no wonder that connection and intimacy decline, that we might no longer be attracted to each other, or that it might feel like we fell out of love. All this can be prevented and even undone!
Relationship Verbs is a nice phrase for capturing the essence that our relationship requires us to be proactive about it. Our relationship needs tending for it to thrive- Love is a verb…
When we nourish and nurture our relationship, we make it resilient, stable, secure, strong, and durable at the minimum. When we tend our relationship and invest in it consistently, it Flourishes…
A relationship that flourishes has a very different flavor than a relationship that struggles… The partners focus on very different things…
In a relationship that struggles the partners are intent on proving their partner wrong, on making the case for how they’ve been wronged and on making their partner change…
In a relationship that flourishes the partners don’t focus on their partner’s imperfections, instead they focus on how they themselves can be the best partner they can be. They invest in tending the relationship and cherishing their partner…
The difference in focus makes all the difference… Partners have no control over who the other is and what they do… They do however have control over who they themselves are and what they do… This is empowering in that they can choose how much or how little they put in, and therefore what they get back…
These partners are proactive about being in a great relationship with their partner… They do Relationship Verbs, they consistently invest on the relationship and on nurturing their partner.
What are Relationship Verbs? Relationship Verbs are actions in the context of our relationship that serve to build, strengthen, and bedazzle our relationship. They foster the good stuff in the relationship…
Relationship Verbs range in focus from collaborating and creating a strong partnership, to having a blast, to expanding your intimate repertoire. I did add some erotic verbs to our list, but feel free to expand it making your own more adventures version! (wink)
Whoever said investing in our relationship has to be tedious and boring?
Watch the video for embracing Relationship Verbs for nurturing your relationship… Enjoy!
APPLICATION: Make a recommitment to making your relationship the best relationship ever! Decide that you will invest in your relationship to create your epic love affair with your partner…
~ Invite your partner to play with Relationship Verbs with you
~ Make a list of Relationship Verbs, or use the one I created– you can track the verbs you embrace as you go!
~ Keep going until you have embraced all the verbs…
Give this a fair shake. Keep it light. Make it fun. Get creative. Have fun!
Freshness is in the air, it’s time for new beginnings… Harness the potential, mold the surge of energy to create what you desire… Start your relationship anew…
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
PS: Masterclasses
💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:
~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life – Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat – Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
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As the Love Month is coming to an end, our attention is now to focus on carrying on with the love theme… As being kind, loving and romantic for one month out of the year just won’t cut it…
To create an amazing relationship, we must be amazing partners… It is common to get sidetracked with the business of life and to neglect, or lose focus on, our partner and our relationship. Let’s set ourselves up to change this as our relationship is the cornerstone of our life! Follow these 3 powerful steps to take your relationship to the next level.
Of course, I’m assuming you are interested in becoming your Best Self, in being the Best Partner, in creating your Best Relationship, and living your Best Life. If you are satisfied with everything as it is and don’t want to continue to evolve and see how awesome you can make things, then we are not your cup of tea- and that’s ok.
Our content and work are geared for partners and couples who are high achievers and performers and who want to take full advantage of what this life has to offer. They want to crack the codes and win at the game of life… They want to have a radiant and successful relationship…
If you are with us, take these 3 powerful steps to keep the love alive and keep enriching and nurturing your relationship. Let’s take your relationship to the next level…
The 3 Powerful Steps
We can only create the relationship and life we desire when we are intentional and proactive about it. An epic love affair with our partner, keeping the love and spark alive, and creating a meaningful life don’t happen by accident or by default…
The relationship and life we desire need to be designed and then created…
It’s funny to me when people ask, Should having a great relationship require work? The answer is a resounding, YES! But note that I don’t look at it as work though, you see… I look at anything relationship related as relationship enrichment, nurturing, tending, minding, creating and the like- and it’s lovely to do!
You wouldn’t go about building a house without designing it and having a blueprint first, would you? The following steps help with the design and the blueprint…
STEP 1 – The State of the Union…
In this step, the idea is to assess how your joint life and relationship are going. You’d first review the overall quality of your life and relationship, and then specific aspects of them.
You can assess the things that are important to you now. There are seasons in life and in our relationship. Different things are important to us at different times.
You might already have done a tremendous job improving, enriching, and enhancing the quality of your life and relationship so a higher-level assessment would be in order for you. You might already have a great relationship and life, but do you want to have an extraordinary one? How is your lifestyle, your legacy, your impact?
And, if you are struggling in your relationship and your life, you’ve come to the right place. You’d assess personal characteristics, mindset, skills, habits, self-management, resilience, and strategies both at the personal and relational level that affect how you go about creating your relationship and life…
You’d also assess your relationship mindset, communication and alignment, dynamics and patterns, connection and intimacy, collaboration and partnership…
What have you been working on and why?
STEP 2 – How Far You’ve Already Come…
It is common for us to lose sight of the Journey we’ve been on, how much we have already accomplished, how far we’ve already come personally and with our partner…
In this step the focus is on acknowledging all the hurdles, all the challenges, all the difficulties we’ve been through and how we’ve managed to survive them and possibly even thrive because of them…
Here we get to give ourselves and the partnership credit for everything we have already addressed, fixed, resolved, learned, implemented, improved, and everything else. We don’t live in a vacuum, and we don’t live static lives. You have been on a Journey, you are better for it, alone and together. Grab all the yummy stuff that’s already here…
If you are having a difficult time finding the progress, the achievements, the successes – focus on all the attempts, efforts, and things you’ve tried to help you improve your lot. You have done plenty, believe me. Just give yourself and your partner credit for what you’ve already done.
Your efforts might feel like they were in vain, but they were not. They are all a part of you and who you are Becoming… Nothing is a waste… Grab all the investment you’ve put into your relationship and your life already…
Celebrate that you’ve been living your Journey…
STEP 3 – On to What’s Next…
You might have really enjoyed Step1 and Step2 and are really looking forward to this final step. Or, the first 2 steps felt like a 2×2 upside the head. Either way, this step helps you take things to the next level…
Here we get dust off our relationship and life blueprint… If you have been with us for a while, you might have your Life Vision handy… This is your North Star, your guiding mechanism.
Your vision doesn’t have to be written in stone, it can be revised, updated, and even overhauled as you go. But at any given time, you need to be striving towards something… Otherwise you are creating by default- and we don’t want that!
If you don’t have a Vision, now is the time to dream yours up… Make it a stretch, make it fun, make it meaningful… Cover all life areas- what would your Best Life look and feel like? What do you want to create? What’s your Partner’s role, contribution, and impact? How do you Co-Create?
This is what you want to build… This is what you want to create with your partner- Relationship and Life…
Take note of where you’d like to be, and how you’d like to be… What specific things or areas need attention?
Now that you have where you’ve been, where you are, and where you want to go you are ready to take your relationship, and life, to the next level…
APPLICATION: Now that Love Month is over, is time to set up for more Loving throughout the year… Take your relationship to the next level with a plan for working out the kinks and continuing your nurturing…
Set time aside to explore the steps for yourself, process them in your Journal, make a list of specific things that stand out, highlight the things of note:
STEP 1 – The State of the Union…Review the status and state of your relationship and your life. The overall feel and the specific areas. Take note of these as well: Relationship mindset, communication and alignment, dynamics and patterns, connection and intimacy, collaboration and partnership… What is your current area of focus, and why?
STEP 2 – How Far You’ve Already Come…Review and capture all the ups and downs in your relationship and your life. Identify the patterns, the lessons learned and the things you accomplished, addressed, and resolved. Give yourself credit for all the effort invested. Give yourself, and your partner, compassion for the Journey you are on.
STEP 3 – On to What’s Next…Review your Life Vision, or create one…, to serve as your North Star for going forward. Filter everything in your relationship and life against this Vision as you go to help streamline, focus, stay in alignment, and on the right path…
IMPORTANT: Schedule time to meet with your partner to share and get on the same page. Give them a heads-up beforehand so they are not blindsided and so they can do this exercise themselves or at least have given it some thought.
Grab these for your takeaway: ~ Areas of focus to smooth out kinks in the relationship ~ Adding/continuing relationship nurturing activities ~ Corrective measures to your lifestyle and goals/projects to course correct and better align with your vision
When you are intentional about what you are creating, you’ll create what you desire…
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
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