One of the key characteristics of a great life is that it is fulfilling, that it has meaning. A life of insignificant tasks, strained relationships and devoid riches is an empty and unfulfilling life. This is the life that feels life something is missing, or something is wrong. That’s because it’s true. We are meant to have fabulous lives, to figure out how to and to create fabulous lives…
A great life includes experiencing happiness in growth, being always evolving, and progressing. A stagnant life with the same old is a boring and not thriving life. There is a saying, If we are not growing, we are dying…
On the other hand, a life of pursuing and achieving in and of itself is exhausting and just as bereft of sparkle…
The key here is to go for a life of Happily Achieving… Meaning that we are in the pursuit of always improving, while being perfectly content with what is and not losing the forest for the tree. That our pursuit is in Alignment with our purpose and larger vision. That our Why is what gives it radiance and meaning…
But what happens if you are totally struggling in your relationship and your life, and this concept feels like a pie in the sky?
Step1- Get grounded and optimized
First things first, you have to get out of the rut. This usually has to do with poor brain and mental health… Your embodied-brain (brain structure, neurons firing-wiring, and overall nervous system) can literally be glitching out because of your personal history and its impact on your development and because of your daily habits (sleeping, eating, hydrating, exercising, managing stress, using substances).
Secondly, address the biggest obstacle in your life right now. What is giving you the most angst and holding you back from your best relationship and youra best life.
There is one caveat here- you can’t blame your partner… That’s right, you have full responsibility for creating your best relationship and your best life…
It is up to you to clean up your relationship mindset, set effective boundaries, own yourself and empower yourself.
It is up to you to communicate cleanly and clearly, to properly address concerns and needs, to apologize for your side of things and for when you make a booboo, and to make amends.
It is up to you to change your patterns, meet your needs, and increase your resilience.
It is up to you to be connected (with yourself, your partner, and others), to have fun, and to sparkle.
It is up to you to make your life work, to change what doesn’t, and to go for a fulfilling and meaningful life.
When we take full responsibility for our life and show up to it with gusto in all areas, others, including our partner, and the Universe respond accordingly…
If you are having a strong reaction to this concept, because you have good reasons for why things are as they are, please- just take a deep breath. I have heard, seen and been part of many a story of people’s lives, including my own obviously. And I can tell you that the people that make the most progress, are the happiest, and have the most fulfilling lives are the ones that take full responsibility for their own experience…
The more they stop talking about what their partner is doing or not doing, and the more they focus on their side of things the better their life gets…
Now, I’m not implying you don’t have a partner, you don’t have expectations nor have collaboration with your partner, or that you don’t have an epic love affair with your partner. No, you can have it all and you can by who you are (become) and how you go about things…
It’s actually that simple… Not necessarily easy if you are still tripping all over yourself, but with one step at a time you can. I promise.
Step3- Embrace fulfillment
And thirdly, choose to have it all. Make a decision to go for it, no more excuses or procrastination. This is where your Purpose and Vision serve as your North Star to take your life to the next level. The earlier you activate this the easier the whole process is, but as we already established it might be challenging to connect with these if you are really struggling. It’s up to you how early you can access this and benefit from doing so…
Once you activate your Purpose and Vision then life becomes about Aligning with these, Flowing from these, and Striving for these.
When you live this life, you have mastered the Art of Fulfillment and you get to live your best life…
APPLICATION: Identify where you are currently in the three steps and commit to playing full out in that step…
Step1- Get grounded and optimized – get support and invest in your self-care practice
Step2- Take full ownership of your life – address the most present roadblock or annoyance in your life and invest in creating your successful relationship
Step3- Embrace fulfillment – take things to the next level by embracing your (joint) vision and fully going for your best life
When you have meaningful direction in your life, you live an engaged life- a life of happiness and fulfillment…
Here is to the best Summer Upleveling™ yet!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
PS: Masterclasses
💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:
~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life –Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat –Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
~ Create an Epic Love Affair with Your Partner –Addressing the struggle and upleveling your relationship to create your epic love affair
~ Get Unstuck with Self ReParenting –Transmuting the patterns keeping you stuck by reprogramming yourself through inner child work
~ Thriving After Infidelity™ – Stop the torture that comes from discovery, get your new footing, and transform your relationship so that’s better than ever before…
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
💐 Not a member? No worries, join us with a Lifestyle Membership. This Membership includes access to our private community, full access to our Member Center and previous content, and access to upcoming Masterclasses at no additional cost, all for only $29 per month.
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Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication? Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™ that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
I’m sure you are familiar with sayings such as, What you focus on grows, What you focus on you get wrapped up in, What we resist persists, and so on. We too often let our negativity bias rule the day. We are wired for survival- our ancestors benefitted greatly from our bias to look out for danger.
But we no longer are so dependent on this programming. If anything, it hinders us. Any threat to the status quo and up in arms we go… We get in our own way of getting out of our comfort zone, stretching, and evolving… And this is unfortunate because this is where change occurs, how we create the reality we desire. In exploring the unknown and embracing risk is how we experience the Magic and Magnificence life has to offer…
What if we were to do a Relationship and Life Audit, identify the things we want to upgrade, decide we are going for the next level and make a commitment to creating something different, and methodically and systematically go about creating this change?
If we did that, we’d make strides towards creating what we set out to create. But note, this level of outward focus is not enough- it can only take us so far on its own… This is what is called white-knuckling in some circles. Things don’t come from just shear effort. What happens a lot of times is that we lose momentum and even sabotage ourselves if the inner focus is not in alignment…
Let’s say that we are focused on creating more connection, intimacy, and fun with our partner. Let’s also say that we have unprocessed or unaddressed personal history and have fear, mistrust, unworthiness, abandonment or other unresolved issues.
Then no matter how hard we work at enriching our relationship at the conscious level, our subconscious and unconscious programming are still running the show and our triggers and defenses undermine our efforts…
The task at hand here besides visioning, strategizing, planning, and tackling your upgrade…, is to do the inner work…
This has to do with:
Addressing limiting beliefs and scripts, clarifying expectations, exploring desires
Owning all parts of ourselves with compassion, coming out of the closet, owning our truth
Becoming more authentic, being more transparent, and showing more vulnerability
Healing wounds, addressing hurts, and getting our needs met
Identifying and expanding who we are, choosing and owing our own identity
Aligning our thinking, feelings, and actions for a more congruent and fluid experience
This work supports what we try to manifest on the outside. When we clean up, align, and update our inside, it shows in our outside. Our health and wellbeing are in tip top shape. Our relationship becomes more loving, supportive, fun, passionate. Our career, business or other endeavor becomes more meaningful and impactful. Our life is just more beautiful all around…
Decide what kind of relationship and life you Desire… Note, Desire literally means de sire, “of the Father”… Your desires were bestowed upon you by Universal Intelligence that created everything in existence…
So, if you feel desiring is not a great quality to have, please note it is your birth given right as a child of this Universe to want to expand, become more, thrive, flourish as everything else in nature. Even the Universe is expanding… Why wouldn’t you want to?
Then note what about you might get in the way of you creating or achieving what you desire. What patterns do you recognize in your relationship/s and your life? What is your usual complaint about people and things? Where is the place you usually get stuck? How far can you get before things regress again or you sabotage?
For example, you can only save so much money, you can only lose so much weight, you can sustain connection for only so long, and so on… Explore every nook and cranny of your being for these, grab as many as you can identify at this time.
These levels make up your current success thermostat… You can only get to a certain degree of success until the program kicks in and brings you back to the preset degree…
Your job is to do your inner work to reset, reprogram, your preset to the degree of success you really Desire…
This is how you quantum leap into the reality you desire for your relationship and your life…
APPLICATION: In your time of meditation or contemplation, explore who you are and who you want to become…
Choose your Identity and identify what thoughts, feelings and behaviors might flow from this identity to start embracing the new you…
~ Check how you need to upgrade your thinking to be in alignment with how this person would think… ~ Set intentions to cultivate feelings this person might feel… ~ Set yourself up with habits that align with what this person might do…
Note what egoic responses come up and soothe and accept yourself…
Here is to the best Summer Upleveling™ yet!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
PS: Masterclasses
💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:
~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life –Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat –Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
~ Create an Epic Love Affair with Your Partner –Addressing the struggle and upleveling your relationship to create your epic love affair
~ Get Unstuck with Self ReParenting –Transmuting the patterns keeping you stuck by reprogramming yourself through inner child work
~ Thriving After Infidelity™ – Stop the torture that comes from discovery, get your new footing, and transform your relationship so that’s better than ever before…
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
💐 Not a member? No worries, join us with a Lifestyle Membership. This Membership includes access to our private community, full access to our Member Center and previous content, and access to upcoming Masterclasses at no additional cost, all for only $29 per month.
Copyright (c) 2022 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication? Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™ that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
Why settle for a mediocre relationship and life when you can have an extraordinary relationship and life? Extraordinary does not mean complex, chaotic, demanding and such. People choose simple because it is easier, but extraordinary doesn’t have to be complicated…
They might already have a pretty good relationship and life, they are comfortable, and so they settle for good. That’s fine if that’s what you want. But in my book, if we are going to live this life, we might as well make it great- including our relationship. No?
I’m going to assume that you are in the camp of wanting to make your relationship and your life great otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this or be part of our family…
So, how do we make our relationship and our life great? It is actually really simple, we expect it, we plan for it, and we strive towards it…
You see the first issue is that we don’t believe we can have our best relationship and our best life… At some level we don’t believe we deserve it… We give up before we even get started!
Then, we get a commitment from our partner and start making some strides in life and we get comfy. We neglect our partner and don’t stretch ourselves into the best we can be. We bang around in our relationship and our life… We plan parties and vacations more than we plan our relationship and our life…
And finally, we don’t support ourselves in working towards creating what we desire. We don’t have a working strategy for creating what we want. We don’t have a way to stay the course, invest seamlessly, and enjoy the process on the way.
How are we then supposed to move from Good to Great? Not for nothing people settle or struggle…
But like we already established, this doesn’t have to be complicated, challenging, or complex… It just takes commitment, focus, and intentionality to address your programming, your planning, and your grit…
Let’s start right now, shall we?
PROGRAMMING – You don’t believe you can have an epic love affair with your partner, have a radiant and successful relationship, and extraordinary life because you don’t believe you deserve it…
You might think it’s impossible to create these for all the reasons you give yourself- like your partner is emotionally stunted or not game, you are both too busy to nurture your relationship and besides you don’t even know how, it’s embarrassing to explore more with your partner, one or both of you have insecurities and/or commitment issues, and so on…
And that was just in terms of your relationship… What reasons- excuses do you come up with when it comes to your life?
In the meantime, at a deeper level, your programming of being unworthy and undeserving is wreaking havoc… This is why you have repeating patterns in your life, this is why you can’t seem to get ahead, this is why everything feels hard, this is why you have physical and mental health issues, this is why there is other funky stuff in your life…
Antidote:
~ A simple solution is to implement a Self-Love Practice that in and of itself helps unravel the programming as you are showing yourself you are deserving and worthy by giving love to yourself…
~ Another simple way to do reprogramming is by doing 30-Day Challenges to address egoic patterns…
PLANNING – How are you supposed to create or build something without a blueprint? How are you supposed to go on a trip without an itinerary? How are you supposed to win the game without a game plan? Whatever analogy resonates for you, let’s take it to heart.
Do you plan parties or vacations? Or does your partner? Regardless, as a couple you probably put in more time into planning these than planning your relationship and your life… You might have given some thought to your home renovations, your investments, your children’s college tuition, and your retirement, but is that the extent of it?
Now, I know you might not even have done those. It’s ok, we are not here to shame you. Just highlighting that your life can use a little more intentionality, that’s all. And, if you have done those, you might be asking what else is there.
Your Game Plan is to be a simple blueprint for creating your best relationship and your best life, not just a basic life… It’s a plan to move from Good to Great…
Antidote:
~ Now, a Game Plan, a Strategy, and such might seem overwhelming and tedious. But let’s make this as simple as possible… Choose an aspect of your relationship or life that you’d like to take to the next level and explore what would that feel and look like once you achieve it. Now take an action to start getting you closer to that desire. After the action, choose the next, and then the next and so on until before you know it you’d have gotten to the next level…
~ If you are more ambitious, map out steps, tactics, habits, activities, support and milestones to add to your daily routine and weekly and monthly rhythms to crank towards your desires…
GRIT – People usually shy away from “hard work”, dedication, commitment, focus, loyalty, and other personal characteristics and habits because they have a wobbly sense of self. They don’t believe in themselves and have an identity that aligns with that, which of course doesn’t include self-discipline and such…
Some people are born with grit others can cultivate it… If you are one of the lucky ones for whom this is inherently part of your make up, acknowledge this blessing and appreciate it for you are ahead of the game. If you are one of who don’t identify as having grit, no worries- there are ways around this. We can help you build grit and get your jump start while you cultivate it…
The point about grit is that you need this to stay the course, to invest consistently in what you desire, to keep trying until you crack the code, to stay on it until you get what you want…
Now, you might be thinking, Yikes, that’s intense, who wants to live like that? Well, my friend, that’s what it takes to create an extraordinary relationship and life. Otherwise, we are on the other side, the settling for mediocre side… But I promise, we’ll do this simply and with ease…
Antidote:
~ This part might feel really scary, but it doesn’t have to be. First things first, identify a character strength you’d like to develop that would support you in your Journey. Then set about exploring and practicing this character strength daily.
~ Secondly, you don’t have to depend on poor sheer will power and self-discipline to make things happen. Instead, leverage tools (i.e., calendar, reminders, bill pay), automation (i.e., recurring events, autoresponders, automatic deposits/transfers), support (i.e., accountability, subscriptions, concierges), habits (i.e., wellness, connection and success habits), and such to have your own back.
Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and eventually you get there…
So, seamlessly, simply, and with ease you can stay the course and move from a good relationship and life to great ones. It doesn’t have to be challenging to create your radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life… Be extraordinary my friend, create greatness!
APPLICATION: Make a decision to be extraordinary and to create greatness, to move from Good to Great in your relationship and your life…
Choose the area that needs the most attention first to get the most leverage creating what you desire, and dig in with gusto into that area till you feel your shift and start getting traction towards creating what you desire…
~ Programming Implement a Self-Love Practice Play with 30-Day Challenges
~ Planning Embrace An Action at a Time Map Out Your Steps/Actions
~ Grit Develop Character Strengths Implement Systems and Habits
Here is to the best Summer Upleveling™ yet!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
PS: Masterclasses
💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:
~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life –Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat –Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
~ Create an Epic Love Affair with Your Partner –Addressing the struggle and upleveling your relationship to create your epic love affair
~ Get Unstuck with Self ReParenting –Transmuting the patterns keeping you stuck by reprogramming yourself through inner child work
~ Thriving After Infidelity™ – Stop the torture that comes from discovery, get your new footing, and transform your relationship so that’s better than ever before…
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
💐 Not a member? No worries, join us with a Lifestyle Membership. This Membership includes access to our private community, full access to our Member Center and previous content, and access to upcoming Masterclasses at no additional cost, all for only $29 per month.
Copyright (c) 2022 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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I’m operating with a new mantra, Keep clearing. Doing another round of letting go of the old (like possessions, processes, ways of thinking…), and I’m seriously embracing the concept of entering a New Era… Feeling amazing… Yay! How are you doing?
If we want change to happen, we have to change how we do things… We have to change how we look at things… We have to change how we are showing up, how we are choosing to Be. We have to be different to create a new reality… Change doesn’t just happen. And, especially it doesn’t happen by doing more of the same with stronger conviction… We just dig ourselves more and more into our status quo with that approach…
Our best thinking got us this far. But the mindset, capabilities, and tactics that got us here became outdated. It’s time to level-up if we are to create our best year yet, our best relationship yet, our best life yet. It’s time to clear the old if we are to have space for the new… It’s time to truly embrace our potential, our desires, our calling, our purpose, our mission. It’s time to step-it up if we are to play a bigger game.
Now, please do not let your Ego tell you, I’m good, I don’t need a bigger game… This is just your fear talking! Stop fooling yourself that you want a simple life. Now, don’t get me wrong, there is simple and there is Simple. I’m talking about going for the simple that implies mediocracy… Stop settling!
I’ll take simple vs complex as much as my current brain will allow me. Still working on cracking that code, on letting go of making things complicated… LOL But, I’m saying let’s go for an elegantly simply efficient and productive Grand Life…
We usually can’t snap our finger and switch gears. If it was that simple everyone would be living their Grand Life already… It requires owning our why, owning our values, owning our desires, owning our current level of investment into our values, owning our current level of functioning, and fully owning our current status in all areas of our life… It requires complete ownership, a truthful reality check, and full commitment to create our Grand Life…
Hey, you can choose to have your simple mediocre life. That’s always your prerogative, but then maybe I’m not the lid for your pot. And, that’s OK. I’m here to serve those that want to live their life to their full potential, who want to go for it. I’m here to serve those who want to save their marriage, their relationship. Who want to have an amazing relationship with their Partner.
I’m here to serve those that are not afraid to weather the tough times. Who are willing to do what it takes to stay in the game. Who are willing to look at how they contribute to their status quo, and to change how they do their side. Who are willing to stretch out of their comfort zone.
Who are willing to be uncomfortable as they stretch. Who make being uncomfortable their new norm, for as you keep evolving and creating awesomeness you’ll always be stretching and hence uncomfortable a lot…
Do you get that going for your Grand Life requires you fully show up to your life? Really show up… Are you willing to step up your game? Are you willing to be uncomfortable? If not now when…? Don’t wait for the perfect time to start working on things… In all reality, all it takes is a decision… Decide now you are no longer settling. Decide now to go full on for your Grand Life…
If you are struggling in your relationship or simply are going for its next best version, here is a wonderful relationship investment to do this Valentine’s Season:
Love Launch™
During the 4 Weekends leading to Valentine’s Day (or another occasion, or just because!), you are to make a real concerted investment at nurturing your relationship. Do it with gusto and to please your Partner. Put on the “dating lens” – remember you’d do anything for your partner once upon a time…? Go all out to make an impression. And, YOU enjoy the process as you go…
Include this 14 Day Love Challenge! Start on February 1st, or at any time you want to Jump-Start, Spring-to-Life, or Reset your relationship. Simple, yet powerful, Daily Relationship Nurturing Nuggets. Treat your partner right!
Kudos on subscribing to this Newsletter. Kudos on reading this Issue. Kudos on staying open to bringing your relationship and your life to the next level. Now, let’s do it!
ASSIGNMENT: If you are still on the sidelines, a passive bystander, know that you are just killing time and wasting your life. Why postpone your transformation, your results, having your Grand Life? It just doesn’t make sense! Please, PLEASE, make a commitment to get in the game, I’d hate to leave you behind.
You know that when we really want something, we get it… You know that you have made things happen before when you wanted to… Just decide you are going for it, really going for it not dabbling in it… It makes a MASSIVE difference…
Take a look at the Valentine’s Day Love Launch™ and Love Challenge™ and commit to playing full out – embrace the protocols and work it baby!
Make the commitment to invest in your Love Life… Here is to an amazing Love Season!
Can’t wait to delight you with our next goodie to help you properly invest in your relationship! Stay tuned for details!
Complete the Assignment, and share your takeaway, insights, and results with a note in the Comments box at the end! I’d love to hear how you are using this content.
Happy Investing!
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How are you doing? Hope you are keeping the momentum from the New Year going… As I’m sure you already know, right about now people start floundering with their New Year Resolutions, Intentions and the like… Tomorrow is the 3rd Monday of the New Year and known as Blue Monday…
The end-of-year drive, the holidays merriment and the new year’s excitement all but come crashing down… This is when back to reality hits us like a ton of bricks.
This is when we realize we are not exactly where we want to be, and the New Year’s promises are quickly fading away. This is when we realize real change needs to happen and we don’t necessarily know how to make it happen. We might know what we want to change, we might even know how, but somehow, we can’t get traction…
This is when it becomes obvious that we can’t make changes with just pure willpower and desire… This is when things become bleak and we feel powerless and stuck. If you are rocking the New Year, Congratulations! Just beware that this can still hit you with a delayed impact if you are not proactively preventative…
It is challenging to get traction on the changes we want because unfortunately our brain is working against us – it doesn’t like change. We literally have brain structures to maintain homoeostasis… To keep things in the status quo. We also have our Ego protecting us from growth and change. It perceives these as a threat…
Change in our life is to the brain and ego like viruses are to our body. The defenses come out to attack any intrusion. Hence, we end up sabotaging our very efforts, wishes and desires…
The 3 main areas people usually want changes on are health, relationship and finances. If they use their genius, they might have set goals around these. Never mind mere Resolutions. 25% of people who set resolutions abandon them after 7days! Intentions and Focus Terms are great as icing on the cake, not as substitutes…
We don’t do much better with goals. Only 14% of Americans set goals, only 3% of them write them down, and only 1% of those review them daily when there is a 42% increase in goal achievement by merely setting them… This makes me sad for people’s ability to create what they want in their life…
So, if we go by these stats, it is very likely that you haven’t set goals and most likely that you haven’t written them down. Therefore, if you are serious about creating the life you want, if you are serious about not settling for a mediocre life, if you are serious about having your best human experience, then it is time to take goal setting seriously.
Seriously doesn’t mean this has to be complicated or a major production. Make it as easy as possible. Just go with the basics if you need a starting point: health, relationship and finances… You can tweak this to your heart’s desire of course, but if you make a commitment to embrace creating changes in these 3 areas you will make a significant improvement in your life…
Additionally, if we don’t want to struggle in achieving these goals, we have to make sure we don’t depend on willpower to work on these… Willpower only takes us so far and is limited… It depends on how we feel, our mood, our energy, our time, etc. If we are to achieve what we want, if we are to create the life we desire, we can’t leave it to chance…
How do we make sure we keep our goals forefront and actively work on them?
FIRST, we have to have a strong desire to achieve them. We have to have a strong Why behind them to inspire us and keep us motivated…
SECOND, we have to set ourselves up to achieve them, with structure and systems… This means we have to set up our daily life with routines around achieving these goals. And, we have to set up the routines with related Habits to automate our investment and take the effort out of it… Voila!
What do you say? Are you ready to really create the life you desire, your best life? Are you ready to set yourself up for an amazing decade? Are you ready for your best year yet? What do you say? Don’t be the majority statistic. Don’t let Blue Monday be a reality for you. Don’t let another year pass by without making a dent in creating the life you really want…
ASSIGNMENT: There is plenty of info out there on how. There are plenty of people having a say on all this. Your job is not to get more info and keep postponing your results. There is plenty on this blog anyway, even on this post alone, to help you get started… Your job is to decide you are going for it, commit to it and get started.
Here is your basic Strategy in its simplest form:
Step 1: Create 1 measurable stretch goal for your 3 life areas, with strong Whys for each
Step 2: Add 3 concrete recurring behaviors to each goal
Step 3: Integrate the recurring behaviors into your daily/weekly/monthly routine(s)
Don’t let this significant time pass you by. The sooner you plan and set your goals, the sooner you’ll start working on them, the longer you’ll have a chance to achieve them… You can rock this!
Make a commitment to no longer settle. Make a commitment to live your best life. Set yourself up to create what you desire right now. Seriously, do your Strategy now – start the week right, start the rest of your life right!
And, because we know it’s not easy to make changes on our own, we are creating some new goodies to help you with the Relationship & Connection area… Stay tuned for more details coming soon!
Complete the Assignment, and share your takeaway, insights, and results with a note in the Comments box at the end! I’d love to hear how you are using this content.
Happy Strategizing!
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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