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Empower yourself by staying in your circle…

Empower yourself by staying in your circle…

The concept of setting effective boundaries might feel a bit played out. But it’s interesting that most people still have no idea what setting boundaries actually means… We don’t set boundaries on others, give them consequences, or punish them… We have no control over others, we are not the boss of them- not even our children and our employees or team-reports!

We set boundaries on ourselves… We have to take charge of the things we do have control over, and that is ourselves… We very often disempower ourselves by focusing on what others are doing or not doing… Empower yourself by staying in your circle… 

So, let’s put this into the proper context. Setting boundaries is an act of self-love. It means we decide what we allow to be in our life. Be it in our thoughts, our environment, our relationship, our work, our life in general… 

When something is not working for us, we don’t set a boundary on the other person- we don’t tell them what to do. We set a boundary on ourselves, we decide what we’ll be willing to allow to continue. We decide to change our thoughts and how we look at things. We decide how to feel and how to respond.

We decide what our actions, habits, and routines are. We decide how we want to show up to a conversation. We decide what is acceptable behavior, treatment, responses, outcomes, and such. We decide everything we allow… 

How does this play out in interaction with others? Beautifully… For when you fully own all of you, your needs, your desires, your expectations, how you show up, how you respond, how you set things up and such- things can’t but go smoothly… 

You take care of yourself, you exude confidence, you are responsible for your results, you clearly express your expectations in a way that others can respond positively to them, and you appropriately address when the expectations are not met. 

And this doesn’t mean punishing people- this doesn’t mean nagging your partner or giving them the cold shoulder. This doesn’t mean yelling at your children. This doesn’t mean berating your employee. 

Addressing unmet expectations means you share how you were impacted, how you feel and how this doesn’t work and why. It means you address what might gone wrong for the other that they let you down.

It means you put something in effect to address what happened and a preventative measure. It means you consider the other person’s needs, skills, abilities, and such so your expectations can be met. You address the situation for a win-win. 

We never set a boundary at the expense of another. They might not like your boundary of what you will not put up with or tolerate, or what you will no longer do. But you will never tell them to do something harmful or against themselves, nor tolerate this for yourself… And you are not to tell others what they need to do or not do, feel, or think. That’s in their circle… 

This obviously applies to our relationship with our partner. We co-create with them, we inspire each other, we address our needs so we are both taken cared of. We don’t tell our partner that they can’t have an affair. We inspire our partner not to have an affair… We address our side being fully mindful and conscientious of theirs. We do not live in a vacuum. We do not do things at their expense, never.

Even should you be getting a divorce, you are still a fellow human being with a heart. Always go for the win-win… Always keep your side of the street clean. Always take the higher road. You are the one that has to live with themselves at the end of the day… 

Even with our children – we don’t own them. Our job is not to control them… Our job is to discipline them- which by definition means help them learn… We teach, guide, set them up for success, and support them… We honor their feelings. We show them how to fully own and expand themselves… 

Even with our employees. They have a job description, they have processes to follow, and milestones or goals to achieve. They know when they are not performing to what is expected. That is the conversation. We can’t “manage” people, we can inspire and “lead” them… Sometimes words are limited to fully convey a message, but I think you get my drift. 

Even when we lovingly release a partner or an employee… It’s ok if they don’t like your boundary, they can choose what they need to do to meet themselves and you to continue to take care of yourself. 

Everything that happens, happens FOR us- remember that… There is always a solution for the higher good of all… 

This applies to everything in our lives… It’s ok if they don’t like that you will no longer be folding and putting away all the laundry. Decide what works for you and offer that. You can take the other’s preferences into consideration and together come up with a plan that works for both of you. But at the end of the day, you will no longer be folding and putting away all the laundry…

If the other is not cooperative, you always still do your side with the best of intentions for the highest good of all to the best of your ability… Honoring yourself is an act of self-love and imperative for a wonderful and magical human experience. When you operate from this place others cooperate, fear not… 

Partners often want to start by having their partner change… They love being in their partner’s circle, then they wonder how come their partner is resistant or uncooperative. Wrong approach my friend! Always focus on your side and the other will follow suit, I promise…

Remember to set your boundaries in alignment with your values… Then they are more meaningful and a lot easier to honor them… 

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APPLICATION: Compile a list of annoyances and things that don’t work for you in your life… Write it with compassion and grace. Don’t judge yourself or others. They have all served a purpose… Now it’s time to no longer put up with them. 

Addressing one at a time:
~ Explore how those things have contributed to who you are today and how you’ve gotten here
~ Identify what no longer works about them 
~ Feel the impact they’ve had on you, feel it in your body, breathe through it
~ Thank them for what they have provided you and let them go
~ Identify a practical step to address the things and take an action step towards them today 

 

Taking full ownership and empowering ourselves is not for the faint of heart. If you are serious about Becoming your Best Self, creating your Best Relationship, and living your Best Life- this is not an option. This is how you do it! 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always… 

With Much Love & Light!

 

 

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How to have your Best Year yet

How to have your Best Year yet

The New Year, is a New Beginning and an amazing opportunity for a reset, course correction, and realignment… We want to be intentional about how we start the New Year to set ourselves up to have our Best Year yet… Let’s not set up a bunch of habits, strategies, and routines for the sake of setting stuff up…

The key is for your New Year plan to be thorough yet simple and powerful, and to infuse it with your Essence. We want our new year plan to feel exciting and tantalizing. We a want to have habits, practices and a daily routine that enrich our life and our soul.

We want our days to support us Becoming our Best Self and manifesting our Best Relationship, and Best Life… Here is how to have your Best Year yet… 

For starters we must know who we are trying to become and what we want to create/manifest… 

We want our life to be made up of what gives us joy, helps us become more ourselves, and supports us in our Journey. 

We need a North Star, a Life Vision, to work or walk towards… This serves as our guidance system- we wouldn’t spend a ton of money on an extravagant trip or gift if we are saving to buy a home that is part of our vision, as an example. 

If we know what we are trying to create and manifest in our life we can line ourselves up against it, so we are not going upriver, shooting ourselves on the foot, or leaning the ladder against the wrong wall… You get my drift. 

We also need to know what we value, appreciate, and prefer in our lives so that we can set ourselves up to have our life reflect that… 

When we are planning our upcoming year, or doing any reset for that matter, it is also helpful to revisit our values to make sure we align all our choices and preferences against them. 

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If we have habits that get in the way of us becoming our Best Self, if we set up our days to run rugged and neglect ourselves, if we go about our interactions from a depleted state, we are not likely to be creating the life we want that honors us… 

Then taking a look at your Life Vision, choose your three Life Areas to focus on upleveling, or what you’d like to accomplish or experience, this upcoming year… And set up habits, tactics, and commitments that when done consistently they help you achieve what you desire.

This is where the rubber meets the road. We want to keep these simple yet powerful for the most impact. Yes, you can have a gazillion-billion tactics but if you can’t stick with them, you won’t get results.

Even if you stick with them, you might be spending a lot of time, energy, and other resources in getting results with a complex plan that can easily be achieved with a much simpler plan and your resources can be better allocated elsewhere…

Be selective about the habits you choose to help you live your Journey as you like. 

Your habits need to be integrated into a routine for them to stick… So, intentionally map out your daily routine to include your habits, tactics, rituals, and commitments. 

Your choices can have a theme/s to them that culminate Practice/s to fully honor who you are becoming… For example: Mindfulness Practice, Self-Love Practice, Feminine Practice, Creative Practice, Writing Practice, and so on. 

Keep in mind to TimeMap to build in open/buffer, transition, quiet, and such times in your daily, and weekly routines, to easily embrace more Being and less doing in your approach to life… 

Remember that at the end of the day, you want your days to feel joyful, peaceful, harmonious, connected, loving, creative, and the like. 

Identify what kind of flavor you want your days to have and how you want to Be in your life, and then set everything up to allow for that to happen… 

Be intentional about your approach to your relationship and your life to create what you desire. To allow you to show up more with your true Essence becoming your Best Self, and creating/manifesting your Best Relationship and your Best Life… 

Here is to your Best Year yet! 

 

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APPLICATION:  Review or create your New Year’s plan to make sure you really have your back this upcoming year! 

Tweak or add these elements as structured or flexibly as you need… 
~ Design Life Vision and identify Values to guide you for best alignment
~ Choose Life Areas or Desired Experiences to give you focus
~ Select Habits, Tactics, Rituals, Commitments, and Practices to help you stay focused
~ Design Routines to help you feel grounded 
~ Utilize TimeMapping to help you integrate and balance what’s important to you

 

Remember this whole thing is for you and a collaborative tool to Align with your Partner as well… 

This is to help you more easily do your life, Become who you truly are, and support you in your Journey. This is to gently and beautifully create/manifest with your Partner… This is to have your backs and create your Best Life, and your Best Year yet. 

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

 

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Abusing yourself takes on many forms and sabotages your life…

Abusing yourself takes on many forms and sabotages your life…

It seems that it is so easy to abuse ourselves if we are not being intentional about loving ourselves… Self-abuse can take on so many forms that we might be abusing ourselves and we don’t even know it… Self-abuse is anything we do that doesn’t serve us, and directly or indirectly harms us… Abusing yourself takes on many forms and sabotages your life…

Yes, I know the word abuse is very loaded. And it tends to easily get thrown around. I’m OK with that as it highlights the severity of the matter or the users experience… 

The thing is that it is our responsibility to take care of ourselves so that we actually live the life we are meant to live. We are on this earth to have a Human Experience and to evolve into the best version of ourselves, expanding our consciousness… 

But the way we go about our life is in resistance to this… It creates friction, and dis-ease, and stuckness, and physical illness, and mental illness, and broken homes, and other suffering… 

What is the kicker here is that we are carrying on with this unbeknownst to ourselves. Yikes!

So here is list of ways we abuse ourselves to get you started identifying how you might be being mean to yourself without even knowing it… 

  • You drink alcohol or have other substances most evenings
  • You go to sleep too late
  • You watch TV or have other blue screen time till the moment you fall asleep
  • You sleep plugged into your devices or with them running in the background
  • Your room is not set up for a restorative night sleep 
  • You hit snooze several times or beat yourself up to get out of bed to get your day started
  • You barely have enough time to get ready in the morning before getting your children off to school, getting to or starting work 
  • You start your day by pumping yourself full of caffeine and eating a sugary/carb-loaded something
  • If you happen to be fasting, you don’t properly break your fast and might be overdoing your fasting
  • You grab what you can for lunch and eat at your desk while working, scrolling on social media, or surfing the web, you barely hydrate, and don’t really see the sun 
  • You go from meeting to meeting or staring at a screen for hours
  • You have some more caffeine and a sugary treat in the afternoon to keep you going till the end of the workday
  • You rush to get your kids from school and get them to some activity, to figure out dinner, and to get them to bed 
  • You crash on the couch to do some Netflix binging, your partner might be sitting there with you, and start the whole cycle again

And this is just what happens on the outside… 

On the inside:

  • You beat yourself up for being exhausted and for not having figured out a better evening routine- actually for haven’t figured out how to live your meaningful and joyous life
  • You complain to yourself about how your partner sucks because they don’t do half as much as you do, and they whine about and want a star for the little they do to boot
  • You give free reign to all your scripts and limiting believes about your body, your self, your partner, your finances, the government, the world and the rest of it
  • You live in your head, from the neck up
  • You criticize, judge, condemn, control, manipulate and other tactics inside your head (and outside) to manage your world
  • You live in other people’s circles and barely mind your own
  • You don’t take care of yourself or meet your needs, you might not even know what your needs are or how to meet them 
  • You don’t feel or express your feelings
  • You put on a mask and live with it on, you don’t even know yourself
  • You have programs running your life that you are barely aware of, you just know you do because you feel stuck, dissatisfied or keep repeating unwanted patterns

Now, not all of the above might fit for you, and you might have your own to add to the lists. The point is that how we are doing our life is not how we are supposed to do our life! 

We think that all that doing and pushing is going to create our Best Self, our Best Relationship and our Best Life. Well, I got news for you- it ain’t.

There are lots that can be done with all the above:

But the key is to do these not from doing more, from working on improving ourselves, from trying to get somewhere else and the like. All that efforting has the same energy as all the items on the list… It is driven from judgement, from lack, from not deservingness and such… 

It is driven from not being good enough, from not accepting ourselves, from not honoring ourselves. The activities are much better intentioned but all that doing won’t make that much of difference if it is still done from the head up, from fear and reactivity… 

How about we just chill out for a bit? 

  • How about we pause all the noise we usually make, and go about our life by living our life? How about we just Live? 
  • How about we breathe? How about we feel? How about we experience? 
  • How about we honor, and express, and forgive, and let go, and accept, and love, and savor? 

What if we actually show up to our life? To our body? And unplug from the Matrix

What if we no longer buy into all the constructions we’ve been fed? What if we just show up and enjoy? 

What if by just showing up we actually create/allow our Better Self, Better Relationship, and Better Life? 

What if we Allow the most magnificent expression of our Human Experience… 

 

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APPLICATION: Choose to start being kinder to yourself… In a couple of minutes upon waking:

~ Start your day by bringing your shoulders to your ears with a big inhale and release with a big ahh exhale

~ Then visualize taking a shower of white radiant light cascading over you and around you

~ Then identify a few things you are grateful for- such as having breath, having running water- don’t over complicate it

~ Finally set an intention for what you’d like to feel this day and cultivate that feeling as you go 

~ Observe anytime when you might not be being kind to yourself and change the moment as possible 

Remember life is about Being, not doing… 

 

By being kinder to yourself, showing up to your life and allowing flow, you’d shift any funky energy and patterns you have running you… It’s time to create/Allow a life of overall abundance… 

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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  5. Strengthen your partnership, strive towards your Joint Life Vision, role model a radiant and successful relationship

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The best way to create change in your relationship…

The best way to create change in your relationship…

We can twist ourselves into a pretzel to get everything right in our relationship. We can wait for our partner to change. Or we can manipulate or control our partner into doing what we want. But none of these tactics work for creating our radiant and successful relationship, and joy in our life. Have you wondered how to change your relationship? The best way to create change in our relationship is to use connection and compassion… 

I’ve been offering that to create change in our relationship, we have to change ourselves first. For this invites our partner to respond differently and hence shift the dynamic. And that is how we inspire our partner to change as well… 

That is all true, but we can take the “change ourselves first” a bit too seriously and then feel discouraged and not even try…

What I want to offer today is some lightness into all this… 

We CAN create the relationship we desire with our partner without turning ourselves into a pretzel, waiting for ever, or forcing our partner into anything… The way to do it is so simple that it almost flies under the radar… We tend to make things too complicated when they don’t have to be. Enriching our relationship is one such thing.

Change Your Relationship

So, what is this elusive tactic that is the magic bullet? The answer is to show up softer… 

When we enter an interaction with our partner and they get defensive, reactive, and hijacked, that is our cue that they erected a wall. Now, no amount of pounding is going to get us through without both being unscathed. 

In this case, the best approach is to try approaching them again with a softer approach. The softer approach will invite our partner to drop the wall and become available. 

What does softer look like? Softer body language, softer voice and tone, softer language, softer energy… 

Did you feel the shift in your body just reading that description? Imagine showing up shifted… Your partner doesn’t get physically and emotionally triggered- their unconscious and subconscious don’t need to erect protection… They don’t go into freeze, flight, or fight mode… 

Going softer can be a challenge in and of itself if we are triggered, right? The key is to take a pause, take a deep belly breath, adjust ourselves, and then engage. Sometimes the pause needs to be longer than a breath if you are very activated… In that case, give your partner a heads up if appropriate- for sometimes discontinuing the engagement or not engaging at all is indicated, and then take a time out, a little break, to regroup, reset… 

From the gentler place you can address your concern or needs, still being mindful of not aggressing your partner… Not going into their circle. Not judging or criticizing. Not making them wrong. Not canceling them. You do it by speaking your truth… 

Speaking our truth can be challenging to do as well if you are disconnected from ourselves, and if our dynamics have been scary where we don’t feel safe showing up. 

Please remember that your truth doesn’t mean that you are right, and that your partner is wrong- they have their own truth. Both partners are right in their own experience… Partners have a hard time with this.

They can’t hold space for both existing… This is why it’s so important that when you address your side that you don’t invalidate your partner’s… That you don’t go after them reinforcing whatever programs and triggers they have going on themselves… And to not confirm whatever fears they already have running rampant… 

Going softer is a super simple tactic that does require a commitment on your part to do what it takes to show up softer… And to be mindful to speak your truth without canceling your partner in turn… Using your compassion should do the trick…  

To know your truth and have the courage and wisdom to show up with it just requires connecting to yourself… 

~ When you are disconnected from yourself, you are operating with your lower-self, blindly… 

~ When you are connected with yourself, you are operating with your higher-self, brilliantly…   

Note that when you operate from your higher-self, you are a lot more attractive and easier to connect with… Your partner won’t be running for the hills.  

Here is an invitation to cultivate softness… 

 

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APPLICATION: Take a moment to ponder what usually triggers you in your relationship with your partner, then:

~ Identify the stories and scripts that run through your mind

~ Identify the vulnerable feelings that come up 

~ Identify where these feelings reside in your body

~ Identify what symptoms and ailments they create

~ Identify how you usually numb yourself, so you don’t have to feel your feelings

~ Identify what defenses you use when relating with your partner for protection

~ Recognize how you are living in a life hologram- not authentically you…

Start changing this by becoming more present in your life using mindfulness practices… 

Creating the relationship you desire, doesn’t have to be hard work. It doesn’t have to be painful. It doesn’t have to feel impossible. It just requires a commitment to being nice to yourself and each other… 😉 

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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  3. Change your patterns and better meet your and your partner’s needs
  4. Enrich your connection, enhance your intimacy and truly enjoy being with each other
  5. Strengthen your partnership, strive towards your Joint Life Vision, role model a radiant and successful relationship

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Mapping out meaningful experiences through the next 90 days

Mapping out meaningful experiences through the next 90 days

The next 90 days can make a real huge difference as to how you end up making out for the year. This is the time to regroup so you can reset your focus, targets, and desires…This is also the time to realign against your values and how you want the rest of the year to go. What kind of year do you want to have in all?

How do you want this one to go down in history? How do you want to have made your life better? How do you want to have gotten a bit closer to your Life Vision? The key is in mapping out meaningful experiences through the next 90 days…

You see, I used to be a real grinder… I can still be- I’m highly productive, can work tirelessly for endless hours, and do it without blinking an eye… The difference is that not only have I learned to work smarter and get better support, but now also I prioritize myself and my lovies a lot better and more than I ever used to.

For instance, I have embraced cultivating a Self Love Practice, that goes way beyond my already rich Self Care Practice… These have made such a massive difference in my wellbeing, health, connection, and just in my overall abundance. Not only did this help with safeguarding my energy, mental health, bandwidth, and time, but also with optimizing them…

A favorite tactic that I have truly enjoyed from this practice is Mapping Out Experiences. Since I’ve had such wonderful success with this, I wanted to highlight it here for you so hopefully it has the same beautiful impact in your life.

Because we are starting the last quarter of the year, I wanted to offer something that would have a significant impact on the flavor of your year so it’s more memorable… And usually, things that are memorable have to do with feelings, connection, memories and the like… The softer side of life…

To that end, I want to specifically focus on Mapping Out Experiences through the Next 90 Days. I’m sure you’ve heard that we are moving from the Information Age to the Experiences Age…

So, Mapping Out Experiences it is:

  • This has to do with identifying what kind of person you want to show up as in this world, and expanding your identity as necessary creating the new version of you…
  • This has to do with creating a master working list of experiences that help you stretch
    into, practice, and personify the new version of you.
  • This has to do with creating a seasonal, yearly or life bucket list to inspire you into new
    or repeat favorite experiences that bring you joy.
  • This has to do with identifying interest and pursuits and creating a cadence to engage in them, so they are consistently an inspiration and recharging source in your life.
  • This has to do with creating rituals and upgraded traditions that add more flavor,
    meaning and richness to your interactions and life flow…

Playing with any of the above will improve your life significantly… The key here is to pursue this in moderation yet playing full out. You don’t want to overload yourself and then end up shooting yourself on the foot because your life is so crammed that even the fun things are not enjoyable…

Once you have identified all the awesomeness you want to enrich your relationship/s and life with, then it’s time for Mapping Out Experiences.

Here is to wondrous and meaningful next 90 days!

 

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APPLICATION: Complete the experience list/s that made your heart skip a bit when you read it. Which resonated most for you?

~ Review your list/s for the items you’d really like to experience or implement
sooner than later. Mark all that apply.

~ Now go back and prioritize them becoming more selective. You want to
sprinkle these into your lifestyle, not overrun it…

~ Then add one or two interests into your weekly/monthly routine following some sort of cadence.

~ Then schedule fun outings, events or other plans and experiences.

~ Finally, dust your plan with a new ritual or tradition to really take the whole thing to the next level…

Do this for the next 90 days, and keep this as part of your reset to do on a
quarterly basis… And, this is how you keep creating your Best Relationship/s and Best Life… Enjoy!

Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed while we do what we are meant to do with our Journey… Make the most of it by intentionally pursuing the things that give you joy and purpose…

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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  1. Break the impasse, be empowered, feel hopeful and inspired again
  2. Improve your communication and deepen your understanding of each other
  3. Change your patterns and better meet your and your partner’s needs
  4. Enrich your connection, enhance your intimacy and truly enjoy being with each other
  5. Strengthen your partnership, strive towards your Joint Life Vision, role model a radiant and successful relationship

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