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Loving ourselves allows us to better love our partner… [VIDEO]

Loving ourselves allows us to better love our partner… [VIDEO]

You know how when you fly, they say that in case of an emergency to first put on your oxygen mask and then assist others? Well, the same concept applies to the rest of our life… We have to take care of ourselves for us to be in good shape to be in relationship with our partner, and others… 

When we embrace a self-love practice, in which there is a huge component of self-care, then we activate our authentic self, we create flow, we nourish and enliven ourselves. Now this is a Best Self… This self can have amazing energy, insights, patience, compassion, creativity and all the rest to be the best partner and lover. When we are unhealthy, weak, stressed, overwhelmed, tired and such, we don’t make very good company…

~ It is our job to make sure we are healthy and well. 

~ It is our job we show up with our Best Self and we be the Best Partner. 

~ It is our job to make sure we continue to evolve and elevate… 

Upshift…

To this end, how we do everything matters. From the moment we are aware we are awake, and we choose our first thoughts of the day, to how we wrap up our day and settle down for a good night sleep, all have an impact on our health and wellness. On how resourced we are to be able to show up with our Best Self… 

When we bang around life and are noisy and scattered and tapped out, we are not fresh, available, and able to have meaningful, nourishing, and enlivening interactions. We just don’t make good company… And this is when we insist on interacting with our partner and then wonder how come we get prickly, triggered, and sucked into a less than ideal exchange or even a full-blown fight.

To be a loving partner, and create a loving relationship, we first have to give ourselves love… To have a wonderful relationship, we have to clean up our routines and habits so we can properly show up to our relationship. 

How about we slow down a bit and become a lot more intentional about how we take care of ourselves? This is where having more love in our life starts.

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Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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Expand Your Consciousness, Expand Your Love [VIDEO]

Expand Your Consciousness, Expand Your Love [VIDEO]

The way we allow ourselves to experience and view our world, is exactly what we experience and what we see… This has tremendous implications for our relationship… 

Our relationship is our PLAYGROUND where we recognize our growth areas, notice what skills we still need, practice what we learn, and try out who we are becoming… 

When we take our relationship for granted not only does it wither and die, depriving us of the joy and love that our relationship can bring, but with it goes the built-in mechanism for our evolution… 

As it is no longer available for its essential purpose of being our playground, we have to find an alternative way to continue evolving to ensure our best human experience… 

I say we focus on nurturing and enriching our relationship for its own sake and our own… 

In this video, I show how to expand your consciousness, how to better show up to your relationship, to expand your Love… 

Feel amazing and create your best relationship…  

I talk about:

💗Aligning with Oneness
💗Opening up to More
💗Allowing Love 

Let’s live in Love…

 

 

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Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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How to create a richer and more meaningful life

How to create a richer and more meaningful life

We still live in a pretty hectic and grind focused world… The recent pandemic helped us wake up a bit to the reality that we were not living our best life. That we were living by doing, accumulating, numbing, and yes, wasting away… And, to some extent, we haven’t really course corrected that much… We shouted from the roof tops that we wanted to “go back to normal”… But is that really want we want? I know we are craving a richer and more meaningful existence…

I have made it my business, literally, to show people a better way… The old mindset around this no longer cuts it… The grind mentality, the 10x all your efforts, the focus on external achievement, the default of neglecting ourselves and our loved ones is no longer acceptable. Why would we choose to have this kind of life?

The result of that kind of life is high divorce rates and broken homes, financial struggle, addictions, diseased bodies and minds, fatigue and exhaustion, and a lack of inspiration and zest for life… This is when people are robotic about life and it shows in their eyes, in their speech, in their focus… This is when people don’t have a great answer as to the purpose of life… Their purpose…

Regardless of where you stand on the above, I bet you still do some grinding… It’s ok, we still live in this kind of world…

But I want to offer a simple reprieve to that today, and that is to open our eyes to Joy… If you are rolling your eyes, bear with me… You see, we tend to focus on all the doing and getting things done, that we don’t stop to smell the roses. I know this might sound cliché at this point, but it still applies…

What if we created a life where we focus on our life first and then on work? I know, it sounds crazy… And don’t get me wrong- I love my work and working… I could be as much on this boat as the next person… Because my work is such a part of me, and my purpose and my mission, it is even harder to detach from it and chill… It is so ingrained in my being that it becomes difficult to distinguish work from life… But still, I’m taking on this challenge as I know there is even more… I’m intentionally shifting this focus and basking on what’s on the other side…

What does it mean to focus on our life first and then on work? What does it mean to stop and smell the roses? What does it mean open our eyes to joy?

Open Your Eyes to Joy

This would look different for each of us, as we all have different habits, needs, preferences, bodies, histories, things that delight us, and so on and so forth. But it could include some of these or some version of these:

  • Creating a rich self-care morning routine
  • Embracing a mindfulness practice
  • Experimenting with different ways of having movement in our day
  • Expending times outdoors in the sun and in nature
  • Having fresh flowers in our office and home
  • Having live plants in our office and home
  • Eating delicious nutritious meals
  • Feeding our mind and soul
  • Honoring our feelings and addressing our needs
  • Becoming more who we are
  • Pursuing interests and hobbies
  • Pursuing a higher calling
  • Creating quality time with our loved ones
  • Having great sleep hygiene (hooked up bedtime routine)

 

You see, it doesn’t have to be that difficult or such a strange concept… When we prioritize these and work our work around them, that’s when the seas part…

Right now, we do it the other way around, we do work and fill in the rest if we can… This is a terrible way to go about life…

I encourage you to prioritize your life first, sprinkle the little things that give you joy into your routine, then get to work.

What I experience when I do this, is that I’m much more creative and productive. My life feels amazing and works much better. I can truly say I’m living my best life…

 

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Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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Embracing Self-Connection and Radiance (VIDEO)

Embracing Self-Connection and Radiance (VIDEO)

As we are wrapping up January and turn towards the month of Love, things begin to look up… The mad pressure to hit the ground running in January and kicking off the year with a bang, is now behind us.

We can now truly embrace more self-compassion and set the right tone for the upcoming year… As we’ve been trying to be gentler with ourselves despite the New Year pressure, today’s Self-Love aspect drives this point home- let’s Embrace Self-Connection and Radiance.

Self-Connection is one of the 4 Aspects of Self-Love we are working on to help us start the New Year right…

Self-Honoring and Being
Self-Management and Flow
Self-Care and Resilience
Self-Connection and Radiance

Self-Connection is about having a strong relationship with ourselves- with fully knowing and accepting all our parts, with having our own back, with being more present, with keeping our own company, with nurturing ourselves.

When we are connected with our Self, we are never alone…
When we are connected with our Self, we are knowing…
When we are connected with our Self, we are purposeful…
When we are connected with our Self, we are inspired…
When we are connected with our Self, we are radiant…

When we are connected with our Self, we are steady, powerful, unstoppable, brilliant…

This is the state we want to cultivate, as this is the Sparkle in our life. This is how our Journey is more than a grind…

 

Self-Connection and Radiance

Being in Connection with our Highest Self is our Soul’s directive if you may… When we are not in connection with our Self, we are banging around grinding through our life in our meat suit, aimlessly and exhaustingly, till we are six feet under. This is not the way to live!

When we are in Connection with our Highest Self, we embody our full Being, pursue our calling, embrace a full Human Experience that includes intentionally evolving… This is how we Radiate our Brilliance…

This is what makes us unique, special, magnificent, extraordinary, and exceptional. This is who we really are… Let’s embrace ourselves once and for all, shall we?

I. Fully knowing and accepting all our parts

We are complex human beings that have many parts that make up who we are. Not only do we have different aspects to our conscious self that make up our personality, but we have all sorts of parts that are subconscious that we are not aware of. These parts make up the bulk of who we are, and are the puppeteers behind the scenes… It behooves us to learn ourselves better in all regards to become more whole and who we truly are…

II. Having our own back

Nobody cares more about ourselves than ourselves… When we don’t love ourselves well enough, or take care of ourselves, that’s what we put out and that’s the kind of relationship/s and life we create… When we are not in touch with our Self and our needs, we don’t have our own back and therefore we feel alone and ravished…

It behooves us to own our needs and take care of them to ensure we are OK and have the opportunity to play full out…

III. Being more present

We are so used to all the noise in our lives that the mere thought of silence freaks us out. And, this is for the external world. The same goes for our internal world. We are SO noisy inside our heads.

We are even noisy in our bodies… How we set up our experience and environments, the information we consume, the thoughts we choose to have, and even the food and other substances we choose to consume all generate different levels of noise… This distracts us from our Self…

It behooves us to quiet down and become more present to authentically show up and be available for our life…

IV. Keeping our own company

 Most people can’t stand it to be alone or to do things alone. And, if we are alone, we are super engaged with busyness and the noise we create in our lives… We don’t know how to keep our own company and savor being with ourselves. We miss out on the opportunity of enjoying our own company and experiencing our Beingness. We squander the opportunity for connecting more deeply with ourselves and truly knowing ourselves…

It behooves us to have experiences by ourselves to fully take them in, savor them and enrich more who we are…

V. Nurturing ourselves

 Nurturing ourselves is how we show ourselves we know we are special. It’s a form of personal validation. When we neglect, or even mistreat ourselves, we sabotage our Human Experience and create a much more challenging life than is necessary…

If we don’t resource ourselves, but are constantly depleting ourselves instead, how are we to have a life full of energy, vitality, health, wellness, and longevity? Most don’t take care of the basic needs, never mind going the extra mile to make the Journey more exquisite…

It behooves us to sprinkle in the luxuries and the treats for a fuller Human Experience…

Self-Connection is the most neglected aspect of our Self-Love Practice and such a detriment to our wellbeing, our ability to create our Best Life and have our Best Human Experience…

 

Watch the video for more on these 5 Tactics to help you more easily embrace Self-Connection… Enjoy!

 

MONTHLY THEME GUIDE: Identifying Core Values

APPLICATION: If Self-Love was a cake, it’d be made of the first 3 Aspects (Self-Honoring, Self-Management, and Self-Care), and it would have Self-Connection as the icing. This is what makes the whole thing. 😋

We all need to have our cake to live a delicious life, a life well lived!

Review which Tactic in this Aspect resonates the most for you and complete the related process below…

I. Fully knowing and accepting all our parts – In your Journal, on a clean page, draw a circle. Divide the circle into 8 equal slices using horizontal, vertical, and diagonal lines, for a pizza effect.

In each slice capture different Parts of yourself, not roles you have but personality-like parts. Try to capture as many sides of yourself as possible, negative and positive, that you can see. Group characteristics as you see fit.

Here is a working example:

1. Ambitious, proactive, conscientious, determined
2. Relator, connector, compassionate, caring
3. Adventurous, courageous, outgoing, friendly
4. Distrusting, controlling, micromanaging, rigid
5. Proud, sensitive, independent, lone-wolf
6. ?
7. ?
8. ?

Then, identify what Parts you would like to have that you don’t already have or don’t recognize in yourself and add them to any available slices.

Finally, create two new Habits: One to counter a negative characteristic you’d like to eliminate, and another to cultivate a positive characteristic you’d like to embrace… This is how we own and evolve ourselves…

II. Having our own back – In your Journal, capture a stream of consciousness about your state- how you are feeling, what’s working, what’s not working, what pleases you, what annoys you and the like… Write for a couple of pages until you feel you have captured your current state (+/- a couple of days…). Go back to what you wrote and identify any themes.

What do they have to do with:

-Your mood, energy, bandwith, stamina? (Wellness)
-Connection, intimacy, love, support, appreciation? (Connection)
-Your productivity, finances, impact? (Success)

Now, select the theme that is torturing you the most and address it with a conversation, new habit, environment tweak, additional support, etc. Make sure you address whatever need is screaming for attention.

III. Being more present – In your Journal, capture a day in the life (your life obviously). Then review it for your level of presence throughout the day…

-Do you have any mindfulness practices
-Do you take intentional breaks?
-Do you protect your focus from distractions?
-Do you make time to connect and attune with loved ones?
-Do you check-in with yourself about how you are doing and what you might need?
-Do you consume inspiring and positive content?
-Do you consume clean and nutritious food?
-Do you minimize the noise in your life?

Rate yourself from 1-10 for how present you are daily, with 10 being super present (quite…).

Commit to increasing your score by a certain amount by a certain time, and identify a change you’ll make to achieve it: Routine tweak, new habit, better boundaries, more support, etc.

IV. Keeping our own company – Unless you are a complete introvert, you most likely have a hard time being alone… And this is true if you are an introvert as well where even if you are alone you are otherwise engaged… You are not keeping your own company…

When we are in constant interaction, with others and otherwise engaged, we don’t get to know, see and honor our Self… We don’t get to Connect with our Self…

Take stock of how often you keep your own company… Where you are engaging with your Self… I bet it’s almost never…

Let’s change that!

-Select a time in your weekly routine where you have Me Time…
-Block off this time, create a recurring event for it, and protect it going forward…
-Make a list of activities, you’d like to do by yourself keeping your own company…
-Ahead of time, pull from this list to do during your Me Time. Complete any planning if your activities requires any scheduling, setting up, etc. This can be part of your Reset for the upcoming week.

Make sure nothing gets in the way of having an amazing time with You!

V. Nurturing ourselves – And this is the Sparklers on our cake! From the first Tactic in the first Aspect to this point, the focus has primarily been on making sure we honor and take care of ourselves well and to the fullest extent to ensure we can do famously in our Journey…

This Tactic is about adding more joy, fun, experiences and indulgences to make the journey more worthwhile!

-Make a list of the little things that give you joy.

Here are a few of mine that I grabbed from just my morning routine…

• Water, supportive water bottles
• Transcendental affirmations
• Meditation, spa eye pillow, infrared heating pad
• Exercising, gym, yoga
• Yerba mate, herbal tea, spiced warm lemon water, ACV (apple cider vinegar)
• Learning and consuming inspiring content
• Tibetan flute and nature sounds playlist, Tibetan bowl, gong
• Diffuser with aromatherapy oils, aromatherapy candles, incense, sage, palo santo
• Journaling, visioning, planning
• Fresh flowers

-Then, make a list of experiences you want to have, Bucket List like.

-Finally, make a list of indulgences, little and big luxuries, you want to add to your life.

Depending on your lifestyle and Practice, choose a good place to start for you:

-Adding little touches to your daily routine and life 
-Scheduling monthly experiences during your monthly resets
-Planning the integration of more little and big luxuries into your life    

Use these Tactics to keep things fresh and recharged in your life!

 

Voila! This brings us to the conclusion of our Self-Love Practice. We have covered a lot of ground in the past few weeks. You now have 20 Targeted Tactics to help you embrace a Self-Love Practice and help you upgrade your life!

A Self-Love Practice allows us to have better relationships with others…. More about creating amazing relationships next month!

Wishing you much joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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Embracing Self-Care and Resilience (VIDEO)

Embracing Self-Care and Resilience (VIDEO)

This is about the toughest week of the year… This is when we have Blue Monday, supposedly the saddest day of the year. Bills come in from the holidays, attempts at new habits start falling to the wayside, hibernation is knocking on our door, and things just feel heavy. It’s rough to get going on creating our Best Year Yet… What’s needed is an influx of energy to set us on the right path. The best way to do that is by Embracing Self-Care and Resilience…

Self-Care is one of the 4 Aspects of Self-Love we are working on to help us start the New Year right…

Self-Honoring and Being
Self-Management and Flow
Self-Care and Resilience
Self-Connection and Radiance

Self-Care is about taking good care of ourselves- with having a wholistic self-care practice that generates vitality, health and wellbeing.

There are a lot of definitions and information out there about how to do a Self-Care Practice. My Self-Care Practice is on steroids and became the Self-Love Practice we’ve been working on… LOL

I like to look at Self-Care as solely the activities that nourish and take care of our body and wellbeing: Sleep, exercise, nutrition/supplementation/hydration, grooming/hygiene and relaxation/mindfulness.

When we give these activities the proper attention, we are taking care of our “meat suit”, our human vehicle, so that it allows us to have a beautiful, full and long human experience…

When we take proper care of ourselves, we slowdown the aging process, we increase our health, vitality, longevity and ability to truly enjoy our life. Who wants to get to an advanced age and be decrepit? Or, worse be decrepit now or have a short-lived life?

Having a rich Self-Care Practice allows us to have boundless energy and larger bandwidth, be healthy and fit, look and feel amazing, have more focus and stamina, and the ability for higher performance in all areas of our life.

A rich Self-Care Practice gives us the ability to feel happy and joyous more consistently, to better self-regulate and to be less triggerable… It helps with our wellbeing and resilience…

 

Watch the video for Tactics to uplevel the 5 Pillars of your Self-Care Practice… Enjoy!

 

MONTHLY THEME GUIDE: Identifying Core Values

APPLICATION: Some see self-care as a mysterious concept and have the mindset that only privileged or lazy people can afford it. They might consider it a luxury or a waste of time to do things to take care of themselves…  Or, they truly believe they don’t have the resources for it… If this is you, I challenge you to consider that you can’t afford not to invest in taking care of yourself…

You don’t have to invest a tremendous amount of resources doing self-care tactics, you just need to make targeted investments to get the results you want.

 

STEP 1 – Decide what is it you want in terms of your fitness, health, and wellness. How are you doing in these areas and how would you like them to be, how would you like to feel?

Take stock of your energy level, mood, health, fitness, and appearance. What can use some upleveling?

 

STEP 2 – Review the Pillars below and choose one to focus on that will address the area you want to target and that will give you the most immediate results.

Depending on your current state and lifestyle, you might need to start with the basics, or you might want more advanced and nuanced strategies.

I provide a range of ideas here to get you going, feel free to do additional research to take charge of the Pillar you identify as your current focus.

 

Pillar 1 – Sleep: Research shows that most people are sleep deprived. When sleep is the thing that detoxes and cleans, repairs and heals, and recharges us. We tend to short-change ourselves when it comes to sleep.

At the end of the day, it’s not really about the amount of sleep but the quality of sleep you get that allows you to go through all the sleep cycles several times a night to get the most benefit from your sleep.

The key is to have good Sleep Hygiene:

 💤 Reverse engineer what time you want to get up in the morning, and back up to what time you’d need to go to bed to get up at that time while giving you an average of 7 hours of sleep.

💤  Start shifting gears for sleep two hours before your bedtime – no food, drinks, blue light

💤  Start your night routine at least 30 min before you want to be asleep – account for all the things you want to do before you fall asleep…

Like: Prepping for the next day, doing your skin care routine, activating your soothing bedroom environment, gratitude journaling, connecting with your partner, reading

💤 Commit to lights out and shutting down by your sleep time

💤  Set your alarm to wake you up at the time your chose and turn off snooze, get up when your alarm goes off

 

Pillar 2 – Exercise: You might be doing everything right, but if you are not exercising you won’t achieve your fitness, health and wellness goals… Which are needed to support the rest of the goals in our life and to truly live a well-lived life…

There are tons of myths about exercise, and exercising as we used to understand exercising is more harmful than good. For example, spending hours doing cardio to lose weight has proven to be an ineffective tactic (you lose muscle mass which slows down your metabolism)…

What seems to be better supported is a combination of:

🏃‍♀️ High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT)
🏋️‍♀️ Resistance Training
🧘‍♀️ Flexibility Training

You can create a basic workout routine that incorporates all 3 per workout session or on rotation that makes sense for your life and that is enjoyable for you.

And you can choose what types of activities to do for each. You can put in as much or a little into this as you wish as long as you cover your basics. 

*Consult your doctor if you have any medical conditions.

 

Pillar 3 – Nutrition, Supplementation and Hydration: The key here is to understand your goal and to feed yourself accordingly in a nutritious and healthy manner… There are so many ways of eating and so many different diet protocols and they all contradict each other- your head can explode trying to figure out how to eat…

My suggestion is that if you are just now beginning to take charge of your consumption that you start small and with the basics:

🤩Reduce your caloric intake- consume calories in relation to how you spend calories, reduce to a reasonable intake that still provides you with enough energy and nutrition (for women an average of 1500 cal/day does the trick but do your own research to match your situation)

🥙Eat cleaner- just stop eating all the processed foods and junk, and greatly reduce your alcohol consumption!

🥗Step it up to even cleaner eating- reduce any inflammatory foods you recognize your body doesn’t like (bloat, pimples, constipation, foggy brain, etc.)- like gluten, dairy, soy, eggs, peanuts/other nuts, corn, cruciferous vegetables, beans, nightshade vegetables, sweeteners, onion/garlic, caffeine (increases cortisol levels!).

📞Consult a nutritionist or functional doctor– get specific guidance if you are lost, confused or need additional support for creating a plan that works for you and your body… And for proper supplementation.

💧Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate- Shoot for 32 to 64 onz (1 to 2 liters) of water per day and you can step it up as you desire… I’ve been using this bottle to give me a visual of how I’m doing…

*Consult your doctor if you have any medical conditions.

 

Pillar 4 – Grooming and Hygiene: This is totally a personal choice of course. But I have it here as part of taking care of our body. A groomed body looks better, is more youthful and lasts longer…

👁Taking care of our skin, hair, teeth, eyes (hydrating with eyedrops helps maintain good vision!), etc. goes a long way.

💄Minding our products is super important as we try to become radiant from the inside out and minimize the toxins we put in our bodies…

🧹Adding a detoxing routine is a great practice – like body rolling, face rolling and skin brushing.

 

Pillar 5 – Relaxation and Mindfulness: Can you believe that we forget to breathe? LOL

We might shallow-breath to get air in for survival, but in general we don’t breathe well. We don’t get enough clean air circulating through our body.

Additionally, we don’t stop to smell the roses. We are always on go mode or mindlessly taking a break or so called relaxing.

We don’t properly restore, recharge and rejuvenate.

Our daily routine needs to include practices for being present and grounded, intentional breaks, and restorative activities like:

• Meditation
• Visualization
• Breath Work
• Taking a break from our computer and other devices
• Stretching
• Connection calls
• Pursuing an interest or hobby

Regardless of where you are with your Self-Care Practice, it’s always nice to shake things up, spruce them up and uplevel them. Focus on the Pillar that makes the most sense for you to address first, then tackle the rest as you make progress.

Don’t take all this on at once. It can be very overwhelming to make so many changes at once, and you won’t be able to fully integrate them into your life if you start slipping up (which you will if you do too much at once).

Once you selected your Pillar, do the research, set up the routines, set up the supportive environments, put all the things in place to help you work your Pillar.

 

Have fun with this. This is a lifelong pursuit. Enjoy the process!

Wishing you much joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

 

 

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