I know not everybody enjoys and thrives during the holidays. Most actually don’t and struggle. I’m sorry if this is you. Tackling our Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP)might help… I know that our clients that fully embrace this process fare much better than those that don’t when the new year comes around… If you struggle please Gift this process to yourself!
I’ve been writing about Gifting and Giving and how being generous is a key element to feeling happy. How Gifting and Giving adds meaning to our lives.
What I’ve noticed with this Theme, is that people might be awesome at Giving to others but they are not as awesome at giving to themselves… And, I’m not talking about buying ourselves the latest new thing. For those that care for themselves with material things might not be caring for themselves in more important and impactful ways…
I’m talking about Giving ourselves the gift of our own Presence… Of good nutrition. Of exercise. Of sleep. Of free time. Of pampering. Of leisure and pleasure. Of playfulness. Of support. Of a Mindfulness Practice. Of mental spaciousness… This is being Generous with ourselves!
Remember from last week’s article, that generosity stimulates the same neural network that lights up with physical pleasure… It makes us feel happy. Being generous with ourselves gives us the benefit of not only caring for ourselves and all the benefits that come along with that, but also the benefit of actual Giving. This is a 2-for-1 deal!
It behooves us then, if we care about our happiness and wellness, if we care about our success, to Give to our ourselves as diligently as we give to our loved ones, and even strangers.
So how about it? As you are working through Aspects1-3 of the HYP, be mindful of this concept and weave it into your experience… This will make or break your month! (a little dramatization for good measure is always fun to add!).
Select and implement a way to Give to yourself that makes life easier, smoother and more rewarding. Keep it simple, choose something that recharges and replenishes. Enjoy!!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Receiving!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Plan out and implement a simple Holiday Self-Care Practice™. Streamline all the hoopla. Invest in what really recharges and replenishes you. Give to yourself generously. Take it in.
Make it fun and enjoy!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Giving in whatever manner tickles our heart is a significant path to feeling happiness. Our Giving doesn’t just touch others’ hearts and maybe even meet their needs with our gestures. Our Giving is also good for us. The act of giving and being generous stimulates the same neural network that light up when we feel physical pleasure… This week gives us a great opportunity to Give in additional ways.
#GivingTuesday has become a significant part of the holiday experience. Did you participate yet? What causes are dear to your heart? Do you have certain organizations you sponsor, or show extra support or generosity during the holidays?
As you might already know, mine have to do with orphan, or vulnerable, children. I like to make it a point to bring this up around this time of year as November is Adoption Month. If you are inclined to extend the concept of #GivingTuesday to also support this organizations that would be just super!
As we are making our way through my Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP) this also ties in with Aspect2, of experiencing meaningful and joyous holidays as we remain productive. It doesn’t take much to add meaning to our life… Having a generous heart is a must in my book!
Now without further ado, let’s tackle Aspect3 of our HYP. This Aspect has to do with unapologetically implementing any last task or project for the year that would put this year over the finish line. This does not mean you try to implement or achieve everything you haven’t for the year! And, this time of year doesn’t mean you can now slack off as if the year is over. There is still a month left where you can put icing on your cake.
Go back to the list you created in Aspect1, where you identified things you didn’t get to yet this year. Now, be brutally selective in picking an experience or project you still want to fit in. There are four weeks left to the end of the year and there is a lot of holiday merriment going on. So, be realistic in what you can tackle. There is no need to make yourself nuts. This is to add to your experience not to ruin it!
Create a plan to simply and elegantly implement your project or have your experience. This can be as simple as embracing a daily generous and present attitude in life… How would it make you feel to have fit this in? The goal is to feel accomplished, successful and proud. Shoot for this and your year will have been a smashing success!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Giving!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Invite your partner to do Aspect3 of the Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP).
Here you get to be vulnerable about where you are for the year personally and request support in fitting in a last project or experience to put this year over the finish line.
The project or experience can be relationship or family related as well. The key is to discuss the desire from an open and compassionate place to be able to agree to move forward with the choice and to support each other through it.
Choose what it will be, map it out, and identify a celebratory ritual at its completion, or at the end of the year whichever comes first.
Go at it, support each other, and have fun!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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I noticed that when the weather and seasons don’t line up as we expect them, that we are a little thrown off. If you are feeling rushed, discombobulated, and a bit out of sorts this could be part of the reason. What do you need to do to catch up with Mother Nature?
This brings me to fully embracing the lessons of Mother Nature, the Seasons, of the Fall Season. We are energetically connected to and directly affected by the rhythms of nature. You might have noticed its strong influence in my writing. We are a part of nature and ebb and flow with it.
Fall is the Season for Letting Go… The leaves turn color and prepare to let go, fruits are harvested. The weather is chillier. The land is left fallow. As nature turns inwards, so do we turn inside and inwards… We also let go, restock, and prepare for the new growth…
Earlier in the Season I’ve encouraged you to keep your routines simple and streamline your operations, that was in preparation for further embracing all the Season has to offer. Now we take this a step further. Now is the time to let go of anything that doesn’t work for you, is in the way or blocking your path.
Now is the time to set the intention to let go of anything that doesn’t serve you, known and unknown… Now is the time to let go of unwanted energy and to develop one that is desired… Now is the time to let go of any space and time suckers in preparation for new growth, new possibilities. This allows Life’s balance between growth and rest, expansion and conservation.
This allows space for us to notice the beauty and bounty of the season. This allows us to embody a gratefulness practice and the joys of the Thanksgiving Season. As we continue on our Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP) this ties in with Aspect2, of experiencing meaningful and joyous holidays as we remain productive… So, let’s go with the Season’s Letting Go…
Create space for a loving heart, for compassion, for gratefulness, for appreciation, for seeing the abundance, the blessings, and the miracles all around us…
Create space for new possibilities, for new growth, for newness that make your heart, your Soul sing. Let go.
Connect with the space, with the stillness this engenders. Connect with your Self. Listen…
How are you inspired to celebrate Thanksgiving, to give Thanks, to show your Love and Appreciation? Let that guide your Holiday and enrich your upcoming days…
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Letting Go!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Invite your partner to do Aspect2 of the Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP).
Identify, create, a time of quiet and privacy where you can relax, and explore and play with this one.
Have an open and free discussion, share your internal world, about things you’d like to Let Go. Create a no-judgement zone before you start: Promise not to interrupt, judge, analyze, compare, give advice or any such. You are each to share from a vulnerable place and listen to the other with an open mind and loving heart.
When you are done, say an intention of Letting Go of these things, and let them go…
Appreciate and acknowledge each other’s courage for being vulnerable and taking this step.
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Hope this issue finds you feeling amazing! I’m having an overwhelming feeling of gratitude toward our clients and how our relationship enriches my own Life. If you work with us, know that I truly appreciate you, your uniqueness and loveliness. This Season helps us Focus on what we are grateful for and appreciate.
As I’ve been walking my walk and enhancing my Gratefulness Practice this month, my heart is overflowing with appreciation for everything and everyone…I’ve been finding more acceptance, forgiveness and appreciation even for those people that can sometimes be annoying to me. LOL It’s actually pretty cool! This is a State we can all stand to embrace more of the time!
What has your current attention? Is this in Alignment with your Personal Prime Directive™ (PPD)? It is of at most importance to know what makes you tick, what you value, what drives you, and the like. When you have this handy and weave it into the fabric of your Life, Gosh, what a life you’d create.
For you’d be supporting, honoring and leveraging yourself… I find that typically most people don’t operate at their highest potential nor ever achieve peak performance and related levels of success.
This is because they are banging around through life, not fully owning themselves nor capitalizing on their gifts. They squander their energy, don’t stay focused and don’t optimally utilize themselves. I implore you to identify your PPD so you are truly personally informed as you plan your Holiday Season, start wrapping up the year, and get ready for the New Year.
Any Holiday bumps can be minimized this way, you can really milk and get super results with the time left in the year, and you can strategically set yourself up for an amazingly successful upcoming year. I shared my Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP) in the last issue and assigned it to you for H.W. for the next two months…
As you play with your HYP, you’ll notice that you might automatically do some of this already and you might have already made a dent in it. If that’s the case, kudos! Now review the Aspects below for anything remaining in each that you still would like to tackle…
Assessing how the year fared and what else is to be experienced to deem it a successful year
Designing meaningful and joyous holidays while remaining sanely productive
Implementing anything still desired be accomplished for the year
Strategizing and planning for the upcoming year
Did you do Aspect1 yet? This is where you get to reminisce over the past year. Thoroughly assess how you did. List all the:
challenges you faced and what you learned
changes you’ve made and ways you’ve grown
items and projects you completed
accomplishments that make you proud
great experiences you had
lovely memories you created
contributions and ways in which you made a difference
special things you did to brighten others’ lives
items, projects, experiences still on your list for the year (don’t worry about this, we’ll come back to it in Aspect3!)
Wow, aren’t you amazing!? I bet you didn’t realize how much awesomeness you’ve been spreading around. We usually tend to focus on the things we didn’t do well, didn’t get to or didn’t enjoy. This exercise balances out that proclivity for a more authentic, positive and richer view of this timeframe.
Look at your list, find the beauty, shift and progress. How do the items make you feel? Feel the pride, excitement, joy, love, gratefulness. Relish your awesomeness.
Now, think about a way to celebrate your Accomplishment. Acknowledge the good, celebrate the good, rejoice in the good. All is Good. Enjoy!!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Reminiscing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Invite your partner to do Aspect1 of the Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP).
Complete your individual lists by adding at the bottom 3 ways in which you’d like your partner to celebrate or acknowledge you.
Share your lists with each other. Discuss items from your partner’s list that:
– surprised you
– made you especially proud for your partner
– touched your heart
– you personally appreciated or enjoyed
– you want to enjoy again
Select 1 of the ways your partner noted they’d like to be celebrated or acknowledged and Gift that to them within the next two weeks.
Celebrate!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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With two months left to the year and the impending holidays, now is the time to focus our attention on our Life Designing before things get super hectic and festive using the Holiday & Year-End Process™ (HYP):
Assessing how the year has fared, what’s left to tackle and experience to feel the year was a success
Designing meaningful and joyous holidays for maximum merriment while remaining sanely productive
Implementing anything you still desire to accomplish for the year
Strategizing and planning for the upcoming year
This might feel like a lot, but it doesn’t have to be. Investing some intentionality and foresight into these pays huge dividends later. I see a tremendous difference in our clients who address this early vs those who don’t. They have a very different holiday and new year experience…
We left off in the last issue with living your life by your Personal Prime Directive™ (PPD):
It’s essential that you are Intentional about weaving your PPD through your holiday and end-of-year planning! You don’t have to have a formal PPD to bring Intentionality to your process. The main concept is to own and honor yourself, in all you do.
Look at the PPD components above and see if any of them call out to you for further development. Honor this inclination, listen to your gut, for if something in you says, “ooh, that’s interesting”, that means you can greatly benefit from exploring it…
Then look at the 4 Aspects of the Process outlined above and start tackling them in the order that makes sense for your Life. Use the PPD lens, owning and honoring yourself, as you do this… I recommend that you do Aspects 1 and 2 first as these will influence the other two… This is your H.W. for the next two months. Embrace this process, it’s well worth the investment!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Planning!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Take a look at how you usually go about planning and celebrating Thanksgiving. Make note of what you want to do differently this year that would make this Thanksgiving Celebration more meaningful for you.
Whatever you came up with, think of a simple way of achieving that.
Integrate that into your planning now so you don’t just think about it but actually carry it out…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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