Discover the newness instore for you… (VIDEO)

Discover the newness instore for you… (VIDEO)

We’ve done amazing work this month getting rid of the noise, creating spaciousness, revitalizing ourselves, and just refreshing for newness… When we clean up, when we create space, when we reorganize, when we get quiet, attuned, and inspired, then we are able to tap into new realms… We can tap into anything we want… The universe is the limit… Let’s discover the newness instore for you…

We can Discover newness only when we are ready for it… If we continue to have, do and be the same old, we’ll continue to create the same old… Make sure you have Refreshed for Newness:

Declutter
Detox
Deconstruct
Dream

This refreshing process has led us to Dreaming our big dreams… Now we can take the next step in making change happen. I’m sure you’ve already experienced some shifts as you created new energy and flow… Let’s now ride this momentum to mold and create what we desire… It is time to Discover the possibilities…

Dreams will stay just dreams if we don’t do anything about them…

It is our job to explore the possibilities and how to make them happen. But before we get to the how and the what, we must first explore the Why

The Why is the inspiration, the motivator, the driver, the focus- it’s what keeps us going when it seems unplausible and impossible…

Doing the drudgery of our life, the minutiae and the everyday is mind numbing and tedious when there is nothing we are shooting for. We need a North Star to make even the most mundane meaningful… Our North Star is our Why, it is our creation, it is the reason for our Human Experience… This is what give our life meaning and makes it worth living!

So, what is your big dream? What’s the Why behind it?

Keep asking yourself why is that important. Once you have an answer, ask why is That important. Once you have an answer to that, now ask again why is That important. And, so on, a few times, until you get a deep and meaningful answer…

This is the Big Lens to keep on as you plan, organize, and go about your life. Have everything be informed by this…

 

What is Possible…

Now, you are ready to explore the possibilities and Discover the newness instore for you…

The environments – What’s décor, feel, brand? What purposes do they meet? What systems are included? What experiences do they inspire?

The everyday – What are your routines and habits? How will you show up? What parts of you are you owning, embracing, showcasing? How are you stretching and evolving?

The relationship/s – How are you treating others? How are you nurturing your relationships? How are you creating meaningful interactions? How are you enjoying your loved ones?

The achievements – What are you working towards? What are your strategies? What are your projects? Who are in your Teams?

The big picture – What kind of life do you want to live? What do you want to have accomplished at the end? What would have been an extraordinary life?

 

You see when we created spaciousness, cleaned up our ways and reorganized ourselves, we created opportunity… It is up to us to use the new energy and possibilities to create something new… We can create whatever we desire…

 

Watch the video for embracing this refresh and creating something new… Enjoy!

 

MONTHLY THEME GUIDE: Refresh for Newness Checklist

APPLICATION: You have the space, you have a new energy surge, you have a vision, you have possibilities… Let’s make something new happen!

~ Select an area to focus on:
The environments
The everyday
The relationship/s
The achievements
The big picture

~ Choose 3 tactics to implement to bring that area closer to your dream reality

~ Take action on the tactics today to start making your dreams come true

Own your dreams, enjoy your dreams!

 

And, this concludes our refresh series. Hope you played along, and that you played full out. Remember, there is no return if you don’t invest!

Stay tuned for our upcoming series on a new theme.

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

 

PS: Masterclasses

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~ Creating a Self-Love Practice – Designing and implementing your personalized practice

~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat – Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply

They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes

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Dream and inspire your alternate reality

Dream and inspire your alternate reality

I’m sure you’ve heard a version of the saying that if you can see it, you can create it. Yes? What does this mean for you? Does this mean that the Elon Musks of the world get to have huge dreams and then make them happen allowing us to space travel and such? I say we own our own power a bit more and embrace what we can see, we can create also… How about it? Let’s dream and inspire your alternate reality…

Somewhere along the way we lost our ability to dream big… Hey, some lost their ability to dream period. We’ve been taught to be realistic, practical, and not to shoot for pies in the sky… I call that bullbleep!

Any real advancement in our society has come from dreaming. Any real achievements by people have come from their dreaming. Anything I have achieved in my life, including birthing and raising the loveliest of human beings, our daughter, has come from dreaming. I’m sure this is true for you- that anything that you have done you have dreamed first…

So, why then stop and settle for what we have created so far? If our imagination and our dreaming got us this far, it can take us even further… Why not? The Universe is literally the limit…

I say we take ourselves playfully seriously and embark in allowing ourselves to Dream again, to dream more, to dream bigger…

This is one of the qualities that makes us endearingly human… This is a quality that is necessary for our survival as a species and for our continued evolution. This is the same quality in each of us that allows us to have our Best Human Experience. This is the quality that will allow you to take your relationship and your life to the next level…

In our Refresh for Newness series this month, we have been getting ready to create our New Reality… We covered: Decluttering, Detoxing, and Deconstructing

Now we turn to Dreaming up our new reality for if we can see it, we can create it… Let’s envision our glorious Journey, let’s create our Life Vision, let’s connect with our Alternate Reality where our bigger dreams can come true…

 

Our Alternate Reality…

We are taking out the big guns now. LOL In the last post on Deconstructing, we started creating our new reality, but it was still reality based… We started breaking up what Is, and creating space for something new… We started creating something new… But now, I want us to challenge ourselves to take this a step further…

Why stay within the realm of what we know might be possible and shoot for just improving…? (And few don’t even allow themselves this luxury! UGH!) Why not go beyond that? Why not envision the best we can? Why not shoot for more, for much more…?

For example, why shoot for just getting along with your partner, having more intimacy, and creating a lovely lifestyle- when you can shoot for creating the strongest and greatest partnership ever and having an epic love affair with your partner. Where the everyday is just that, and we operate jointly at a higher level of creation, fulfillment, and enjoyment… See what I mean?

~ What would this strongest and greatest partnership ever with your partner look like?
~ What would this epic love affair with your partner look like?

This is when you start with a blank canvas, forget your history, your story, your dynamics, who you each have become in your relationship, who you think you each are, what you think your limitations are, etc., and start completely fresh… Start imagining your best relationship ever, with your partner, without any reservations…

This is a super powerful exercise that allows you to stretch into what is possible…

Do the same for the rest of your life. Think as big as you can for what you want your life to be… Watch out for those limiting beliefs and any reservations…

Just dream your Dream, full stop.

When you exercise the power of your imagination. When you stretch to visualize beyond the ordinary. When you embrace your courage to become your extraordinary self and create your extraordinary life. You do!

Give yourself the chance to create beyond what you’ve been creating… Give yourself the chance to take your whole entire life to the next level. Why not??

I say let’s start now. Don’t let fear get you. Don’t let doubt get you. Don’t let yourself get in your own way. You can become the next version of yourself and create your next level in your relationship and your life starting right now.

Just visualize your Best Life, in a vacuum… Yes, that’s the secret- start from scratch and dream your big dream…

Let your dreaming invite newness, create opportunities, open new possibilities, inspire you…   

I’ll spare you the explanation of what your brain, psyche, relationship/s, the universe will do with this- just trust and play full out!

 

MONTHLY THEME GUIDE: Refresh for Newness Checklist

 

APPLICATION: Make a commitment to trust and allow, to be open to newness…

~ Set time to be with yourself and for going inward, to dream…
~ Let yourself relax and be in the moment, let go of responsibilities and shut out distractions.
~ Explore in your mind’s eye or with your imagination what you’d like your ideal, best, extraordinary life to be, look and feel like… Explore all areas of your life, including your relationship of course.
~ Imagine yourself in that life- what are you like, what do you look like, and how do you feel. What do you love about this life and how does that make you feel?
~ Sit with your newfound cocktail of feelings and bring those back with you upon completing this experience…

Capture in your Journal what stood out to you from your dreaming and visioning… What were the most prevalent feelings… Make it a point to feel the feeling you felt, regardless of your external experience…

Our best life starts inside ourselves…

 

We are cooking with gas now! We’ve decluttered, we’ve detoxed, we’ve deconstructed, we’ve dreamed… Stay tuned for making your dreams come true with next week’s post.

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

PS: Masterclasses

‍💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:

~ Creating a Self-Love Practice – Designing and implementing your personalized practice

~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat – Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply

They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes

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Deconstruct to allow for a new reality

Deconstruct to allow for a new reality

Certain times of the year are great for letting go and clearing. Now is one of those times. We can declutter and detox and do other letting go practices and activities. The key is to surrender the old, the grip on our potential, and allow ourselves the opportunity to create something new. Better yet, with the spaciousness and restructuring we allow for newness to automatically emerge… Let’s deconstruct to allow for a new reality…  

We are focused this month on refreshing to allow for this newness, so far we covered:

Decluttering and Detoxing

You can get the Refresh for Newness Checklist to track your progress… 

Today we are focusing on Deconstructing… We want to shake up the belief systems, narratives and stories we hold about who we are, our relationship and our life…

We like to believe that we live in a solid and static reality, that what we see and measure is what Is… But scientists have proven this ideology wrong, and that the observer influences what is observed… We live in a fluid reality (actually, we live in a multiverse/reality, but that’s beyond this writing! LOL). Feel free to do your own research if this is a new concept for you…

Our reality is what we make of it as it is what we observe… Additionally, what we observe is influenced by who we are, or rather what lens we put on…

~We have a choice on how we look at things, what we choose to see and how we interpret them

~We have a choice on how we think about things, how we spin them and the meaning we give them

~We have a choice on how we proceed with what we think and how we allow it to dictate the rest

What is fascinating about this is that there is choice everywhere, even the lens we put on…

Everything is constructed… There is no real true reality!

What does this mean for us? It means freedom, that’s what it means. It means we don’t have to be beholding to the habit of being ourselves… 

  • We don’t have to be stuck with the hand we believe we were dealt…
  • We don’t have to be who we think we are.
  • We don’t have to be in the relationship we think we are in.
  • We don’t have to have the partner we believe we have.
  • And so on, for all this is constructed!

Everything in our life is the repetition of the observation, the thought, the feeling and the behavior. These are all habits (patterns)!

You can decide to be a different person, and be it. You can decide to have a different partner, and have a different partner (without exchanging them for a new person). You can decide to have a different relationship, and have it. You can decide to have a different life, and so it is…

I’m sure this feels really farfetched if you are not used to this fluidity… and looking at things this way… But give it a try nonetheless.

It is extremely liberating to surrender the constraints of what we think Is

 

A New Reality…

We can create whatever reality we want… Once you are open to this possibility, anything is possible (pun intended!).  

Self – What character strengths would you like to have? What kind of person do you want to be? How do you want to show up in the world?

Start cultivating these strengths, show up as the person you want to be… Keep course correcting when you go back to being your usual self. It takes a while to create a new habit…

Relationship – What kind of partner do you want to be? What kind of relationship do you want to create? How do you want to show up to your relationship?

Start showing up as this partner, responding as this partner and nurturing as this partner… Keep course correcting when you go back to interacting with your usual self (when your partner supposedly instigated something from you [purposeful sarcasm]). It takes a while to create a new habit…

Life – What kind of life do you want to have? How abundant is your life? What experiences do you want to have? How is your life meaningful?

Start noticing more all the awesomeness in your life, being more grateful for everything in it, setting intentions for experiencing your amazing life, and upgrading the meaning you give it… Keep course correcting when you go back to your usual witnessing self. It takes a while to create a new habit…

Pay attention to your belief systems, your narratives and your stories – all these can be dismantled and reassembled in any way you’d like… You can make any case you want… Make beautiful and empowering ones!

You can connect dots however you like to make up whatever picture you want…

You can interpret data however you like to make whatever case you want…

Your reality is just a construction… Construct what you want!

This is your starting point, deconstruct and reconstruct what you already have… See the freshness emerging already!?

 

MONTHLY THEME GUIDE: Refresh for Newness Checklist

APPLICATION: Select what area you want to focus on shifting immediately: Self, Relationship, Life

~ Set time aside to play with your reality

~ Review how you look at your selected area- what is your usual experience and how would you describe it

~ Then look for what other ways you can choose to experience your reality- what if you were to look at it from a 180 degree perspective, what if you were to make the opposite case of what you normally make, what if you were to make a case from your partner’s perspective (or someone else), what if you were to make a case from your therapist’s perspective, what if you were to make a case from your higher self’s perspective, what if- keep going…

Sit with the spaciousness and freshness created… From here anything is possible…

 

Embracing this concept liberates us from constraints, self-sabotage and self-imposed limitations. This creates a surge of energy that brings freshness and newness. And with them the possibility for new beginnings…

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

PS: Masterclasses

‍💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:

~ Creating a Self-Love Practice – Designing and implementing your personalized practice

~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat – Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply

They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes

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Detox to surrender the old and allow the new… (VIDEO)

Detox to surrender the old and allow the new… (VIDEO)

I say stay open-minded to the beauty of this month. I know most people don’t appreciate March for its length, lack of holidays, and as it makes winter linger around these parts. But what if we were to take full advantage of everything this month has to offer?

For starters, for me it feels like I have more time! I just feel more abundance- warmer weather, more sunlight, more sunshine, more weeks, more weekends, more newness… To experience the newness, we also have to let go of the old… Detox to surrender the old and allow the new… 

When we think of detoxing, we usually think of eating clean and giving up other substances to clean up our bodies. We might take it a step further and detox or give up some other things like: cursing, binging on Netflix, screen time, and social media. If this is you, high five!

I’d like to offer expanding your detox practice. Aside from detoxing and giving up the usual during this season, how about embracing a Refreshing Springtime Ritual that really gets rid of the old, and creates space for the new and new beginnings… This includes Decluttering as well, as we covered last week…

What does Detoxing beyond the usual look like? It means detoxing from the things we ingest, partake in, and habits in all areas of our life that don’t support our Best Self, Best Relationship and Best Life… It includes us stopping behaviors that don’t support us personally and our relationship…

Detoxing what doesn’t serve us personally, catapults us into shifting and generating newness in all areas of our life… But let’s take this a step further and let’s directly detox how we show up to our relationship if this is where we are looking to create change…

 

Detox Your Relationship  

Unless we are mindful and stay intentional about how we show up to our relationship day-in-and-day-out, we tend to get a build-up of dullness, bad manners, cringy behaviors and might even revert to old habits.

In a past blog post, I had pointed out things that could be detoxed in our relationship to create space for new interactions and for creating the relationship we desire:

1 ~ Bad Habits – Poor hygiene or self-care, cutting the other off when speaking or finishing their sentences, endlessly speaking about oneself and showing no interest in the other’s world, allowing distractions during meals or talks, taking other people’s sides in stories, running late, not keeping promises, not making timely plans and keeping them.

Not cleaning up after oneself, not showing common courtesies (a call when running late, offering food when getting oneself something, saying thank you, not making noise when the other is sleeping, not leaving dishes in the sink, not leaving hair in the shower or wet towels on the bed, etc.)

2 ~ Chaos – Not having a consistent place for things and putting things away, not having a consistent agreed upon routine, calling insistently and leaving disgruntled messages, reacting to petty things and blowing things out of proportion, not finishing tasks or conversations, juggling a lot of things simultaneously and operating with constant stress.

Not saying no and allowing multiple demands to tug at you, not setting clear expectations and limits, not having support, now working as a team, undermining each other, operating from own agendas

3 ~ Enmeshment – Doing everything together, not having own interests or personal time, telling each other how to be, behave, think, feel and having a running commentary in one’s mind about this, not allowing for individuality and uniqueness.

Putting own needs aside consistently for the other, not identifying own needs and being overly caring of the other, worrying about what the other is or is not doing, not having own voice, pushing for “We” at expense of “I”

4 ~ Disconnect – Having a limited repertoire of joint activities, not eating meals together, going to bed at different times, having only personal pursuits, having too much alone or with own group time.

Not sharing inner world (feelings, thoughts, wishes, dreams, concerns), not sharing one’s activities / world, having more separate plans than joint, not having joint goals, not sharing a calendar, paying bills separately

5 ~ Neglect – Lack of TLC, having a limited repertoire of intimate moves or approach to intimacy, having “sex” less than one time per week, not showing appreciation or acknowledgment, not checking in throughout the day, not greeting each other hello or goodbye and having that include touching.

Not sharing affection, not being on each other’s priority list, not being thoughtful with little things (getting partner a drink when getting oneself one, using all the hot water, doing only one’s laundry, not picking up the cleaners, not putting in gas in the car, eating the last of a favorite dish or dessert, etc.)

6 ~ Toxic Interactions – Disrespect with yelling, cursing, interrupting, or digging at the other, not supporting activities, wishes, or the other’s uniqueness and needs, undermining by not keeping agreements, setting up interactions not conducive to the task at hand, controlling by “owning” the other, manipulation to get own way or not allow the other to get theirs, passive-aggressiveness in not showing up and being accountable.

Criticism, banter and jokes at the other’s expense, constant complaining and whining, gossiping about others and leaking energy out of the relationship, lies, cover ups and secrets, resentment, anger and lack of resolution to concerns, not allowing each other to express feelings, not allowing each other to be their own person, being self-absorbed

 

Aren’t these powerful? We can certainly have a build-up of toxicity in our relationship if we are not mindful about how we show up on an ongoing basis. But additionally, it doesn’t hurt to take stock every so often and make sure we reset and catch anything that slip through…

Springtime is a perfect time for this assessment and to take a concerted approach about clearing all the gunk that has build-up. 

 

Watch the video for on these relationship detoxing areas… Enjoy! 

 

MONTHLY THEME GUIDE: Refresh for Newness Checklist

APPLICATION: Select a detoxing area that seems the most bogged down in your relationship. You can continue onto the others as you need.

~ List all the ways you are not proud of how you show up to your relationship in the area you identified

~ Sort the items in your list by themes: Manners, responses, habits, TLC, time, and such

~ Focusing on one theme at a time, go to town cleaning up your act and stepping up how you show up

~ Share your observation and intention with your partner and invite them to join the detox

~ You might even want to gamify this for kicks

Bring lightness to your approach and have fun!

 

There are different ways to refresh your relationship, but a good scrub and detox is so easy and fun.

Don’t pass up this simple way to generate spaciousness for new beginnings…

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

PS: Masterclasses

‍💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:

~ Creating a Self-Love Practice – Designing and implementing your personalized practice

~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat – Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply

They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes

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Declutter to create space for newness in your life and your relationship (VIDEO)

Declutter to create space for newness in your life and your relationship (VIDEO)

Happy new month. A new month brings a new beginning. This one is super special as it also brings Spring in these parts. A new season and the season of new beginnings to boot. Just lovely. I hope you are feeling the Spring and freshness in the air, and not just because of the season change, but as change is looming… We want to be ready for the change so we can ride the new wave… Declutter to create space for newness in your life and your relationship.

I know that for myself, when there is too much stuff around me or in my life that I don’t feel well. This might include things like piles of paper. How does that keep happening? I’m still working on cracking the code on not creating more piles, and fully converting to a paperless personal system. We are already paperless in the practice, but the personal just needs some more TLC… LOL

This might include a wake of supplies used for projects, or new purchases and gifts that still need a home. Or, new work processes that still need to be streamlined, too many projects, or a packed calendar.

I know I feel amazing where there is more flow in my life- more spaciousness in my days, in my routines, and in my workflow. This allows me to better tap into my creativity, to be more present, more patient and more pleasant and compassionate. Including to myself!

Does this resonate for you? That your life might be so packed, even with awesomeness, that then it is challenging to take a moment to smell the roses, to enjoy the creation. And most of the time, our lives are not even packed with awesomeness, they are packed with so much noise…

What does this mean? This means we must wade through the immediate clutter, to create space to tackle the rest of the clutter… It’s like taking everything off a table so you can then use the table to sort and organize your stuff.

To what end? Why is this important? Having spaciousness in our lives allows us to Be in our lives… When our lives are too packed, then we are just doing and not fully living…

 

Spaciousness and Decluttering

When there is spaciousness in our lives, we can more easily take the observer role, assess, get inspiration, course correct, manifest, transcend, witness the magic, enjoy and savor…

Spaciousness allows us to engage and play with different part of ourselves, to show up differently, to better nurture ourselves and others, to experiment with new experiences, to create what we desire…

Creating space in our life allows us to welcome newness in our life…

I love making space. I do this again and again as I’m constantly adding new things in my life, and I want to ensure I maintain the sense of spaciousness. We don’t want to just keep adding stuff. We want the additions to create Newness… 

This means having an ongoing practice of assessing what needs to go. This also means embracing cleansing rituals at specific junctures during the year to support transitions and new chapters… Typically these are during the New Year, Springtime, and Back-to-School/Work…

So, let’s do some decluttering!

Decluttering can obviously be done a multitude of ways, to whatever degree we like, and on whatever catches our fancy.

I go through different phases where my decluttering means I might go all out and deconstruct everything… To where I just clear recent build ups and annoyances.

In a prior issue on decluttering I shared, that I have a Refreshing Springtime Ritual for clearing the old and creating space for the new…

Springtime is a time when I refresh how I do and show up to my life and relationship/s, and I make sure I’m on track with my yearly plan:

• I use this time to clean out junk, excess, accumulation, old things, expired things, no longer wanted things, and such.

• I use this time to clean out, tweak, streamline, retarget, refresh routines, habits, rituals, practices, approaches, and such.

• I use this time to clean out commitments, activities, goals, projects, tasks and such that are no longer in alignment with my values, current vision, and desires.

• I use this time to clean out my mind of any running scripts or limiting believes that might be currently creating havoc, sabotaging, or undermining my endeavors and wishes.

• I use this time to clean out any funky approach, defense mechanisms, or less-than desirable personal characteristics when relating with others especially my most loved ones.

This decluttering, cleaning, clearing, gets rid of anything stale or no longer fitting, and allows for the new to emerge… It’s a wonderful refreshing activity that makes a great addition to our Best Life tactics repertoire.

 

Watch the video for details on these important decluttering areas… Enjoy!

 

APPLICATION: Select a decluttering area that resonates the most for you to focus on decluttering in the coming weeks. You can continue onto the others as you need.

          Set time aside to:

~ Review what you’d like to accomplish with this project

~ Break the project down into smaller focus areas/tasks

~ List your smaller areas/tasks by priority in the order that they’d give you the most respite with the least amount of effort…

~ Schedule your top three items into your calendar- Give each enough time so you can complete them. If it seems that they might not get completed in the amount you allotted, then the task either needs to be split into different time segments or is too large and needs to be broken down further.

Be realistic on how you plan and schedule this as it’ll set the tone for how you make progress…

Enjoy the clearing and witness the new emerge…


When we clear and create spaciousness, we can be more in tune with our intuition, gifts, creativity, compassion, and all the other yumminess that might otherwise elude us when we are on the go. We can feel the rhythms, experience the flow, and ride the new wave…

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

PS: Masterclasses

 🌷 If you missed this month’s Masterclass, or any previous ones, you can still get them through our Member Center:

~ Creating a Self-Love Practice – Designing and implementing your personalized practice

~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat – Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply

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