Wow, the year is almost over! Here is a recap of the Season’s focus. In case you missed it, you might want to take a look at these to see what still applies and what you need to embrace to gracefully waltz into the New Year!
This work is for me equivalent of being a kid in a candy store! I love organizing, planning, strategizing, structuring, systematizing and the like. And as you already know I’m obviously all about healing, growing, developing, evolving, honoring and taking care of ourselves so we can do in the life what we are meant to do. So that we can be amazing for our loved ones. So that we can make a difference in all we do.
This leads me to sharing the BONUS ASPECT of HYP! Aspect Bonus has 5 Parts:
Part 1 – Completing any year end rituals and wrap-up tasks
Part 2 – Designing new habits and daily flowing routine informed by your Strategic Plan
Part 4 – Selecting your New Year Intention, your Focus Term™
Part 5 – Having a New Year Tradition™ to kick-off the New Year!
These are the things that when considered and intentionally and systematically addressed help us create our extraordinary life. We did not choose to be in this world to have an ordinary, boring or disastrous life. We chose to have a full, amazing, wondrous and Brilliant Human Experience™. Are you owning that yet?
Let me bring your attention to Part 4: Selecting your Focus Term™
I’ve written before, and you probably subscribe to this philosophy as well, that I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions. It is a known fact that most Resolutions are not adhered to past the first month of the year at best. Also, by the third week of the year, the post holidays and winter blues set in…
This is a terrible way to progress into the year! It is our responsibility to ourselves to be as preventative around this as possible. This is why I don’t subscribe / prescribe New Year’s Resolutions. Why make a dismal situation worse?
Instead I offer to go in with a gentle, loving, nurturing and compassionate approach. All the completed work outlined above will guarantee a better experience and serve as a preventative measure… Additionally, I love utilizing the concept of using a Focus Term™ to serve as our North Star for the year.
This is not a challenge to our will power as a New Year’s Resolution might feel like. This is a holding, loving hand to support us in our Journey throughout the year.
This is a word that captures the theme of the goals selected during your strategizing, or a desired approach to your life… This is the essence of the Focus for the upcoming year, and which becomes a mantra, focus lens, or filter as you flow through the Journey.
As you are preparing to ring in the New Year, think about your *Focus Term. Here are some to consider:
*These can be used as guiding or playing Themes as well
We did it! You are now equipped with everything you need to rock the New Year! I realize that all this can be a lot of work and feel overwhelming. Just take small bites and keep at it. The investment is well worth it!!!
Stay tuned for how to swing into the new year and setting it up for success in the next issue when I share more about inspiration, motivation, and discipline.
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Waltzing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Recharge to start the New Year right!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Boy, oh boy! Are people struggling right about now. If this is you, please know you are not alone and do not worry we’ll get you out of the funk soon enough! There are plenty of reasons for potentially not feeling well:
Crunch time at work or business, spotlight on life success, overwhelm with the holidays, financial concerns, family-of-origin stressful dynamics and painful memories, relationship dissatisfaction or spotlight on relationship status, over commitment in all areas of life, poor health, fatigue or burn out, and so many others.Unfortunately, this is pretty universal. But you don’t have to let it kick your butt and stay in the funky place!
Let’s shift gears from any funk before we keep tackling our HYP (Holiday and Year-End Process™). If you are not feeling so hot, you have to build in a breather to reset yourself. There is no sense in pushing through, you’ll just make things worse! A breather can be as simple as that – take a few deep breaths when you are feeling down or agitated. This is for immediately managing a moment…
But obviously that’s not enough to turn things around. I’m suggesting also a bit of a larger breather, but that is still not too large. I’m mindful that the experience of lack of time can be part of the issue… So, build your Respite Breather™ into your routine for within the next 24 to 48 hours for anything from 15 min to 90 min… Any version of this investment will do wonders for your state of mind.
During your respite, check with yourself for what’s happening – identify what is triggering your funky feelings. Capture all the different things that are bringing you down or stressing you out, or both, on a piece of paper. Take a deep breath when you finish and give yourself a hug/acknowledgement for holding all this.
Next, pick the one item that is really bothering you and identify a way to address it immediately. Even if it’s not fully resolved, just do something about it! This is relieving and empowering in and of itself…
Remember that you don’t have to struggle or go it alone –
please get assistance or support ASAP
if you can’t seem to get a handle on this.
Switching gears to the funner things, it’s time to tackle Aspect 4 of your HYP. Yay, we are almost there! This is the kind of play I really enjoy. This is when we do Visioning and create our Life Strategic Plan™ to create the life we desire. This is when we Dream and Design. This is when we light our fire for the upcoming year… This is how we inspire and motivate ourselves…
Life Strategic Plan™
Envision your desired relationship and life with your partner in as much detail and feeling as possible. Capture all areas – your ideal day, health/wellness, environments, finances, intimacy, fun, giving back, etc. Write it all out and feel how you’d feel when that picture is real.
ONE – List all the awesome feelings you felt – free, inspired, joyful, abundant, loved, etc. Now, find those feelings in your current life… They are already there… Identify when you feel like that… This is an exercise in living an unconditional life. You don’t need specific conditions to feel great…
TWO – But, because we are striving and creating human beings, living the status quo is not enough and is therefore not an option. We are Alive in our striving and creating…
>> Go back to your vision and pick the top 3 areas that would create the greatest shift in your life if they were different – these are the areas you want to enhance next year (i.e., finances, relationship/s, wellness). Design a milestone to work towards in creating your desire for each of them.
For example, for Relationship:
I have a strong partnership with my husband in which we cocreate our amazing life and enjoy consistent connection.
>> Then create 2 supportive measurable and repeatable behaviors for the three Life Areas you chose to develop, to create new habits and way of being, and integrate them into your life style.
For the example above, for Relationship:
1) We speak every weekday at lunchtime to touch base and connect.
2) We check-in on Sunday evenings about expectations, plans, to-knows and to-dos for the upcoming week.
This is simple yet extremely powerful. You don’t need to turn your life upside down or a new partner to create the relationship and life you desire… Block off some time to do your Visioning and Strategizing within the next two weeks. Keep this commitment with yourself…
Stay tuned for the next issue building on this to help you start the next year right!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Strategizing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Make what’s left of the year count, don’t just survive. Thrive!
Invite your partner to do the Visioning and Strategizing also:
Share your Designs with each other
Acknowledge the beauty in each other’s Plan
Ask for specific actionable support from your partner to assist you implement a particular challenging new behavior
Sprinkle your days till the end of the year with self-care, inspiring, nurturing, recharging or soothing rituals. Here are some suggestions:
Step-up your Mindfulness Practice
Keep a Gratitude Journal
List Appreciations
Read inspiring literature or messages
Build-in Silent Time™ (your own personal “silent retreat”)
Schedule pampering
Do Devoted Actions™ (similar to Karma Yoga)
Prepare or purchase on-the-go nutritious snacks
Listen to upbeat music
Play hooky!
Give your Self, and each other, lots of love and care the rest of this Holiday Season!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
Giving in whatever manner tickles our heart is a significant path to feeling happiness. Our Giving doesn’t just touch others’ hearts and maybe even meet their needs with our gestures. Our Giving is also good for us. The act of giving and being generous stimulates the same neural network that light up when we feel physical pleasure… This week gives us a great opportunity to Give in additional ways.
#GivingTuesday has become a significant part of the holiday experience. Did you participate yet? What causes are dear to your heart? Do you have certain organizations you sponsor, or show extra support or generosity during the holidays?
As you might already know, mine have to do with orphan, or vulnerable, children. I like to make it a point to bring this up around this time of year as November is Adoption Month. If you are inclined to extend the concept of #GivingTuesday to also support this organizations that would be just super!
As we are making our way through my Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP) this also ties in with Aspect2, of experiencing meaningful and joyous holidays as we remain productive. It doesn’t take much to add meaning to our life… Having a generous heart is a must in my book!
Now without further ado, let’s tackle Aspect3 of our HYP. This Aspect has to do with unapologetically implementing any last task or project for the year that would put this year over the finish line. This does not mean you try to implement or achieve everything you haven’t for the year! And, this time of year doesn’t mean you can now slack off as if the year is over. There is still a month left where you can put icing on your cake.
Go back to the list you created in Aspect1, where you identified things you didn’t get to yet this year. Now, be brutally selective in picking an experience or project you still want to fit in. There are four weeks left to the end of the year and there is a lot of holiday merriment going on. So, be realistic in what you can tackle. There is no need to make yourself nuts. This is to add to your experience not to ruin it!
Create a plan to simply and elegantly implement your project or have your experience. This can be as simple as embracing a daily generous and present attitude in life… How would it make you feel to have fit this in? The goal is to feel accomplished, successful and proud. Shoot for this and your year will have been a smashing success!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Giving!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Invite your partner to do Aspect3 of the Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP).
Here you get to be vulnerable about where you are for the year personally and request support in fitting in a last project or experience to put this year over the finish line.
The project or experience can be relationship or family related as well. The key is to discuss the desire from an open and compassionate place to be able to agree to move forward with the choice and to support each other through it.
Choose what it will be, map it out, and identify a celebratory ritual at its completion, or at the end of the year whichever comes first.
Go at it, support each other, and have fun!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
Hope this issue finds you feeling amazing! I’m having an overwhelming feeling of gratitude toward our clients and how our relationship enriches my own Life. If you work with us, know that I truly appreciate you, your uniqueness and loveliness. This Season helps us Focus on what we are grateful for and appreciate.
As I’ve been walking my walk and enhancing my Gratefulness Practice this month, my heart is overflowing with appreciation for everything and everyone…I’ve been finding more acceptance, forgiveness and appreciation even for those people that can sometimes be annoying to me. LOL It’s actually pretty cool! This is a State we can all stand to embrace more of the time!
What has your current attention? Is this in Alignment with your Personal Prime Directive™ (PPD)? It is of at most importance to know what makes you tick, what you value, what drives you, and the like. When you have this handy and weave it into the fabric of your Life, Gosh, what a life you’d create.
For you’d be supporting, honoring and leveraging yourself… I find that typically most people don’t operate at their highest potential nor ever achieve peak performance and related levels of success.
This is because they are banging around through life, not fully owning themselves nor capitalizing on their gifts. They squander their energy, don’t stay focused and don’t optimally utilize themselves. I implore you to identify your PPD so you are truly personally informed as you plan your Holiday Season, start wrapping up the year, and get ready for the New Year.
Any Holiday bumps can be minimized this way, you can really milk and get super results with the time left in the year, and you can strategically set yourself up for an amazingly successful upcoming year. I shared my Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP) in the last issue and assigned it to you for H.W. for the next two months…
As you play with your HYP, you’ll notice that you might automatically do some of this already and you might have already made a dent in it. If that’s the case, kudos! Now review the Aspects below for anything remaining in each that you still would like to tackle…
Assessing how the year fared and what else is to be experienced to deem it a successful year
Designing meaningful and joyous holidays while remaining sanely productive
Implementing anything still desired be accomplished for the year
Strategizing and planning for the upcoming year
Did you do Aspect1 yet? This is where you get to reminisce over the past year. Thoroughly assess how you did. List all the:
challenges you faced and what you learned
changes you’ve made and ways you’ve grown
items and projects you completed
accomplishments that make you proud
great experiences you had
lovely memories you created
contributions and ways in which you made a difference
special things you did to brighten others’ lives
items, projects, experiences still on your list for the year (don’t worry about this, we’ll come back to it in Aspect3!)
Wow, aren’t you amazing!? I bet you didn’t realize how much awesomeness you’ve been spreading around. We usually tend to focus on the things we didn’t do well, didn’t get to or didn’t enjoy. This exercise balances out that proclivity for a more authentic, positive and richer view of this timeframe.
Look at your list, find the beauty, shift and progress. How do the items make you feel? Feel the pride, excitement, joy, love, gratefulness. Relish your awesomeness.
Now, think about a way to celebrate your Accomplishment. Acknowledge the good, celebrate the good, rejoice in the good. All is Good. Enjoy!!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Reminiscing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Invite your partner to do Aspect1 of the Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP).
Complete your individual lists by adding at the bottom 3 ways in which you’d like your partner to celebrate or acknowledge you.
Share your lists with each other. Discuss items from your partner’s list that:
– surprised you
– made you especially proud for your partner
– touched your heart
– you personally appreciated or enjoyed
– you want to enjoy again
Select 1 of the ways your partner noted they’d like to be celebrated or acknowledged and Gift that to them within the next two weeks.
Celebrate!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication?
Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
With two months left to the year and the impending holidays, now is the time to focus our attention on our Life Designing before things get super hectic and festive using the Holiday & Year-End Process™ (HYP):
Assessing how the year has fared, what’s left to tackle and experience to feel the year was a success
Designing meaningful and joyous holidays for maximum merriment while remaining sanely productive
Implementing anything you still desire to accomplish for the year
Strategizing and planning for the upcoming year
This might feel like a lot, but it doesn’t have to be. Investing some intentionality and foresight into these pays huge dividends later. I see a tremendous difference in our clients who address this early vs those who don’t. They have a very different holiday and new year experience…
We left off in the last issue with living your life by your Personal Prime Directive™ (PPD):
It’s essential that you are Intentional about weaving your PPD through your holiday and end-of-year planning! You don’t have to have a formal PPD to bring Intentionality to your process. The main concept is to own and honor yourself, in all you do.
Look at the PPD components above and see if any of them call out to you for further development. Honor this inclination, listen to your gut, for if something in you says, “ooh, that’s interesting”, that means you can greatly benefit from exploring it…
Then look at the 4 Aspects of the Process outlined above and start tackling them in the order that makes sense for your Life. Use the PPD lens, owning and honoring yourself, as you do this… I recommend that you do Aspects 1 and 2 first as these will influence the other two… This is your H.W. for the next two months. Embrace this process, it’s well worth the investment!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Planning!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Take a look at how you usually go about planning and celebrating Thanksgiving. Make note of what you want to do differently this year that would make this Thanksgiving Celebration more meaningful for you.
Whatever you came up with, think of a simple way of achieving that.
Integrate that into your planning now so you don’t just think about it but actually carry it out…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2018 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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