As we wrap up January, things start to perk up. We start getting more traction and picking up momentum for the year. If you have been cranking all along, the more power to you! You might want to moderate your pace, so your investment is sustainable. Regardless of what camp you are in, how are you doing with the new Habits you committed to implementing this year?
I know the people most invested in having an amazing life, are invested in personal development as a means to higher levels of success, in all areas of their life. These are the people stretching themselves. Creating new Habits and investigating better ways to do everything, all the time.
Remember growth and change don’t come easy. You might have already quit trying to forge new Habits. You might not even gotten to implementing them yet. You might still be thinking how you want this year to go. In the whole scheme of things, a few weeks into the year doesn’t make that much of a difference.
You can still do this! Commit to your personal development and give this your best shot. Once the Habit is formed, it’s a HABIT. Then it is just part of your life, not requiring much effort to keep it going. That’s the whole point, isn’t it?
We usually have very specific things we focus on when working on improving our life – specific way of eating, training, working, setting up our home, and the like. But not too often do I hear very specific things partners focus on to nurture their relationship. Now is the perfect time, with Valentine’s Day just around the corner to boot, to set the tone, approach, and new Habits for the best year yet in your relationship!
Then, to start building good Habits you might want to check out our Love Challenge™: Start on February 1st, or at any time you want to Jump-Start, Spring-to-Life, or Reset your relationship. Simple, yet powerful, Daily Relationship Nurturing Nuggets. Treat your partner right! Feel free to tweak, tailor, expand, embellish these to your heart’s content.
And finally, think of what would get your relationship over the hump. What area needs a little TLC? What consistent behaviors can you shower upon this area to make it what you desire? Think about what this area would be like ideally. How do you want it to go? Look like? Feel? Create a vivid picture of how you’d like it to be in your mind’s eye.
Imagine, it’s already like that. How does it feel? Feel the feelings you would feel if it was as you envision… Think how you’d need be to make it so. What parts of you need to come out and play to make it so? How else do you need to grow to fit into this version of your relationship??
Now is the time. Set the tone. Pick the Habit. Make it so!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Nurturing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Make a list of 50 nurturing behaviors you can shower upon your partner.
Make it your business to do them all before VDay!
Make it fun!
Enjoy!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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How do we make sure this year our relationship is better than ever before? Speaking from personal experience, self-care is the key… And, as I’ve been writing, self-care comes in many forms – from having a luxurious pampering session at a spa to being gentle with yourself in your Self Talk to easing up on your overly ambitious agenda… There is being motivated, and there is driving yourself into the ground. What’s the point in that?
One of my favorite self-care habits, as you probably very well know by now, is that of meditating. If you don’t meditate yet or if you dabble and haven’t taken it seriously, you are missing out! I’m telling you, this is like the magic pill. Some of the benefits of meditating include:
Being more aware
Being more clear
Being more aligned
Being more intentional
Being more abundant
Being more positive
Being more happy
Being more grounded
Being more flexible
Being more responsive
Being more energetic
Being more resourceful
Being more healthy
Being more youthful
Being more knowing and wise
Being more expansive
Being more Timeless
Meditating creates the experience of time slowing down, and by default feeling like you have more time and have access to more moments… And you have the ability to be present in all your moments. And by being present in every moment you are more efficient and productive.
And by being present in every moment you get to really enjoy and live your moments. And every moment is more meaningful, and your life is more meaningful… Eh? Who doesn’t want this?
Meditating is not only a self-care practice, it’s a relationship-care™ practice. When we have a meditative, mindfulness practice, we develop a Quite Mind. That’s where all the benefits listed above come from. When we have a quite mind, we are able to have a Transcendental experience of the world, we get the bird’s eye view…
We don’t miss the forest for the tree… A transcended view gives us a different perspective and therefore the ability to see new opportunities… A different perspective allows us to stay steady in the face of a challenge, to more easily see others’ experience and to more intentionally respond to what is in front of us. This is relationship mana!
So, how about it? Pick-up or step-up your mindfulness practice as a means to a more successful relationship, and more meaningful life… This is an investment in your own wellness, and in the wellness of your relationship. This is an Act of Self-Love, and an Act of Love and Kindness for your Partner (current or future!). Let’s go, time to quite your mind!
And, we are now in the 3rd weekend of theLove Launch™ (a 4-weekend series of relationship enrichment tactics before Valentine’s Day weekend). Feel free to jump in!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Transcending!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Explore different ways to develop and expand your Mindfulness Practice…
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How do you like to spend your snow days? Indoor or outdoor? Do you have any fun rituals or traditions? How can you make the time more special? Actually, how can you make your weekends more special regardless of snow?
If you remember, this coming Monday (3rd Monday in January) has been coined Blue Monday not for nothing. As people settle down post holidays and turn toward the year ahead, loss, overwhelm, lack of motivation, anxiety, and sadness have a tendency to creep in… The cold and darker days don’t help any.
So, I want you to use this weekend wisely… You can take charge of your mood, your experience, your path and set the right tone for the rest of year. Don’t let this season and the rest of the year happen to you. Be proactive in creating what you desire. I know this is hard to do when we don’t feel so hot. So, first item of business is to make sure you feel well!
Use this weekend to reset yourself. Use this weekend to nurture, pamper, and please yourself. Use this weekend to Treat yourself (if you prescribe to the philosophy of being selfless or not selfish, hang on!). Use this weekend to replenish yourself from the inside out. Treating yourself is not just about bubble baths and “retail therapy”…
Research shows that we feel best when we are grateful, graceful, giving, generous… We can’t be in a fear place at the same time… These are mutually exclusive activated areas in our brain. And, did you know that we have mirror neurons that allows us to feel and experience what others do? This is partially responsible for our ability to have compassion, empathy, and connection with others. This allows us to know others…
We can leverage these concepts in our plan to Treat ourselves… The bag of tricks just got much larger. Aside from implementing what you would usually consider as nurturing, pampering and pleasing to you, how about adding another element to this equation. And, that is that of pleasing someone else… For in giving someone else pleasure, we give pleasure to ourselves as well… Voila! Everyone wins!!
Now, this is an antidote for Winter Blues, but this is also a Relationship Enrichment tactic… And, I’m presenting it as we enter the Love Season… (Multipurpose baby!) I want you to be very intentional about nurturing, pampering and pleasing yourself and your partner. This will make not only this weekend much better, but will set you on the proper Self and Relationship Success course for the Season and the rest of the year…
If you haven’t checked out the Love Launch™yet, check it out now as it starts this weekend (4 weekends before Valentine’s Day weekend). Give it a whirl to infuse this new approach and drive your shift.
How will you do this weekend better than usual? How will you Treat yourself and please your partner? Own your mood, your experience and your Journey! Enjoy!!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Pleasing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Make a Self List of items that are nurturing, pampering and pleasing to you for you to do.
Make a Partner List of items that are nurturing, pampering and pleasing to you for your partner to do for/to you…
Ask your partner to do the same.
Share your lists with each other and use the Self Lists to support each other’s Treats, and the Partner Lists to guide your efforts/investments towards your partner.
Remember that in the end there is pleasure to be had by all regardless of what List is being used…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2019 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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It makes sense that New Year’s Resolutions have such a bad rep. They don’t get to really take hold as they are initiated during this challenging time and not integrated as new habits in good routines. I’m sure that if you started the New Year with Intention and a plan for creating the new habits that you are faring much better than your counterparts!
If you didn’t select ways to improve yourself, your relationship and your life, it’s not too late to select the new habits you want to develop. And again, to make sure you succeed at them, Design a daily routine from which they are to take place. The key to personal growth and development, and therefore Success, is to live our life intentionally. To Design it as we want it to be. To fully own it. To be its Masterful Creator.
There is so much rah, rah, rah going around about the New Year and new beginnings, and experts are already predicting the doom of the new initiatives (because statistics show the new attempts fail almost immediately!). I don’t want you to be a statistic, I want you to rock this year!
To rock this year, the sooner you get a handle on making the changes you want, the earlier you’ll start getting traction and results, and thus enjoy more compounded benefits. This means being gentle and nurturing yourself so you can make the changes you desire…
When we beat on ourselves, put pressure, take on too much, and freak ourselves out, we get the opposite of what we intended. Instead of feeling motivated, inspired and energized, we end up frazzled, overwhelmed, paralyzed, and blue.
So, let’s be proactive about staying in the game past the kickoff. Let’s commit to not abandoning our wishes for the year, before the year even gets on its way… Remember the 3rd Monday of January is Blue Monday. If you are not feeling so hot you are not alone! But, let’s not give up before we even start.
Let’s not marinate in the funk. Otherwise, the experience goes – blue-slow January, flyby February, sick-of-hibernation March, can’t-wait-for-spring April. And, before you know it, you lost the first quarter of the year. Yuck. This is not a life lived by Design.
The way to bypass all this is to be intentional, committed, resourced and easy about it. Slow and steady wins the race. Those who jumped in with two feet and lots of rah, rahs won’t last… If they didn’t bother to plan, they won’t get far… It’s you and I, who bothered to do the leg work, are working it, and are being gentle, compassionate, and self-caring, who win… It’s not too late, you can still join the ranks if you haven’t yet. It’s never too late to start living intentionally.
You are going about this the right way, if you are embracing the new, integrating with ease, adjusting to the flow, and enjoying as you go.
Make time for processes like this and working on yourself, your relationship and your life. That’s the only way to succeed at these. Success doesn’t just happen…
Stay tuned for processes for nurturing your relationship as we enter the Romance & Love Season…
You can start getting inspired with the Love Launch™.
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Succeeding!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Recommit to gently and lovingly making changes.
Recommit to staying the course.
Recommit to having your best year yet!
Commit to enjoying the Journey!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2019 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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I LOVE this time of year to set myself up for an amazing new one. Everything I walked you through in the past few blogs, all captured here: How to Waltz into the New Year, I do myself. I’m so excited for the new habits I’m integrating this year like Morning Pages (concept from The Artist’s Way) and The 5 Second Journal.
And, I’m super excited Pete (Hubby) and I refreshed our collaborating approach and platform to capture this year’s Strategy. We are set for our best year yet! Yay!
This brings me to today’s topic. As you know, I’m forever Playing with all these concepts… Today’s message integrates insights on motivation, Inspiration, Discipline, Potential, success, habits, routines, flow, and the like…
I’m known to be highly energetic, motivated, and productive. This doesn’t just happen… I invest in myself to make this happen… In a nutshell, it all boils down to Mindset and Habits… I’m focusing on habits today to drill in on the work we’ve been doing to get you set up for your best year yet.
The new year brings new beginnings. This is when we can set the reset button and start anew. Not necessarily from scratch if you have a good thing going already. For example, I have an amazing self-care routine. I didn’t scrap this and started again with the new year. I just make it even better by tweaking some timing and adding my new habits into it.
Achieving sustained connection, wellbeing and success depends on your habits… What you do every day creates the life you live. If you haphazardly go through your days, it’s unlikely you’ll enjoy the Journey and reach the destinations along the way… Have you noticed that the most successful, happy and healthy people don’t rush around? Have you noticed that they have a plan?
Have you noticed they don’t have clutter? Have you noticed that they work hard? Have you noticed that they are intentional and invest in themselves? Have you noticed that they treat themselves? What else have you noticed about them? This is not luck. This is not by accident. There is intention, focus, and devotion involved…
I recently watched a YouTube video by Michael Beckwith. Super inspirational on how to Activate Your Potential. He talks about having Discipline, being focused, being intentional, about going for it. Totally reinforces the idea of building habits.
But creating new habits is not easy. That’s why new year’s resolutions don’t work. Building new habits is about repeated targeted behaviors. People lacking discipline, focus and the like struggle with this even more… The easiest way to build new habits is to build them into a Routine… This is the secret.New behaviors trying to become Habits that are not grounded anywhere just float away.
This is why I added The Morning Pages and The 5 Second Journal to my morning self-care routine. If I had just said I want to do the Pages and the Journal and left it at that, how would they happen? When would I do them? You see, building them into the routine is the key…
The Routine drives the behaviors, it’s how they become Habits. You don’t have to be super disciplined then. Once you set your routine, it carries you… This is motivating and energizing… This makes you more productive… This allows for inspiration to flow… All you have to do is Design your routine(s).
So, start where you are at. Create a simple starter routine, on the life area you are targeting, or expand or improve what you already have. Having a focus, a Grounding Theme™, is key as well. We can’t work on everything at once… Choose what life area you are focusing on such as relationship (connection), health (wellness) or finances (success)…
This is how you stay focused. This is how you become the Artist of your life. This is how you live your life by Design…
Make it your intention to live your life by Design and to rock at it! Here is to your best year yet!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
Share your experience by leaving a comment below!
Happy Designing!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Review the new Habits you want to develop this year. Is there a theme to them? Do they all belong to the same life area? You shouldn’t have too many, 2 to 3 at most, it’s challenging enough to tackle new endeavors.
It’s best if the new habits you want to develop are all in the same life area, so they support each other. Do any necessary adjusting to your selection. Then, design a Routine around them if you don’t already have one. For example, let’s say your life area is wellness:
Get up earlier (note specific time)
Go to the gym 5x / week before work (put on gym clothes that you put out the night before)
Drink more water (bring a large water bottle to the gym and another to work)
Have your Routine drive your discipline, motivation and habit building!
Enjoy!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
Copyright (c) 2019 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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