You know how when you fly, they say that in case of an emergency to first put on your oxygen mask and then assist others? Well, the same concept applies to the rest of our life… We have to take care of ourselves for us to be in good shape to be in relationship with our partner, and others…
When we embrace a self-love practice, in which there is a huge component of self-care, then we activate our authentic self, we create flow, we nourish and enliven ourselves. Now this is a Best Self… This self can have amazing energy, insights, patience, compassion, creativity and all the rest to be the best partner and lover. When we are unhealthy, weak, stressed, overwhelmed, tired and such, we don’t make very good company…
~ It is our job to make sure we are healthy and well.
~ It is our job we show up with our Best Self and we be the Best Partner.
~ It is our job to make sure we continue to evolve and elevate…
Upshift…
To this end, how we do everything matters. From the moment we are aware we are awake, and we choose our first thoughts of the day, to how we wrap up our day and settle down for a good night sleep, all have an impact on our health and wellness. On how resourced we are to be able to show up with our Best Self…
When we bang around life and are noisy and scattered and tapped out, we are not fresh, available, and able to have meaningful, nourishing, and enlivening interactions. We just don’t make good company… And this is when we insist on interacting with our partner and then wonder how come we get prickly, triggered, and sucked into a less than ideal exchange or even a full-blown fight.
To be a loving partner, and create a loving relationship, we first have to give ourselves love… To have a wonderful relationship, we have to clean up our routines and habits so we can properly show up to our relationship.
How about we slow down a bit and become a lot more intentional about how we take care of ourselves? This is where having more love in our life starts.
Watch the video to learn how to uplevel your relationship with food and step up your self-care!
PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?
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Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication? Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™ that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
Are you feeling inspired and motivated yet? Or, are you feeling out of sorts and kind of blue? Are you wanting to get better traction for the New Year? It recently heard that people use January as a breather from the hectic of the prior end-of-year… I’m wondering if this is true. I haven’t found this to be so, as an intentional tactic anyway… I think that most people mean to hit the New Year running but they immediately lose oomph, or they can’t get themselves into high gear.
This ends up affecting their wellbeing, productivity, joy and even connectedness with their partner and other loved ones… Life just isn’t satisfying… It is not fun to feel out of sorts, floundering, unmotivated, overwhelmed, lost and the like…
The key to any New Beginning, reset, or just plain and simple taking charge of our life to mold it into what we desire lies in how we choose to look at life itself… It has to do with how we view ourselves in our life, how we look at our context and situation, how we look at our partner, how we look at the world and everything else that is important to us…
Yes, getting esoteric and philosophical here for a moment – don’t worry, you know I always bring it down to takeaways, practical application, and assignments… I got you!
First, we have to take the bird’s eye view of our Human Experience… Asking ourselves questions as to:
~ What is the meaning of our life? ~ What is our purpose? ~ How does our relationship play into it? ~ How is our partner our Life Partner? ~ How does our connection support our Journey? ~ What kind of life do we want to live? ~ What kind of legacy do we want to leave behind…?
Not for the faint of heart. But without the big questions how do we even know what we want to create and how to go about it? Usually, not only do we not have the answer, or thought-out answers, to these questions, but we also don’t have our back in going about creating the experience we want…
As I mature and become wiser. As I practice what I preach. As I ongoingly seek to uplevel my experience while being deeply grateful and in awe of what it already is. As I learn more and do more research. As I connect with people smarter and more learned than me. I realize how beautiful and magnificent everyone is in our Human Experience.
And, I realize that most everything boils down to Love… Don’t roll your eyes, hang in there. You’ll like this, I promise…
Everything boils down to Love…
~ The way we are treated, is a reflection of how we treat ourselves… If we don’t love ourselves and treat ourselves well (including our ongoing self-talk in our head!), we won’t receive very good treatment… ~ When we don’t feel well it usually has to do with how we’ve neglected ourselves… ~ The happiest moments in our life can be narrowed down to moments of love and connection… ~ Everything we do is primarily out of love and for our loved ones at the end of the day. ~ When we think about what kind of life we would like to have lived, I’m sure very few people would say that they would prefer to have lived it alone.
Therefore, it behooves us to start off by upleveling how we love ourselves… How we do our Self-Love Practice, and how we choose to show up in the world – including how we show up to our relationship. We can choose to be the Best Partner because we are connected with ourself, resourced, and very much brimming with love, and we can create the most amazing relationship in turn…
It all starts with the decision to want to uplevel your relationship and your life…
Watch the video to learn how to start your New Beginning!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?
Copyright (c) 2024 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication? Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™ that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
As we get deeper into January, we might be ready to get over the slump of the New Yearand possibly already having quit working on our intentions and goals… The key to creating change is knowing what we want to create and then doing something about it… Action without vision might lead us in the wrong direction. And vision without action, just doesn’t become a reality… So… It’s time to step out of the slump, grogginess, and disorientation… It’s time to step into alignment, integration, and progress with ease, beauty and flow…
A pretty idea of what we want to realize is not enough…
And, that if we even have an idea… Most people are going through life without knowing what they want to create… Without having dreams they are striving for, without having a vision of the life they want to live. How are they supposed to live the life they want if they don’t identify what kind of life it is they want to live. The same goes for their relationship. This is not how we create our New Beginnings… Without intentionality we create by default and old programming… We don’t create what we desire…
So first things first, we have to identify what we value, what we desire, what we want to create, what we want to experience, what kind of life and relationship we want to realize…
Investigating the why we want the things we want is a huge help because sometimes we are being robotic about stating what we want, when with further exploration we might not actually want what we thought we did…
Once we are truly in touch with what we desire and why, then we can go about taking steps to making it happen.
Now, the thing about this is again that we can under or over do this approach depending on who we are… The key is to identify how to go about creating what we desire with ease and joy, not by whiteknuckling it. Gone are the days of the Grind… But we are still to find our stride with how we realize what we desire with a less aggressive and destructive approach… And, obviously not by not doing anything…
Creating change, flowing through transitions, and having our New Beginnings, have to do with honoring who we are, resourcing ourselves, leveraging and integrating this new way into how we go about our life so we create what we desire with ease, joy, and enjoyment!
PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?
Copyright (c) 2024 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication? Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™ that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
As we embark in this New Year, it is up to us what kind of experience we have and what we are able to realize… Even though a New Year brings with it the promise and excitement of newness, it can feel like a letdown when January 1st rolls around, and life is as it was the day before… Why should the first of the year be any different than any other day? The thing is that It is. Because we say so… We can have a new beginning at any time, including on the first of the year…
So why then, it the first of the year not any different? Well, I challenge you to reconsider if it actually isn’t…
For you see we are always changing, nothing is EVER the same… We are in a constant state of flux. No two moments are the same. Change is actually the only constant in life… The first of the year is different than the day before and than any other day before it and after it…
When things feel stuck, the same, and not able to change it’s because we choose to keep constructing the same story about our experience… We are the ones that choose what we observe, what dots we connect, and what meaning we assign our experience…
If we have the same old thoughts, the same old observations, the same old reactions, the same old conversations, the same old expectations- guess what? We create a very predictable life… We continue to recreate the same thing over and over…
If we are really about creating some new and having a new beginning, all we need to do is suspend the usual… Quiet down the chatter in our head. Mind the habits we engage in from the moment we open our eyes in the morning. Intentionally choose what to focus on and give our attention to at any given moment. Stay open to the flow of life. Look for the synchronicities, the serendipity, the blessings, the magic… Stay in expectation of surprise, delight, and joy.
When we set up our day to live this way, when we align with what is important to us, when we cultivate this state, and when we orient ourselves to realize our fullest potential of our human experience, then that’s the experience we have…
We experience a delightful life- where when we are sick we are just upgrading our body, when something breaks it’s a chance to upgrade it, when someone lets us down it’s an opportunity for a meaningful conversation, and so on…
Then everything is just marvelous. Life is all you desire it to be, and it’s pregnant with promise and blessings…
PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?
Copyright (c) 2024 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication? Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™ that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
A lot of times we want to create change in our relationship and our life, but believe it’s too hard or even impossible… Well, let me tell you that it’s actually neither! Change is totally possible if we truly desire it… It might be hard, if we make it so…
The thing is that a lot of times we simply get in our way of creating the relationship and life we desire. We do that by being stubborn about being right about how are partner, or others, are wrong!
We do that hanging on to limiting believes and ways of looking at relationships and life that are not conducive to joy, harmony, and love…
And, we do that by grinding and banging around our life without full personal ownership, without intentionality, and without commitment and purpose.
We create our own hell… We rather take the dopamine hit and the secondary gain than step up our game with simple tactics that just elevate EVERYTHING… This is the key to creating your New Reality…
It is actually that simple…
In this Podcast episode, I share my Signature Self-Love Practice to help you in getting out of your own way, create the space for the new, and show up differently to your relationship and your life so you can realize everything you desire…
PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?
Copyright (c) 2024 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.
Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication? Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™ that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
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