Why settle for a mediocre relationship and life when you can have an extraordinary relationship and life? Extraordinary does not mean complex, chaotic, demanding and such. People choose simple because it is easier, but extraordinary doesn’t have to be complicated…
They might already have a pretty good relationship and life, they are comfortable, and so they settle for good. That’s fine if that’s what you want. But in my book, if we are going to live this life, we might as well make it great- including our relationship. No?
I’m going to assume that you are in the camp of wanting to make your relationship and your life great otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this or be part of our family…
So, how do we make our relationship and our life great? It is actually really simple, we expect it, we plan for it, and we strive towards it…
You see the first issue is that we don’t believe we can have our best relationship and our best life… At some level we don’t believe we deserve it… We give up before we even get started!
Then, we get a commitment from our partner and start making some strides in life and we get comfy. We neglect our partner and don’t stretch ourselves into the best we can be. We bang around in our relationship and our life… We plan parties and vacations more than we plan our relationship and our life…
And finally, we don’t support ourselves in working towards creating what we desire. We don’t have a working strategy for creating what we want. We don’t have a way to stay the course, invest seamlessly, and enjoy the process on the way.
How are we then supposed to move from Good to Great? Not for nothing people settle or struggle…
But like we already established, this doesn’t have to be complicated, challenging, or complex… It just takes commitment, focus, and intentionality to address your programming, your planning, and your grit…
Let’s start right now, shall we?
PROGRAMMING – You don’t believe you can have an epic love affair with your partner, have a radiant and successful relationship, and extraordinary life because you don’t believe you deserve it…
You might think it’s impossible to create these for all the reasons you give yourself- like your partner is emotionally stunted or not game, you are both too busy to nurture your relationship and besides you don’t even know how, it’s embarrassing to explore more with your partner, one or both of you have insecurities and/or commitment issues, and so on…
And that was just in terms of your relationship… What reasons- excuses do you come up with when it comes to your life?
In the meantime, at a deeper level, your programming of being unworthy and undeserving is wreaking havoc… This is why you have repeating patterns in your life, this is why you can’t seem to get ahead, this is why everything feels hard, this is why you have physical and mental health issues, this is why there is other funky stuff in your life…
Antidote:
~ A simple solution is to implement a Self-Love Practice that in and of itself helps unravel the programming as you are showing yourself you are deserving and worthy by giving love to yourself…
~ Another simple way to do reprogramming is by doing 30-Day Challenges to address egoic patterns…
PLANNING – How are you supposed to create or build something without a blueprint? How are you supposed to go on a trip without an itinerary? How are you supposed to win the game without a game plan? Whatever analogy resonates for you, let’s take it to heart.
Do you plan parties or vacations? Or does your partner? Regardless, as a couple you probably put in more time into planning these than planning your relationship and your life… You might have given some thought to your home renovations, your investments, your children’s college tuition, and your retirement, but is that the extent of it?
Now, I know you might not even have done those. It’s ok, we are not here to shame you. Just highlighting that your life can use a little more intentionality, that’s all. And, if you have done those, you might be asking what else is there.
Your Game Plan is to be a simple blueprint for creating your best relationship and your best life, not just a basic life… It’s a plan to move from Good to Great…
Antidote:
~ Now, a Game Plan, a Strategy, and such might seem overwhelming and tedious. But let’s make this as simple as possible… Choose an aspect of your relationship or life that you’d like to take to the next level and explore what would that feel and look like once you achieve it. Now take an action to start getting you closer to that desire. After the action, choose the next, and then the next and so on until before you know it you’d have gotten to the next level…
~ If you are more ambitious, map out steps, tactics, habits, activities, support and milestones to add to your daily routine and weekly and monthly rhythms to crank towards your desires…
GRIT – People usually shy away from “hard work”, dedication, commitment, focus, loyalty, and other personal characteristics and habits because they have a wobbly sense of self. They don’t believe in themselves and have an identity that aligns with that, which of course doesn’t include self-discipline and such…
Some people are born with grit others can cultivate it… If you are one of the lucky ones for whom this is inherently part of your make up, acknowledge this blessing and appreciate it for you are ahead of the game. If you are one of who don’t identify as having grit, no worries- there are ways around this. We can help you build grit and get your jump start while you cultivate it…
The point about grit is that you need this to stay the course, to invest consistently in what you desire, to keep trying until you crack the code, to stay on it until you get what you want…
Now, you might be thinking, Yikes, that’s intense, who wants to live like that? Well, my friend, that’s what it takes to create an extraordinary relationship and life. Otherwise, we are on the other side, the settling for mediocre side… But I promise, we’ll do this simply and with ease…
Antidote:
~ This part might feel really scary, but it doesn’t have to be. First things first, identify a character strength you’d like to develop that would support you in your Journey. Then set about exploring and practicing this character strength daily.
~ Secondly, you don’t have to depend on poor sheer will power and self-discipline to make things happen. Instead, leverage tools (i.e., calendar, reminders, bill pay), automation (i.e., recurring events, autoresponders, automatic deposits/transfers), support (i.e., accountability, subscriptions, concierges), habits (i.e., wellness, connection and success habits), and such to have your own back.
Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and eventually you get there…
So, seamlessly, simply, and with ease you can stay the course and move from a good relationship and life to great ones. It doesn’t have to be challenging to create your radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life… Be extraordinary my friend, create greatness!
APPLICATION: Make a decision to be extraordinary and to create greatness, to move from Good to Great in your relationship and your life…
Choose the area that needs the most attention first to get the most leverage creating what you desire, and dig in with gusto into that area till you feel your shift and start getting traction towards creating what you desire…
~ Programming Implement a Self-Love Practice Play with 30-Day Challenges
~ Planning Embrace An Action at a Time Map Out Your Steps/Actions
~ Grit Develop Character Strengths Implement Systems and Habits
Here is to the best Summer Upleveling™ yet!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
PS: Masterclasses
💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:
~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life –Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat –Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
~ Create an Epic Love Affair with Your Partner –Addressing the struggle and upleveling your relationship to create your epic love affair
~ Get Unstuck with Self ReParenting –Transmuting the patterns keeping you stuck by reprogramming yourself through inner child work
~ Thriving After Infidelity™ – Stop the torture that comes from discovery, get your new footing, and transform your relationship so that’s better than ever before…
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
💐 Not a member? No worries, join us with a Lifestyle Membership. This Membership includes access to our private community, full access to our Member Center and previous content, and access to upcoming Masterclasses at no additional cost, all for only $29 per month.
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As we turn toward the summer months, I’m sure you have already planned your trips and vacations for your summer fun and leisure. But have you planned your summer couple fun yet? You might be wondering what the difference is. The difference is the focus on the couple and not on the actual activity… If you want to uplevel your relationship this summer, focus on summer couple fun…
Hey, I’m not saying the trip, the vacation or the beautiful settings are wasted. They can certainly contribute to the unplugging, relaxation, refreshing, recharging, inspiration, joy and fun. But I’m talking about taking this a step further, whether it’s on your vacation or at home!
The key is connecting on your experiences real or imagined…
I know that the best vacations and trips we’ve had stand out in my mind the most not for the trip itself but for the connection I experienced with my husband. One can make a case that it is easier to connect while on vacation as there is more time together and less distractions. Sure, I’ll grant that only if there is little intention about connecting at home, and if you are great at connecting on vacation…
I know that you can have amazing connection at home. I also know that you can have the worst trip ever. Just saying…
So regardless of your actual summer plans, let’s build-in some summer couple fun for deeper connection and more awesomeness in your relationship.
This will sure uplevel your relationship this summer!
Summer Bucket List- Take turns adding activities to your summer bucket list, make sure to add a special touch or different flavor to them, and share why you’d like to do said activities. Share why it’s special, intriguing, meaningful, fun and the like.
Then play full out at doing items from your list. *Add recurring events to your calendar to do your seasonal bucket list with your partner at the change of every season… The activity is fun in and of itself and you’ll have your future-couple’s back as well.
Summer Dream- Select a weekly time for the next 4 weeks to dream with your partner. This is a time to share your dreams, life vision, goals, and deepest desires… Be detailed, dream it up. Empty your brain of your ideas and wishes. Have a big old brainstorm. This is a time to be super curious about each other’s life intentions, desires, and preferences. Discuss if you wish to take any action on anything that came up and what that is…
Summer Transformation- As everything slows down in the summer, this is a great time to explore, experiment, engage, enjoy, expand, enrich, engineer, execute something different… This is a great time to create a shift… Share how you feel about your Journey. And what character strengths you want to cultivate to stay the course on becoming who you are… Discuss how you can support each other and take an action to that end.
Summer Manifestation- Discuss what would make this your Best Summer Yet and why. What would you wish to experience and/or accomplish? What would you want to feel? What would you focus on? What do you need to support your wish? What is a next action step to get the ball rolling on this and who will take it? What else needs to happen to get the results you desire? How will you know you manifested your wish at the end of the summer?
Summer Passion- When was the last time you talked about your intimacy? How did that go? What changes have you made since then? Have a discussion about your emotional and physical intimacy, with compassion, grace and understanding… Decide where you are on the passionate relationship spectrum and how you’ll like to proceed towards creating your epic love affair with each other…
If you want to create anything in your life, you have to go for it!
This does not mean white-knuckling your way through it or forcing anything. But it does mean dreaming it, engaging with it, sharing it, enjoying it- even before it’s here, focusing on having it and enjoying it, and of course taking inspired action towards it…
The tactics provided help you create your best life, co-creating it with your partner and having fun doing it… This is how you uplevel your relationship, and your life!
APPLICATION: Start switching gears to have fun this summer with your partner…
1 ~ Choose your Summer Couple Fun tactic Summer Bucket List – Discuss the fun activities you want to experience Summer Dream – Share your life vision, dreams, and desires Summer Transformation – Explore Character Strengths you want to cultivate Summer Manifestation – Brainstorm tackling summer projects Summer Passion – Consider how to expand your intimacy repertoire
2 ~ Play full out with your chosen tactic Add events to your calendar, set reminders, make reservations, integrate new habits into your routine, sign-up or enroll for classes or supportive services, tweak your environments, and such…
Enjoy!!!
Here is to the best Summer Upleveling™ yet!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
PS: Masterclasses
💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:
~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life –Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat –Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
~ Create an Epic Love Affair with Your Partner –Addressing the struggle and upleveling your relationship to create your epic love affair
~ Get Unstuck with Self ReParenting –Addressing inner child work to transmute your recurring patterns
~ Thriving After Infidelity™ – Stop the torture that comes from discovery, get your new footing, and transform your relationship so that’s better than ever before…
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
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Things are changing rapidly nowadays in this almost Covid-19 post pandemic, or near endemic, world. We are entering a new phase where we are creating the Next Normal… I still prefer the term Better Normal over New Normal and now the Next Normal… Regardless, this is the time to move beyond what was into what could be…
We’ve experienced a lot of upheaval in the past 2 plus years, and as we choose where we go from here we have to let go of the old to fully embrace the new possibilities. Who we were pre-pandemic is at this point beyond outdated. For us to thrive we need to let go of the old first… Here is to embracing a letting go practice…
As most institutions are getting deconstructed, and we’ll see a lot more of this as we go, the key is to let go with ease, not to fight it…
And this applies to everything… The old ways of doing things are just going away… The hustle and the grind, the rules, the structures, the systems, the forcing and the white-knuckling… We are becoming a much more fluid society and world, to be embraced with more ease and grace. The more we resist this the more we’ll suffer, completely unnecessarily. The more we resist it, the more the suffering will persist…
The letting go has to happen at every level… From the way we think, to our beliefs, to our emotions, to our behaviors, habits and tactics. We are amid a big old deconstruction… And the more we hang on to wanting things like the used to be, or try to apply the old rules to the new world, the more we’ll feel out of sync, uncomfortable, and unhappy…
It’s exhausting to go against the grain, and if we are not aware of the new grain and keep going against it, we are in for a rude awakening…
Just last week I wrote about reparenting yourself, self-fathering yourself, by giving yourself more structure and systems to provide the security you need… The key is not to pursue this with a heavy hand and a suffocating approach – structure and systems don’t have to be rigid… I think that this is where we are going as a society and what better place to start than at home…
So, what does this mean on the practical and for our daily lives? This means getting rid of and letting go of anything that no longer serves you. Letting go of anything that doesn’t feel good, give you joy, and support you, your relationship, and the life you want to create.
This means clearing, cleaning and cleansing…
This includes:
What we do first thing when we get up in the morning, letting go of jumping into the day without connecting to ourselves first (energy/spiritual)
Deciding how we want to feel and embracing those feelings, letting go of anger, resentment, shame, guilt, blame, anxiety, worry, sadness and grief (feelings/emotional)
How we choose to look at our life, the world and those in it, letting go of judgement, separatism and polarization (thinking/intellectual)
Choosing what we’ll focus on and setting up the day to flow, letting go of numbing, controlling and forcing (habits/behavioral)
Simplifying everything and going with the flow, letting go of complexity and elaborateness (plans/strategic)
This is applicable to everything! From your daily routine, to your approach to food, to your health and wellness, to your connection with your partner, to your intimacy with your partner, to your parenting, to your finances, to your home décor, to your career plans, to the services you provide, to what kind of life you want…
Once you put on this lens and see the new reality, the possibilities, you can’t unsee it. Once you taste of it, you can’t untaste it. Once you wake up, you can’t unawake…
You can get super creative with where you apply this in your life… You can literally apply this to everything… You can apply this to how you exercise, to how you work, and even to how you deal with an affair or infidelity in your relationship…
We make life too difficult. We make our relationship too difficult. We make feeling well and happy too difficult. How about we start letting go of the old ways, of working super hard for everything, of making everything so challenging, of white-knuckling our life?
How about we start letting go of forcing things and embrace the beauty that our experience can actually be if only we get out of our own way? How about we start letting go of all the superfluous and all the noise and all the shame and pain?
How about we just embrace life at every moment with whatever shows up and go from there…
How about taking on a 30-Day Challenge to help you clear, to let go, to deconstruct, to reprogram, to change your egoic patterns, get out of your own way…
1 ~ Choose your approach – A morning letting go meditation, a 30-Day Challenge, clearing your commitments and calendar, decluttering your home, etc.
2 ~ Implement your approach – Embrace your tactic with gusto, play full out with acceptance, compassion and ease…
Enjoy!!!
A Letting Go Practice can easily be woven into you lifestyle and daily routine… Embrace this for creating more spaciousness, opportunities, flow and joy in your relationship and your life…
Here is to the best Summer Upleveling™ yet!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
PS: Masterclasses
💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:
~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life – Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat –Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
~ Create an Epic Love Affair with Your Partner –Addressing the struggle and upleveling your relationship to create your epic love affair
~ Get Unstuck with Self ReParenting –Addressing inner child work to transmute your recurring patterns
~ Thriving After Infidelity™ – Stop the torture that comes from discovery, get your new footing, and transform your relationship so that’s better than ever before…
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
💐 Not a member? No worries, join us with a Lifestyle Membership. This Membership includes access to our private community, full access to our Member Center and previous content, and access to upcoming Masterclasses at no additional cost, all for only $29 per month.
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We are working on changing patterns… We can tackle this from many different angles as it’s obvious from the topics of our blog posts this year… I love making Summer a time for concentrated focus on personal growth, as we have a little more leisure time to utilize for this endeavor.
As Father’s Day is this weekend, let’s play a bit more with the concept of reparenting ourselves for reprogramming and changing patterns… Why not? Do less and make more changes with self-fathering… Here is wishing all Fathers a terrific weekend, and thank you for being our rock star.
The male and fathering components of our caregiving and parenting was meant to have given us security, safety, dependability, stability, consistency, strength, discipline, motivation… But because we were raised with imperfect caretaking, we didn’t get everything we needed… This shows up in our lives today, when we have a difficult time trusting, letting go, allowing, and such.
We might show up as controlling, rigid, micromanaging to make sure we get what we need or want. By the same token, we might have a challenging time being disciplined, motivated, productive…
When we struggle with these defenses and integrating these male energy characteristics, it is challenging to create the relationship and life we want…
This is a tricky topic because as we live in a world of doing, which is more male energy, it is difficult to differentiate between the regular doing and cultivating the male energy that will serve us in creating what we want.
Therefore, I invite you to an integrative approach to self-fathering, to embracing this male energy and male characteristics without all the doing that’s not doing much in our lives.
Today, I’d like to us to cultivate and integrate this male energy for the self-fathering by shifting from focusing on our external structuring and doing, to an internal version… Instead of creating by doing, managing our time and the like, I’m offering to create security and dependability from within ourselves.
I’m offering to bypass the usual self-disciplining through our external environment to go inwards and connect with ourselves for that trust, stability, and strength… By shifting from the doing to being, this becomes an integrative process as we are drawing on the female energy as well… This makes for a more powerful approach in that we are fully tapping into all of ourselves.
In that connection, we ground ourselves providing the stability and security… In connection we also feel safe and therefore trust… So, in approaching this self-fathering not by setting schedules and other self-discipline tactics but by getting grounded we create the foundation that provides all the benefits of being fathered…
This different integrative approach helps us in our self-reparenting in a more wholistic form that reverberates through our being… As we are grounded, stable, secure, and safe we feel strong, empowered, and motivated to attempt the changes we want. We don’t have to white-knuckle or force anything- we don’t have to muscle it to the ground.
We can have a deeper trust that things flow and work out for us better than we can ever imagine. A deeper trust is born that has our back. From here anything is possible. We can now pursue our desires with gusto as we won’t be stifling them with our control and strong hold.
APPLICATION: Create a very simple self-fathering practice that integrates and cultivates your male energy characteristics to generate security, stability, safety, and trust…
1 ~ Do a mindfulness practice for visioning, purposing, contributing and such
2 ~ Take an inspired action
Let’s embrace self-connection as an approach to self-fathering, for generating security, safety, and trust. Let’s embrace less but more inspired doing for creating the relationship and life we desire…
Here is to the best Summer Upleveling™ yet!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
PS: Masterclasses
💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:
~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life – Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat – Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
~ Create an Epic Love Affair with Your Partner – Addressing the struggle and upleveling your relationship to create your epic love affair
~ Get Unstuck with Self ReParenting – Addressing inner child work to transmute your recurring patterns
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
💐 Not a member? No worries, join us with a Lifestyle Membership. This Membership includes access to our private community, full access to our Member Center and previous content, and access to upcoming Masterclasses at no additional cost, all for only $29 per month.
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Have you noticed that when you think you want to make a change, that something happens to undermine it and make you go back to the old ways? This is your ego on overdrive at protecting you. It makes excuses and sabotages things to keep the status quo as the known is safer than the unknown…
Unfortunately, this protection keeps you small and holds you back from your evolution and from your best life. Use 30-day challenges to change your patterns…
Our life is a big old habit. Everything we do is out of habit. Our daily routine is a habit. Our thoughts, our feelings, our actions are all habits… How we make decisions, how we approach tasks, how we collaborate, how we work, and so on are all habits… Our personality is a habit… Who we are is a habit…
Have you ever noticed that something might happen that you don’t consider cool and that normally would trigger you, but you are not triggered and as soon as you notice you get upset…?
Or something might happen or is said that you don’t agree with, it goes against you, it breaks a commitment or such that you believe should make you mad, so you get mad?
There are plenty of examples like this. We live by templates and follow them accordingly.
When we try to make any kind of change, including changing or starting a new habit, our ego jumps in to maintain the status quo as it sees change as a threat…
This is why it’s so difficult to create change in our lives… Even when things change on their own, we resist them…
So, we will no longer have any of this going forward… Let’s agree that starting today we will welcome change, we will pursue change, and we will embrace change. Yes?
All our patterns and habits are defenses mounted by our ego… Therefore, the key to creating change is to tame our ego… Let’s get really strategic about addressing our egoic patterns. This doesn’t have to take a rocket scientist or a PhD in psychology. Let’s make this as simple as possible.
I offer you a very simple and down to earth approach to tackling changing egoic patterns in your life.
I suggest embracing 30-Day Challenges as a way to get out of our own way, to disarm the ego, to interrupt and change our current patterns…
For you see a challenge, challenges you… You put in all your resources into it, as opposed to winging trying to create change in a different way. You plan for it, you accommodate for it, you stay focused on it, you are excited about it and you are proud of it. From this place you can disarm and soothe the ego much more easily than if you go in nilly-willy.
Get creative as to your 30-Day Challenge… You can select or create a challenge that supports the change you are trying to make.
The way to do that is to identify what is at the core of the change you want to make – do you want to be more focused, get healthier, strengthen your relationship, build self-esteem, add more joy into your life, expand your self-care practice, remove toxicity from your life, and such… Check out the 30-Day Challenges List I created to help us do this work.
It is very interesting to observe the ego’s machinations as we entertain this, start playing with it and go for it… Stay observant of what comes up, the excuses, the noise, the sabotage… Stay the course by soothing yourself, keep on with ease, compassion and love. Stay present. Reassure your ego that all is well…
Get beneath what the old pattern is protecting you from… What trauma, what triggers, what fears, what wounds are still fermenting somewhere inside you? Be gentle, be understanding, be accepting, be compassionate and be forgiving…
Connect with what is at the core of your programs and address it with love. Shine the light and let go of the shame, the self-doubt, the self-blame, the guilt. Clean out what’s sitting there…
Keep on and give yourself tons of love, high-fives and gold stars as you make progress in your challenge and in addressing what is driving your patterns…
APPLICATION: Take a nice look at your life and note what patterns and/or habits seem to be getting in the way of your best self, best relationship and best life…
~ Select the pattern that when changed it would have the biggest impact for you
~ Identify a 30-Day Challenge that would support you in changing the egoic pattern
~ Select a start date for your challenge and do any prep needed ahead of time so you can have a strong start
~ In your journal, track your experience, what comes up, and what you imagine would be underneath the pattern you are working on changing…
~ Give yourself the understanding, validation, compassion, and love the uncovered wound needs for it to heal… Take note of how you feel.
~ Stay present with what continues to come up and what changes you might experience…
We have the option of being who we want to be… Very few of us exercise that option, choice and power… Let’s change that, shall we?
Here is to the best Summer Upleveling™ yet!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
PS: Masterclasses
💐 If you missed our recent Masterclasses, you can still get them through our Member Center:
~ A Self-Love Strategy for Creating Your Best Life – Designing and implementing your personalized self-love practice
~ Relationship Enrichment Mini Retreat – Reprogramming and shifting for connecting more deeply and creating the relationship you desire
~ Feeling Stuck and Spring Cleaning is NOT Cutting it – Deconstructing and reconstructing yourself to unleash the radiance within
~ Create an Epic Love Affair with Your Partner – Addressing the struggle and upleveling your relationship to create your epic love affair
~ Get Unstuck with Self ReParenting – Addressing inner child work to transmute your recurring patterns
They include gorgeous workbooks of transformational processes
💐 Not a member? No worries, join us with a Lifestyle Membership. This Membership includes access to our private community, full access to our Member Center and previous content, and access to upcoming Masterclasses at no additional cost, all for only $29 per month.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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