Are you enjoying more freedom and peace of mind this Summer? That is what Summer is all about… Freedom from the usual and the opportunity to Be… When was the last time you had a large chunk of time to do nothing? To just chill? To get in touch with your lightheartedness and ease? To play and frolic…
I’m afraid I usually hear from people how packed their summers end up being with all the extra programs, traveling and projects… Please do remember to build in down time for its own sake… In Spaciousness we Are… In Spaciousness we get energized, inspired, and enlightened…
Every so often I go through a deconstruction phase to rebuild differently and better… As you know, I consistently encourage releasing the extra and living a minimalist lifestyle… This doesn’t mean mediocre, settling, empty and such.
This means committing and pursuing the few to a grander standard… This means being selective about what you allow in your life and what benefits from your attention. This means that what you choose to invest in you do with real Gusto…
I’m going through another such phase… I love it when I’m here. Where intentionally and mindfully I release in a larger scale. This place is so empowering and energizing. Where with the release comes extra time, energy, bandwidth, focus, and the possibility for greater personal evolution… This is the opportunity to take the Journey to the next level…
Sometimes it’s a bumpy road to disengage from how things are. It might have the feel of burn out. It might feel reactive. It might be messy. It all depends on the context that’s being let go and the reason. Regardless, it is a necessary part of life to be able to go from caterpillar to butterfly. To shed our current skin to allow for growth…
Nobody ever said that change is easy. Nobody ever said that fully owning ourselves and what is best for our own evolution is easy. Nobody ever said that owning our magnificence and our place in the world is easy. Nobody ever said that living to our fullest potential is easy. It is darn scary!
We find all kinds of ways to get sidetracked, lose focus, distract ourselves and hold ourselves back unless we are super intentional about our approach to our own life… It is a scary proposition to fully own ourselves and live to our fullest potential. To do what we are meant to do. To play a bigger game… To live life above fear… It is our duty to make the most of our life…
If we work together privately, we’ve also been expanding your comfort zone and Transcending your limiting beliefs… We are working on engaging and operating from your intentional, empowered, connected Higher Self (compassion), not your reactive, chaotic/controlling, separate lower/small self (ego)… We’ve been working on fully living our spiritual human experience…
I invite you to consider how else you can simplify your life… You don’t need to do a major overhaul and full deconstruction, but you can steadily strive to create more Spaciousness… You’ll be amazed at what comes of that… You can explore the essentialist, minimalist, and such concepts to assist you…
You don’t have to do it in any particular prescribed way or follow anyone’s particular approach or formula. Just listen to your heart and start living your more meaningful and impactful life… Own your Self.
Assignment: Select a commitment, habit, routine, activity, plan, project, etc. that you can exit gracefully… Don’t dump or ghost. This creates chaos… This energy doesn’t serve anyone… Release with integrity, intentionality and mindfulness. Be true to your Higher Self. Transition out even when ruthlessly exiting things in your life. Feel good about your process and your journey.
Let this Summer be the start of a new beginning… Have your best Summer yet!!
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With the 4th of July just around the corner, I usually like to write about Freedom around this time. I was inspired to write more about feelings, emotions and their relationship to Freedom…
It is an obvious fact that some people are very emotional and others barely even notice how they feel… Emotions have to do with feeling in the body, and feelings have to do with naming the emotions and owning them with awareness.
Some people wear their feelings up their sleeves while others minimize them or put them away. And, yet others are cut off from them, barely being aware of them and even not feeling them at all.
Emotions and feelings are our built-in guidance system to assist us navigate our Journey and design the life we want. When we are not in touch with the guidance system, how do we do the navigation? How do we know what’s ok for us and what isn’t? What we like and don’t like?
What we want and don’t want? What makes us happy and what doesn’t? What gives us pleasure and what repulses us? What is meaningful and what isn’t? You see, this knowledge comes from emotions and feelings…
We might have a strong emotion but bury it for whatever reason before we understand its message and meaning. Being with the emotion, feeling it, is the first step. Naming the emotion, with a feeling word, is the second step. Then checking in what it’s all about and what it’s signaling to you is the third step.
When we numb ourselves with substances, food, work, Netflix, and other fixations, we are cutting ourselves off from our Personal Guidance System (PGS) and undermining the connection to our Self. However we choose to cut off from our emotions, we are sabotaging our ability to create our joyful, rewarding and meaningful life. We choose to not live a life well-lived. We choose to dishonor our human experience trip…
When we don’t do a reasonable job of translating emotions to feelings and understanding and addressing their message, we get stuck. We block ourselves to the point where things break down – our health, our relationships, our finances, our careers, our success in life…
When we do the feeling work – when we allow awareness, translate emotions into feelings, and process and address their message, we integrate body, mind and spirit… Ah, now this is having a full human experience… From this place you are fully resourced. From this place you are Free from dis-ease, blockages, stubbornness, defense mechanisms, power struggles, repeating patterns, stuckness, mediocracy, a challenging life…
From this place you:
Increase wellness
Eliminate physical and emotional symptoms
Increase your vitality and longevity
Experience unexplained happiness and joy
Become more productive in less time
Experience time slowing down/having more time
Unleash creativity and resourcefulness
Transcend annoyances and minutiae
Let go of control and separateness
Have more compassion, patience and understanding
Feel more connected, secure and bigger than life…
From this place you can really rock your life!
Assignment: If you still find yourself minimizing the importance of Feelings (even judging “emotional people”), or not giving feelings enough credit, I implore you to kick this concept around. Experiment with noticing the emotions in your body and giving them feeling names… See what starts coming up, release it, and note the Liberation you’ll experience…
Some people are not Free because of the politics, social norms, religion and such in their environment. The rest are not free because they choose not to be… The rest are afraid to live a well lived life, to own themselves fully – to own their magnificence, to become all that they are…
If this is you, it’s time to stop living a mediocre life and step up your game. Have your feelings and rock your world!
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The Holidays do all kinds of things to people. They provide a year-in-review, showcase our progress and success, spotlight our communion and belongingness, highlight our relationship dynamics, and nudge our very Soul for wakefulness. Add to this all the demands, expectations and hassle and bustle, and it is no wonder that the Holidays are rough for some.
The Holidays create stress, anxiety, depression, paralysis, withdrawal, mania, shame, overindulgence, overwhelm, crashing, loneliness, and other goodies. How do the Holidays affect you? If you generally fair well, still take note however minor the impact.
The Holidays can be treated as an opportunity for growth and healing… This is definitely fertile ground to work with! Why not take advantage of the opportunity available for the taking? When anything is framed as opportunity, its energy, meaning, impact and potential change. Now the situation is a gift and not a nuisance.
There is positivity built-in the reframe bearing optimism, strength, courage, hope, compassion, love, understanding, ownership, authenticity and awesomeness… Let’s shoot for getting more than just presents this Holiday Season!
Let’s go back to how the Holidays highlight our relationship dynamics. Whatever our dynamics they get amplified during this time. It’s as if our dynamics are on steroids. What you see, witness, experience is your usual dynamics to a heightened level.
This gives you an opportunity to better understand what usually bothers you and what doesn’t work that might have been difficult to pinpoint before. Before we knew interactions annoyed or hurt us. We knew are needs were not met. We complained, fought or sucked it up in hopelessness.
But now we have the chance at a magnified experience where we can see the crack. We have the chance to look at the crack up close and personal, and study it. We get the chance to see how it needs mending. The trick is to know what to look for: The theme, the broken record, and your script. What keeps replaying?
What is the lesson you are to learn? What is the code you need to crack? How are you to stretch to grow and heal, to break the impasse? This is the driver behind the dissatisfaction. Your call to action is to do something different for that in and of itself is Change…
It’s time to shake things up. It’s time to take a risk.It’s time to have better expectations. It’s time to raise the bar. It’s time to honor your Self, to Be your Authentic Self, and to bring it to your interactions. It’s time to be courageous and not be afraid of what could be. It’s time to go for it. It’s time for the next book in the series.
What does this look like? How do you go about it? It’s actually quite marvelous and simple. All you have to do is have a different response than your usual in your interaction. And, to do this for your Self without any outcome, expectation or intention of changing your partner in mind… So if you usually complain, call things out, whine or other some such in your interactions, your different response could be not say anything or to focus on the positive.
If your usual way is to suck it up, keep the peace, avoid conflict, and cave in, then your difference response could be standing up for your Self, speaking up, sharing what you are experiencing, or setting a limit or consequence.
The point here is not to go about changing your whole relationship, getting better results, inviting your partner to respond differently, and the rest of our usual intentions. This one is the mother load. This one goes for the jugular. This approach is for Us. Can you imagine? For Us… It is to build the muscle that has been dormant and which upon awakening saves the day…
Give it a try. Be gentle. Be courageous. Bring out the part of your Self that has been screaming to come out. Make space for it. Create safety for it. Nurture it. And take a leap of Faith, use it in your interactions. Go for it. Give it a try. The pay off is unimaginable…
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Take a look at the weeks ahead. What significant events or plans are coming up? How will you be celebrating? What traditions will you follow? What rituals will you enjoy? Sit with the plans and the answers above… Hold them in your heart. Suspend judgment.
Are your plans in alignment with your core beliefs? Does your celebrating honor your Authentic Self? Do your traditions transmit your values? Do your rituals strengthen your identity, sense of Self, connections and bonds. Do they impart love, acceptance and adoration? Do they embrace our Human Experience…?
Connect with what comes up for you as you explore this. Where do you need to show up differently? What concrete change will you make for your next event or plans? Put it in action now… Add this to your Tool Kit…
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It saddens me to witness people’s struggles, to watch them get in their own way, to drown in a glass of water, to miss the bigger picture. Maybe this is compassion for my Self as I can certainly be in that place… This is one of the lessons I’m still learning.
This is part of my Journey. In its course I grow, heal, learn and further embrace my Calling… It is amazing to step back and take in the machinations, the alignments, and the perfection in how everything plays out, always for a reason… It all adds up…
At the end of the day, this brings me back to the sadness, compassion, for others for at least I can see the hidden gift, the blessing, and the opportunity. I draw strength and inspiration from this. This is what makes me a gifted healer and a leader in healing.
This is part of my Purpose… But for those who are not yet privy to this, all the tumultuousness of life is just pain. I can’t imagine not having the higher perspective. My heart truly goes out to those who struggle.
Having a higher perspective doesn’t exempt us from the happenings of life, and it is not always easy to hang on to it. But being able to see things from a different angle than merely seeing them as things happening to us makes a heck of a difference. This is where our human experience manifests.
Seeing the good in everything around us, even the so called “bad”, is where the opportunities abound, the promises lie, the gifts reside, the blessings are bestowed, the magic happens. This is where the beauty of the mystery of life can be found, if we can only but awaken…
Of course this applies to our relationship. Everything that happens in our relationship happens for a reason. The state of our relationship and everything that we get from our partner we have invited, we’ve co-created. Everything that goes on is a blessing, though sometimes a blessing in disguise.
When things are not to our liking or when we are in pain it is a sign that something different is needed. It is an opportunity to become intentional about our approach and our Being.
It is a call to realign, to stretch, to grow, to become whole and more empowered by adjusting our attitude, thoughts and behaviors. It is an opportunity to let go of Ego and defenses and to more fully embrace our Authentic Self. Thus creating the Awesomeness we wish and deserve.
This is why our Partner is a Gift to us. They provide the fertile playground where we get to play, stretch, develop, grow, heal, create and role model… Our interactions are blessings. They are all opportunities for us to embrace our human experience, and for us to be our Best Self.
In Relationship we have the opportunity to reach, embrace and engage our Authentic Self. Our directive is to look at everything through this lens and see where we need to stretch, grow and learn. It is ALL for us.
Everything happens for a reason. There are opportunities and blessings at every turn. Our job is to recognize them, to awaken to this Mystery and use it in our Journey. When we wake up and open our eyes, when we don the blessings lens on, and when we translate misfortune or aggravations into opportunities we recognize how Graceful and truly Bountiful life is. Go ahead, open your eyes, and be Thankful for all the Blessings in disguise.
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Take the high road. Step away from your (overt or covert…) steadfast position on an impasse with your partner. Put on Your Enlightenment Lenses™. If you were to look at your situation from a transcended perspective, what would you see? How would you say the situation is prodding you to change? What are you being taught? What are you supposed to learn? How are you supposed to grow?
How is this inviting you to become your Best Self? How are you to stretch to get there? Sit with what comes up. Hold off resentment and other Ego driven feelings and thoughts. Hang in there. Weather the uncomfortableness… Hang with the new perspective. Take a moment to design two concrete behaviors that you will implement consistently to honor this call and step into your new reality… Add this to your Tool Kit…
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What do you usually think of when you think of the “f…” word? We probably both think of the same four-letter word, but for today let’s make our “f…” word a more meaningful word. F is for Focus. F is for Freedom. I’ve written before that what we focus on persists.
What we focus on either enables us or enslaves us… We have the power to create our awesome ongoing experience… All we have to do is choose. We have to exercise our freedom of choice. This applies to everything in our lives.
Choose. Focus. Create. This is the power of freedom. When we choose to focus on things we value, appreciate and that make sense to us we enable, activate, expand, manifest our creativity, passion, uniqueness, gifts, Life. When we forgo our power of choice and proceed on automatic we usually focus on lack, things that go wrong, problems and disappointments, how others are not leaving up to our expectations and how unhappy we are.
It’s even worse when you consciously choose to focus on these! For guess what? You won’t have an awesome life or relationship, and certainly not happiness if you live your life with these shackles on. What we focus on persists…
Exercising intentional choice creates happiness. Doing otherwise is to crush our spirit, not honor our Soul. Here is the trick. Choose what you want. Choose how you want to feel. Choose how you want things to look like. Choose the experiences you want to have. Choose what the picture on the canvas of your life and relationship is to be. Don’t have a general or vague idea about these. Actually Choose, for then that is what Is…
Dream, choose, focus, and take massive decisive action. This is the formula to creating the life and relationship you want. You can create anything you want. When you make intentional choices, set goals, put plans and systems in place and invest in them consistently there is no way you can not create what you set out to, or something better…
This is the beauty of owning our freedom. When we exercise our freedom of choice, magnificent things happen. This is the beauty of owning our free will. When we exercise our free will we are in alignment with our Soul (Higher Power, Universe…).
This is where the magic is. Don’t be bound by limiting and narrow expectations, mindset, views, skills, scripts, legacies – take charge, clean these up and expand them. Stay open. Follow your gut (your Core Self, Authentic Self, Soul) talking to you and guiding you… Allow the magic in. Choose to have a magnificent life and relationship. And, so it is…
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~ Your MetroRelationship™Assignment This weekend take inventory of areas in your life where you’ve lost your voice, or haven’t developed your voice yet… This business of not having a voice is holding you back from creating the life and relationship you desire…
Pick an area where you’ve allowed your Self to be muted and unmute yourself… Learn to mindfully share and express your voice in this area to develop it to your liking… Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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