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Beyond regular Spring Cleaning for a real refresh

Beyond regular Spring Cleaning for a real refresh

We have a new season, and Spring at that. With it comes the promise of fresh starts and new beginnings. As nature comes alive we let go of the gloomy, the sedentary, and the stale. Any new season or transitions actually bring with them the opportunity for new beginnings, but Spring is really special as we witness mother nature have its fresh start. This is a perfect moment to ride this wave of momentum for newness.

This is an opportunity to let of things that suffocate us, that unground us, and misalign us… 

We can focus our “Spring Cleaning” in 3 main areas:

1~ Environments, routines, calendar, workload, projects, systems and such
2~ Relationship, family, friendships, community, networks  
3~ Body, mind and spirit… 

When we are cluttered and toxic in these areas we experience:

1~ Overload and exhaustion
2~ Conflict and disconnect
3~ Unwellness and disease 

Then it behooves us to declutter, detox, and deprogram these areas to release any stuck energy and create bandwidth and space for the new…  

For each area we can do an overhaul or a minor tweak, whatever makes sense for our life at this time. 

Here are minor tweaks for immediate results:

1~ Clean out a few little spots in your environments that are cluttered 
2~ Change your self-talk or interactions with your loved ones to have a more accepting, compassionate and kind tone
3~ Identity a trigger that still gets you and address it at the core- identify the driving need behind it and meet it yourself and through your relationship… (This is Couples Therapy at its best to change emotional programming…)

FYI – We are having a Live Integration experience: Refresh Your Identity, Shift Your Reality that will also be available in recording- get access through our Radiance Membership)

Of course, we can do so much in each of the above areas. And, you are welcome to do as much as your heart desires. Everything can stand to be revisited, streamlined, or spruced up… But know that even the littlest “spring cleaning” will create a refresh. Be wise about what you choose, go for what gives the largest impact… That gives the largest release and creates the most spaciousness… 

We talked about clearing for your refreshing to allow the newness… But I’d like to go further with this and offer ways to ride the momentum of the freshness that’s in the air and to capitalize on your refresh to actually realize new beginnings…

And that is aligning with the sacredness of life for balance, flow, and aliveness… 

The first way to do that is to honor and sync with the cycles of life:
~ nature’s seasons
~ lunar cycle
~ hormonal cycle

The second way is to embrace divine nourishing practices:
~ eat nutritious food, hydrate and sleep well…
~ relate authentically with openness and vulnerability…
~ pray, meditate, reflect…

When you create the spaciousness and infuse it with nourishment, you’ll get the aliveness, connection and upleveling you are seeking. This is how you uplevel your self, your relationship, and your life… 

This refresh will quite down all the noise in your life… This quite, stillness, expands and elevates your consciousness, where you become more who you really are, one with Oneness. And this is the access point to accelerate the transformations, creations, manifestations, and realizations in your life… You have access to all you need Just open up to this new realization and let the newness flow in… 

The only thing left in this process is to be really intentional about what kind of newness you want… And then take a first step towards creating something new… Towards creating a new beginning…  

Here is to your refresh and all the newness you desire…

 

Watch our related videos on our YouTube channel

Create Spaciousness for the New to Emerge, Get the FREE Refresh for Newness Checklist!

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

PS: Related Articles
What do you need to de-clutter?
Detox your life and your relationship
Are you over committed and stretched too thin?
Spring Clean Your Relationship!
Detox to surrender the old and allow the new… (VIDEO)
Detoxing for Relationship Success!
Focus on removing any toxicity from our interactions…
Cleanse yourself of resistance and friction for new beginnings
How do you renew yourself?

 

PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?

Interested in Couple Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Individual Therapy or Support Sessions?

We can help with our private and group memberships:
Success Membership

Radiance Membership

 

Look forward to seeing you inside!

 

   Copyright (c) 2024 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

 

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When there is toxicity in your relationship… [video]

When there is toxicity in your relationship… [video]

When we are looking to create change, uplevel, and make a move in our relationship and our life, we might find that we don’t know where to start. Or that we have tried all the things we know and ran out of ideas and so are feeling hopeless. Or that we feel so stuck we want to give up. Or that we know what we have to do but are too scared to take a first step or an action towards making a change. All this is part of the human experience when we are trying to better our situation, create what we desire and continue to evolve to the best version of ourselves…

But not to fret, even though this is part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that we have to endure additional suffering. It doesn’t have to be hard at the end of the day. 

If we were to actually fully own ourselves and not our partner or others, if we stayed in our circle. If we focused on honoring ourselves, our own evolution and growth, and how we show up to our relationship and our life instead of using excuses, victimizing ourselves and blaming others. We’d truly be empowered and able to create what we desire in all areas of our life… 

What if we were to focus on keeping our side of the street clean… On showing up with our best self- resourced, self-regulated and soothed, boundaried, compassionate, attuned and kind and generous. Can you image how fast your interactions would shift? How fast your relationship would uplevel? I can, I see it day in and day out not only in my own relationship but in countless others with the couple therapy work we do

What is some of the work to do? 

~ Declutter your relationship and life perspective- clean up distorted thinking
~ Clear, deconstruct and deprogram patterns- heal and release old wounds and stuck emotions
~ Detox from defensive and reactive mechanisms- upgrade coping mechanisms and self-regulation
~ Reset stories, scripts and narratives- replace the victim with a victor mindset 
~ Clean up your approach to your partner and your circumstances- try different tactics, skills and tools 

When you let go of the old, the hurts, wounds, patterns, practices, habits, characteristics, and such, you create space to become more who you are- your better version of you, creating a refresh for the new to immerge in all areas of your life…

Here is to a replenishing and shifting refresh and to all the newness! 

In today’s podcast episode, I have a lovely and fun conversation with Cinthia Hiett, also a relationship expert, where we discuss toxic interactions in relationship, dealing with an immature spouse or an immature partner, what codependency looks like in relationship and in the world, how to set boundaries, growing ourselves up and dealing with our inner child, and so much more. 

Tune in, you are in for a treat!

 

 

 

Watch our related videos on our YouTube channel

Create Spaciousness for the New to Emerge, Get the FREE Refresh for Newness Checklist!

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

PS: Related Articles
What do you need to de-clutter?
Detox your life and your relationship
Are you over committed and stretched too thin?
Spring Clean Your Relationship!
Detox to surrender the old and allow the new… (VIDEO)
Detoxing for Relationship Success!
Focus on removing any toxicity from our interactions…
Cleanse yourself of resistance and friction for new beginnings
How do you renew yourself?

 

PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?

Interested in Couple Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Individual Therapy or Support Sessions?

We can help with our private and group memberships:
Success Membership

Radiance Membership

 

Look forward to seeing you inside!

 

   Copyright (c) 2024 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

 

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with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com

The 15 benefits of sitting in silence to refresh for newness

The 15 benefits of sitting in silence to refresh for newness

As we are entering the season of cleaning, decluttering, cleansing, clearing, and detoxing for a refresh and to create space for newness, for a rebirth, we are faced with the choice of how much, if at all, we play with this. It is up to us how we choose to do our Journey. Are we proactive and victors, or are we passive and victims in our relationship and our life… Whatever our usual, we are still faced with a choice. If you are usually passive, here is a chance to step up your game. 

And let me tell you, we can play full out or simply select an area to focus on and go about it gently. Whatever our style of doing things, we can honor that if that serves us or we can choose to change even that if we are looking to really uplevel our relationship and our life… 

Usually how we do anything is how we do everything… 

But we can empower ourselves and start making different choices. We can take more ownership and choose to do things differently, to change habits, to deprogram, to become our best self, the best partner, and the best human we can… 

We can choose to stop being who we usually are (a collection of habits and patterns…) or at least relieve the parts that no longer serve us to uplevel ourselves. Things we’d address include our sensitivities, pet-peeves, coping mechanisms, defenses, reactions, and anything else that’s our go to… 

Here is our chance to get rid of what we no longer want, what doesn’t work, what gets in our way and holds us back, what numbs, mutes, covers and snuffs us out… Anything that gets in the way of our authenticity, and our ability to be who we truly are… 

We might have done a good amount of clearing (deprogramming and healing) already but have a bit more to do, or we might have not even started getting our house in order… This is where we get to choose how much we’ll tackle and where we want to focus. 

Areas to focus on include but are not exclusive to:

~ Our External Environments – body, relationships, networks, calendars, home, projects, technology

~ Our Internal Environments – mindset, belief systems and limiting believes, thoughts, feelings, energy 

Get our Refresh for Newness Checklist for a more comprehensive list.

We might not even know where to start, if we even want to, and never mind choosing how much to do. The whole thing might feel overwhelming. 

Which brings me to what I want to offer today, and that is to check-in with yourself about this. Not to impetuously decide on something, as a reaction, from ego, or from the top of your head. Give yourself a chance to really get in touch with what investment would make the most sense for you. Where do you want to place your focus and energy to most move the needle forward.

To that end, a great solution for this is to practice Sitting in Silence… 

Sitting in silence promotes:

  1. Relaxation and stress relief
  2. Calm and inner peace
  3. Brain development 
  4. Physical healing
  5. Mental health
  6. Processing
  7. Concentration and focus
  8. Productivity
  9. Learning 
  10. Self-awareness
  11. Intuition
  12. Creativity
  13. Patience
  14. Mindfulness
  15. Sleep

As you get all these benefits, you’ll have a greater sense of where you need to place your focus and energy. You’ll know what areas need to be addressed first so you can leverage them for better and faster results, and ease… 

And most importantly you’ll be doing the resourcing, deprogramming, and healing to begin with. You can’t go wrong! You’ll be already doing what you want to do before you even start doing it. Bam! 

To draw the benefits of sitting in silence to support your refresh and help you create space for the new, be proactive about adding this to your daily routine… Put your devise away for a few minutes, and gift yourself this refresh for newness.  

 

Watch our related videos on our YouTube channel

Create Spaciousness for the New to Emerge, Get the FREE Refresh for Newness Checklist!

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

PS: Related Articles
What do you need to de-clutter?
Detox your life and your relationship
Are you over committed and stretched too thin?
Spring Clean Your Relationship!
Detox to surrender the old and allow the new… (VIDEO)
Detoxing for Relationship Success!
Focus on removing any toxicity from our interactions…
Cleanse yourself of resistance and friction for new beginnings
How do you renew yourself?

 

PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?

Interested in Couple Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Individual Therapy or Support Sessions?

We can help with our private and group memberships:
Success Membership

Radiance Membership

 

Look forward to seeing you inside!

 

   Copyright (c) 2024 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

 

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with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com

Use end of august magic to inspire change in your relationship

Use end of august magic to inspire change in your relationship

Yes, we love Summer and some of us might not be too happy to see Summer come to an end. Yep, that’s me. You too? But we don’t have to let the end of Summer put a damper on our mood, fun quotient, outdoor time, and the rest of it. It is up to us to bring what we love about Summer with us as much as we can. And it is important to recognize that there is beauty in all the seasons for varying reasons. I say for now we take in what’s magical about the end of August and savor every morsel. Use end of august magic to inspire change in your relationship.

As things really slow down during this time, this gives us an opportunity to give our body, mind and spirit a respite from the usual pace we keep, which could be phrenetic for some… This space allows us to shift gears so we can better tap into our creativity, our desires, and our dreams…

When we take a break from our routine, rhythm, and the usual, when we slow down and are not run by our list of to-dos, when we allow ourselves to just be, tune in, and attune- ahh… This is when we become more aware of all the blessings, the beauty, the love, the possibilities… Believe it or not, in relaxing we expand, evolve…  

~ Did you ever notice that when you are running around, are multi-tasking, have a crammed agenda and packed schedule, that this is when your partner gets on your nerves the most? 

~ Did you ever notice that when your children are taken cared of, your phone is nowhere to be found, and you have nowhere to be, that that is when you enjoy your partner the most? 

~ And did you ever notice that when you really slow down, bask in nature, and just chill that that is when all the solutions, great ideas, and inspiration strikes? Not to mention the health and the well-being…? 

Mm, right? What does that tell us?

The End of August Magic…

When we realize that we have a different experience that gives us joy, inspiration, connection, love, and happiness, let’s pay attention to what’s different about that experience… In this case the call to disconnect and slow down, and quiet-down might I add, is like a blaring siren. We’d be remiss to not take notice…  

I love the end of August, exactly for this reason. It gives us a chance to:

  • Disconnect from the hustle and bustle, the noise, the devices- from being plugged in
  • Relax, rest and recharge
  • Reconnect with our desires and dreams
  • Get inspired for what’s next
  • Reset for the new chapter

This is a great opportunity to synchronize with your partner about your life and your relationship. 

When you disconnect and slowdown, you give your relationship the opportunity to thrive. For this is when you can better mind your energy, how you show up, how you nurture, how you respond, how you play, how you invite your partner to create the relationship and life your desire… 

During this last two weeks of August, you get to feel each other more, play differently, dream your dreams, and refocus on one another and what you’d like to create. 

Whether you are away, off, or just cruising for the next two weeks, you might consider setting time aside to bask in nature and each other’s company: 

~ Show up with chill energy, curiosity, and interest

~ Show up with playfulness and openness

~ Show up with the intention to connect more deeply and expand your love

Before you know it, you’ll be inspired for What’s Next in your relationship and your life and become aligned in creating it… 

 

Watch related Short Videos on our YouTube channel

Get this FREE Simple Exercise to Expand Yourself, find your purpose, enrich your relationship…

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?

Interested in Couple Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Individual Therapy or Support Sessions?

We can help with our private and group memberships:
Sessions Membership

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Discover the newness instore for you… (VIDEO)

Discover the newness instore for you… (VIDEO)

We’ve done amazing work this month getting rid of the noise, creating spaciousness, revitalizing ourselves, and just refreshing for newness… When we clean up, when we create space, when we reorganize, when we get quiet, attuned, and inspired, then we are able to tap into new realms… We can tap into anything we want… The universe is the limit… Let’s discover the newness instore for you…

We can Discover newness only when we are ready for it… If we continue to have, do and be the same old, we’ll continue to create the same old… Make sure you have Refreshed for Newness:

Declutter
Detox
Deconstruct
Dream

This refreshing process has led us to Dreaming our big dreams… Now we can take the next step in making change happen. I’m sure you’ve already experienced some shifts as you created new energy and flow… Let’s now ride this momentum to mold and create what we desire… It is time to Discover the possibilities…

Dreams will stay just dreams if we don’t do anything about them…

It is our job to explore the possibilities and how to make them happen. But before we get to the how and the what, we must first explore the Why

The Why is the inspiration, the motivator, the driver, the focus- it’s what keeps us going when it seems unplausible and impossible…

Doing the drudgery of our life, the minutiae and the everyday is mind numbing and tedious when there is nothing we are shooting for. We need a North Star to make even the most mundane meaningful… Our North Star is our Why, it is our creation, it is the reason for our Human Experience… This is what give our life meaning and makes it worth living!

So, what is your big dream? What’s the Why behind it?

Keep asking yourself why is that important. Once you have an answer, ask why is That important. Once you have an answer to that, now ask again why is That important. And, so on, a few times, until you get a deep and meaningful answer…

This is the Big Lens to keep on as you plan, organize, and go about your life. Have everything be informed by this…

 

What is Possible…

Now, you are ready to explore the possibilities and Discover the newness instore for you…

The environments – What’s décor, feel, brand? What purposes do they meet? What systems are included? What experiences do they inspire?

The everyday – What are your routines and habits? How will you show up? What parts of you are you owning, embracing, showcasing? How are you stretching and evolving?

The relationship/s – How are you treating others? How are you nurturing your relationships? How are you creating meaningful interactions? How are you enjoying your loved ones?

The achievements – What are you working towards? What are your strategies? What are your projects? Who are in your Teams?

The big picture – What kind of life do you want to live? What do you want to have accomplished at the end? What would have been an extraordinary life?

 

You see when we created spaciousness, cleaned up our ways and reorganized ourselves, we created opportunity… It is up to us to use the new energy and possibilities to create something new… We can create whatever we desire…

 

Watch the video for embracing this refresh and creating something new… Enjoy!

 

MONTHLY THEME GUIDE: Refresh for Newness Checklist

APPLICATION: You have the space, you have a new energy surge, you have a vision, you have possibilities… Let’s make something new happen!

~ Select an area to focus on:
The environments
The everyday
The relationship/s
The achievements
The big picture

~ Choose 3 tactics to implement to bring that area closer to your dream reality

~ Take action on the tactics today to start making your dreams come true

Own your dreams, enjoy your dreams!

 

And, this concludes our refresh series. Hope you played along, and that you played full out. Remember, there is no return if you don’t invest!

Stay tuned for our upcoming series on a new theme.

 

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

 

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