5 Spooky Strategies to Spice Things Up in Your Relationship

5 Spooky Strategies to Spice Things Up in Your Relationship

Whether we celebrate Halloween or not, the holiday can still bring us fun and excitement… We don’t have to necessarily be a part of it to pick up inspiration… We can just soak up the vibes for an infusion of aliveness. Which at times can be much needed in our relationship…

It is common for partners to experience a rut in their relationship. Where they feel stuck, stagnant, bored, bland, distant, or disconnected. Partners can tap into the excitement of Halloween to liven up their relationship.

But I can already feel partners’ resistance about how lame the holiday is, and how it’s only for kids or immature people. Or how it goes against their religion. Or how tired and time restricted they are to engage in such frivolous activities. Or other some such…

Well, what I want to offer has actually very little to do with Halloween itself… But more with riding the wave of its exciting energy…

 

When We Have the Best of Intentions but Fall Flat

It doesn’t take that much to create change in our relationship. I’m sure you are aware that how you interact with your partner informs how they’ll interact back… How you choose to respond to them invites how they respond back. How much you choose to invest in your relationship, inspires them to invest back. And I’m talking about the right kind of investment mind you…

I often here things like: I’ve tried it all. I do it all. I do so much, I can’t do any more. Or, I’m the one that does the things.

But usually, the tried things overcompensate, undermine, castrate or snuff, sabotage, are codependent or misaligned in some way… We get in our own way with old scrips or narratives, projections, and unrealistic or unexpressed expectations.

The key is to focus on what we are doing and not what our partner is doing. Bringing understanding, compassion, and genuine engagement from the heart. No strings attached…

Take a look at how you show up to your relationship and honestly identify if you are showing up with your Best Self as much as possible. If you are taking the High Road as much as possible. If you are being mindful of not setting your partner up to fail you as much as possible… No Ego here please. Be truthful. This is the only way that you can create the change you seek.

This honesty helps us polish how we show up, so we inspire our partner to show up better for us… And voila! That’s how we create change…

Clean up how you perceive yourself showing up in your relationship and how you actually show up… And then properly invest in having amazing interactions with your partner and in creating the relationship you love…

 

5 Spooky Strategies to Spice Up Your Relationship

Halloween’s exciting energy offers an opportunity to tap into different possibilities… Even if we are not partaking in the holiday per se, we can tap into the energetics around us to shake things up… 

 

Playing Pranks

Pranks and being playful is one of the simplest ways to bring levity, laughter, and fun to your relationship. Pulling something off and getting this kind of attention is always exciting. I love it when my husband sneaks up to scare me. After decades together, he still manages to pull this off. LOL Step up your playfulness game for more giddiness and joy.

 

Playing Dress Up

This can mean anything from wearing costumes on Halloween, to getting dressed up to go on a date, to getting all decked out for a special occasion, to wearing sexy or other fun outfits to sexy moments. Life is too short to hold back, bring out the fancy you. Wrap yourself to shine and dazzle your partner with the gift of you.

 

Playing New Roles

There are spoken and unspoken agreements in our relationship about what roles we each play… Who is the fixer. Who is the jokester. Who is the spender. Who is the talker. Who is the chef. Who is the initiator. Who is the instigator. All kinds of roles. Bring forward a way of being, a skill, or talent that’s different from your usual to surprise and delight your partner.

 

Playing with an Identity Upgrade

How we show up, interact, and contribute to our relationship is befitting who we believe we are, our identity… The habit of being ourselves… We can upgrade our identity to anything we want. Upgrade yours to capture who you’d be if you had already created your epic love affair with your partner. If you already were the Best Partner… And start being the Best Partner…

 

Playing with a New Reality

Envision a new reality where you are living an upgraded life, with an upgraded relationship, with an upgraded version of you. What does that reality look like? What’s different about it? How are you different? How are you different in your relationship? What does it feel like? Generate those feelings going forward to live in the new reality

 

Whether you go trick-or-treating or host a Halloween party, or just choose to dole out candy, or simply ignore the holiday, know that you can get your freak on anytime. You can show up with a different version of you at any time.

When you change anything, you can change everything… Take this opportunity to reconnect with your partner. Increase intimacy. Rekindle romance and love. Expand intimacy.

I say let’s show up with all the possibilities. Let’s expand our repertoire. Let’s not be so predictable. Let’s stretch into different versions of ourselves. Let’s really embody our Best Self. And let’s delight our partner with a new partner. Let’s shake things up. Let’s spices things up in our relationship this Halloween.

 

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Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

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Special 1st Anniversary Essentials Compilation – Episodes 1-11 (Ep.23)

Special 1st Anniversary Essentials Compilation – Episodes 1-11 (Ep.23)

Woohoo, we are celebrating our Podcast’s 1st Year Anniversary! Super excited and proud of this accomplishment. We’ve had growing pains as we went along, but in all it has been so amazing to host these conversations and bring you curated pertinent topics to support you in your Journey. We are here to assist you with your personal development and relationship enrichment to have a Grand Human Experience

To celebrate this milestone, we are doing special episodes this month of selected segments from each episode of key takeaways for immediate implementation and results…

In this episode we are covering the first half of the episodes, and the topics range from: Creating intimacy, toxicity in relationship, managing relationship finances to managing food and stress for more health, wellness and vitality.

When you come across a guest you like or a topic that you’d like to hear more on, you can access their full original video episode linked in the list below.

Hope you enjoy this Essentials Compilation!

Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.

 

 

 

Get our Podcast 1st Year Episodes,
including our Guests’ Gifts or Special Offers
 AND our FREE Relationship Enrichment Mini Course!

THE GUESTS LINEUP

Segment: Sometimes Couples Get Stuck When Seeking Intimacy
From Episode 1: Carole Cullen – The Secret Ingredients for a Successful Relationship

Segment: The Gift of Having Complementary Strengths 
From Episode 2: Nermine Zakhary – Use Your Strengths to Have a Huge Impact on Your Relationship 

Segment: Your Relationship Needs Specific Attention for it to Thrive  
From Episode 3: Emma Solo – The Top 10 Tactics to Ensure Lasting Love in Your Relationship  

Segment: Your Abundance in Life Depends on Your Shared Vision
From Episode 4: Christine Luken – Simple, Sexy and Super Generous Money Management   

Segment: Sometimes Men are Just Misunderstood… 
From Episode 5: Rich Heller – About Men: Don’t Let Anger Issues and Toxicity Affect Your Holidays    

Segment: Preparing Yourself for Being Around Family During the Holidays
From Episode 6: Emma Solo – How to Thrive this Holiday Season by Managing Expectations, Temptations, and Family Dynamics     

Segment: Key Factor to Consider When Planning Your Marital Financial Future
From Episode 7: Stacy Francis – Best Practices for a Healthy, Wealthy, and Financially Successful Marriage    

Segment: Starting the New Year or New Beginning Right
From Episode 8: Emma Solo – Uplevel Everything by Embracing a Self-Love Practice     

Segment: The Key to Flourishing Through Transitions   
From Episode 9: Deborah Donenfeld – Thriving Through Transitions, Creating a New Beginnings   

Segment: The Worst Thing to do When Focusing on Losing Weight
From Episode 10: Brigitte Zeitlin – Cultivate a Healthy Relationship with Food for Overall Wellbeing    

Segment: Develop Emotional and Physical Intimacy
From Episode 11: Emma Solo – Keep the Love and Spark Alive this Valentine’s and Always       

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If You Choose To Divorce, Choose Empowering Settlements with Ease w/ Glenn Dornfeld (Ep.22)

If You Choose To Divorce, Choose Empowering Settlements with Ease w/ Glenn Dornfeld (Ep.22)

Sometimes couples choose to divorce. Though we are super pro making the relationship work, and by work we mean Thrive, sometimes couples decide they’ve invested enough into the relationship and prefer to take a different route to find their happiness.

We support our couples in the decisions they make for themselves, their family, and their life, and we help them through whatever transitions they find themselves in. Through working on the relationship, they might realize that they don’t prefer to stay together after all and choose to pursue separating instead.

If this happens while working with us, we guide them in having the most beautiful divorce process they can manage. Our goal is to minimize the heartache and trauma of this experience for everyone involved, and to assist them transition into a new life situation that works better for them and their family. We encourage divorcing with the spirit of ease, compassion and generosity.

In today’s episode I’m excited to have a conversation with Glenn Dornfeld, an experienced mediator, about the different options people have to pursue getting divorced and he nuances of getting divorced through an empowering process that leads to satisfying settlements with ease.  Hope you enjoy it!

 

 

 

Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.

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🌟ABOUT OUR GUEST:

Glenn E. Dornfeld, Esq., is a mediator, trainer/mentor, and family/divorce attorney with a solo mediation and legal practice in Manhattan, serving both New York and New Jersey through mediating divorce cases. He is frequently asked to teach and coach mediators in various settings, is on law councils’ joint Ethics Committees, has chaired or co-chaired many mediation annual conferences, and regularly presents at them. Glenn has been awarded the Abel Award for service to the field of family and divorce mediation. You can find him at DivorceMediationAttorney.com.

Gifts from Glenn:

Aside from the free initial consultation, should a couple decide to work with Glenn he’ll give them their first hour also at no charge when they mention Emma and this Podcast Episode.

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~ Watch our related videos on our YouTube channel

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Demystifying Women’s Hormonal Journey Throughout their Life Cycle w/ Dr. Serena Goldstein (Ep.21)

Demystifying Women’s Hormonal Journey Throughout their Life Cycle w/ Dr. Serena Goldstein (Ep.21)

Hormones are a big deal! They seem to rule our life if we are a woman because so much depends on them for our cycle and reproductive life if we want children.

But aside from that aspect, they still affect so much of our health, wellbeing and how we experience our world, including the relationship with our partner… Men are affected in their own right obviously, and also when supporting their female partner.

Without going into a whole scientific or medical explanation, suffice to say that hormones regulate and control many of our body functions and development. They affect our rhythms from sleep, sex drive, hunger, motivation, body temperature, menstrual cycle, growth, metabolism, stress response and so much more.

In today’s episode I’m excited to have a conversation with Dr. Serena Goldstein to address how to support ourselves on our Hormonal Journey throughout our lifespan. We have a rich conversation covering: Identifying symptoms that might indicate a hormonal imbalance that just add unnecessary challenges to our life, what testing one might need to help identify these for proper treatment, how to use life rhythms and lifestyle to address imbalances and promote health, and what might be needed to smoothly sail through different life stages while taking personality, relationship dynamics and energetics into consideration… Hope you enjoy it!

 

 

 

Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.

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🌟ABOUT OUR GUEST:

Dr. Serena Goldstein is a Naturopathic Doctor who guides you to trust and understand what your body is telling you. She has a diverse, deep and growing knowledge base around conventional medicine, natural modalities, energy medicine modalities, and spirituality, where she seeks to find and address the root cause of symptoms with an individualized plan that also feels like relief. Dr. Serena works with those experiencing weight gain, hormone imbalance, poor sleep, stress, thyroid, mood, and gut health issues who want to learn more of what their body is saying and needs. She has shared her expertise on outlets such as MindBodyGreen, Forbes, and Shape.com, has appeared on NYU Doctor Radio Sirius XM, written multiple research articles on mind/body healing, presented at numerous conferences, and serves as an Advisory Board Member for Natural Practitioner Magazine. You can find her at DrSerenaGoldstein.com.

Gifts from Serena:

Spirituality Medicine

Find her here:

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🌟ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:

~ Watch our related videos on our YouTube channel

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Connecting Health Issues to Psychological and Relational Patterns w/ Angela Mazza (Ep.20)

Connecting Health Issues to Psychological and Relational Patterns w/ Angela Mazza (Ep.20)

Our patterns impact everything in our lives- from our abundance and success, to our relationship and love life, to our health and wellness…

It might be obvious that when we have poor habits that our health suffers. But what might not be so obvious is that our emotional and relational habitual patterns also affect our health and wellbeing, and other areas of our life…

Our programming and conditioning drive our patterns, inform our internal and external habits of behavior, feelings and thought… When we repeatedly do the same old, we make a grove, an impact. Depending on the nature of what we repeat, we have positive or negative outcomes…

We know that:

~ Limiting believes keep us from our potential

~ Unmet needs create uncomfortable feelings

~ Poor behavioral habits lead to breakdowns in their respective context

In today’s episode I’m excited to have a conversation with Angela Mazza, a holistic health coach, who brings awareness to how different habitual patterns, not just behavioral but also emotional and relational, can have an impact on our health and wellbeing. We discussed how not having a voice, being a people pleaser, prioritizing others first, having low self-esteem or a sense of unworthiness, being a workaholic, a perfectionist, a type-A personality, and so forth can all take a toll… I very much enjoyed this conversation as it connects so nicely with the depatterning work we’ve been doing. Hope you enjoy it too!

 

 

 

Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.

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🌟ABOUT OUR GUEST:

Angela Mazza is the founder of Angel Holistic Health Coaching. Her specialty is in thyroid health and healing to empower her clients to reclaim their health and precious energy. A certified health coach through the Dr. Sears Wellness Institute, she is trained in all life stages. Angela is also a licensed, registered professional nurse, with over 20 years experience in various settings including hospitals, home care, and most recently the NYC school system.  As a mother of three and a cancer survivor, she is passionate about empowering individuals & families to take small steps to wellness in order to prevent diseases and manage chronic conditions for living a full life.

Gifts from Angela:

Love Your Thyroid EBook

15 Thyroid Questions Answered

Find her here: 

Facebook | Instagram | Linkedin

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🌟ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:

~ Watch our related videos on our YouTube channel

~ Get our FREE 1-pg downloadable Relationship Collaboration System for creating a strong partnership with your partner and a life you love!

~ Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life? Interested in Couple Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Individual Therapy or Support Sessions?

We can help with our private and group memberships:
Success Membership
Radiance Membership

~ Interested in being our Guest? Interested in having Emma be a Guest in your Podcast?
Contact us about a possible collaboration!

 

 

Copyright (c) 2024 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

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