From Old Patterns to New Love, Fostering More Meaningful Connection

From Old Patterns to New Love, Fostering More Meaningful Connection

Call me weird, call me naïve, call me a hopeless romantic, but I choose to believe there is more love in the air and in the world than we sometimes see… I know this might be an unpopular opinion given the state of the world, but our reality is what we make of it. While plenty may challenge this belief, our reality is shaped our own state of mind…

Have you ever seen the movie It’s a Beautiful Life? It’s about a father in a concentration camp who shields their young son from the horrors of their situation by turning it into a game. Because of his father’s unwavering perspective, the boy never experiences the trauma of their conditions in the same way. Watch the trailer here

This story reminds us of something profound:

  • We are super powerful creators…
  • What we think and what we believe, we manifest…
  • What we focus on, grows…

Why not put this superpower to work, as we can create whatever we desire.

For me, that means focusing on love- helping couples create their radiant and successful relationship and rekindling their love. Actually, not just rekindle it but create something new, a New Love…  

 

What is this New Love?

For starters, the concept of New Love is about transcending our limitations to be as loving as we can be…

~ Letting go of the pettiness of our lower self

~ Releasing attachments to perceived limitations

~ Having grace for our own and other’s shortcomings

~ Being generous with- kindness, openness, flexibility, understanding, acknowledgement, acceptance, forgiveness, empathy, compassion, attention, affection, nurturing, support, cooperation, collaboration (Correlating to the 5 Elements of the Successful Relationship Strategy™)

~ Investing in win-win outcomes and elevating love as a collective experience

This Higher Perspective elevates us for a Grander Experience…

  • When we filter life through pettiness, we act petty
  • When we filter life through generosity, we act generously
  • When we filter life through love, we act lovingly

We can identify what we want to create and experience, and have it grow by simply focusing on and cultivating its related virtue, quality, feeling or state.

 

What this mean for our relationship

Here is the beautiful part: Aside from just feeling amazing and having a fabulous personal experience, you’ll notice your partner starts to shift along…

We can’t possibly operate from this Higher Perspective and not have it rub off on others, especially the ones closest to us, like our partner.

But a word of caution: Our approach has to be authentic and heart-felt. Not just lip service, hedging, conditions, or strings attached. Which are lower-self’s rules of engagement… With limiting underlying programming still running the show… This is the larger part of us and wins every time. So if there is a discrepancy between how we are showing up or our desire and what our programming dictates, the programming will impact the outcome no matter how hard we try…

Your partner and others will always respond to the underlying patterns, regardless of the words and actions. That’s why so many people say, “I tried everything, and nothing worked.”

We want to bring consciousness to our patterns allowing for a sustainable Higher Perspective. For there we can fill the space left behind by the dissolved patterns with the good stuff…

Now is the time to embrace this New Love.

Give it shot: Address your patterns and replace prior sabotaging habits with ones that nourish you, nurture your relationship, and delight your partner…

Now they can take hold and allow for that Grander Experience

Happy Loving…

With Much Love & Light!

 

RESOURCES

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Experiential Awareness for Repairing, Connecting and Relating Beyond Words (Ep.25)

Experiential Awareness for Repairing, Connecting and Relating Beyond Words (Ep.25)

Even though words are important sometimes they are overrated… Hence, we say things like, A picture is worth a thousand words… And in this case, there is so much more communication going on between partners than what words can say…

We know we communicate in a lot of different ways, including non-verbal communication and body language… But what if I told you that those are also very basic. We connect at other levels that we usually don’t take into consideration…

Like through being interconnected and using our intuition and knowing… 

And, like using our felt body, our sensing abilities, to feel into our selves, our partner and our relationship…

There is a ton of information available through sensing that we usually use automatically. But what if we were to tap into this intentionally and leverage it for a more authentic, deeper, and meaningful connection?

In this episode, I have a lovely and inspiring conversation with Carmela Bennett, a somatic psychotherapist, who shares about what somatic and experiential relating is and the benefits of relating from a sensing place, how to use it to manage and repair conflict, how it’s healing and repatterning, how it enhances interactions with deeper emotional and physical intimacy, and how to use it for enriching and upleveling our relationship.

We discuss over a dozen practices partners can use immediately to elevate their relating…

Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.

 

 

 

ABOUT OUR GUEST

Carmela Bennett has been a psychotherapist for the past 25 years and maintained a private practice for individuals, couples, and families in NYC since 2016. She has a Doctorate in Leadership, a Masters in Marriage in Family Counseling, Somatic Experiencing training and holds a CASAC addiction specialist certification. She blends years of training and experience with holistic, somatic, experiential, and psychodynamic modalities and specializes in working with relationships, addiction, anxiety disorders, PTSD and developmental trauma treatment using somatic experiencing. Her lifelong participation in the expressive arts, especially dance and movement, inspires integrating creativity, imagination, and intuition into all aspects of her life and work. She considers our basic human need for connection and individual purpose a fundamental resource for meaningful change. You can find her at CarmelaBennett.com.

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ON THE RELATIONAL SIDE

We don’t need words to create a radiant relationship

We use our words to get on the same page, resolve conflict, repair, connect, and collaborate, and so much more. But a lot of times, we get entangled in words… Even though we try to align and connect, sometimes we create a drift…

We make things worse. Wrong words can be used. Words can be misinterpreted. Meaning and intentions can be totally lost in translation… This is why we invest in honing in our communication skills and tools.

But there is another way to “communicate” that’s beyond words and the usual communication skills… We can use it to repair, connect and enrich our relationship… And, it has to do with Sensing…

We don’t realize how much we know through our sensing… This is a totally taken for granted human technology that’s right under our noses… We know more through our sensing than not… Yet, we don’t intentionally use this gift.

~We can sense our partner…

~We can sense the relationship- the space between us…

We can leverage the information we draw through our sensing… We can use it to make repair, to connect more deeply, and to enrich our relationship.

 

RESOURCES

~~ Related to Episode

Book – How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
Blog Post – Communication Skills and Tools are a Must
Blog Post – Remove Roadblocks to Great Communication

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~~ Get our FREE 1-pg downloadable Connecting for Change Guidelines for creating a strong partnership with your partner and a life you love!

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Special 1st Anniversary Essentials Compilation – Episodes 12-22  (Ep.24)

Special 1st Anniversary Essentials Compilation – Episodes 12-22 (Ep.24)

Yep, the celebration continues! We are celebrating our Podcast’s 1st Year Anniversary! Love bringing topics and conversations to support you in your Journey. I super enjoy the conversations with colleagues, friends, and experts on topics that I believe would enrich your experience, expand your consciousness, and of course help you make the changes you are seeking in your relationship and your life. We got you!

We cover a range of topics from all things relationship, including changing codependent patterns, to mental health and wellness, to self-love and expanding consciousness… We believe in embracing a relationship enrichment lifestyle and support you in creating the relationship and life you love. Through love and connection, we can create anything we desire… 

Our celebration includes special episodes this month of selected segments from each episode we’ve created thus far of key takeaways for immediate implementation and results…

In this episode we cover the second half of the episodes, with topics such as: Embracing interconnectedness, empowering ourselves in relationship, integrating meaningful rituals and traditions, enhancing our sex life, developing parenting of neurodivergent children, implementing health, wellness, and success mindset and habits, considering divorce through mediation.   

When you come across a guest you like or a topic that you’d like to hear more on, you can access their full original video episode linked in the list below.

Hope you enjoy this Essentials Compilation!

Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.

 

 

 

Get our Podcast 1st Year Episodes,
including our Guests’ Gifts or Special Offers
 AND our FREE Relationship Enrichment Mini Course!

THE GUESTS LINEUP

Segment: Awakening to Our Consciousness and Interconnectedness
From Episode 12: Jeffrey Dunne – Explore Interconnectedness for More Harmony and Joy 

Segment: Managing and Owning Ourselves Creates Smoother Interactions 
From Episode 13: Cinthia Hiett – Refresh Your Relationship with Your Adult You  

Segment: Why Rituals Are Important and How they Enrich Our Relationships  
From Episode 14: Evan Imber-Black – Exploring Rituals to Enrich Relationships and Create Change

Segment: How We Choose to Look at Things Creates Our Reality
From Episode 15: Francois Lupien – Small Big Mindset Tweaks to Succeed at Everything in Life    

Segment: There are Two Types of Lovers in the Relationship 
From Episode 16: Deborah Fox – Libido Differences, Rekindling Desire and Sexual Satisfaction

Segment: What’s So Special About Play and Why It’s Important
From Episode 17: Polina Shkadron – Parenting Neurodivergent Children: Tantrums, Parenting Styles, Self-Regulation (Pt1)

Segment: A Controversial Approach to Managing Kids Acting Out 
From Episode 18: Polina Shkadron – Parenting Neurodivergent Children: Transitions, Discipline, and Connection (Pt2)

Segment: Everything in Your Life Has an Impact on Your Wellbeing
From Episode 19: Marvin Bee – A Different Perspective on Habits for Overall Health and Happiness     

Segment: Even Your Personality Has an Impact on Your Health   
From Episode 20: Angela Mazza – Connecting Health Issues to Psychological and Relational Patterns    

Segment: Your Daily Rhythms and Habits Impact Your Hormones
From Episode 21: Serena Goldstein – Demystifying Women’s Hormonal Journey Throughout their Life Cycle      

 Segment: Creative Ways of Breaking Impasses When Divorcing 
From Episode 22: Glenn Dornfeld – If You Choose to Divorce, Choose Empowering Settlements with Ease       

OTHER RESOURCES

~ Watch our related videos on our YouTube channel

~ Get our FREE 1-pg downloadable Relationship Collaboration System for creating a strong partnership with your partner and a life you love!

~ Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life? Interested in Couple Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Individual Therapy or Support Sessions?

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Creating new beginnings through connection and collaboration

Creating new beginnings through connection and collaboration

Let’s ready ourselves for a new season this year, and possibly a new season of life… There is so much happening in the world at large, in this country, and in most of our lives as usual… And time seems to be moving faster… Making our lives more intense and challenging. I don’t know about you, but I already have a special relationship with time and don’t need for it to get more complicated. For us to have a better go if it, we have to shift our approach to how we create our relationship and our life… 

The key here is step up our awareness, presence, flow, allowing, connecting, and collaborating to operate from a higher level and thus create the relationship and life we love with more ease, joy, and fulfillment.

Instead of focusing on all the doing and all the to-dos, extending ourselves to the limit and to exhaustion, and wondering how do we get our partner to support us and help us more, the key is a totally different approach…

Now, this new approach doesn’t add more work to your already full plate. It actually reduces it significantly. 

You might be wondering what is this magic I speak of. 

What I’m suggesting is so simple, it’s almost ridiculous. But not to be dismissed because of its simplicity. At the end of the day, though it’s simple it might still be challenging. And this challenge will serve you infinitely more than going at things the usual way… 

I’m talking about Creating through Connected Collaboration™ Let me explain.

When we approach any interaction from a place of curiosity and openmindedness, with warmth, vulnerability, authenticity, and a willingness to share airtime, then we are able to join in a collaborative spirit… When we connect deeply and meaningfully, when we have shared values, vision, and goals, when we play with them from our heart, then we are able to create anything we desire. These things might be the challenge themselves, but so fulfilling to master. This is where our attention is needed most…

Embracing a softer approach to creation with connecting vs grinding is the shift that’s in order…

This allows for a smooth creation of the relationship and life we want. It allows us to collaborate, to cocreate with ease, to manifest with splendor. It allows for a grander experience… 

Shifting to this approach immediately allows for new beginnings and experiences. This is how everything gets done with ease- things fall off our to do, get streamlined, get more support and are just a joy to tackle. 

All the doing and grinding no longer give the results and satisfaction we seek. The outcomes and fulfillment, including the amazing experience along the way, get created through connection, that makes collaboration for manifestation a piece of cake. 

So, don’t let the seemingly crazy world out there get you- you don’t have to join in all the doing, grinding, and fighting. Elevate yourself and your approach and watch how seamlessly you create the relationship and life you love… 

 

Watch our related videos on our YouTube channel

Get our FREE 1-pg downloadable Relationship Collaboration System for creating a strong partnership with your partner and a life you love!

Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…

With Much Love & Light!

 

PS: Related Articles
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Create your stronger partnership possible
Overwhelmed, how is your support and collaboration? (PT5)
Are You Tapping Into Your Partnership Synergy?
Are you achieving your relationship goals?
Why have a 100-Year Vision Plan…
The power of having Intentional Habits

Habit building for best life

 

PSS: Do you need support taking yourself, your relationship, and your life to the next level- actually living a healthy, happy, harmonious and overall abundant life?

Interested in Couple Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Coaching, Individual Therapy or Support Sessions?

We can help with our private and group memberships:
Success Membership

Radiance Membership

 

Look forward to seeing you inside!

 

   Copyright (c) 2024 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

 

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