As we already started diving into in last week’s issue, Fathering is a very important concept in our life. From “fathering” comes discipline, the self-discipline we need to really succeed at our life.
How disciplined are you? Do you have systems or a mechanism in place to achieve your goals? Do you have goals? Do you have a strategy, a plan? We tackled this thoroughly for the New Year… If we don’t know what we want and where we are going, how are we supposed to get it and get there?!
It is imperative that you have a Vision, and Strategy, for Living your life. This is your map, the instructions to your brain… With no directions/instructions we are nomads, we create our life by default. We don’t access our potential, we don’t achieve high performance, we don’t go the extra mile, we don’t push to win the race, we don’t put icing on our cake.
Since we are at the mid-year mark, this is a perfect time to review what we established at the beginning of the year, or to establish this now. Now is the time to see if your systems are supporting you. If your routines and habits are working for you. If you are staying the course.
To assess where you need to course correct, or where you need to tweak your plan to better support yourself in your Journey. And, if you are you new to this publication, or just haven’t gotten to this yet, the timing is perfect with half the year still to go.
When you take care of yourself and your life this way, you are creating security, safety, and stability. You are in essence Fathering yourself, meeting the basic foundational needs for success and creating an approach to Win at the Game of Life.
When you do your review, or start your Visioning and Strategizing, keep in mind to weave in Mothering components as well. We always need mothering and fathering (figures/energy) to fully evolve, thrive and create our best life. Put in a good measure of structure and systems (Self-Discipline) and through those implement a rich Self-Care Practice. This combo will rock your world!
Note, how intimately connected the two are. This is one of the reasons why most people struggle at Self-Care, they don’t have the Self-Discipline for it… And, people can’t sustain high performance, rigorous loads or ambitious agendas if they don’t properly fuel and take care of themselves… Isn’t this a beauty?
Balance is the key, work hard and care hard – and always with ease!
Just as we have reprogrammed around Mothering, compassion, self-love and self-care… We’ll reprogram around Fathering in the next issue to make sure you don’t get in your own way of success and building your Masterful Life.
Complete the Assignment, and share your takeaway, insights, and results with a note in the Comments box at the end! I’d love to hear how you are using this content.
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Sometimes we forget, or give up on, what we want to do… Sometimes we get side tracked or distracted and can’t seem to get traction… Sometimes we are afraid to follow are dreams… We believe we don’t have what it takes, and thus hold ourselves back. Can you remember a time in your life when any of these happened for you.
Part of the reason this happens is because we don’t have enough personal ownership and self-Discipline. Because I knew I was getting ready to be ready (LOL) for this big project, I chose the Focus Term™ Discipline for myself when I was doing my year-end Strategizing… Eh?
This has been my mantra since the beginning of the year when it comes to the areas I’m addressing this year and the goals I’m working towards. I’m already a pretty disciplined person, but I’d like to improve this further. I knew getting to the place to be able to fit in this big project would require Discipline, and it will require tons more once it gets on its way. Whee!
What is the value of Discipline? Discipline is one of the most important attributes of successful people. If you do a-day-in-the-life of anyone who we consider super successful you will find loads of discipline in their lifestyle and approach to life.
Discipline means to train, teach… Discipline has to do with being the trainer, master, of your mind, your emotions, your body, your environment, your life. Discipline shows up in the habits and routines you create for yourself. In the systems and structures you put in place to support you in achieving your goals when pursuing your dreams.
Discipline comes from our Father figure growing up… Just like Nurturing comes from our Mother figure growing up… [Not a sexist, nor discrete concept, but an observation on male/female energy influence and impact on our psyche…]
The structure and discipline imparted by the male-energy figure in our early life provided stability, security, and safety. When they were absent, unhealthy or a less-than-perfect parental figure they were not able to provide this to the extent that we needed it. Which left us fending for ourselves and creating defense mechanisms to feel safe… See what this means?
This means that if we don’t intentionally Train ourselves to create the life we want, that we will create our life by default. Riddled with unfinished business, dissatisfying repeating patterns, defenses, unhealthy habits, and self-sabotage!
Without Discipline our energy is scattered and unfocused, not targeted. This is not how we create the life we want. This is not living to our full potential. This is not how we were meant to have our Human Experience. We were meant to come Win at the Game of Life on earth.
So, what say you? Ready for adding some more Discipline into your life??
Assignment: Choose a life area where you’d like to make a significant improvement or change in your life. Where being more Disciplined can pay huge dividends. You might want to tie this to your Summer Project or Theme, or to your yearly goals (more on this on the next issue!).
You might want to do a power-combo with your own Focus Term™, such as with accountability, boundaries, ownership, transparent, present, compassionate, grateful, partnership, intimacy, romance, and such…
As you continue your reprogramming, reparenting yourself, by giving yourself what you didn’t get growing up, you are healing and evolving. Embrace it and be witness to your Transformation…
Complete the Assignment, and share your takeaway, insights, and results with a note in the Comments box at the end! I’d love to hear how you are using this content.
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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