Even though we love our partner so much, we might still find that we fight or feel disconnected often… We might attribute this to flukes, poor communication skills, our partner’s attributes and imperfections, our sensitivities or triggers, or not being compatible and wondering about our commitment to the relationship… And there might be some truth to some or all of these… But there is also something else going on as well. Something that most partners don’t usually pay attention to. And that is how they are using their Core Masculine or Feminine Energies…
Gender aside, partners have both energies as human beings. And they inherently lean towards one more than the other at their core. Things got messed up for us with the women’s movement in that women had to take on more of their masculine traits and characteristics to survive and compete in a man’s world. Shunning and repressing their more feminine traits.
Our world hasn’t been valuing feminine characteristics like emotionality, expressiveness, sensitivity, compassion, empathy, nurturing, caring, intuition, creativity, flow, gentleness, helpfulness, collaboration, and such… When people show up with these traits, they are considered weak… So, women and other female identifying persons have adapted to using their masculine traits more: logical, reserved, disciplined, ambitious, planner, leader, assertive, aggressive, courageous, and such…
Why do we care about this? Because when both partners show up to an interaction, or to their relationship in general, with masculine energy, that’s what creates friction. That’s when they butt heads, disagree and fight. And that’s when the Core Masculine person in the relationship gets displaced, where they then become disengaged or distant. Creating the feeling of disconnection in the relationship…
To make matters worse, there is no attraction between two of the same core energies… Opposites are needed to create passion and be swept off our feet if our core is feminine and that’s what we desire.
In this episode, I have a wonderfully enlightening conversation with Women and Relationship Coach, Valerie Greene on how to use our Core Energies to create more harmony and passion in our relationship. We explore the differences between masculine and feminine energies, how to identify what energy we are operating from and how to distinguish when each is called for, what type of relationship gets created according to what energy we choose to show up with, that we can choose what kind of relationship we want to create, how to bring our feminine energy back online, and how we can turn our relationship around.
Additionally, we cover how to feel and expand our gratitude feels this holiday season.
Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.
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Valerie Greene is a unique relationship mentor, author, and speaker who has been helping women and couples attract, reignite, and sustain lasting love since 2005. A highly successful alternative to relationship therapy, Valerie facilitates a secure emotional connection— not just problem-solving or communication skills. She has been featured on many podcasts, summits, and shows. Valerie struggled in romantic relationships until she healed her own blocks to unconditional love, which in spired her to pursue numerous certifications in coaching, NLP, and emotional healing modalities. Now Valerie has an earned-secure attachment style and teaches others how to build secure attachment. She believes that love, passion, intimacy, and mutual support is everyone’s birth right and it’s never too late to heal and learn the skills of lasting love. You can find her HERE.
When your gratitude practice needs a little pick me up use romantical appreciation…
Regardless of what Gratitude Practice we might have, I’m pretty sure most of us don’t have appreciating differences in there! That’s too bad because this is what makes the world go around… If only we were more tolerant and appreciative of differences…
When it comes to our relationship appreciating differences is not just a nice thing to do, but a must. We are usually so different from our partner and is the differences and how we deal with them that cause conflict…
~ What if we were to reframe our differences as blessings, for they are…
~ What if we were to accept the differences for what they are and not as an attack or deficiency towards us…
~ What if we were to actually embrace and appreciate the differences as they provide us with needed contrast, opportunity for growth, and enrichment…
So, I say we shift how we tend to look at our partner and the things that might annoy us… And instead create a Romantical Appreciation List™…
Yep, create a list that captures the essence of your partner, how they are blessing in your Journey even when it doesn’t seem so, and all the nuances you love about them…
Now that’s an appreciation list!
If you feel stuck with this because you are struggling in your relationship, or just because, check out the podcast episode above. It showcases how partners might have opposing Core Masculine and Feminine Energies and therefore have opposing needs that contribute to conflict… Things can be absolutely wonderful when these are minded…
And, check out the Integration Experience below for the in depth, but simple and yet powerful and impactful, 3 Dimensions of Appreciation protocol to help you along… Shifting how to appreciate our partner, shifts our dynamics rekindling loving vibes…
Set yourself up for a truly grateful Thanksgiving!
Happy Appreciating!
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Broaden Your Gratitude Practice, Rekindle Loving Vibes – A gratitude practice brings along a multitude of benefits for ourselves, our relationship, and the world at large… Ranging from increasing resilience and improving mental health to engendering collaboration and peace. We tend to focus on this during the holidays and more specially around Thanksgiving, but by having such a narrow focus we are cheating ourselves of this super practice’s gifts. We can make it easier to do this practice on a consistent basis, by learning more about its benefits and broadening its definition and application. And, by applying it specifically to our relationship for a transformative effect… Embracing our 3 Dimensions of Appreciation Protocol does the trick! Access it HERE!
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I know that at the beginning of November many like to start Gratitude Challenges to honor the Thanksgiving Holiday and to get the Holiday Season off to a wonderful start. This year though we had a tentative start to the month with the elections, strange weather patterns, and natural disasters, but we are still called to be grateful…
Our gratitude might sound trite at times if it is superficial, prescribed, and automatic if it doesn’t have depth and feeling. If it is forced with a must or should feel to it.
Genuine gratitude comes from a deeper place. Not from just all the things we love and appreciate. But from place of meaning, impact, and reverence…
How often do we connect to this feeling of gratitude when it comes to our partner? Probably not very often… We usually focus on what they do for us and what we get instead, or how they disappoint us… We have a strong negativity bias… This is especially true when we are experiencing relationship struggles. We lose sight of the blessing that is our partner in our life…
But maybe this Thanksgiving, and for going forward, we can reprogram this apathy for a more meaningful holiday, more wellbeing, peace, and joy, and creating change in our relationship…
Embrace the 3 Dimensions of Appreciation
Embracing an intentional approach to Appreciation, having a strong Gratitude Mindset, and an inspired Gratitude Practice will have a huge impact on the quality of your relationship. It will help propel it to the next level. The 3 Dimensions of Appreciation (see how to get the full protocol below!) guides you in how to truly experience Thanksgiving.
Giving Grace
We stop being so critical, demanding, judgy and harsh. And instead we allow for imperfections, mistakes and offness… We appreciate the quirks and differences… We have their back… We give more grace…
Embracing Gratitude
We start to truly and deeply appreciating the gift and blessing that is our partner, the reason why they are a part of our Journey… And everything they do contribute to our life… We give more gratitude…
Expanding Generosity
We step it up a notch with how we show up to our relationship. We stop being greedy, self-focused, and stingy… We are more present, attentive, nurturing, supportive, affectionate, etc… We give unconditionally… We show more generosity…
So if we are looking to feel better, get along better, love better. If we are looking for an easier life. If we are looking for a more lovely lifestyle. If we are looking for a more amazing relationship. If we are looking for a rocking human experience. Maybe we gotta upgrade our Gratitude Mindset and embrace a higher level of Appreciation…
Here is to a season filled with magic and blessings!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
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Check out this month’s Integration Experience~ Available in Recording! ~ Broaden Your Gratitude Practice, Rekindle Loving Vibes A gratitude practice brings along a multitude of benefits for ourselves, our relationship, and the world at large… Ranging from increasing resilience and improving mental health to engendering collaboration and peace. We tend to focus on this during the holidays and more specially around Thanksgiving, but by having such a narrow focus we are cheating ourselves of this super practice’s gifts. We can make it easier to do this practice on a consistent basis, by learning more about its benefits and broadening its definition and application. And, by applying it specifically to our relationship for a transformative effect… Embracing our 3 Dimensions of Appreciation Protocol does the trick! Access it HERE!
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We are totally in love and decide to go exclusive, move in together, get engaged, get married, have children… But wait, we have to consider what’s the best way to go about the practical side of these steps… When we fall in love and are feeling all mushy, we don’t usually consider the practical strategies that might be helpful to have in place to create a smooth and harmonious life… We don’t consider what might be needed to be protected against unfortunate events and to create safety in the relationship.
Prenups, postnups and the like might get a bad rap for representing cautiousness about the partner and what their future might hold.
But there is so much more that goes along with creating legal documents and having financial strategies in our relationship. The documents and strategies don’t exist in a vacuum. They are part of a more meaningful conversation and a larger plan that protects the partners and their future.
What I love about this topic is that having these adulting pieces in place creates emotional security as well. The relationship dynamics are no longer informed by possible powerplays, doubt, fear, distrust, lack and so on. Everyone knows where they stand and the status of things, and are off on equitable and transparent footing. Which actually is a healthy way to start a joint life…
In this episode, I have a phenomenal conversation with Leona Krasner, a Family Attorney, about all the different legal needs throughout the lifespan of a relationship. We cover dating to post divorce if that’s the couple’s fate, and special circumstances that might arise. We have a lighthearted and very warm and mushy conversation considering the topic.
Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.
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Leona S. Krasner, Esq., MBA is founder and Managing Partner of Krasner Law, PLLC, a family law firm helping folks in New York and New Jersey with their family law needs. Leona works to ensure that she and her team provide compassion, solution-focus, and flawless execution for each client. When not practicing law, Leona enjoys helping students attain merit-based scholarships through her company Krasner Review, PLLC, organizing concerts for children through her nonprofit organization Tunes for Tots & Teens, and having adventures with her husband and 2-year-old. You can find her HERE.
Some deconditioning, evolving and adulting to do this year-end…
We dream of meeting the love of our life. We start dating. We fall in love. And then we think about how to move forward with the relationship, without necessarily giving much thought to the practical side of things. Or we do but ignore any seeming incompatibilities or red flags because we love our partner.
We yearn to get the ring if we are the woman or more feminine-energy partner in the relationship as we value closeness and togetherness. But the man or more masculine-energy partner is more cautious as they value their freedom and individuality or separateness.
If the partners don’t have sufficient personal awareness and if they are under social pressure to get married or find their person plowing through regardless of redflags, they might be setting themselves up for a very challenging relationship and heartache. Their future might become bleak.
They are to get a clear understanding of what they each desire from each other, the relationship, and the life they want to create. So they can chart their course from the beginning to avoid undo stress, headaches, and any misalignments later.
They can have a vision of the life they want to create and a plan for how to go about it. This can be fluid and of course can change overtime, but at least they start off on shared ground and with shared goals and dreams.
This helps them map out their course and put in place any practical legal, financial and other matters needed to ensure as smooth of a Journey as possible. The Journey then becomes about the Journey, and the partners don’t get distracted by any noise they might experience because they were not intentional about how they set up their life…
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Whether we celebrate Halloween or not, the holiday can still bring us fun and excitement… We don’t have to necessarily be a part of it to pick up inspiration… We can just soak up the vibes for an infusion of aliveness. Which at times can be much needed in our relationship…
It is common for partners to experience a rut in their relationship. Where they feel stuck, stagnant, bored, bland, distant, or disconnected. Partners can tap into the excitement of Halloween to liven up their relationship.
But I can already feel partners’ resistance about how lame the holiday is, and how it’s only for kids or immature people. Or how it goes against their religion. Or how tired and time restricted they are to engage in such frivolous activities. Or other some such…
Well, what I want to offer has actually very little to do with Halloween itself… But more with riding the wave of its exciting energy…
When We Have the Best of Intentions but Fall Flat
It doesn’t take that much to create change in our relationship. I’m sure you are aware that how you interact with your partner informs how they’ll interact back… How you choose to respond to them invites how they respond back. How much you choose to invest in your relationship, inspires them to invest back. And I’m talking about the right kind of investment mind you…
I often here things like: I’ve tried it all. I do it all. I do so much, I can’t do any more. Or, I’m the one that does the things.
But usually, the tried things overcompensate, undermine, castrate or snuff, sabotage, are codependent or misaligned in some way… We get in our own way with old scrips or narratives, projections, and unrealistic or unexpressed expectations.
The key is to focus on what we are doing and not what our partner is doing. Bringing understanding, compassion, and genuine engagement from the heart. No strings attached…
Take a look at how you show up to your relationship and honestly identify if you are showing up with your Best Self as much as possible. If you are taking the High Road as much as possible. If you are being mindful of not setting your partner up to fail you as much as possible… No Ego here please. Be truthful. This is the only way that you can create the change you seek.
This honesty helps us polish how we show up, so we inspire our partner to show up better for us… And voila! That’s how we create change…
Clean up how you perceive yourself showing up in your relationship and how you actually show up… And then properly invest in having amazing interactions with your partner and in creating the relationship you love…
5 Spooky Strategies to Spice Up Your Relationship
Halloween’s exciting energy offers an opportunity to tap into different possibilities… Even if we are not partaking in the holiday per se, we can tap into the energetics around us to shake things up…
Playing Pranks
Pranks and being playful is one of the simplest ways to bring levity, laughter, and fun to your relationship. Pulling something off and getting this kind of attention is always exciting. I love it when my husband sneaks up to scare me. After decades together, he still manages to pull this off. LOL Step up your playfulness game for more giddiness and joy.
Playing Dress Up
This can mean anything from wearing costumes on Halloween, to getting dressed up to go on a date, to getting all decked out for a special occasion, to wearing sexy or other fun outfits to sexy moments. Life is too short to hold back, bring out the fancy you. Wrap yourself to shine and dazzle your partner with the gift of you.
Playing New Roles
There are spoken and unspoken agreements in our relationship about what roles we each play… Who is the fixer. Who is the jokester. Who is the spender. Who is the talker. Who is the chef. Who is the initiator. Who is the instigator. All kinds of roles. Bring forward a way of being, a skill, or talent that’s different from your usual to surprise and delight your partner.
Playing with an Identity Upgrade
How we show up, interact, and contribute to our relationship is befitting who we believe we are, our identity… The habit of being ourselves… We can upgrade our identity to anything we want. Upgrade yours to capture who you’d be if you had already created your epic love affair with your partner. If you already were the Best Partner… And start being the Best Partner…
Playing with a New Reality
Envision a new reality where you are living an upgraded life, with an upgraded relationship, with an upgraded version of you. What does that reality look like? What’s different about it? How are you different? How are you different in your relationship? What does it feel like? Generate those feelings going forward to live in the new reality…
Whether you go trick-or-treating or host a Halloween party, or just choose to dole out candy, or simply ignore the holiday, know that you can get your freak on anytime. You can show up with a different version of you at any time.
I say let’s show up with all the possibilities. Let’s expand our repertoire. Let’s not be so predictable. Let’s stretch into different versions of ourselves. Let’s really embody our Best Self. And let’s delight our partner with a new partner. Let’s shake things up. Let’s spices things up in our relationship this Halloween.
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Want to Use this Article in Your Own Website or Publication? Be our guest! Here is how, you MUST include: Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™ that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with Personal Development and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
There are times in life when we feel amazing and there are times when we don’t feel so hot… This is especially true when we struggle with our mental health and have possibly even been diagnosed with a mental health disorder…
Our relationship and our life can be a real struggle if we struggle with our own wellbeing… For it is difficult to show up with our best self if we are not feeling our best. Anxiety, depression, bipolar and other mood disorders and things like OCD, ADHD, BPD, PSTD, and other diagnoses can really make it challenging to manage ourselves and our lives and how we show up to interactions with our loved ones and others…
But we don’t have to struggle, there are so many approaches and modalities we can utilize to have our own back in feeling optimally and creating our best self, best relationship, and best life! We don’t have to suffer. We don’t have to be on medications that might make things worse. We don’t have to feel limited and miss out on joy and happiness, deeply and meaningfully connecting with our partner, doing the most gorgeous parenting, having a successful career or business, and everything else our heart desires…
In this episode, I have a super resourceful and inspiring conversation with Dr. Serena Goldstein, a Naturopathic Doctor, who is with us for a second time, and this time addressing mental health and overall wellbeing. We discuss a more natural, holistic and even spiritual approach to healing, wellness and feeling on top of the world. Addressing conditions is not just about taking medicines, but about how we do our life experience…
We discuss a range of modalities and approaches to support your wellbeing.
Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.
ABOUT OUR GUEST
Dr. Serena Goldstein is a Naturopathic Doctor who guides you to trust and understand what your body is telling you. She has a diverse, deep and growing knowledge base around conventional medicine, natural modalities, energy medicine modalities, and spirituality, where she seeks to find and address the root cause of symptoms with an individualized plan that feels like relief. Dr. Serena works with those experiencing weight gain, hormone imbalance, poor sleep, stress, thyroid, mood, and gut health issues who want to learn more of what their body is saying and needs. She has shared her expertise on outlets such as MindBodyGreen, Forbes, and Shape.com, has appeared on NYU DoctorRadio SiriusXM, written multiple research articles on mind/body healing, presented at numerous conferences, and serves as an Advisory Board Member for Natural Practitioner Magazine. You can find her HERE.
A rich softer approach to mental health and relationship success
Creating a healthy, happy, and successful relationship doesn’t happen by accident. It requires intentionally to create the relationship we desire. It requires we invest in bringing our best selves to our relationship…
As challenging as this might be at times, it is even more challenging when we struggle with our personal wellbeing and mental health…
And nothing happens in a vacuum. Everything is interconnected. So, if we are not feeling well, that will impact our relationship and our life. And if we are going through a rough patch in our relationship and our life, then our wellbeing suffers…
But let’s not get stuck in what came first, the chicken or the egg.
Let’s instead focus on taking care of ourselves no matter what and investing in our relationship as we go… These ensure we can tackle anything life throws at us, and that we live our best life…
We are embracing a practice makes progress approach. No shaming and guilting ourselves about anything!
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