Relationships are a funny thing. We love them, we love to be in them, but a lot of times we struggle in them. Our romantic relationship, our partnership, is one of the most important things in our life, and yet, it might seem it isn’t by how we treat it and prioritize it in our life… Sometimes our partner is lucky if they even get on the priority list… Specially during this time of year, when our plates are so full that we might feel we have less time to do more stuff in.
When we get so hectic with demands, responsibilities and managing ourselves, it is very easy for our relationship to take a hit…
And this doesn’t mean that it’s hopeless. That it can’t work. That it’ll never be back to normal or that we won’t ever crack the code.
This just means that we are experiencing the very normal ebb and flow that happens in relationships. Sometimes things are great, sometimes we go through a little slump.
It is during the down times that we have to be more intentional about getting ourselves back on track, so we don’t create more wear and tear, and more importantly so that we don’t create irreparable damage… When we neglect our partner and our relationship for too long, or put them through the ringer too roughly, is like taking a knife to our bond… Once severed, it is very difficult to put it back together…
When we experience disharmony and disconnection, it’s important we invest in regaining the harmony, the connection, the joy… And we do that through reparative initiatives to resolve any disagreements, to get on the same page, to show and get understanding, acceptance, empathy, and compassion, to make amends…
As we ride the ebb and flow, we expand with each code we crack, with every repair, with every realignment, with every recommitment. This is the magic of being in relationship. At the end of the day, we are in relationship for our own expansion… Our partner is our Life Partner, they are a part of our Journey and to be treated with the at most regard due that role…
The key in all this is that we consistently invest in our relationship, in our partnership, to create our dream relationship for our best experience and most expansion…
~ During the highs we invest in continuing our evolution and expansion, in nurturing and enriching our relationship, in taking it to the next level…
Our relationship is the vehicle through which we experience ourselves the most… Through our relationship we can explore, and expand, ourselves.
To not tap into this built in Journey Hack, and the Synergy that’s inherently part of our Union, is such a waste…
I offer that we take our relationship lightly-seriously for all that it has to offer us… And to do it justice, have our own back, and have the best Human Experience, that we tap into resources available to us to support us in our Journey.
In this episode, I have a delightful and empowering conversation with Victoria Sotelo, also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, about how to create a healthy, harmonious, and honoring ebb and flow in our long-term relationship with our Partner.
We discuss: how to repair when things get off track, what might get us off track and roadblocks that disrupt our connection, how to get unstuck, the importance of identifying our core needs and operating from our values, and activating a positive approach and state of being to show up compassionately and lovingly in our relationship. But as if that wasn’t wonderful enough, we discussed how to create a Relationship Vision and how to nurture the relationship during the holidays!
Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.
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Victoria Sotelo brings a heart of compassion and passionate energy for cultivating healthy Marriages and Sexual Intimacy to her clients. She practices from an integrative model, incorporating the Biological-Psychological-Social-& Spiritual aspects of her client’s lives. Her excellent listening skills and problem-solving methods, along with her clinical experience, position her as a therapist with a balanced approach. Victoria has lectured to groups and professionals on ways to deepen sexual intimacy, and improve the quality of life, both in marriage, family, and personal growth potential. Victoria holds an LMFT license in New York, New Jersey, and Florida. You can find her HERE.
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As we get deeper into the Holiday Season, we might find ourselves going through the motions, pushing ahead and just checking things off our list. But are we truly embracing the merriment, the joy, the blessings, and a deeper purpose for the holidays that make them more meaningful and magical?
Magical holidays are not about all the decorations, food, and gifts… Though these might add flavor to our celebration. What makes them truly magical is in the embracing the spirit of them. The spirit of giving and loving…
If we were to assess how we are going about our Holidays, are we truly embracing their spirit?
Are we giving and loving generously? And I don’t mean in a materialistic or shallow way, but giving the gift of our presence, our attention, our patience, our kindness, our understanding, our grace, our acceptance, our forgiveness, our all in and full commitment…
Are we giving the gift of our Authentic Self? For this is how we feel the deeper and more meaningful connection and the magic…
Maybe it’s time to take a few moments to reflect on this and decide if we need to tweak anything about how we are going about this End-Of-Year and Holiday Season…
~ Are we being as intentional and graceful as we can be? ~ Are we allowing for transition time, down time, and reflection time to ensure we go about the merriment in the most supporting, honoring, and joyful way for us and our loved ones? ~ Are we bringing our Authentic, Higher Self to our celebration?
I find that sometimes people, and I’m no exception, get caught up in all the doing and material, and lose sight of what is most important to them at the end of the day…
I offer that we streamline our to-do list, creating more down time and space for a slower pace and for activities that are more enriching, delightful, and joyous.
This is when creating our own traditions in our relationship, family, groups and even workplace add to the merriment and to more meaningful holidays.
Create New Holiday Traditions
The way to more satisfying, enriching and meaningful holidays is to add the personal, connection, and memorable factor. Here are areas where we’d want to put in our attention for more magical holidays:
Relationship – DIY a meaningful gift, writing a love letter, creating a recipe book of your partner’s favorite meals, cooking or baking together, having a special romantical holiday dinner, visiting an especially festive site or doing a holiday activity, taking a yearly holiday photo, doing a memory jar with memorable moments on slips of paper to review the following year, babysitting for family members or friends with young children
Family – DIY holiday decorations or ornaments, creating a yearly scrapbook of most memorable experiences to rejoice with at every holiday, creating a holiday treats recipe book, building ginger bread houses, binge-watching holiday movies, shopping for toys and donating them to a shelter, baking pies and donating them to an old folks’ home, or doing other community service, creating a time capsule
Groups and Workplace – Hosting a theme night of singing, movies, games, cooking or baking, facilitating a scavenger hunt, organizing a mystery gift exchange or holiday gift swap, gifting a framed statement of acknowledgement of their unique contributions, hosting a ball or dance party, orchestrating a fun, pretty, or adventurous holiday outing, contributing something special to a gathering
So, what will you cut off your minutiae to-do or material list? How will you create more spaciousness? How will you embrace creating more enriching experiences these holidays?
Here is wishing you more magical and meaningful holidays!
With Much Love & Light!
End this Year with a Bam, Waltz into the New Year!
Check out this month’s Integration Experience~ Available in Recording! ~ The Reset Process for the New Year or for an Anytime Upleveling We are in the thick of the Holiday Season and have only a few weeks left to the year. This is a very special time of year where we get to create magical and meaningful holidays and get to nourish the relationships with our loved ones. But we also get to bring more intentionality into our life to reset for a Grand New Beginning. We can be intentional about how we wrap up the year and start the new one (or any new period). We get to complete things that we have wanted to get under our belt for the year. We get to clear out and make space for the new. We get to think about what we want to create and manifest in our relationship and our life. And we get to tweak how we want do things going forward to help us create and experience what we desire. *This is a work along experience to knock out the process and have it in place to start the New Year right. Access it HERE!
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Sometimes we overcomplicate what it takes to take ourselves and our relationship to the next level. We might think it’s hopeless, that it’s impossible, and that it’s too much work and either not worth it or that we can’t do it. We might think we have to do all the work because our partner doesn’t want to even talk about our relationship. We might feel stuck and alone.
But all that is not necessarily true! At some level you are choosing to experience your life and your relationship that way. And so you cocreate that experience with your partner… Don’t shoot the messenger.
All the psychobabble aside, suffice it to say that you can bypass all this heartache and headache and take a shortcut… That’s right, a shortcut. Why not? Who said we can’t make things easier for ourselves?
This shortcut has to do with changing your personal brand, including your image, to show up to your relationship and your life differently… Letting your brand lead the way, you’ll automatically shift your state, your mood, your energy and become more magnetic inspiring something different in your interactions…
In this episode, I have motivating and fun conversation with Personal Branding Expert, Tavia Sharp, on what is our personal brand, the impact in has on our relationship and our life, identifying when we need a brand refresh, what a brand refresh can do for us, how the refresh can rekindle romantical sparks in our relationship and change our dynamics, how to address fear or resistance to upgrades and changes, and how to use the holidays to start our refresh to set ourselves up to start the new year with a brand you us…
We also explore Tavia’s process for rebranding ourselves!
Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.
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Tavia Sharp is an Executive Image Consultant, Personal Branding Expert and Speaker with over 20 years of fashion industry experience designing for some of the top brands like Calvin Klein, Nautica and Macy’s. Her designs have even been featured on celebs like Drake, Ne-Yo, Chrissy Teigen and Emma Roberts in magazines like GQ & Sports Illustrated. After years working behind the scenes, Tavia discovered her true calling- to help ambitious entrepreneurs and executives discover their secret weapon and upgrade their online & offline image so that they can take their business and brand to the next level. From individualized consulting and styling services to seminars and workshops, Tavia brings her A-game to help clients solidify their personal & professional image to stand out, make an impact and magnetize premium opportunities. You can find her HERE.
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Even though we love our partner so much, we might still find that we fight or feel disconnected often… We might attribute this to flukes, poor communication skills, our partner’s attributes and imperfections, our sensitivities or triggers, or not being compatible and wondering about our commitment to the relationship… And there might be some truth to some or all of these… But there is also something else going on as well. Something that most partners don’t usually pay attention to. And that is how they are using their Core Masculine or Feminine Energies…
Gender aside, partners have both energies as human beings. And they inherently lean towards one more than the other at their core. Things got messed up for us with the women’s movement in that women had to take on more of their masculine traits and characteristics to survive and compete in a man’s world. Shunning and repressing their more feminine traits.
Our world hasn’t been valuing feminine characteristics like emotionality, expressiveness, sensitivity, compassion, empathy, nurturing, caring, intuition, creativity, flow, gentleness, helpfulness, collaboration, and such… When people show up with these traits, they are considered weak… So, women and other female identifying persons have adapted to using their masculine traits more: logical, reserved, disciplined, ambitious, planner, leader, assertive, aggressive, courageous, and such…
Why do we care about this? Because when both partners show up to an interaction, or to their relationship in general, with masculine energy, that’s what creates friction. That’s when they butt heads, disagree and fight. And that’s when the Core Masculine person in the relationship gets displaced, where they then become disengaged or distant. Creating the feeling of disconnection in the relationship…
To make matters worse, there is no attraction between two of the same core energies… Opposites are needed to create passion and be swept off our feet if our core is feminine and that’s what we desire.
In this episode, I have a wonderfully enlightening conversation with Women and Relationship Coach, Valerie Greene on how to use our Core Energies to create more harmony and passion in our relationship. We explore the differences between masculine and feminine energies, how to identify what energy we are operating from and how to distinguish when each is called for, what type of relationship gets created according to what energy we choose to show up with, that we can choose what kind of relationship we want to create, how to bring our feminine energy back online, and how we can turn our relationship around.
Additionally, we cover how to feel and expand our gratitude feels this holiday season.
Hope this information serves you and helps you get on the path to your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life.
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Valerie Greene is a unique relationship mentor, author, and speaker who has been helping women and couples attract, reignite, and sustain lasting love since 2005. A highly successful alternative to relationship therapy, Valerie facilitates a secure emotional connection— not just problem-solving or communication skills. She has been featured on many podcasts, summits, and shows. Valerie struggled in romantic relationships until she healed her own blocks to unconditional love, which in spired her to pursue numerous certifications in coaching, NLP, and emotional healing modalities. Now Valerie has an earned-secure attachment style and teaches others how to build secure attachment. She believes that love, passion, intimacy, and mutual support is everyone’s birth right and it’s never too late to heal and learn the skills of lasting love. You can find her HERE.
When your gratitude practice needs a little pick me up use romantical appreciation…
Regardless of what Gratitude Practice we might have, I’m pretty sure most of us don’t have appreciating differences in there! That’s too bad because this is what makes the world go around… If only we were more tolerant and appreciative of differences…
When it comes to our relationship appreciating differences is not just a nice thing to do, but a must. We are usually so different from our partner and is the differences and how we deal with them that cause conflict…
~ What if we were to reframe our differences as blessings, for they are…
~ What if we were to accept the differences for what they are and not as an attack or deficiency towards us…
~ What if we were to actually embrace and appreciate the differences as they provide us with needed contrast, opportunity for growth, and enrichment…
So, I say we shift how we tend to look at our partner and the things that might annoy us… And instead create a Romantical Appreciation List™…
Yep, create a list that captures the essence of your partner, how they are blessing in your Journey even when it doesn’t seem so, and all the nuances you love about them…
Now that’s an appreciation list!
If you feel stuck with this because you are struggling in your relationship, or just because, check out the podcast episode above. It showcases how partners might have opposing Core Masculine and Feminine Energies and therefore have opposing needs that contribute to conflict… Things can be absolutely wonderful when these are minded…
And, check out the Integration Experience below for the in depth, but simple and yet powerful and impactful, 3 Dimensions of Appreciation protocol to help you along… Shifting how to appreciate our partner, shifts our dynamics rekindling loving vibes…
Set yourself up for a truly grateful Thanksgiving!
Happy Appreciating!
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Broaden Your Gratitude Practice, Rekindle Loving Vibes – A gratitude practice brings along a multitude of benefits for ourselves, our relationship, and the world at large… Ranging from increasing resilience and improving mental health to engendering collaboration and peace. We tend to focus on this during the holidays and more specially around Thanksgiving, but by having such a narrow focus we are cheating ourselves of this super practice’s gifts. We can make it easier to do this practice on a consistent basis, by learning more about its benefits and broadening its definition and application. And, by applying it specifically to our relationship for a transformative effect… Embracing our 3 Dimensions of Appreciation Protocol does the trick! Access it HERE!
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I know that at the beginning of November many like to start Gratitude Challenges to honor the Thanksgiving Holiday and to get the Holiday Season off to a wonderful start. This year though we had a tentative start to the month with the elections, strange weather patterns, and natural disasters, but we are still called to be grateful…
Our gratitude might sound trite at times if it is superficial, prescribed, and automatic if it doesn’t have depth and feeling. If it is forced with a must or should feel to it.
Genuine gratitude comes from a deeper place. Not from just all the things we love and appreciate. But from place of meaning, impact, and reverence…
How often do we connect to this feeling of gratitude when it comes to our partner? Probably not very often… We usually focus on what they do for us and what we get instead, or how they disappoint us… We have a strong negativity bias… This is especially true when we are experiencing relationship struggles. We lose sight of the blessing that is our partner in our life…
But maybe this Thanksgiving, and for going forward, we can reprogram this apathy for a more meaningful holiday, more wellbeing, peace, and joy, and creating change in our relationship…
Embrace the 3 Dimensions of Appreciation
Embracing an intentional approach to Appreciation, having a strong Gratitude Mindset, and an inspired Gratitude Practice will have a huge impact on the quality of your relationship. It will help propel it to the next level. The 3 Dimensions of Appreciation (see how to get the full protocol below!) guides you in how to truly experience Thanksgiving.
Giving Grace
We stop being so critical, demanding, judgy and harsh. And instead we allow for imperfections, mistakes and offness… We appreciate the quirks and differences… We have their back… We give more grace…
Embracing Gratitude
We start to truly and deeply appreciating the gift and blessing that is our partner, the reason why they are a part of our Journey… And everything they do contribute to our life… We give more gratitude…
Expanding Generosity
We step it up a notch with how we show up to our relationship. We stop being greedy, self-focused, and stingy… We are more present, attentive, nurturing, supportive, affectionate, etc… We give unconditionally… We show more generosity…
So if we are looking to feel better, get along better, love better. If we are looking for an easier life. If we are looking for a more lovely lifestyle. If we are looking for a more amazing relationship. If we are looking for a rocking human experience. Maybe we gotta upgrade our Gratitude Mindset and embrace a higher level of Appreciation…
Here is to a season filled with magic and blessings!
Wishing you all the joy, connection and love today and always…
With Much Love & Light!
Embrace 3 Dimension of Appreciation with ease!
Check out this month’s Integration Experience~ Available in Recording! ~ Broaden Your Gratitude Practice, Rekindle Loving Vibes A gratitude practice brings along a multitude of benefits for ourselves, our relationship, and the world at large… Ranging from increasing resilience and improving mental health to engendering collaboration and peace. We tend to focus on this during the holidays and more specially around Thanksgiving, but by having such a narrow focus we are cheating ourselves of this super practice’s gifts. We can make it easier to do this practice on a consistent basis, by learning more about its benefits and broadening its definition and application. And, by applying it specifically to our relationship for a transformative effect… Embracing our 3 Dimensions of Appreciation Protocol does the trick! Access it HERE!
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health profession in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of metrorelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. The work helps couples create a radiant and successful relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Relationship Strategy™.
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